Im 20 years old, I have faced many obstacles and problems that I have had to go through alone with no help and the help I recieved wasn't ever any good. I have faced women problems, friends moving, suicide, killings, deaths, car accidents, sibling rivals, fighting, weird hobbies, my best friends being raped. I have been through a little of everything and I was the one many of them turned to so I like to help out.
Hobbies: I do a lot of work in recording studios, and video/editing studios so I know film pretty well. I am a director/producer. Thats what I am in school for, to further my knowledge of set production for I am a pre production wizard. I read a lot so I have knowledge. And more.
Education: I graduated at the top 15 percent of my class in high school which was college prep, and right now im in my 3rd year od college. I have an AA degree in media arts, a 6 month screen writing certificate from NYFA. I am 11 months from my BA in FILM and HDTV, and I am a semester away from an International Business Degree.
SO if you have any questions im polite and easy to talk with and you can ask me any question you have, I will be honest no matter what.
E-mail: spin18@aol.com
Gender: Male
Location: New Mexico but live in AZ
Occupation: Sudent/Film and TV Producer
Age: 20
AIM: Tightwireprod
Member Since: January 15, 2004
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All of my friends are really worried about me because I cut myself. My parents don't know I still cut, but they know that I used to. I'm addicted to hurting myself and I don't want to stop. Everyone wants to change me but I refuse to. How do I get everyone to stop trying to get me to change? (link)
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In this case your the one with the problem not them. Come on your cutting yourself for whatever reasons they may be. They are just worried about you, in any case many people would be worried about their friends do this only because the out come relays in more deaths than sucessful completion of rehabilitation. So before I say everyone has the problem but me, I would look at myself and what I'm do to cause them to worry about me so much.
Cspinoza1
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Everyone says I am really rpetty, (if you wanna see me, then go to http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=winona1992
but Ive done everything to look different. When I have a new boyfriend, he only wants to have sex...help
(PLEEZ SEE MY COLUMN SO U CAN HELP ME MORE) (link)
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Well given the undetailed information, I guess I can try to help. To begin you are a beautiful young woman, really mature for your age. Now lets begin, if all your boyfriends just want to have sex with you just drop them. Im a guy and I would expect every female to drop me if I made it apparent I wanted to have sex with them on a first date, so naturally you can see that I hold women in high respect and ask that they hold themselves them as well. And when beginning a relationship make sure you draw your lines and right away (that will help you when you get older, trust me). Its a given fact that changing yourself is never good, unless its for a good reason or for the better. But if your changing for a guy you are going to have more heart break and relationship problems than relationships. SO just find a guy who likes you for you and make sure he knows your not the kind of young woman that gives herself.
Chris
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i care a lot about what people think
what should i do? (link)
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Wonder why it's so important that you care what other people think of you. Im not going to lie everyone cares what some people think of them. It's like some of us can care less that strangers think we are stupid or immature, its true I can care less. But when it comes to my close friends I do care to an extent. So its natural to care what some people think of you especaill when you are in middle school up till senior year because you are stuck with them for a long time. But what you need to concentrate on is are you happy? Do you dress like them because they want you to, or do you act a certain way. The best way to break that is take a break from being someone elses barbie and be yourself. It takes time to learn how not to care what others think, but it soon comes natural. So focus on what you want and think of your positive self and not what others want you to be.
Cspinoza1
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My best friend just became really close to this girl named Briana. Briana's really fun to talk to, but I recently found out some bad stuff about her; she cheats on her boyfriends, backstabs all her close friends, and she smokes pot. She told me about the pot thing and even asked if I wanted to join her! I, of course, said no. I don't know how to tell my best friend, because she'll accuse me of lying because "Briana's so nice!" I'm just scared that Briana will get my friend into smoking and stuff. HELP. (link)
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Well first remember you cannot control people so I suggest when expressing your feelings to your friend about this matter remain calm and don't attack with why she is wrong and you are right, and just remind her you are just a worried friend who happens to care. Plus most of what you hear might be gossip and just because more than one person says she is a back stabber doesn't mean she is. In high school it got around that I slept with every female I met, everyone said hat and I only slept with my girlfriend. And just because she smokes pot doesn't make her a bad person, and I know that from major experience. So just tell your friend you worried and care for her well being.
Cspinoza1
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Hey I've liked a certain guy for a long time, and I really want to tell him how I feel. I'm too shy to tell him in person, so I thought I'd write a note. What should I write on it? I don't want to sound creepy, or not know what I'm talking about. Help! (link)
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I will be honest, telling a guy you like him through a letter is at least telling him thats it. We prefer that you tell us face to face, just like you. Would you like a guy that really likes you to tell you through a letter or would you like him to tell you through words coming from his mouth. Its more special for both of you that way. And trust me if you can't tell a one person you like them, how are you supposed to talk to a room full of people. You have nothing to be shy about. But if you must go through the letter, explain why you are writing a letter and not tell him, and just tell him why you like him so much "guys do get flattered". Just remain on topic but don't be to agressive. Tell him how you feel.
