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Hi, My name is Bailey. I am 15, and I know that is young, but I think I can offer good advice, or at least try my hardest.


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where can you get those cute sweatpants that say "pink" on the butt? like i heard you can get them at victorias secret but idk. thanks and i rate!

Deffinately Victorias Secret




Ok when you asked this question what were you expecting, only one person to answer? You have no right to rate me a one when I gave you the correct information. So next time you decide to ask a stupid question like this, make sure you go to good old googl.com and look at that...god, people these days are just soo stupid....

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If a white person called a black person a "nigga" on the computer, is this some sort of discrimination, could that person get in any kind of trouble or anything like that?
Thank you.

They can't get in trouble, but is disrespectful, and mean to say...unless they are joking and they know that.

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I have a friend who is a very nice person. I almost feel bad for writing this, but it's been an ongoing issue.
The problem is that she calls me WAY too much. She phones me on average about 6 or 7 times a day. She also is one of those people that phones and wants to talk for an hour even though she has absolutely nothing to talk about. If I wasnt the one to always end the conversation she would probably talk all day. I do have other friends and interests and I really feel she is monopolizing my time.
She doesnt have a job or go to school and I know is always bored. But I DO have a job. Other times I'll be expecting an important call, and she will phone me twice within the hour. A lot of times I'll tell her that I'll phone her later because my favorite soap is on, and she will phone me 20 minutes later even though she knows the show is still on. She phones me early in the morning, and late at night. She'll phone as late as 11 pm. Sometimes I don't answer the phone at all. Then when I finally answer it she says she had been trying me all day.
How can I tell her nicely that she needs to stop phoning me so ofter without hurting her feelings? I would prefer if she just called my once a day.

I think the only way you can really get the point across is by sitting her down, and tell her that you have a job and other friends, and that she can't call you all of the time, because you have a life. Tell her that you want to be friends and you are not saying this to be mean, but you just can't talk on the phone all of the time. And if she gets really sad or anything, don't give in and say never mind, you have to be serious about it and not give in or this will never go away.

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I just the other day finally heard from a guy I'm friends with. He had moved several months ago for a job and I hadnt heard from him until yesterday. He sent me an email apologizing to me for taking so long to contact me; and said he had finally hooked up his internet.
He asked me if I could write him live on MSN messanger, and I got it all hooked up today. He wants to talk to me on Saturday before he goes back to work. I'm getting really excited, because I feel I am finally ready to tell him how I feel about him. I've been in love with him for the past 3 years. I think he has similar feelings for me. We are both shy and reserved. What can I say to him on MSN messanger that would give him the message of how I'm feeling without freaking him out?

Telling him on MSN messenger is not the best way, I don't think he will get the full meaning of it. I think that you should call him, and explain it to him. It is easier to talk about you feeling then to type them, and he will probably understand more. So call him, and explain exactly how you feel.

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so... i finally got my first makeout. me and the guy had it planned. well, i went in and i'm sure either i messed it up ors omething but he said i wasn't bad at all, but i don't know.... i didn't really like it, kinda? i think it was just the guy. but now i'm scared that i'll think kissing/making out isn't fun at all. is it really fun? or do you think that i just didn't think so 'cause my first time i was nervous and it was all planned...? haha sorry, i'm just really confused, any help will be great. :D

It was your first time, I remember I didn't really enjoy my first time, but you eventually just get the hang of it...

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Okay im a very paranoid person over all. So when im home alone im scared to go downstairs to the basement cause theres a possible way soemone can break in .so i had to go down there for something adn when i was walking up the stairs i wanted to run because i was so scared that someone was there , but i forced myself to walk calmy and get over my fear, but as i was walking up the stairs i became very anxious and stressed .cause i forced myself to do something my mind didnt want to.? is this OCD or what is it ? i know no one is a doctor but does anyone no anything ? and what should i do...

ill rate 5 for anything that helps

It does not sound to me like OCD, it just sounds like you have a phobia, or an axiety disorder. But I really do not think you have OCD.

If you don't believe me, then I recommend you watch MTV's True Life: I Have OCD...I hate MTV, but that was really good, and it helps you understand OCD...

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I have a crush on my best friend. She knows and it just has made things weird, especially now that she has a boyfriend. I don't mind her boyfriend so much as the look of pity and the feeling of paranoia as she avoids things in conversation. I feel stupid and I know that nobody will know the answer, but can someone tell me how I can stop having a this major crush on her but stillbe friends? And please don't just tell me "time" or "find God" those are truly useless to me. I am looking for a cure. Either you have or you don't, I don't need comforting pats on the shoulder, I need a vaccination.

15/m

Find another girl, date her, and realize that there are lots of girls out there.

Good Luck!


