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Hello, my name is Sarah and I'm a sophmore in highschool. I've been through many exhausting and depressing trials with friendship and drama and know my fair share of heartbreak. If you have a problem I'll be here to answer so don't be hesitant. :]

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I started cutting my self about a year, and I just did it to see what it felt like and to maybe finally get some attention from my mom and now I cant stop... its like after every little argument I have with her I have to go up to my room and cut my self or it doesn’t feel right. I have tried to stop and I have even made promise to people but I just don’t know what to do any more it seems like its getting out of control and I don’t want to have to go see a therapist because I don’t know if I could come out and say I have a problem so basically I’m just asking what I should do...?

I know it's not the answer you want to hear, but maybe you should consider a therapist? Or at least talk to someone close about things. You can also try and find other ways instead of cutting to get out that tension. There is a therapy technique where you put a rubber band around your wrist and snap it every time you feel like you need to cut. Soon enough you will not need it and can resort to plainly screaming into a pillow. I hope I helped, because I have a friend that used to cut and I've watched several things about it and sort of know what it is. It's a control over pain, like it's the only thing you can control in your life. Know you have more control than that, you can control the pain your feeling. Drown yourself in a warm bubble bath and chocolate. :) good luck with everything and I hope you update me if you need further advice.

~Sarah

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My friend vanessa has a friend named alyssa. When i became vanessa's friend i knew right off the bat that i didt like alyssa. almost everyone i no hates alyassa. one day alyssa decided to get revenge on all the peeps. She stole over $200
from the our purse's that we left unattended in the girl's locker room. She must hnot have lioke me cause she stole $9 and a gift card from me. Everyone then totally hated alyssa. The only person alyssa had then and only had so far in middle school was vanessa. vanassa imed me om aim and told me that she didnt ewant to be alyssa's friend anymore but she was the only friend alyssa had. Me and vanessa want to get away from alyssa but not really hurting her feelings, wat should i do?


*JeNnA*

You can't break away from Alyssa without hurting her feelings. I'm sort of wondering why you didn't like Alyssa in the first place? Was it that she was annoying, obnoxious? If you have good morals you won't break off from her, she could do something serious if she gets mad enough. Talk to her about what she did and why she acts this way. Maybe it's a deep down problem at home that brings this stuff out in her. If she can't change, or at least be nicer, tell her that you really can't be her friend if she doesn't change. It made you mad that she stole from you, and that maybe she should give all of the things back she stole? Give her a second chance, though I don't advise it if she isn't willing to cooperate on any level.

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I have been going out with my boyfriend for almost 2 months now, which isnt much, but his birthday is coming up very soon and i dont kno what to get him. What do i get?

hmm.. a 2 month gift? That would qualify for cologne, because if you buy him cologne he'll know exactly what to wear and that you'll like it. One other word of advice, stay away from movies and cds, it doesn't show much care and thought in your gift, and you guys have been going out for two monthes. A really good cologne is curve.. smells really good. You can get it at Ulta, or Ulta.com.

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My best friend always copies my looks! Like if i tell her ive found a certain store that i like to go to, she'll just one day start shopping there and tell all our other friends she found it first! And its not just like materials..she said that she liked matt -our crush- way before i did. But when i told her i liked him last year she said oh i think hes kind of ugly. I mean is she really my friend?? shes so annoying ..what do i do? plz help!!

She probably is just seeking to be accepted. I'm guessing your in the middle age range.. in this time most kids have a need to fit in, for some reason or another, I have no idea.. because I have never really had much of that need.. Believe me, she may be incredibly annoying now, but sooner or later she will grow up, and realize she wants to be an individual and not be you. Have you ever seen the spongebob episode where patrick wants to win a trophy? He thinks the only way to get that is to be exactly like spongebob, whom gets all the awards. Spongebob in turn acts like Patrick, to try and get back at him. In the end he realizes that Patrick just wished he had an award and nothing more, your friend just wants the life you have, friends, money, clothes, and to be accepted. You have to understand that it is probably hard for her. Maybe you should go shopping "with" her and help her find stuff that she really genuinely likes. She is your friend, she's just trying to hang on right now.

:) update me if you need further advice, and as always good luck.

