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Q: I am having an Aisan Sweet Sixteen because i just got back from hong kong. Im having abour 50 kids that i kno come and i was just wondering if there is anything reguarding games/movies/activites that we can do at the party.
Ive never had a party with this many people and i was just wondering if there are any ideas about what we can do...
thanks or the help!
I RATE 5's!!
Madison
age 16

Well, you could decorate like an Asia country like Japan with the kight covers with Japanese symbols on them or something. You could watch karate movies or anime. If those arent your thing... then you can go a little out of your theme. Games can be cheesey at parties. Especially at sweet 16s. I would skip out on the games and just have people talk, watch the movie, or dance. (Have some good music!)

Q: ok im 14 and im a girl my problems is well to understand my whole problem i will have to go bac lil while ok so my mom and dad were never married but when i was 4 they broke up and i lived with my grandma with my dad and MY MOM dated this guY his name was dawayne AND when i was like 5 my mom took me away from my dad and i missed him alot and i neVer saw him again till i was 11 and then i started seeing him and he lived with his new wife and her kids i felt really bad i felt like he didnt care about me anymore or sumthin but then he talked to me about it and i was fine then when i was 13 one of my friends moved to her cuzins house((WHO WAS ALSO ONE OF MY FRIENDS)) b-ciz she got abused and my dad got a divore with his wife and then my mom got a divorce with her husband and i missed my step sister very much and i feel really bad inside i feel like crying all the time and my friend that got aBUSED IS MOVING BAC WITH HER DAD (WHO ABUSED HER) and just want every thing to be they way it was b 4 i moved out of my old house

Wow, you've lived quite a life. It sound tough.. but you'll get though it. Find ways to relax yourself such as listeing to you favorite music, going to a spa or something, hanging out with a good friend, have a movie marathon an play all you rfavorite movies, play a favorite sport, ect. Talk with your parents, tell them how you are hurting inside. Tell your friend that any moment that her dad seems like he will abuse her again to get out of there. I hope this works and your life gets better.

Q: Today at school my mates were saying that I look like Nanny McPhee! I do have a big nose & bushy eyebrows but I try not to care about looks at all, whereas looks are the most important thing in my mates lives.. it's not just my mates who think I look hideous, they printed a pic of Nanny McPhee & kept asking teachers if I looked like her, and they all said, "well I'm not trying to be mean.. but yeah, she does". Now I feel terrible, I have no confidence whatsoever as it is, I have huge problems with talking to people and stuff.. Anyway, how can I make myself not hideous and revolting? Thanks :\

I would stop calling them your mates. They arent very good friends if they are making you feel bad, and not realizing their mistake. Talk to them, tell them how it hurt your feelings. If they apologize and seem deeply sorry, then accept them as friends again. If not, you might have to dump 'em.

About looking like Nanny McPhee... Bull crap. I'm sure you are a beautiful girl with lots of good qualities. If you didn't care about your looks before.. dont start caring now; its a bad habbit.

If you cant take the "not caring about looks" advice, try getting your eyebrows waxed and wear make up.

Q: Well the happiest thing happened to me... I found the love of my life... I love his family his family loves me vise versa... But the only problem is he lives next door... Ya some people are like thats the tightest thing ever... But it is a hassle sometimes when i wanna go out with the girls and its like i have 2 sets of parents... One weekend i went to a party with my friends and i came home at 12:30 and his parents were all pissed cause he wasnt with me... I dunno... But i love him though... And his parents think we are getting married... They told him to wait till after graduation to get married and we have been going out for like 2 months? that kinda creeps me out... What should i do??

The parents... sometimes freaky sometimes cool. Just ignore them if they say something like that. If you love him, then you can argue with his parents. Just put your attention on the guy, not his parents.

Q: Ok so I have been seeing this guys *Jim* for a little over a year and I really love him. We makeout all the time, he's gotten up my shirt and just today he fingered me many times and I gave him a blowjob. Now I know this may not seem like alot to you but for me it is and that might be just because I`m 13. Now I have a question would you consider me a slut? How much do you think he likes me. (I am his first girlfriend, first kiss, first everything)? please answer this i am so nervous and scared.

I'm 13. I havent even REALLY kissed a guy yet. So it doesnt seem like a little to me. But I dont think you are a slut. If you were ready for that kind of relationship, then you were. I would ask him how he feels about you. Thats your best bet.

Q: hey about at what age/grade are people until they get their first kiss?

and do you just like do a peck or actually french kiss, or do you open your mouth a little and sort of like suck on their lips or whatever lol.

please give me a lot of detail and I'll rate high!!!

