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So I don't have a job and I feel kinda pressured to get one soon. Only because I'm planning on going to college out of high school. I'm a junior right now and graduating when I'm 17.
The college I'm planning to go to is out of state and probably like somewhat over 8,000 for the whole year.
If I got a job now would I have enough money by the end of my senior year?
If I don't get one now and get one during my senior year do you think I'll still get enough money?
I live in California if that helps for anything. Thanks so much! (link)
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Depending on the job, and how often you work, and how much you can save, it is possible for you to earn $8000 by the time you go to college. But, what are you planning to do for your second year? You won't be able to pull in another $8000 by then, in all probability. Furthermore, you're going to have living expenses because it's out of state, and you won't be able to live at home anymore. You'll need a place to sleep and food to eat. There are also additional school-related expenses like books, supplies, class fees, etc. The bottom line is, you'll probably need about sixteen thousand dollars for your first year of college, not eight - and once again, that's just for the FIRST year.
I would definitely encourage you to look into scholarships, grants, and work/study programs. You're not going to be able to finance your college education solely on what you can earn between now and then.
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I need help with
-is it a good idea
-is it original
-is it interesting
Please read these plots and tell me
1- a zombie goes on an epic journey to find his cookie after it is stollen by a bird and goes through many hardships but in the end dies after he gets the cookie
2- a child gets a computer for her birthday but it is possessed by the spirit of a pedophile, her parents don't notice it's trying to suck her in, she breaks it
Sorry they're not specific :) thank you (link)
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I have to say, the first one sounds like random words thrown into a story-generate-a-tron. In any event, if he's a zombie, isn't he already dead? Just saying.
The second idea has potential as a suspense/thriller, but it would have to be written very carefully, and bear in mind that a lot of people will hate the story simply because the idea is hard to stomach. I can think of two plot holes which you would need to resolve (and this isn't a criticism - ALL story ideas have plot holes that need resolving!)
#1: Online pedophilia is a very real problem. Most parents know this. The parents of your main character would have to be pretty callous not to take their child seriously if he/she complains of something like that. I can tell you that if MY child complained that there was a pedophile spirit in her computer, I wouldn't believe that - but I sure as hell WOULD believe that there was SOMETHING going on, and I'd get to the bottom of it!
#2: Why wouldn't the child simply stop using the computer? Also, why not just unplug it rather than smash it?
One more thing to bear in mind - if you want to write a convincing story, you will need to do some research on the topic. This will NOT be a pleasant task! By no means am I suggesting that you seek out actual online child predators - that would be very dangerous indeed, especially if you actually are a minor. However, there are websites which combat online pedophiles, and some of them have transcripts of their sting operations. Some of it is literally the most disturbing stuff I've ever read in my life - and not in any kind of good way.
If you want to do any kind of story about a spirit which takes over a computer, try seeing the movie "Electric Dreams". It's a fairly cheesy 80's flick, but it might give you some ideas. It's not about an evil presence in a computer; more like a benign childlike one which is simply curious. But it might give you some ideas on how to handle certain parts of the story.
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I'm 23 years old. I've been looking for work for months now after leaving school due to medical issues in October. I finally got an interview, but I've run into a problem. I don't have references. Here's why:
Last job: Had a legal battle with the owners of the company. They were chronically disorganized and claimed to have paid me for my last month of work when they hadn't. I had to hire a lawyer to get them to pay me, and even then they refused to give me the overtime they owed me. So I didn't leave on the best of terms with them.
Previous job: Another small, family-owned business. The owner, I was warned, gives terrible references because she wants you to keep coming back to work for her. I can't rely on her for a good reference.
Before that: Nobody I worked with is still there.
I haven't done volunteer work in ages, I haven't done... well, much of anything over the last year other than school, and I didn't have any sort of relationship with my teachers where I could ask them for a reference.
What do I do? Is it strange to bring just character references? My interview is on Wednesday morning. (link)
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Well, you do have a bit of a problem, unfortunately. It will be a strike against you if you can produce no work-related references. However, 23 is fairly young, and a potential employer may not expect you to have many references to call.
