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So me and my boyfriend are having sex and hes been going in me cause im on the pill. Yea I know statistics so please dont lecture me... and we lost our virginity with each other... anyways question is, how do you keep everything in without it all leaking out?
I also get this discharge and when I orgasm its like a waterfall, so it gets everywhere.. how do i control that too? (link)
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You cant control it, you just have to deal w/it. WUse a towel or something. What goes in, must come out!!
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Ok, so me and my ex didn't have a really good relationship. I guess you could say I was emotionally/verbally abused. Well, its been 2 months and I'm still in love with him. I can't get over him no matter how much i try. I know i need to get over him, he lied and cheated on me soo much, and i cried so much. I was never happy the whole time we were going out, i even went back to cutting. Anyways, i know i need to get over my ex, and i have another boyfriend. We've only been going out for 3 weeks, and he's already told me he loves me. Well, i don't feel the same. i know it's not fair to my boyfriend to still have feelings for someone else, but why should i not go out with someone that i really like, and like be alone? blah, i don't know what i'm asking. advice? (link)
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The worse thing alot of people tend to do to get over an ex, is find some1 new to fill the void.
You cant expect to have a normal relationship again until youve had time to deal w/your past emotions. Its not fair to your new bf, to carry on a relationship if your not feeling the same for him. You need to give yourself more time. Trust me, ive been there. Its gonna take alot more than just 2 months. It will get better i promise, but only if you allow yourself to. First thing is to STOP thinking about your ex so much. Dont talk to him and if you can help it, dont see him. That does help alot. Other than that, time will slowly fade away the memories. You dont want to be w/a guy that emotionally and verbally abuses you, because that will get worse over time! If this guy doesnt show any signs of abuse, maybe you should just give him a chance. Take things slow and see what happens.
Good Luck~~
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Hello...
i recently just broke up with my boyfriend.
now, i am a tom-girl. i hang out with ALL boys. and 2 of my best friends have a crush on me. my boyfriend was not okay with this... at all. he told me he broke up with me because he can't handle me hanging out with 2 boys (that like me) all the time. he just doesn't trust me. and he's already moving on. how can i make him see that i love him, and i only want to be with him? words aren't enough... and i just want him back. (link)
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Youre not a tomgirl just because you hang out w/guys!!
I had the same problem. I have tons of guy friends and my ex always said i was flirting. He hated it when guys would even talk to me. He just never got it through his head that i was w/him, not those other guys. It shouldnt matter if you hang out or talk to other guys, just dont make him feel left out. A relationship is based on trust. That is very important. You have every right to have friends, even guy friends! Im closer to my guy friends because they dont stab you in the back like gfs can/do!! Just as long as you keep things in perspective w/the guys your ex shouldnt have had a problem. If hes already moved on, guess the feelings werent too mutual on the love. Unless hes doing what my ex did, and took revenge. (hanging out and doing whatever w/girls to prove a point)
If hes anything like my ex, dont waste your time. Guys like to play immature little games. Sometimes its how they handle their problems. I was totally in love, but my ex had so much revenge on his mind, i couldnt deal w/it anymore. Hes showing signs of being controlling already. Its for you to decide if thats what you really want in a relationship! It will only get worse.
Good Luck!!
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okay I need some help, there is this guy who I went out with twice. The first time we went out I was in the tenth grade and he was a senior, well we broke up for a very stupid reason. Anyways, we started going out again in like 2003, which was afer i had gone to college for two years. We ended up breaking up because his parents kept trying to control our relationship and stuff like that. So needless to say, we didn't talk much after we broke up. But he works at the mall which I go to alot and I always found myself staring at him and I caught him staring at me a few times. We have hung out a few times and I can't seem to get him out of my head. I know he likes me still but he has a girlfriend and she is extremely controlling. He wants to do stuff with me and although I really want to, I won't because he has a girlfriend and I know how it feels to be cheated on. So, my question is, how do I get him to dump his gf and come back to me? I love him so much. please help, any advice is great. (link)
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He wants to do "stuff" w/u, meaning sexual stuff?
