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okay well their this group of girls at my school and for some dumb reason i want them to like me.
I mine i think some of them like me and stuff. I think we are school friends but i wanna be like who you would call on friday night to hang out! i have been tring to be nice to them. Like i site with them at lunch and stuff like that.But idk okay so one day at lunch they started talking about some made up storie like the wierdst stuff like a dog with 5 legs and they were trying to get me to say that i saw it to but like they were just going on and on about and they were all in on it.. i felt like crying but i didnt.does anyone know what they were tring todo?? CAN ANYONE HELP ME TO GET THEM TO LIKE ME!!!!!!!!
OMG! That group of girls are just trying to turn you into cold, shiny, hard plastic. Don't let them hypnotize you! (metaphorically)
You gotta be yourself and then they'll like you. But I suggest not to waste your time on trying to get those girls to like you when you can hang out with your REAL friends who accept you for who you are that you can have fun with! Why try to impress people you barely know? But if you have your heart set on it try this:
-Don't lie to them
-Tell them funny situations people were in that you heard about
-Ask for their screen names to keep in touch etc.
-Talk about embarassing moments (not disgusting ones though!)
-Talk about bands and make small talk in the hallway.
Good luck, but never tell tell them something you don't want to go around the rest of the school.
~ Hope I helped, Lauren
It seems like in my new town,[well,i've lived here since i was in 6th grade,now in 8th...13 yrs old.] i dont have any close friends!! No one ever want to hang out with me. i have a lot of school friends,but they never seem to want to hang out. i know im not interesting,how can i be? i don't know how to get close to anyone or let them in! i feel like im uptight,or quiet,but if they really knew me,im not! they always seem to have fun,but not outside school? i dont get it. how can i be closer to them? & dont says things like join a activitie,its almost the end of the year...kinda. no activities. and no "join a new group of friends" - every time i do that,the same thing happens. i feel so left out. they never want to make plans with me. what do i do?
First off, don't try to be something you're not. You'll just have to be yourself! So basically what you're saying is everytime you ask to hang out they never want to? They don't sound like very nice friends. Do they all hang out as a group without you? If they do, I don't think you should try to be more interesting than you are because you have to be yourself and if they can't accept you for that, it's their loss. If you really feel you want to meet new friends (which I think you should do. Don't stop being friends with your other friends but find some that WILL hang out with you!) then hang out with some cousins and meet their friends, so you can all meet up at a Hockey game or the Mall to go shopping or something. Just some fun social things. Or you could ride a bike through the neighborhood & go find some girls/guys that seem like nice people and introduce yourself. You won't look like an idiot, I did it and made new friends a few years ago, trust me it works, it sounds like it won't but it will! Don't worry! Or maybe go to the beach one day with a cousin or somebody and you guys can get aquainted with some other people you might want to know... it sounds stupid but it's not. Go to like a soccer game somewhere with somebody or by yourself and sit next to somebody that looks nice & during the middle of the game like intermission or whatever they call it (lol) and start asking them questions like making small talk like "Hi, my name is ____. What's yours?" Or...
"What's your favorite band?"
"What's your favorite movie?"
"What's your favorite show?"
Just casual stuff like that.
An who knows? You could meet some cool new friends to keep in touch with. So you could ask for their phone numbers or screen names or whatever so you can like meet up to hang out or whatever.
~ Good luck.
what are some good ways to flirt
Smile
Wave in the hallways
Laugh & joke around playfully
Tease
Ask for their screen name for an instant messenger
Make small talk in the hallway(s) about bands, movies, etc.
~ HoPe I hElPeD, lAuReN
What are some good shampoos and conditioners that aren't tested on animals?
I don't think Garnais is tested on animals?
Aussie Shampoos & Herbal Essences aren't tested on animals either.
However, most shampoos are, so be careful!
Oh and by the way, I heard of this place called Harmonia's Hut that sells lots of different cool products that work well and are not tested on animals.