I suggest that you be straight with the interviewer about your most recent employer. You don't have to give all the details, but DO provide the contact informations and explain the situations briefly, such as -
"There were some legal issues surrounding my leaving my last job, and regrettably I am no longer on good terms with the business owners. They can confirm that I worked there, but they made it clear that I shouldn't look to them for a reference."
Insofar as the job before that, I suggest you test the waters. Have a friend call and ask for a reference as if they are a potential employer, and see what she has to say. Maybe it'll be positive - and if it's not, then you should probably call her yourself and tell you that you don't appreciate the way she's trying to sabotage your career, and that you're prepared to take legal action if she does it again. It actually IS illegal for a referrer to be very negative about a previous employee, even if everything they say is true.
The one before that job: provide contact info even if no one there knows you. The record of your employment will still be on file.
Your teachers may not have known you very well, but they can vouch for the fact that you took their classes, and whether you passed them.
When employers call references, for the most part, all they expect to hear is confirmation of previous employment. Anything else is a bonus. It will count against you that you don't have any great references from previous employers, but it won't necessarily prevent you from getting the job. How you conduct yourself in the interview is of far greater importance.
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A while back I met this guy. He was handsome, funny, outgoing, honest,reliable and everything else I wanted in a man. One problem he had though, committing to a relationship. He was 18 and had never had a girlfriend, been on many dates probably just for sex. First time we ever hung out he told me, "baby whatever you do, don't fall in-love with me". I should have ran away right at that but I didn't. He fascinated me. After seeing each other for a while. I slept with him. Then the next week, he called and wanted to hang again. I slept with him that night as well. I had sex with him a total of about 5 times. But for the past month. He wont answer my calls. He isn't calling me, nothing. It's like he dropped off the planet. I miss him. What should I do? ); (link)
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Well, he's a jerk, but you can't say he didn't warn you. Still, just because he admits he's a jerk doesn't really excuse jerkish behavior. I'd say he owes you an explanation.
I would suggest trying one more time to contact him, preferably in a way that would be difficult for him to ignore - for instance, if he works somewhere and you know his schedule, be there when he leaves his workplace.
My guess is that he'll shrug and say that he never wanted a relationship, he told you that up front, and that he's sorry you're upset but that's how it is. At that point, you turn around, walk away, chalk it up to experience and never look back. Perhaps you can take some comfort in the idea that someday, this guy will be very, very lonely, and he'll have no one to blame but himself.
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no love for me ever. heartbroken too many times. you told similar man to take 10 beers 40 percoset and 100 xanax. i am afraid that i will either vomit out such quantities but more that it wont work. i will be paralyzed drooling piss and crap in pants always,blind, and be aware of all this. (link)
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I find myself hoping that you wrote this looking for someone to talk you out of it. The fact of the matter is that anyone who lives anywhere near a 10-story building or a railroad track has access to a quick and reasonably painless suicide method, so perhaps this is not really what you're looking for.
To take your own life is a decision which you can never, ever take back. Once you've done it, the deed is forever done. That being the case, please consider whether you've honestly exhausted absolutely ALL the other options. Have you sought out professional counseling? If you can't afford a counselor, try http://suicidehotlines.com; there are resources there.
I say this next part not to make you feel worse, but rather to make sure you've thought about it: Chances are, you feel as though you've made a lot of bad choices in your life (most of us feel that way). Isn't it possible that the choice to kill yourself is another error in judgment? Do you really feel you're in the proper emotional state of mind to make such a huge decision?
Death is not really an option. Rather, it is the end of all options. Before you make the last choice you will ever make, be sure that you've really considered those other options. If you're resigned to the idea of self-destruction, then you have nothing to lose by trying something else first.
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Hello,
I very rarely contribute to this site, although find it to be very beneficial and I'm glad it's around. I've had some questions answered through other posters, so I often lurk, I just very rarely contribute.