If thats all he wants you for, why would you? It doesnt matter that you shared a relationship be4, its what he wants from you now. Is it YOU or something from you? If my ex wanted to do stuff w/me and he had a gf, id tell him where to go. If he really and truly liked you, he wouldnt be w/his gf, hed be w/u.
You can sleep w/him all you want, thats not gonna make him come back to you. Hes choosing what he wants. If he was unhappy in his relationship, im sure he wouldnt be w/her, unless he likes being controlled!
My ex still looks at me, and hes been w/his gf for a year!
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ok, why do people not understand that you cant get over a guy so fast! i mean all my friends tell me to get over this guy! but i cant! n thn they say im dumb! WTF?! (link)
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Not every1s heart works the same way. Youre friends wont understand unless theyve been there.
Just try to tune them out. Youre not dumb, you only had true feelings for that guy. Try and not dwell on the past, look ahead, there will be brighter days!
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i really want a baby of my own but i'm only 14. is that bad? i want a baby by the time i am a sophmore in high school. i am very motherly and plenty mature enough, i babysit all the time.
i have a boy in mind that i would want to get me pregnant and i'm sure he would have sex with me, but i know he wouldnt want to be a father at 15 or 16. (he's a year older than me) he's not my boyfriend, but he used to be,
i love him with all my heart and i know he already wants to move closer to me for college but still, thats a couple years away.
my family loves him and his family and his family feels the same way. i'm sure my family would help me out as much as they could if i did get pregnant, but still....
help!! any advice at all would be wonderful.
is it bad that i want a baby so bad? should i like, seduce this guy and have sex with him? what if he denies having sex with me if i do have a baby? what if he stops loving me because of me having a child?
i'll rate good for good answers! (link)
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Your only giving high ratings to the people who tell you to go ahead and have a baby, because thats what you want to hear.
Im sorry hun> but i do get the total picture!!! You see I AM A MOM!! You do not have the slightest clue what your even talking about or what youre getting yourself into. Babysitting other peoples kids is NOT the same as having 1 of youre own! It doesnt matter if his parents love you or youre parents love him. That doesnt justify having a baby at 14!! You need to get in touch w/reality, and stop thinking about yourself. No teenage guy is gonna wanna plan to have a baby. Besides, youre body isnt fully developed yet. There could be complications during the delivery, and so many other things to consider! Im sorry if you think im being harsh, but you dont sound very mature to me!! Being mature is waiting until the time is right and 2 loving PARENTS can afford to have a baby. Like finishing high school and college, and getting jobs! Your not even old enough to work!! You cant expect your parents to raise YOUR kid. Thats not being very responsible or mature!
Planning to have a baby at 14, is just plain DUMB!! You literally need to "grow up"!!!
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I like this guy named Zack. He's been acting like my boyfriend for quite while but he never asked me out. I really felt that he liked me the same way I like him. So I asked him if he felt the same way. And his response was " Are you joking me? I`d never go out with you again" ( we went out last year )
I'm so heartbroken. I thought he really liked me this time. what should I do? i still like him, even though he was a jerk. (link)
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Dont ever waste your time on some1 who doesnt care/like you. Guys can be jerks, its just their nature. You cant let him know your heartbroken, because it wont change a thing. If i were you, i wouldnt give him the time of day. Move on. Theres so many nice guys out there. You just have to be patient. Dont go out and find love, let it find you!!
Good Luck!!
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hey I apologise if this is long :(
so i've got a feeling that some one i know is going to get with me on the freshers party! yay :D
I fancy him lots and i think he fancies me too!
But I want to know how I make him want me so much it hurts. Don't say all the usual stuff about if he likes you it wont matter lol.
I just want to make him feel like there's nothing to do apart from be with me.