~Sarah

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i really need sum adivce.......well i was going out with this boy that i liked ALOT but i also like this other boy that i have been hanging out with recentaly and my x boyfriend wants me to pick either him or the other boy but i like them both alot WHAT SHOULD I DO>

OK, pick one of them.. it won't do any good for either relationship if you keep droning on and on like this about both of them. I suggest you make a list of traits that you like about each of them.. I do this for ideas I want to use in art or everyday things.. it just helps me get things moving which it seems you probably need to do right now. The one that has the most of what you like wins, easy and simple. And well, if you have a tie, your screwed.. nah, jk, if you have a tie, try doing the things you don't like about them, one with the most loses. Soon you will realize you like one more than the other, or remember the small little things you hate about one of them. Good luck, and update me if you need further advice. :)

~Sarah

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I like one of my frinds and i think he may like me but I can't tell if he does or not .Can you tell me a sign that I could look for to tell me wether he does or not?


I'm a female thats 13

hm, one sign could possibly be that he is hanging around you more than he does other girls. If he trys to talk to you a lot, sit's closer to you, or just takes opportunities to be with you.. it could be a sign he likes you. If you catch him glancing at you every once in a while that could also be a sign. Of course, the only way to really find out is to ask him, but you don't have to do that too soon, wait a little while, and see what happens.. the key is patience..

oh yes, and please update me on this if you have a further need for advice.

~Sarah

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i was laying on my bed and out of nowhere..my left leg started to have a really sharp pain and i can't walk right now. it's right at the back of my leg right below my knee. what could of happened? i played 10 hrs. of volleyball today - could that be the cause?

There are several things.. I get this all the time when I'm lying in bed. Sometimes you constrict your muscles, so they hurt like crazy.. like so bad I want to scream. And then other times, it's like a charlie horse, and when you get that just put some ice and then heat and then ice on it.. usually it will go away. And your volleyball could be the source, if you're sore it could be what's causing it..

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my friend always steals my friends. like just recently i started talking to this girl anna* and she goes and starts talking to her and they are good friends..well sorta and it pisses me off! and last year i met this guy jack* and we became BEST friends (still are) and whoa hey, shes friends with him all of a sudden! wow! what a surprise..not! ugh i know i sound selfish but it annoys me..like she has to have everythign i have and its starting to get to me! plz help

Ok, first.. if you know your selfish, and I think you are selfish.. most likely, you are acting sorta selfish. Why can't she have friends like you? I mean.. seriously, just because she is friends with your friends.. that's a bad thing? That means that you don't have any conflict between them.. it could be worse, if your friend hated eachother you would be more torn than brought together.. be thankful.. geez.

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well i have two best friends ((Rachel and Rissa)).. well heres some back ground.. rachel hates rissa but rissa doesnt hate rachel.. but rachel stayed over last night and i wrote a letter to my mom saying that riss was comming over soo she was like.. okay ill have rachel go home!! soo then rachel gave me the silent treatment cuz she new that something was up!!! soo i couldnt tell her cuz i didnt know if rissa was even comming over ((we had planned her coming over for a while)) so then we got back to my house and rachel says I WANT TO GO HOME. soo she goes home and then all of a sudden i get a text message saying WE CANT BE FRIENDS AND MORE and i was like why and she never responded.. well i no she will get over it and everything but when shes mad.. she tells everything i told her.. and she has alot on me like stuff im not going to get into.. but its really bad if she tells the people which i think she will and i dont know what to do about this because i think this could be a lonnnnnng fight and she will tell people everything and i have a few things on her but she will just deny it.. i need help!!!!! HELP ME PLEASEE

who says you can't just deny right back? Laugh when people ask you, and explain what you just told us. They will probably end up laughing with you and just saying "o, so she's just pissed.." and then they will spread that.. If you don't take it too seriously I don't think many people will believe what she says.. especially if you two are in a fight, which is the time most people are more proned to tell lies about eachother (or at least immature ones)

~Sarah

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I'll just get to the point...I told my friend today that I liked him and he said he likes me too. Well, we were talking a lot the rest of the day but he never asked me out. Yet he told my friends AND his friends that he was going to. So why do you think he never did it? I would call him, but if I did I wouldn't know what to say and what if he like thought I was obsessed or something because I never really called him much before. So if you have any idea of what I'm asking then..well..help?

Give the guy some time.. he might be still nervous even if he knows you like him back..

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My friends birthday is coming up and she is spanish and the majority of her friends is black and my mom is predgiduce and when I go to her birthday I am scared on what my mom might think or do. Any advice for what I should do when the big day comes? Im sorta scared...

First try and explain to your mom why prejudice is wrong, and how your friend looks has no reflection on how they really are inside. Your friends are equal to everyone else, and how they look shouldn't determine how much your mom likes them. Just try explaining your opinions to your mom, if she respects you she'll at least try and understand.