So you rate me low because I didn't know that you have been there and tried that....? Wow.. you are stupid...

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Ive never really told anyone this but here goes... I am 13/f and I like hollister, abercrombie, etc., I have alot of friends, I have a boyfriend, all the usual. Anyways I dont know how to explain this but I feel like a boy. I wear girl clothes, and I like boys and stuff(im not lesbian) but inside I just feel like a boy. I think its really weird. I used to wear guy clothes and stuff but that was when I was younger. Do you guys think this is weird or what? Is there like anything I can do to fix this annoying problem? Or at least I hope im not bi...

....From that I am really not getting the vibe that you are bi.

Just because a girl wears "boy's" clothes, does not automatically mean they are gay...

You are worrying toooo much about this...it is not weird at all and, there really is not a way to "fix" it. Just be how you want to be, don't be what other people want you too...but that is how society is, so you probably won't even listen to that.

But I hope I helped.

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you make it sound so easy!I don't know if this guy likes me or not, it would be disappointing and awkward if he said no. In your opinion when would be the perfect time to ask him if my prom is in the end of june?

Do you guys hang out outside of work? Because if you don't you should ask him to. And then just work your way up by doing that.

A good time would be when you feel comfortable..but if that never comes, then end of may beginning of june...

But when you ask him, and he says no then just say that you had no one else to go with and that he was your friend, and you though you guys would have fun!

Well Best of Luck!

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ok here im 13 and im ready to do "it" again with my bf the thing is i cant protection the first time i was close to be having a baby and i was lucky but everytime im around him i dont know how to like stop getting horny u know what imean i dont want to get pregneate help me!!!!lol

Sorry there is not really a way to stop you from getting "horny". You could just think that maybe you like your boyfriend more than just a sexual partner...that may help. If not then just make sure you use protection.

protection
-abstinance
-condom (male)
-condom (female)
-birth conrol...

there are more, but those are the easiest. Well good luck.

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so ive taken preg tests from my school twice.. nd they both came out that im NOT pregnant and they are sposed to be really good pregnancy tests.. but im sitll 8 weeks late for my period..

WHAT SHOULD I DO? what do you think?

When you are a teenager your period can be very irregular, so it should not be something that you should be very worried about. But if it is relaly worrying you go see a doctore.

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does size really matter to girls?

Hahaha...I love this question...

When a girl looks at a guy she cannot automatically tell if he is "big" or not, unlike guys who can tell right away if a girl has a nice figure. So really size isn't important with appearances or anything.

Then if you are talking about sex, girls like it to be big, but not like HUGE so like I am not sure what the average size is, but it is really not even that big. And really if a girl loves a guy it would not matter at all if she was any kind of descent person.

So really it all depends on the person and the circumstance.

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5's all around

i love the way you look at me baby...

its like an R&B song and a girl and a boy sing it....ill rate 5's since i dont know alot

I think it might be "Baby I love you" by JLO...but I am not 100% sure...

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What are some things girls like guys to do at scary movies? Like hold their hands or what? We are going ot see the hills have eyes and i don't know if she would like it if i put my arm around her or anything... 13/m

Awww that is cute...

Well, don't just like as soon as you sit down put your arm around her.
Like when you can tell that she is getting scared maybe just look over at her and ask her if she is ok...she will say yes of course.
Then later just lik grab her hand(she will LOVE it!)
Then a little bit after that go for the arm, and she will feel like the happiest person ever, and probably start pretending to be scared just so you will be closer to her!

Trust me I am a girl...I know these things!

Awww Well I really hope everything goes AMAZINGLY!!! good luck!

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i can't describe these annoyances that i experience daily so i'm just going to give examples of what happen

*yesterday my mom came out of the bathroom and the door closed behind her but i could only here that it hit the door frame and didn't like lock all the way so i'm sitting there holding myself against the couch until i couldn't stand it any more i had to go and pull it shut

* my brother asked for some gum (it was orbit) so they have rows of gum right? well i was having the hardest time deciding which piece to give him.. i just closed my eyes and grabbed one and it happened to be on the back row... well after i handed it to him i had to take the last one from the front row and fill in the missing space in the back ?????????????

* other weird stuff is like i'll be sittin gher and just HAVE to say a certain word or pronounce a certain letter.. just with my tongue like L or the R sound, not out loud just with my tongue and in my head

how strange is this? i've noticed stupid stuff like this before but now its like everyyy day!! it's so annoying! are these signs of ocd? i feel like some freak. : / please help, and if you do think its ocd.. where do i go from there? how do i like break this habit? even while i was writing this i had to delete certain letters and retype them just cuz i had to i didn't make a mistake i just wouldn't feel right if i didn't do it. : / ugh this is so stupid and frustrating but i don't want it to get worse please help!!