Recently my parents asked me if it would be ok for us to move. The place we would be moving to is in the same state but its about 45 mins to an hour away from where i live now. Atfirst it was a deffinate no for me but then I started thinking about how it might be able to help me. lately ive been really depressed and not happy with my life and i have started to drink atleast 2 or three times a week this past week i drank every night. The reason that is holding me back from moving Is that I think I will miss my friends so much i will just get more depressed
what should i do help please!
Sometimes it's hard to let change in but some change is good. I think this is one of those changes that are good! Hun, go for it. You gotta take some chances in your life because if you don't you might wish you had later. I think since you're depressed you need to leave it all behind you and start a new life, starting by moving.
I hope everything works out, and don't worry you'll make new friends, just be yourself! After all, how did you get the ones you have? Try to make new ones by that, but don't lose touch with your old friends.
~ Good luck, Lauren
♥ Lauren
My friend and I are good friends. But sometimes I'll catch my friend staring at me, and staring at me like she's mesmorized or something. It's not just that she stares at me, but she's stares at my boobs, at least that what I think, because it doesnt look likes shes looking at my face. Shes next to me all the time like in a give me some space kind of thing. Is she crushin on me or what.. ?
I doubt it. A lot of teen girls that may not have boobs as big and wish they did so they tend to stare because boobs are just there! It's not necessarily meaning she's checking you out. However if she is, and this really bothers you confront her about it. I know it might be a little uncomfortable but it will be ok...
Bottom Line: No, I don't think she's crushing on you.
~ !Hope this helps, Lauren!
well my best friend just got a boyfriend .. and he's cute and nice and i really am very happy for her. i've never had a boyfriend (we are 15) and i want one .. so i always feel jealous when friends get boyfriends. and like i am soooo happy for them .. but i wish i had one too. how can i get over that feeling of jealousy?
God will give you a boyfriend when he thinks you're ready. I've never had a boyfriend either. But you have to consider that, it may be because you need to figure out who you are before a relationship, because in a relationship you have to be done thinking about mainly you, and care for that other person, in a serious relationship. Maybe your jealousy is shown around other guys? If so, keep it on the down low 'cause that's a turn-off I would imagine. To help you with the feeling of jealousy, go to a movie on the weekends with a guy friend or two and who knows? You two could hit it off and end up going out! Or maybe meet some guys through other friends? 'Cause it sounds like that might work. If you're bad at math or something ask one of your "guy friends" for help until you become closer.. and closer..
:]
Don't worry you'll get a boyfriend, there's someone out there for everyone =]
You'll meet him someday =)
Hope this helps
~ Lauren
yikes
i have everything i need
i got vd
i have boobs
and i have hips
and i have hair DOWN THERE ,lol
but yeah
whats wrong with me
will i get it soon
i get vd a lottttt
help
First off, you probably shouldn't say VD because that's also an STD.
Vaginal Discharge means it's coming soon, but if it doesn't come by the time you're 18, consult a doctor.
However,
Some people do not have Fallopian Tubes so they don't get their periods, so they're not able to have babies. It's really sad though, but I doubt that's the case you're in! And even if it is don't worry because it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. But you should really talk to a doctor if you have further concerns. Almost EVERYONE gets their period though. Don't worry some people I know got their periods in 5th grade, but my cousin's friend just got her period when she was 15 so you shouldn't worry too much. I know you're properly developed and all but you just have to wait for it to catch up! It will come so don't freak out.
Hope I helped
Sorry if this isn't in the right category. I wasn't quite sure which one to put it in.
Okay so here's the deal. I got in a huge fight with my dad (we always fight and he's an alcoholic) right before going to my friend's party. Well, everybody knows what happens at highschoool parties: everybody get's drunk and whatever. Well, I was really upset about the fight I got into with my dad and at the party i decided to drink A LOT(which isn't good because the whole reason why I was drinking was to forget about my alcoholic dad and I don't want to turn out like him) and i usually don't drink too much at parties, maybe get a little tipsy but never over the top piss drunk. Well, this time I did. I passed out on the couch not too far into the night and woke up the next morning naked on the floor with my clothes scattered around the house. I don't remember what happened, what I did, what I didn't do, and I'm SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO scared that something could have happened. This is a huge problem because there are so many things that could happen. I could've had sex with somebody and gotten pregnant or have an STD or something. I don't know.... And if something happened things with my boyfriend are shot to hell which REALLY isn't good because he's the only person i can talk to about anything and I love him and I don't want to lose him... I wish I could take back that night. I don't know what to do. This stress is killing me. HELP.