So this party x & y are going out and z is the one i fancy lol.
so I want to turn up to this party looking drop dead gorgeous and i want him to go weak at the knees. Does anyone know a way i can definatley (sp?) make him want me?
any help please i rate 5's for everything unless its offending or un-useful (sp?)
thanks
xoxo (link)
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If you think he already likes you, why do you feel the need to go the extra mile? I mean of course look great that night, but be yourself, because obviously thats what he fell for to begin with, right?
Spend time talking and getting to know 1 another more.
Why do you want him to go weak in the knees over you? If the attraction is there, its gonna be there no matter what!!!
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I need some advice on getting my 3 year old to sleep in her own bedroom,she has slept with her father and I since she was a baby.Lately her father & I have been having some relationship difficulties,and she is very insecure about everyone being there when she wakes up. (link)
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Its gonna take a long time for you to break her of this habit. You put her in HER bed, everytime she keeps getting out, you simply put her back. Tell her she has to start sleeping there from now on, because it is her bed and mommys and daddys bed is theres. If she cries, go in there 1ce, and tell explain to her, but NEVER give in. Dont keep talking to her each time. Less talk the better. Its gonna take alot of time and patience, to break a 3 yr habit, but you have to stick to your guns or the older she gets, the harder itll be.
Good Luck!!
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ok i have this dress and it fits like perfection but u can see my underwear though it..and if i wear like a g-string u can still see the lines..not really by my but but on the sides..does anyone no like anyway to fix this? thanks!! xoxo (link)
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ok, for those of you who answered this question by saying go "commando", whats the matter with you? Youll be able to see that shes not wearing anything underneath. Your only sending the wrong message to everyone, especially to guys.
Have any of you ever heard of a thing called a "SLIP"? They were made for a reason.
No one can tell you what to wear, thats for you to decide, but if you want to look like a slut, bare it all.
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Okay, I have two questions:
1. If you have sex with a girl then are you still a virgin? (If you are a girl too)
2. Does anyone know how to view conversations people have had on AIM? Because I want to look at my sisters and brothers conversations, and delete my own, but we don't have an AIM log, and I don't know how.
I will rate good for a decent answer.
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If you have sex with a girl, you are no longer a virgin!!! Same if the girl has sex. Thats the only way of losing your virginity.
There is no way of viewing other peoples convos unless you have aim logging or deadaim!
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ok this question is for girls only lol. i have my period & i can't use tampons..but i have swimming in gym class & my teacher is being a jerk about it, so i have to swim for the rest of the week. i'm not sure what to do exactly. my mom told me that your period stops & slows down in water, soo should i juss jump in fast? any ideas?
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Youll be put in an embarassing situation if you choose to go swimming without anything. I mean gym class is a good 50 mins at least. Youre probablay gonna be in the water most of the time, but getting there and back will be a little scary. Youre basically not gonna enjoy the class as much as you could.
If i were you, id try hard to wear a tampon. They really are nice. What do you do all summer?
Your life shouldnt stop for a week just becuz of that monthly problem.
If you absolutely tried, i would seriously talk to the teacher. Maybe you can make your time up on another day/days.
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Hi my name is Tina and i have a problem with my friend because he knoes i like him and he flirts infront of me with this girl and he asked her out infront of me and i knoe he is trying to make me jealous and sometimes it works and other times i just sortof bruch it off but anyway i really like this other kid and he doesn't knoe who he is and when i talk about him he gets so mad at me and then he gets jealous. The thing is i asked him out already and he said no so i dont understand why he gets jealos because he had his chance.and the boy i like is one of my really good friends and he knoes i like him but i was thinkin ok askin him to go along with my plan that i have which is to tell jon im goin out wit Ryan to make him made because jon had asked this girl melissa out infront of me when he knew i liked him. Please Help Me ????? (link)
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Ok first of all how do you know hes jealous?
If he liked you, he would have said "yes" when you asked him out! Guys like to play immature games. If they know another girl likes him, theyre gonna prove a point. Like what he did to you. He asked another girl out in front of you for a reason. Hes letting you know what he wants.
If i were you, i wouldnt stoop to his level.