Well don't just go ahead and self-diagnose yourself from what people on this website say and what you thing.

I think you need to go see a psychiatrist, they will help you understand your problem and get you help for it.

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okay i need really good advice for this. my friend, he has some problems from the past dealing with family and friends. that's understandable, but he's really controlling. he used to cut and now threatens to kill himself. would he go through with it? probably not, but there's always that chance one day he might just break, ya know? well he doesn't like people i hang around with like my bf, friends, etc etc. he's very very controlling and today he asked me to choose my friends or him. well i obviously want to be with my friends, but i'm afraid he's going to do something stupid like he says. i really need help. everyone says "you shouldn't be friends with him if he treats you this way" but if you were in my situation (maybe some of you are) you definately know what i mean and how i feel about this subject. any ideas??

thanks!!

Hmmm...reminds me of a situation I was in, only I was like the boy in yours without the controllingness...So I am going to try and help you from that perspective. And I am a girl by the way.

He obviously needs some help..but he probaby doesn't want it and doesn't thing he needs it. And I can see why he would be controlling it makes sense to me but I can tell you it is extremely unhealthy. I wish I had known that before I did what I did.

So if you really want what is best for him I would tell your school councelor, and then stay away from him for a little bit. Because he needs to be away from you to get to know himself, and figure out his problems. He is not going to do anything, just get him some help from someone you can trust and you really believe will help...it is what is best for him.

I hope everything goes well.

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I think that I might be bi.. But I dont want to be! what do I do?

I am female by the way

thanks..

I agree with the person below me. You are probably just curious, and trying to find yourself. I went throught that stage, I though wow..maybe I am bi, but then I realized it was just curiosity.

If you really are bi, then you do not have to tell anyone, because being bi means you like both sexes so you can just date guys.

But before you start saying you are bi, experiment a little, and just try and figure things out!

I hope everything goes well!

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Im thirteen years old and I have this guy that asked me out a couple days ago. He good looking to me and hes like kinda big but not really fat. I said yes but alot of kids think im weird for liking him. Anyone have any advice what to say to him?

Well first of all congrats on the guy! And it is an added bonus that he looks good!!

Now about what the kids say....ugh...they are just jealous..they wish they could be lucky like you and have someone. If you like him stay with him because the kids are just being jealous and mean!

Well when you talk to him, completely act yourself! You will feel like you can trust him more and he will feel the same. And it won't be very awkward!

Well Good Luck with him!
I hope the relationship goes well!

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I dont know wahts wrong with me. I have been getting very depressed latley. Like it just bounces around, one second im happy then further through the school say i get really really depressed. After school I just come home and go right to sleep. I feel like people just dont care about me and I dont wanna wake up. I really get depressed during school when I think how I have hardly any guy friends and like mostly girl friends. It pisses me off and I dont know why.I pretty much do more things with girls than boys and it makes me depresseed. I want guy friends but the guys in my school are ass holes most of the time. But I dont know, i just get so depressed taht i wanna sleep and never wake up. I start to feel like no one in the world really understands how I for nor do they care.

What should i do??

P.S. by the way im a boy

Thanks

Hey,
I'm sorry that you are feeling this way...I know what it feels like only I am a girl.

It sounds to me like you may be suffering from teenage depressing...ugh I know..

So my advice would be to either ask your parents to take you to see someone, or go to your school councelor for some help. I know you probably don't want to do it, but trust me...it will help so much!

Now, about school most of the guys I know would love to have more girls that are friends than guys. But then again I can see why you would want guy friends. But I know that in teenage years (I am assuming you are a teenager) guys tend to be jerks. So really even if you were their friend, would it really be worth it to be associated with them? Just think of it that way. And just hang out with the people that make you happy.

I have been through enough therapy to know that sleeping is completely unhealthy. So coming home and going right to bed is not a healthy thing to do. What do you like to do? Think about that, and try to do just what makes you happy...

Hun, I hope you overcome this struggle...just stick in there...

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I'm 14yrs old and my younger sister is 12. Last week while we both were home for school vacation alone she walked in the bathroom , thinking it was empty and caught me wankin off to a porn magazine. She stared at me for a few seconds and ran out. I'm totally embarrassed and don't know what to do. As of yet she hasn't said anything to me about what happened. Should I say something to her? Or keep quiet and laugh about it 20 yrs from now?

Awww..I'm sorry that happened!

Well does your sister even know what that is? I mean so like would she go tell someone that you were "playing" with yourself?

I think you should approach her about it only if she is treating you differently, or if she tells someone.

But, I am sure it was emberassing for both of you so maybe she will just want to avoid it.

Other then that....yes, laugh at it in 20 years!

Well, Good Luck with all of this!

(next time do it in a spot where no one will know!!)

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