That being said, I'm seeking some advice.. I'm good friends this this girl from a town nearby. She attends public school, while I'm homeschooled. This limits us from seeing one another very often, although we talk very often online and fairly often on the telephone. Currently, we're not seeing each other in person, but every few months. This will change if this relationship ever develops into something more.
The girl is currently dating a guy and their relationship appears to be fairly decent. I've gotten some vibes from her that seem to imply she has an interest in me. She tells me she loves me (which is something I am hesitant in saying in return, as the young age of 15, I feel love is a hard thing to understand) and she's also sent me some photos of herself that her boyfriend would probably not appreciate. Now why that generally would indicate she's a wee bit on the skanky side, that's not the case, she's just a girl that trusts me, as we've been real close friends for a long time.
That said, I really want to see our relationship move on, but is it worth it? I suppose my real question is, what to do? Part of me wants to pursue this further, since she's implied she likes me, but another part of me makes me hesitant, as if she is in a relationship now and liking another guy, I could very well end up being cheated one if I were to pursue this.
I'm a real selective guy (I know that sounds contradictory, a hormonal teenager being selective), but I have standards and she is really a wonderful girl. I just think she's maybe a little confused, I certainly don't want to think that she is interested in me and wants to have me around on the side, along with her boyfriend.
Thanks in Advance,
Chase, 15/M (link)
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I say go for it, but keep it above board. She's got a boyfriend - that's not the same as being married. She's as available to date someone else as she chooses to be; she can opt to end her current relationship at any time.
I suspect that she's waiting for you to show interest in taking things to the next level. She does seem to be giving you signals. My guess is that she wants to see how you respond before she breaks up with her current guy. If you don't respond, that way she still has a boyfriend. If you DO respond, then she's hoping she'll also still have a boyfriend, but it'll be you instead of him.
That's just my guess, though. Only you can find out if it's the right guess.
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how do i make a boy 6 years elder then me to love me and he knows that i love him but he thinks its just affection and thinks me as his sister and likes someone else.i am an indian
12 years old female. (link)
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I'm afraid Zane is right. An 18-year-old man (and he is legally a man, not a boy) is not going to look at a 12-year-old girl as a potential girlfriend. Well, there are those who would, but you REALLY wouldn't want to be involved with them! Think for a moment if the situation were reversed - could you see yourself at 18 looking at a boy even four years younger than yourself, let alone six?
Your feelings are very real, I am sure. But he is in no position to be able to return them; and even if he wanted to, he could not do so either legally or morally. You'll need to wait about six to eight years before you could even consider such a relationship as workable. You are still a child, even if you don't feel as much like one as you used to. To have a relationship with an adult, you're just going to have to wait until you are an adult yourself.
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I've been a vegetarian for three years. I am fifteen. My parents aren't the most wealthiest people and my family's kind of poor. Without any meat, I feel fine. For a while I felt refreshed and great. But lately I have been feeling very run down and sleepy. I feel like I'm not getting enough protein. I drink expensive protein shakes I get every so often and I take vitamins too. But what else can I do to boost my protein?
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First, consult your physician. At fifteen, you're still growing and your body requires certain nutrients for that. You can still get them and be vegetarian at the same time, but it requires a little extra planning in your diet.
Otherwise: beans & nuts. Soybeans in particular are rich in protein.
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Does ambulance charge just to come check a person at home and see whats wrong (link)
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I've been trying to look it up but I can't seem to find an exact answer. I. Am a femaile and live in north carolina and I want to get married but I don't want to change my last name. Is there a way I can LEGALLY keep my last name and still get married? Not just socially. (link)
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Of course! You may always keep your last name, in any state. It is entirely up to you. When you go to get your marriage license, just inform the clerk what you want to do, and that's how it will be. It's that simple.
You'll want to mention it to your husband-to-be, so that he doesn't hear about it for the first time in front of the clerk. What you do with your own name is essentially up to you, but if nothing else, you'll need to decide in advance what name your kids will take.
