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Engagement Ring
I know absolutely nothing about engagement rings/diamonds. My boyfriend and I have been talking about getting engaged so I went to go look at this ring.
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Supposedly the color and clarity of the diamond are not that great but I love the setting. I didn't notice anything weird about the diamond when i went to look at it but I didn't look super close for imperfections. Can an average person actually tell the difference in clarity and color with a naked eye?
He's all worried that the diamond is not good enough. I told him as long as you can't see anything wrong with it what is the point of spending more money on a better diamond?
Any thoughts or advice?
Thanks!
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I like your attitude about the diamond. If you can't see anything wrong with it, it's fine.
Diamonds are practical for engagement rings for two reasons: One, they're colorless, so they'll go with anything, and that's important because you'll be wearing this ring with everything. Two, they're durable, and that's important because you'll be wearing the ring for many years.
If your boyfriend wants to get a larger diamond for you someday, he can do so; many people exchange the stone in their engagement/wedding ring for a different one later on. The original may lose its luster due to wear and tear, or it may simply get lost for that matter.
And you don't need a diamond at all, really, My wife's ring has a white sapphire. No one but a jeweler with a magnifying glass could tell the difference, and it's almost as durable as a diamond. A cubic zirconia is also a good alternative, but it will tend to scratch more easily; they look like diamonds when they're new, but lose their sparkle quickly because of scratches and bumps.
Tell your boyfriend what I suspect is your true feeling about the matter: that the ring is a symbol of your commitment, but the most important thing is the commitment itself. A more expensive diamond will not make you more engaged; it'll just transfer more of his money to the DeBeers family. The ring is special because it's a gift from him, not because it has a big sparkly in it.
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Guys can be sort of stupid about these things. From birth, pretty much, they're being bombarded with commercials and media saying that "IF YOU LOVE HER, YOU'LL SPEND LOTS OF MONEY ON A RING". Personally, I would have preferred that my fiancé had spent 1/3 of what he did and used the rest on something more practical, and I told him so. Didn't work.
Most people can't even tell diamond from cubic zirconia let alone judge the quality of a diamond. Those who do care enough about diamonds to learn how to judge cut and clarity need something better to do with their time.
As far as I'm concerned, if you love it, then it's good enough. (It is really pretty!) Convincing him might be more difficult.
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Um... I'm pretty sure he ment that its not big enough. I know that when I want to get my girl an engagement ring, I want to give her the best I can find. That way she'll see how much I care about her.
As far as imperfections, I'm pretty sure you can only see that with a magnifying lens, and even then you probably won't be able to point out the imperfections. Color on the other hand is obvious. Diamonds come in a variety of color (colorless, yellow, red, blue, purple, pink, and more), but typically, the diamonds on engagement rings are colorless.
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