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MY friend cuts herself,but will always say some excuse...what should I do?
My friend cuts herself.She did a couple of years ago too,but stopped.She has started again.I noticed today in math on her wrist she had about 10 tiny slits.I asked her what happened,but she said her cat attacked her,but she looked and answered nervous.What should I do?
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You should keep an eye on her,see if she's cutting herself with a pencil or something. If she keeps lying to you about it and you act like you don't know she's lying, she will become a person who lies all the time and never stops. I fell into that life sucking abyss once. I had a friend who lied to me all the time and i stupidly never took notice. Until i learned the truth of everything, i HATED her soo much! She kept trying to regain my trust and friendship but i NEVER EVER want to be her friend!!!!! But when your friend lies to you, tell her this: I know you're lying. It's no use to try to hide the truth. Why so afraid to tell me?" Hope everything works out! :)
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If she's trying to hide it and unwilling to talk openly, this is serious stuff for you to be carrying by yourself and not worth double guessing the best action to take. I think talking to someone who'd have an understanding of this sort of behaviour through experience or profession would be best. Maybe have a quiet word with your school nurse or a teacher you trust to be desecreat - ask to be kept anon in case she feels you've betrayed her confidence, which you wouldn't have done, she needs help but she won't see it that way till she's better. Good luck
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Talk to your friend about it. I used to do the same thing as your friend and what I needed most is support from my friends. Most likely, she wants somebody to talk to and she needs a friend that she can rely on. Be that friend, and try and help her through it. That was one thing that my friends never did and it was the reason why it was hard for me to stop. If it gets out of hand and she gets suicidal, definitely get her some help. Just don't leave her because you're scared. You and you're friend with be in my prayers. Good Luck.
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The best thing you can do is to tell your parents and ask that they tell her parents or tell a trusted teacher.
Cutting is dangerous, especially around the wrist. Cut in the wrong place and she can easily die as she can bleed out before help could arrive, even if it is unintentional to so hurt herself in that manner.
It is better to have a live friend who may be angry with you; then a friend who is dead and buried. Yes I am being blunt but I am not exaggerating as it can and has happened. If you are a good friend you will tell someone who can help her. Those people are your parents, a teacher or principal or her parents. Even telling a police officer is the right thing to do.
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The same thing happened to me. I went and told a school counselor with my other friend who knew too and the counselor contacted the kid and explained stuff and such but she goes t a different school but she's my beat friend. She found out I told and she wasn't mad at all she was sooo happy i told and wasn't mad at all she now doesn't do it (i think) and fees better she knows someone is there. So tell a school counselor or a close adult (it would be better if u both knew the adult)
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talk to the cutting helpline,. they will give you better advice than most of us will.
Check out this website it has alot of help websites and phone numbers.
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I wish you the best for both yourself and your friend. good luck and my prayers be with you!
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