Every age is different for different people. So are the techniques. Your time will come soon. When it does, and it naturally just happens, it will be 1000000 times better than if you plan it. Remember, you want your first kiss to be with someone who means something to you. Also, to get good at kissing, its all in the practice, I've heard. ;)

Q: i like most of delia's clothes (mainly their screen tees and such). what are some other stores that carry modest clothing that is cute and sort of the same style? i'm not looking for "preppy" stores like abercrombie, hollister, or ae.

I found that Urban Outfitters have really cute stuff, that I think is like Delia's. If you dont have one at your mall you can go to www.urbanoutfitters.com

I agree with everyone else, Charlotte Russe and Forever21 are pretty similar also. (http://www.charlotte-russe.com) (www.forever21.com)

Q: I'm a 17 year old female and I need some advice about getting my nails done for prom. I've never had them done before, so I don't even know what to expect. What I want is a french manicure on the arcryllic nails. Is this what I ask for when I go to the salon? And how long do my real nails have to be in order to have the fake ones put on?

I'll rate high for good advice. Thanks.

When you come in and you are waited on, just say you want a french manicure with the acryllics. Its pretty easy. Oh, and if they make a mistake or if something doesnt look good, tell them. You are paying them to do your nails right. It doesnt matter how long your nails are. (Unless you have them longer than the acryllics which would be super long.)

Q: Hello. I'm just wondering, but what's a normal weight for a 14 year old female, about 5'2. I'm not looking for 100% "normal" & "healthy" per say, more of what would look good? I'd really enjoy hearing your opinion, for I already know the doctors' and am-i-fat.com. Thanks in advance. I will rate you and possibly give feedback for goodanswers. Thanks again.

I'm almost 14! And I'm 5'2"! Haha. You want to be between 101 and 136 lbs. I suggest a good weight of 107-115 lbs to look your best. I'm guessing, that is. You want to have curves, but still have a good shape, so I would say in between there.

But remember, you always want to love your body and yourself, or it will be even harder to get to where you want to be. And besides, its good for you to like yourself!

Q: Aside from me asking you one now, I want to know why adults and teens older than you (your page says you are 13) ask you for advice. Personally, I wouldnt ask a 13 yr old relationship advice, because kids really dont know what love is, and their view of morality is skewed.

Bite my ass you dirty little slut, I bet you had a kid when you were 12.

I can understand where you are coming from. What the heck does a 13 year old know about life? The truth is, even though I haven't had much experiences, I still can look at the situation from a different perspective. I also put myself in the situation, sometimes as an older person. Plus, a person doesn't have to take my advice if they don't want to. I just try to give the best advice I can.
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P.S. I would bite your ass if i could. I am not a slut. I did not have a kid when I was 12 (even though I love kids). Plus, I am a virgin. So shove that up your hairy ass. Just Kidding.

Q: i was 132 august this summer i am 160. ive never been this big ever and i feel so disgusting and have been crying the last 2 weeks. ive never had roles, ive never felt so unhappy. i know if gaiend this from not being energetic and being depressed but i need to lose weight fast. like alot i dont care if its not so healthy but i need to lose at least 20 by june, ive been trying hydroxycut but seriously i cant feel anything. help me, its a must i lose 20 by then

please help, i really dont know what to do with myself=(

1) Do not loose weight unhealthily. That would do you in... you dont want to do that at all.
2) No diet pills. Unless you ask your doctor for natural ones. Otherwise, they wont work and wont be good for you.
3) Even if you dont loose the weight by June, you need to be happy with your body.

I suggest exercizing and a healthy diet. Exercize as much as you want, but you need to eat three healthy meals a day. Maybe you could get a membership to a gym or get a personal trainer. Maybe go on weightwatchers or some diet that counts calories (never go on a diet that limits you from carbs)

Q: i`m 14/f. i don't wear a "real" bra. i wear camosals with the built in bras. they seem to work good for me but i was wondering if you think i need a real bra. and if you could, state a reason why. thanks.

Well it depends on your cup size. If you are a size A or over, a real bra should be worn (some people dont like seeing a girl without a bra because her boobs may sag or her nipples may po put. gross right?). If your like an AA or something, there is no need.

Q: my wife is 41 year old recently she met younger man and they started loveing each other she love me also but she can not leave him also i am unable to understand what to do

:'( She can't truely love two men. I suggest making her choose between you or the other guy. If she can't choose or she chooses the other guy.. sorry but you need to leave her! She is not treating you right, and you need to take action.

Q: Ok so my hair is long...when I say long i mean like past my hips long and I'm 5'4"! Anyway my mom doesn't want me cut it but I don't want to cut it all off...I jus want about 5 inches off! I told her and she keeps saying when i get older blah blah blah. If it was for my family i'd keep it but sometimes I can't wash it in the evenin cause i hate to blowdry and then sometimes i get up late and it takes about 20 mins to comb it neat to go to school. And also because alot of kids tell me " you always have your hair like that...it m ust keep tired"! And I'm sick of it..I jus want it a few inches shorter!!!