If hes jealous like you said he was, he would have gone out with you, but he didnt. That obviously means something.
Skip the plan, and move on to some1 you know truly likes you.
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okay.. so me and my boyfriend went out for almost 3 years.. we broke up on september 23rd.. and like ive been upset ever since then.. like i just wanted to take a break .. and he got all mad.. and we broke up..., and he had 2 GIRLFRIENDS since then.. and we broke up on a friday and he went out with one girl the next.. i was so upset.. like maybe he didnt love me.. seems like it right? well he was my everything.. and i cant get him off my mind.. he was so sweet but now hes a total jerk.. i mean he use to cry over me how cute is that.. can you please give me some advice i need some real bad.. i know i didnt exactly have a question but can you tell me how i should take care of this and stop being so upset..!! THANKS SO MUCH!!! (link)
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wow, your story sounds like mine. Its been a year since my breakup. Its been hard, but im keeping busy.
Guys have this EGO thing that they just cant get past when a girl breaks up with them or just plain rejects them. They dont know how to be nice to you anymore. My ex is the biggest jerk ever. I cant believe him and i once had a beautiful relationship.
Mine permanately ended the night he asked me back out, then in the same sentence told me he was taking another girl to her h/c. I said no to him and since that fateful night hes put me through nothing but HELL. He has said some of the cruelest things any1 has ever said to me. He acted like him and the girl he took to h/c were a couple. (he told me he wanted me to realize something)
Then when i didnt come crawling back to him like he thought i would, he found himself a little 14 yr old. Screwed her the 2nd night they hung out. I didnt find that part out until months later.
The sad part is i would have taken him back, but not after he screwed that slut!!!
I put up an away message 1 night that basically told him goodbye. The next night he asked the slut out.
He used to cry over me..alot! Hes been with his gf now for almost a year. Shes broken up w/him tons of times because he treats her like shit, but she always goes back to him. He has NEVER cried over her. What does that tell you?
Im not sure what you want to know. Do you want him back, or do you just want to know how to deal with his behavior?
Even though you and him arent together as bf/gf, everything he does will affect you, and its gonna hurt. For me, the more he ignored and talked shit to people about me, the more it made it alittle easier to go on.
You just have to say to yourself, that you dont need to put up with such immature behavior. Your gonna be stronger because of this, trust me!!
He doesnt hurt me as much anymore. Its just the damn memories im having a hard time dealing with.
If you want to talk, i have a s/n. Just ask me for it.
Good Luck to you!!!!!
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I recently found out that my bestfriend cheated on his gf. And it wasn't just a make out with another girl type of cheating. He lost his virginity to this other girl. And he has no intention of breaking up with his real gf or even telling her. She lives about 2 hours away from here so unless someone tells her, she wont find out. She's also a good friend of mine so i'm questioning if I should tell her. I know if my bf was cheating on me and she knew, I'd want her to tell me. I'm not speaking to my bestfriend right now becasue of the fact. So should I tell his gf? (link)
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Ive been in the same position as you quite a few times. Every1 got mad at me for telling, saying that its non of my business. Well maybe its not, but that person has a right to know! I know i would want to know, and i would be mad at every1 who knew and didnt tell me.
Then you have to look at the other side to it. Will his gf believe u or any1 who told her what they heard? Especially if her bf tells her that it never happened! Then your gonna have youre best friend hating you, his gf, and every1 else. Its gonna be an ugly situation, and youre gonna have to be able to deal with the consequences.
Because youre gonna get alot of people lying, but i think that girl has every right to know the real truth!!
Good Luck!!
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ok iv been going out w/ this guy for a month and a few weeks ill call him jim well my neighbor ill call him bob comes over sometimes not very much now that im going out w/ jim bob comes over like 1 or twice a month me and bob have done stuff in the past cuz he kept on preasuring me until i say yes i make up excuses but they never work we had like a no strings attatched thing going on though and im afraid im gonna cheat on jim w/ bob cuz like its hard for me to say no and bob is always preasuring me to do stuff w/ him what r some good ways to say no to bob!! (link)
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Sounds like youre just Bobs booty call.
