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whats WRONG with me?!
It seems like in my new town,[well,i've lived here since i was in 6th grade,now in 8th...13 yrs old.] i dont have any close friends!! No one ever want to hang out with me. i have a lot of school friends,but they never seem to want to hang out. i know im not interesting,how can i be? i don't know how to get close to anyone or let them in! i feel like im uptight,or quiet,but if they really knew me,im not! they always seem to have fun,but not outside school? i dont get it. how can i be closer to them? & dont says things like join a activitie,its almost the end of the year...kinda. no activities. and no "join a new group of friends" - every time i do that,the same thing happens. i feel so left out. they never want to make plans with me. what do i do?
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First off, don't try to be something you're not. You'll just have to be yourself! So basically what you're saying is everytime you ask to hang out they never want to? They don't sound like very nice friends. Do they all hang out as a group without you? If they do, I don't think you should try to be more interesting than you are because you have to be yourself and if they can't accept you for that, it's their loss. If you really feel you want to meet new friends (which I think you should do. Don't stop being friends with your other friends but find some that WILL hang out with you!) then hang out with some cousins and meet their friends, so you can all meet up at a Hockey game or the Mall to go shopping or something. Just some fun social things. Or you could ride a bike through the neighborhood & go find some girls/guys that seem like nice people and introduce yourself. You won't look like an idiot, I did it and made new friends a few years ago, trust me it works, it sounds like it won't but it will! Don't worry! Or maybe go to the beach one day with a cousin or somebody and you guys can get aquainted with some other people you might want to know... it sounds stupid but it's not. Go to like a soccer game somewhere with somebody or by yourself and sit next to somebody that looks nice & during the middle of the game like intermission or whatever they call it (lol) and start asking them questions like making small talk like "Hi, my name is ____. What's yours?" Or...
"What's your favorite band?"
"What's your favorite movie?"
"What's your favorite show?"
Just casual stuff like that.
An who knows? You could meet some cool new friends to keep in touch with. So you could ask for their phone numbers or screen names or whatever so you can like meet up to hang out or whatever.
~ Good luck.
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Don't change yourself for other people. If you live close enough to your old town, hang out with some of those friends. Hang out with the friends you have at school in school and your old friends out of school.
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Don't ever change for someone else. I have learned the very hard way that changing will only make people think your fake. My advice is to talk to everyone. I don't mean be friends with everyone you see. But try to strike up conversation with different people. If your "friends" only like you during school and dont want to hang out, then they arent friends to begin with. Try making plans with them yourself. Ask them to hang out at your house, movies, or just hang out at the mall. Offer the invite to a group, that way no one feels awkward or anything. If they keep avoiding hanging out with you then I strongly suggest trying to get new friends. I hope I helped <3
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Open up to them if you believe your too uptight and quiet show them your wild side. Show them that you can be fun and not shy. Personally I wouldnt like to hang with someone who is always quiet but yet I would not like to feel left out I try to be nice to those kind of people but they never wanna open up and not be shy..
so i suggest you just show them a diffrent side of you not be so shy all the time..
Try to not be so uptight and just there like a statue..
I hoped i helped<3
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Hey. I completely understand where you're coming from. Sometimes it's really hard to fit into a new town even if it's been a few years. A lot of people already have their set groups and they feel like a new person would just ruin it which if they got to know you, they'd see was untrue. A lot of times people think I come off really serious but it sucks because if they knew what I was like around people I'm comfortable around I would seem extremely outgoing and stuff. Anyways, I recently realized that I can't be shy any more or act serious around people I don't know very well because I could be passing up the oppurtunity for a new friend. I know you said you've known these people for a while now but it's never too late to become more outgoing. You just have to start off slow so it doesn't look wierd but make cool interesting conversation or come up with something you can laugh about. The more you do this the greater your friendship will become. Don't become discouraged because you've never hung out with any of them because it takes a while for new friendships to develope. Believe it or not even years. So just be yourself and realize how great and fun you can be, and show it to them =). I really hope this helped! =)
Chrissabelle<3
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well i think you should try to be a little more outgoing and try to talk about some more interesting things they like to talk aboout. i was new one year and its hard i no.. but i made friends just by being myself and made a large variety so i always have a friend when i need one! hope this helps xo
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