Please help me to get a way for her to get me to cut my hair and I don't want her to know kids truble me because then she'll make me move to a nex school n i relly like this one!!!!

I have about 4 days...so help me please

Tell your mom that its really imprtant for you to have you hair be nice, and tell her its a pain to brush it for 20 minutes in the morning. Tell her you want to be able to style it and be a normal kid (or teen). If she says no, dont whine or argue. Just come back later, and come up with a few more reasons. Maybe say that its your hair and that you feel you should have a say in what you do with it. Hopefully those will work. If not sorry. When you get it cut, get it cut at a compromising shortness. If your mom wants no less than 3 inches off, offer 4. Get a hot style for long hair. You can look on the internet for nice ones.

Q: Hi. Tomorrow I am walking in the 2006 NYC walk for MS. I've never participated in a walk of any kind before, so what should I bring? Is there anything I need to know? Also, they are saying it is going to be in the low 50's and raining tomorrow...should I wear a jacket and bring an umbrella? Please help me. I rate 5's for good answers. ♥

Oo good you you! I joined in a walk for diabetes, it was fun. I suggest you bring a water bottle (size depending on how many miles you are going to walk or how thirsty you get) you might want to bring a rain jacket or a poncho, but a sweatshirt would probably be fine. I wouldnt bring an umbrella. You would have to carry it around all the time, that would stink. I would bring a small snack, just incase you get hungry and they dont have any there. I would pack all this in a small back pack. Have fun!

Q: (f/17)k so lots of people think this is weird, but i am a lesbian and still want to have my OWN children. i am in the most amazing relationship, we are very open and honest and she clearly said she wants kids, but doesnt want to be pregnant, but she thinks it is a beautiful thing to watch(see the belly growing,etc)and we have lots of plans for the future, we even picked a name for a boy, DAMIEN and the thing i have to ask is...
how would i get pregnant without a man?
ive heard about INVITRO-FERTILIZATION..but how does that work??
thanks

HEY! Did you get the Damien from Mean Girls???? Because that would be cool. If not, its still cool. Anyway, In Vitro Fertilization is when the man's sperm and the womans egg is combined in a laboratory dish. That would not work since you have a girlfriend and not a boyfriend. I suggest getting a sperm donation.

Q: truthfully, yeah in always pop my zits or squeeze black heads, who doesnt. well my nose is really dry now and the skin is pealing, part of it pealed so much its beat red and so dry and very bumpy? i dont know how it happened or wut to do

It is probably from the popping and squeezing zits and black heads. (I do it too, but I never had that happen.) Use a normal face moisturizer for now while you set up an appointment (you should, anyway) for a dermatologist.

Q: I am torn. Prom is in a few months and i still don't have a date, heres my situation:

1.) theres a guy at school that all of a sudden started showing more intrest in me- compliments me, talks to me more, acts weird. My friend keeps telling him that he should ask me b4 im taken and i told her stop, he just kinda gets awkward and quiet, and still has not asked me (yet he tells me were destined to go together)

2.) theres another guy at work (younger) that i like hes really nice and i think he likes me. I just don't know how to ask him and what he'll say since i haven't hung out with him out of school much.

What would you do and who would you go for? They both kinda show the same signals of liking me so i don't know wat to do. Thanks in advance

Think about the situation. Which guy would you have the most fun with? Which guy would treat you the best? Which guy would just be a better prom date? Oh, and most importantly, which guy do you like the best? Prom is a night you will remember for the rest of your life, so make it be with the guy who it will mean the most with.

Q: Hey. I've been a veggietarian for nine months now, and I've changed so much. I am so malnurished and I'm having like a million mental break downs. I've become really sad and angry. I wanted to stop being a veggie but its so hard! I wont eat meat or i'll start like crying...well not really but ill feel really sad and become moody. im also really malnaurished cause im allergic to a lot and cause im kosher. i need advise from a veggie or someone who once was one. thanx to anyone who can help! by the way...incase you wanna like address me in ur note back my names joey f/! thanx!!

xox

I got malnurished when I became a veggie too. What I did was ate meat again, and the problem was solved. While you are eating your meat, go to the doctor. Tell him/her that you were veggie and you became malnurished, so you stopped, but you want to start up again (if you do) he should provide a good vitamin. I am pretty sure they have special ones that are better for veggies. With these vitamins, you should get all the protien and iron you need, and plus more essential vitamins. Oh, and please eat three healthy meals a day, Joey!!

Q: how can i tunr a guy down easily like because hes really cool but i dont like him that way i dont want to hurt his feelings because hes like sensitve like that

please help

brittany

Hmm toughie. Just be like "I'm sorry, but I think of you more as a friend than a boyfriend" There is really no easy way of turning down a guy. But afterward, try to not make it awkward. Bring up typical conversations and just try to be nice around him

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