First of all, let me start off by saying no one can help you. YOU have to help YOURSELF. You need to stop drinking because not only do you NOT want to be like your dad, but you don't want to mess up your health. But drinking can also screw up your future as well. Immediately, you need to go to the doctor, because they can test you and see if you have been having sex. It's much less embarassing than asking around for which guys fucked you the night before. Sorry for swearing I rarely do, but sometimes it just slips off the keyboard... lol.
Anyway,
In the meantime, try to get in less fights with your dad, avoid them at all costs and maybe try to get through to him when you're talking to him but only make small talk if necessary when he's drunk. Anyways, the possibilities are endless of what you were doing out that night, but I advise you not to dwell on them because you'll only waist your time giving yourself an ulcer.
Sorry if I came on a little rude, just trying to get my point across.
Good luck witht the situation, hope I helped!
~ Lauren
Along my peach fuzz is always red. For three years i've always had pimples there and then they're like gone now but it's always red there and now it's like a have a red moustache! And its been 3 years! help!
OK, You could always wax it off daily but it's SUCH A PAIN! So I advise you not to. I think you should buy a hair-bleecher, it will make your peach-fuzz not so dark. It will turn it white or a skin color. It depends on how much you put it, because my friend did it and it worked for her, so that's how I know 'case you were wonderin'. Well anyway, you could probably purchase it at a drug store or Walmart. Good luck with that & hope I helped! :}
ok, so i just started going out with this guy, and i like him sooo much! i thought that he likes me cuz well he asked me out and he was really happy since i said yes... but we only have 2 calsses together, and he like never talks to me, so... i don't know if he likes me still or??? i was seriously thinking about breaking up with him, but my friend talked me out of it because she knows how stupid that would be because i like him sooo much.. i guess that he might be just as nervous as i am to come over and talk to me, cuz im kinda shy myself, but i was just wondering what are some good conversation starters that i could say to him?? wel have only been going out for like 4 days though...
i don't want to talk just about school, because i dont want to sound like a school freak ya know?? but im just really nervous to say something.. so if any one could help me over that too that would be awesome...
also my friend has been helping me talk to him.. like she gave him my number and e-mail and she talks more to him than i do!! I mean, she kinda helped him to gather up his nerve and ask me out, so im thankful for that and she is like my best freind ever, but i was just wondering.. is she doing too much?? would my bf think that she is like controlling me or something??
anything will help thankyou thankyou thankyou soooo much in advance!!~
I didn't even have to read the whole thing and I still know what you should do. YOU talk to HIM! I know it's hard but hey... he IS your boyfriend and you've gotta talk to him sometime, right? Hmmm now for the conversation starters... How about these listed below?:
OK try... :]
1) "Hey I was at the music store yesterday and I didn't have enough money to buy two but the bands I wanted were ____ and ______. Do you know which one is better?"
Or..
2) "Hey are you doing anything on Saturday? Because I'd really like to see the movie ____. Wanna come with me?"
Good luck!
Hey. I was just curious as to how people get the gold stars. Like when I was looking up some columnists some had one gold star. Does it mean they answered like a lot of questions or that they've been on advicenators for a really long time? I'm just pretty curious. Thanks so much in advance help is really appreciated! =)
It means they have a paid account. =]
there's this guy that i like and he likes me back. we've liked eachother since..november.
the only reason why he won't ask me out is because i turned him down last time which was like, last year. and he's afraid i'll reject him again (according to one of his friends). so basically, he wants me to ask HIM out.
how do i do that though? it seems so hard.
Just walk up to him like, "Hey, I'm seeing a movie this Saturday and it looked really good, it seems like something you'd be interested. Do you wanna go with me?" Or just try the classicaly original, "Will you go out with me?" Or "Do you wanna go out with me?"