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ok so my mom is always yelling or telling me im a b**** or a little f*** and i'm getting so upset and tired of it. she tells me and my sister to shut up and go the f*** away whenever we try to talk to her about anything cuz she is always on stupid facebook on her phone whenever she isnt screaming at a member of my family. and i hate wen she yells so much because she yells much louder than my neighbors who were actually in the military (no lie). and sometimes she squeezes my face and screams in my face for some dumb reason (she has done this many times in the past but not too recently.) and other times, she says "i brought u into this world and i can take you out" and she says that she will kick me to the ground, help me up then kick me down again. and she says that she will smash me and my sister's heads 2gether. anyway, is this normal and ok for her to do? oh and fyi, she has never beat me before. she has just grabbed me with her nails and they went into my skin a little bit a few times and she has grabbed my face but nothing horrible. . . (link)
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What's going on is neither OK nor is it normal. It is abuse, both emotional and physical.
Kicking you to the ground IS "beating". So is smashing your head against your sister's. It is very cruel of her to do these things to you, and you should not have to live this way.
I urge you to inform a school counselor of the situation as soon as possible. They are required by law to do something about it; you will not be ignored. Do not worry about getting your mother in trouble - she needs help and the only way she will get it is if someone calls attention to the situation. If you still find yourself hesitating, remember that you are not the only one suffering; your sister is also taking abuse.
This is a very serious situation. Your mother has threatened your life. The phrase, "I brought you into this world, and I can take you out" is a death threat, not a joke.
If the abuse continues, a neighbor someone may end up calling the police. It's better that this is handled in a more controlled manner. The best thing for EVERYONE, including your mother, is for you to inform an adult at school.
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So I've gone swimming for about 2 hours for the past 3 days and I've been noticing that my face seems more clear. I've never had a real problem with acne but I always seem to have a few small zits at any given time. So does the Chlorine in the pool help with the acne or what? I think it might be because my face is more on the oily side and Chlorine dries it up or something like that...what do you think? (link)
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I'm guessing that it probably has more to to with the water than the chlorine. The most effective weapon against zits, after all, is simply washing your face. When you go swimming, you're essentially washing your face for an hour or more at a time. If you're swimming vigorously, you're probably also sweating (though you wouldn't notice it) and this clears out the pores.
As the previous responder says, you'll want to be careful your skin doesn't get too dry, but I'd forgo the moisturizer if your skin is naturally oily. You may have found a good balance with exactly what you're doing - don't mess with it as long as it works!
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I know absolutely nothing about engagement rings/diamonds. My boyfriend and I have been talking about getting engaged so I went to go look at this ring.
http://www.zales.com/product/index.jsp?productId=4209145&kpc=1
Supposedly the color and clarity of the diamond are not that great but I love the setting. I didn't notice anything weird about the diamond when i went to look at it but I didn't look super close for imperfections. Can an average person actually tell the difference in clarity and color with a naked eye?
He's all worried that the diamond is not good enough. I told him as long as you can't see anything wrong with it what is the point of spending more money on a better diamond?
Any thoughts or advice?
Thanks! (link)
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I like your attitude about the diamond. If you can't see anything wrong with it, it's fine.
Diamonds are practical for engagement rings for two reasons: One, they're colorless, so they'll go with anything, and that's important because you'll be wearing this ring with everything. Two, they're durable, and that's important because you'll be wearing the ring for many years.
If your boyfriend wants to get a larger diamond for you someday, he can do so; many people exchange the stone in their engagement/wedding ring for a different one later on. The original may lose its luster due to wear and tear, or it may simply get lost for that matter.
And you don't need a diamond at all, really, My wife's ring has a white sapphire. No one but a jeweler with a magnifying glass could tell the difference, and it's almost as durable as a diamond. A cubic zirconia is also a good alternative, but it will tend to scratch more easily; they look like diamonds when they're new, but lose their sparkle quickly because of scratches and bumps.
Tell your boyfriend what I suspect is your true feeling about the matter: that the ring is a symbol of your commitment, but the most important thing is the commitment itself. A more expensive diamond will not make you more engaged; it'll just transfer more of his money to the DeBeers family. The ring is special because it's a gift from him, not because it has a big sparkly in it.