You have a bf, you need to tell Bob to look else where for his needs.
Cant you see that you are just being used?
No guy should pressure a girl into doing anything!
How would you like it if the tables were turned and your bf was the 1 with the chick on the side?
I think you really need to take a good look at yourself and your situation, because from where we're standing, your not lookin too good.
Sorry, but dont you feel like "Bobs" ho?
If you want to stuff with both, then there should be No strings attached with either guy!!
Good Luck!!
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I got my rabbit about 6 months ago. It's not trained and i dont kno how. I tried giving it treats when she does tricks but SHE NEVER DOES ANY TRICKS! How do i train her to sit, lay down, and all the basic things? (link)
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ok ive owned 4 rabbits. Sorry, but theyre not dogs. You cant train a rabbit to sit or lay.
Mine were all litter trained tho, and thats pretty easy to do. You only do this if they have any area to roam. Just set the litter pan in a corner with like pine/cedar chips in it. They pick up on it pretty quick!
You can get them to come to you, by calling their name, but thats about all a rabbit is capable of doing.
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Ok I think I'm in love with my best friend. He moved here about two years ago and since we met we have been hanging out with each other like everyday. At first I didn’t like him like him. We just became friends because I don’t know I guess we clicked. But I didn’t notice how much we flirt until my friend pointed it out to me. I really want to make our relationship more, but I don’t want to ruin this relationship we have more? What should I tell him I like him or just keep it on the down low? (link)
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2 yrs and nothing more than flirting?
I think you should keep hanging out and flirting with 1 another. Somethings bound to happen somewhere along the line if theres a spark between you 2.
Sometimes actions speak louder than words!
If you do choose to let him know youre having more than just friendship feelings for him, it could either way for you.
I guess id take the chance, and maybe somehow let him know that youre feelings for him seem to have changed. Sometimes you have to just go with youre instinct. Hopefully hes having the same feelings back! You would be NO worse off than you are now.
Good Luck!
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my girlfriend and I technically arent going out anymore.. but nothin has really changed, like she is my best friend and i still care about her so much and she says that the only reasons she isnt going out with me anymore is because she has some issues with herself that she needs to deal with. i tell her thats alright and that i can wait for her to do it but she keeps trying to insinuate that i like other girls and that i should go out with them. She seems to want me to move on but im not giving up on her ever.. i really dont know if she just doesnt care about me anymore or whether she really does have some stuff she needs to deal with and just wants me to be free to do what i want? The weird thing is that when we are together we act the same as when we were actually going out.. just we talk more now. which is really good because im finding out some things that i never knew. but i dont want to be in a relationship thats not going anywhere.. and she knows how i feel, so why would she tell me that she cares about me, and that she wants the best for me.. but then push me away like this? (link)
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The issues about herself that she needs to deal with, is probably the feelings shes having about you. If she truly still liked you, shed still be with you AS BF/GF, no matter what the circumstances are!!
In my opinion, if some1 breaks up with their bf/gf, it means they dont have the same feelings for that person anymore!
If she still liked you, she would NOT be telling you to move on and to go out with other girls. Shes saying that she still cares about you, because shes being nice. The part where she says, "she wants the best for you", says it all! What shes trying to tell you is, shes not the 1 for you.
Dont wait for some1 that most likely wont come back to you.
I know this isnt what you want to hear, but excuses are just peoples way of avoiding the real truth!
You sound like a very nice guy, someday some1 will be deserving of you!
Good Luck!!
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is their any way to tell when ur bout to start ur period without going to the doctor (link)
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are you referring to the very first time you get it?
well no 1 can really know that. Not even a dr.
There isnt a sign that actually lets you know. Its just a waiting game basically! Girls get it as early as 9 and as late as 16.
A sure sign that youre close is how much pubic hair you have, other than that theres no way of predicting.
Some girls experience alot of blood their first time and some enough to know that it has arrived.
So just be prepared!
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