If you're not sure how he feels about you talk to him about it. Say you're a little confused about what decisions to make about this. Tell him you've got feelings for him (if you want to be obvious) and you needed to get it off your chest so you didn't spend the rest of the year feeling guilty for saying no when he asked you out.
Good luck!
what does the phrase "like a fish out of water" mean
It's like a flamingo in a flock of pigeons. You stand out in a crowd, you don't fit in. If somebody ever said that to you, they'd be telling you you're very different and don't belong there. Very insulting, but I'm sure they don't mean it to a high extreme
~ Lauren
okay. so, i'm studying in an exclusive girls school and i've recently crushed on a girl. i know its wrong, but it just happened. anyways, i need tips on how NOT to keep it obvious. i'm good at that, but the thing is, today i suddenly blurt out something that MADE IT obvious. so any advice?
oh, and besides that, i MIGHT admit it to her... so, any suggestions on time, day (like the last day of school or something), place and how i'm gonna say it? please help :)
thanks in advanced!
I would say on a Friday because if she doesn't have the same feelings for you, it could be so embarassing and you won't have to see her for a few days, so you'll have some time to get over the situation and for her to forget. You should ask to speak to her in private, in the hallway before classes start. You should probably say something like... "This is really hard to explain because I've never had this view of a girl before but... I find you pretty attractive. I really wanted to tell you to get it off my chest, and it's ok if you don't feel the same way." Or something like that.
Good luck
Well I got this problem, I really like this boy and sometime he flirts with me. Im asking what flirting can I do or how can I turn him on in a way that he can see that it don't matter that he's white and Im black. Im 16 and a female
Wave in the hallway, he'll like the attention.
But I think you should definately like ask him to a movie with a couple friends. But be social in all directions. Be like, "Hey. A couple of my friends and I are going to see a movie this Friday after school. Thought maybe you'd wanna come? You can bring a friend if you'd like. Here's my number incase anything comes up or you need to cancel."
Hope things go well! Lol.
If you're not ready to ask him out then you should flirt back, by teasing him about something in a friendly way but make sure it leads you to an arguement, not a real arguement. Just a funny joking one!
i want to start wearing thongs just cuz i do. && like a lot of people do so yeah.
what are somee good thongss and stores. i know victoria secret (pink) but like any wear else....
thanks =]
&& like what should i do for gym if i get changed and im wearing one. ha. i know other people dont really care but like still idk.
Walmart has a lot of sexy Lingerie
Victoria's Secret is also good for that :]
& Then there's always DEB, I don't know if you have one where you live, but they are great. If none of that seems to work try googling some online websites like fashionbug.com, karmaloop.com, etc.
What are some songs that are about someone who doesn't care about you, but you just really wish they did? I need quite a few, thanks!
Mr. Brightside-The Killers
Chasing Cars-Snow Patrol
Nobody's Home-Avril Lavigne
I'm in a desperate need of spending money but I can't decide what to spend it on!
I have THEE worst hair ever! and want to spend it on hair prodcuts or a hair PRODUCT if it give you many things in one.
But I want to shop at a brand store because my clothes are ok I guess but I've been wearing them for three years (I haven't grown and there was no money to buy new clothes) and it would be a great upgrade.
But I want to buy some body prodcuts to help me look more naterally beautiful.
I guess hair would stand out more so it'd be great. My clothes are ok so I don't even know why I want to spend my money on clothes ($25) but I just want to buy a sweater but I dunno why. But I want to buy all of these body butter and stuff.. And I can't buy one hair product, body product, and sweater cuz it will definitely add up over $25.
What should I spend it on and give me a good reason!
The hair product, just make sure you don't get ripped off because you can always get a sweater some other time, and like you said you don't even know why you want clothes because you have nice ones as it is. So my vote is to get the hair products, your hair will thank you later, lol. I strongly advise you to get the body butter & hair products because I think judging by the way you've described it, it's what you REALLY want more. Or, you could always save up enough money until you find all the things you want and can purchase them? Have a happy hair day!
this is only for people who have aim 6.0 please.
okay i made a new screen name and want to transfer my buddylist but idk how.
any help?
Unfortunately it's true. You have to retype it all, that's what I did.