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I was on wikipedia and it says "requires that at least two personalities routinely take control of the individual's behavior"
Does that mean 2 personalities other than the host?
Or does that mean the host AND another personality?
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If a person genuinely has multiple personalities (and true MPD is extremely rare, by the way), then none of them is the "host". If would be like painting something half blue and half red, and then asking "which color is it really, and which one is the extra color?"
One personality may be stronger than another, but any of them could be considered a part of the person's total identity. Proper treatment will fuse the distinct personalities into one rather than destroy any of them.
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My boyfriend REALLY wants me to give him head tomorrow night and I told him I would but I have this coldsore on my lip. I think it might be painful to giving him a blow job when I have this coldsore. Should I still give him oral sex or should I tell him I can't right now? Is it safe to anyway? Because my teacher said something about coldsores being contagious and I wouldn't want him to get sores on his...yeah! Thanks for any/all info!!!!!!!! (link)
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Cold sores are caused by the same virus that causes herpes. They are absolutely contagious. Not only should you avoid giving him oral sex, you should probably avoid kissing him until it goes away.
I wouldn't suggest you actually use the word "herpes" when you explain to your boyfriend why you can't give him oral. Just say that you have a cold sore, that it is contagious, and you don't want to give him cold sores on his penis. You can then expect his enthusiasm for oral sex to drop accordingly.
The good news is that cold sores do go away, and then you're in business.
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i am from India. my both email_id: tapashbiswas@hotmail.com and tapas_delhi@hotmail.com has been hacked by somebody. would you help me out as there are very important messages in that. kindly send me your answer in my gmail_id:tapash.jnu@gmail.com.
i will be grateful for your kind cooperation.
with warm regards,
Tapash Biswas
Ph.D( Popualtion Studies)
India
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How do we know that you're really Tapash Biswas, and not the hacker?
If you actually ARE who you say you are, then go to the IT department at your school; that's what they're there for. They can either retrieve the data, or there's no way to do it.
Oh, and don't post your name and E-mail address in public forums like this one. That's how they get hacked in the first place.
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How do i make my friend jealous?
Please dont tell me how immarure and wrong it is. I want actual answers (link)
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The way to make a friend jealous is (1) be better than she is at something, and (2) have a friend who's petty enough so that it matters.
In the end, you really can't "make" someone jealous. You can do everything you like to be more attractive, more talented, wealthier, or better in any way than your friend, but whether she reacts with jealousy is up to her.
And if she finds out that you're actually trying to make her jealous, she will likely view you as pitiful and pathetic, so this idea definitely has the potential to backfire on you.
(I used the feminine pronoun, because I had to pick one and that's how the coin toss ended up.)
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Ok well I told my friend i liked this guy and she said I think he likes you. Then she said I should ask him out but I didnt want to so she said she would. She asked him out for me and he still didnt say anything. I need to know how to say yes if he asks me out. (link)
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I must disagree with the previous responder. Why play games with the guy? If you want to go out with him, and he asks you to go out with him, there is no reason I can see that you shouldn't say "Yes" and actually go out with him.
The reason why he's saying nothing to your friend may be that he'd rather deal with you directly. If that's the case, he's not someone who's going to enjoy being put on hold just because you can.
The way that you say "yes" is to simply say it, and say it in a way that also says you're glad he asked you and looking forward to it. Honesty is the best policy. Mind games are what people hide behind when they're afraid to be honest.
And incidentally, it ain't the 1950s anymore, and you don't have to wait for him to ask you out. You can do the asking, too!
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That a person can determine that another person isn't a virgin by there hips?
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No.
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I have five guys I like but I don't know who to choose. One knows I like him and he uses it like a weapon. Two of them say they like me but only on has proved it. They other two just don't care but they know. Who should I pick or what should I do. (link)
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From the extremely limited information you offer, the only reasonable choice is the one who "likes you and proved it." But that's definitely not enough to go on to really make the call.
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