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I have a boyfriend, and we kiss and make out, but he never says he loves me and he never really payz attention to me when we are wit his friends. On weekends he sayz we can hang out, but then sometimes he ditchez me. Does he really love me or is he using me?

xGLAM0URx

I think he is using you.. I mean, if he doesn't pay attention to you, and has never SAID he loved you, why would you have any indication that he did.. maybe you should ask him if he really feels that way.. because maybe he thinks that not the relationship you two have.

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when the slop of a line is 12/0 (12 over 0) is is 0 or undefined? when the zeros on the top is it 0 or undefined?

slop is rise over run, rise/run so the 12 would be the y and 0 the x, it doesn't really matter which way it goes.. but to find the right line with the slop first you need the y intercept or x intercept if you rather. I usually use slope-intercept for this, because you kill two birds with one stone.

slope intercept:

y=mx+b

m is the slope and to find the y intercept you cancel the mx, and the b is it.

hope I helped. :)

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Do you think it is possible to find "The One" you are going to be with for the rest of your life in highschool?

It's happened to people, so I believe you are perfectly capable of falling in love and staying with your highschool sweetheart forever. Though, I do believe that you should wait until you are out of highschool to make such serious comitments.. because the odds aren't with you.. sorry.

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ok, im going to a fifteens party tomorrow(for those of u who dont know, its like a sweet sixteens, but for fifteen y.olds) and i dont know what to do w/ my hair. i dont wanna wear it down cuz its thick and i only like it down when its blow-dried, but i dont have enough time for that...so any ideas what i could do with it?

wear it up? what else are you going to do..? I guess ponytails or something? You hairstyle shouldn't really matter much..

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my friend is well a "slut" because she goes from boy to boy and the only reason why she does is because she thinks they are cute but recently my other friend broke up with her bf and now my "slut" friend wants to go out with him what should i do because they are both my friends but i dont want any of them to get mad at me...what should i do?

I don't know what your concern is.. do you not like the fact that your friend is a slut? Or do you like this guy that the slut is going to go out with. Is it that your other friend will be made at the slut for swinging in right after their break up? I don't know how any of them should get mad at you if you stay out of their business.

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i have this friend named elle. we always used to hang out together, but one fight and now she says " we shouldnt talk for a couple months" because we were such good friends that it hurt more..even if the fight was about somthing so small. shes found friends..only thats because sh turned them aginst me...i dont want to loose her as a friend...but what should i do???

If she needs time and space to cool off maybe you should give it to her. But don't give up on her.. maybe she just thinks your leaving her just like you think she is. So maybe she is just trying to find some other friends just incase? I know I've had that problem before..

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I've known my boyfriend for a little over a month, and I was just wondering, do you think it's possible to be in love in that short amount of time? Or do you think that it really takes more to be in love?

I think it takes a little more time. If you get to know him better, there may be small things you didn't know before that might bother you. I think a strong love relationship last years and takes a long time to build, so if you really think you feel that way, hold on to him and see how it goes.

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There is this girl Amanda at my school. She is one of my really good friends. But sometimes I think otherwise. When girls usually go to school they try and get all "dolled up" for the guy they want to impress. I get all "dolled up" so Amanda wont tell me that I don't look good or that my hair looks bad. Is she a real friend or not? What should I do?
Thank you;
Jessica

Wear what you want to wear, look how you want to look, regardless of what she tells you. If she is your real friend she'll see you for how you are on the inside and not how you look on the outside. If she makes another crack be forceful and tell her that is hurting your feelings and that you don't like it when she says things like that. You will find out if she is your real friend if you don't have to look your best just for her everyday.

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Since September, I have been friends with a girl, we are both 13. I really like her but I am very worried about her. Before she came to our school, her Step-Father, she hasn't seen her biological father in 10 years, threw her, her Mother and her sister out of their house and they had to move back here.

Since then, she has been cutting her wrists and talking about how she wants to kill herself. Recently, she has started taking paracetemol everyday because she says that she gets headaches and feels ill if she doesn't have any. She used to smoke and I know she still has cigarettes at her home in case she needs them, I'm worried she might start again.

She hates her Mother and yesterday she told me that her Mother is moving to another city and leaving her and her sister, who is 14, behind. I can't tell anyone because if I do, my friend will be put in care and she will never forgive me. No one else knows about all this except me and I am so worried about her.

I don't know what I can do to help her, I am going through a difficult situation myself and I'm so wrapped with it that I don't know how to cope with my friend as well. I have tried talking to her and telling her to get help but she wont and there is no way I can make her. I don't know what to do, I can't tell anyone and she wont get help. I'm so scared that one day she really will kill herself, she's threatened to so many times. What should I do?

You need to tell someone pronto. Your friend will thank you later, believe me. She'll thank you for saving her life, and helping her.. if you are a good friend you will tell a counciler, or an adult in general.

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