Cspinoza1
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My cheeks have always been kind of chubby, but the rest of me isn't. How do I get rid of my chubby cheeks without losing too much weight from the rest of my body? (link)
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Well your age would be nice in this question. Because of you are like 10-15 you will lose that baby fat that is on your cheeks, plus working out would work but not to lose weight but to gain muslce because by doing that you los any excess body fat from all over, and when losing eight your face thins out as well. (studies have proven this).
Cspinoza1
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I'm 15 and weigh 110 pounds. I think that's OK for me, because I'm about 5'3". But, some of my family thinks that I'm anorexic, just because I don't eat a lot of meat & stuff at family gatherings. Like, my grandma will be like "Oh I'm so glad you're actually eating!" When I'm like the biggest pig! I hate people thinking that I have an eating disorder, what should I do? (link)
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You have a mouth right? Tell them to stop and make sure they hear you not like "thats me stop" but make your feelings heard when telling them. And trust me 110 pounds being 5'3 is not bad its actually a normal weight for someone of that height ( I date a lot of women that are about that height, so I know). So next time it happens either let it pass or tell them how you feel about that. And remind them that when people of your height eat a lot they look big.
Cspinoza1
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Is there a way to get rid of lovehandles, besides getting lipo? Because, even though I'm 15, I have them, and they're so unattractive. (link)
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actually by doing lateral crunchies, or by swimming. Because with swimming you twist your waist up the whole time if doing freestyle or baskstroke and that begins to lower your sides "love handels". And the lateral crunchies or the "bike" also as its know helpes reduce them as well.
Cspinoza1
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i really want these shoes that so cool and my mom wont get them for me how can i convince her to get them before monday april 13th 2004 (link)
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Well you can try explaining the dire need of the shoes and what is so important about them and need them. And second have you wondered why your mother won't get them for you? Naturally either parents say no because they don't think you need another pair of shoes, or they cannot afford them.
Cspinoza
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When people ask for advice it makes it alot easier for advicenators to answer when you give your **age**. (link)
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I will agree with that, because I for one keep getting e-mails from people asking me to lower my standard and adivce to the mental age of a 10-14 year old.
Cspinoza1
SO please tell us your age so we can better suite your needs.
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ok i wanna redo my bedroom into a cool 80s style i cant find any 80s room style online and i dont have time or money to go somewhere far away to find stuff i need to find it now ... i really need help on how to find great 80s style rooms i really want this done to my bedroom ... so help me and tell me where to find pictures or info on 80s room i mainly need pictures.. help me ASAP!!! (link)
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Go to any vintage clothing site online and most of those sites carry accessories for other "wear" products and bed room accessories as well.
Cspinoza1
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I want a career in fashion but i dont know how to go about it. please help if you know anything xxx thanx xxx (link)
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Well there are various ways to get into the fashion industy. First you need to decide what aspect examples: Fashion agent, Fashion coordinator, Fashion Designer, Fashion reporter. From the sounds of it you are looking to get into being a designer. So here are a few steps you can take.
1. Apply to local fashion shows as an extra hand for free, just to get experience.
2. Offer to help your school in plays and skits so that you can get some kind of fashion experience behind you.
3. Start designing your own clothes on paper, then slowly try them with cheap fabric- then with more expensive clothing.
4. Make a few of your best pieces and submit them into Amature shows for designers (those are huge musicans and actors are starting to attend these because of flare teenagers have.
Itf you have any other questions feel free to e-mail me.
Cspinoza1
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My friend thinks that she is addicted to smoking, but she has only been smoking for about a week. Could she really be addicted or is she being stupid!!? (link)
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Some people can get addicted to smoking but any professional will say its impossible because your body needs the craving not your mind. I said I was addicted to coffee after 2 days because I drank it alot, same with youir friend she thinks she is addicted because she can smoke. But if she keeps smoking she will be addicted.
Chris
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Alright, someone help me and try to tell ma few diets. I know about Atkins, I can't go on Slim fast, I need more info on low Cal, I need a way to loose from 30 - 50 pounds I'm not in a hurry so anything can be good really. Please help! (link)
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Sorry about the qrong answer I was looking at two screen and was typing in the wrong one. Trust me the best diet is a workout, and low carb diet. Atkins works but thats only if you use it for every meal and no snacks thats what they don't tell you. The Slim Fast diet is also extremely well but its best to used the diet if you are working out because your burn weight and then you take the shake and or snack and you really didn't put on half what you lost. Also swim you can lose 10-30 pounds in 2 months if you do it everyday about 66 laps. 66 laps equals one mile if it's a 25 meter pool.
Chris
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Can some one give me an average age of getting a boy friend? (link)
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I have a boyfriend whom I love very much. We have been together for over two and a half years. This spring I graduate from college, and this summer I'm going to move several hours away and get started on landing my dream job. There's no telling what my work schedule will be like, so I probably won't get to see him very often. But that's not even the real problem.
My boyfriend has never been in college, even though he has always wanted to go, due to poor grades in high school and lack of financial resources. He works the graveyard shift at a local grocery store. He used to complain that he hated his job, now he says it's not that bad, and that eventually he'll do something better. He talks about all his plans for the future, but he doesn't do much to put the plans in action. He did buy a few SAT guides and has studied them a bit, but has yet to take the SAT even once, as he says "It costs money" and "I don't know where it is." (Two problems that are easily solved if you ask me -- if he didn't buy video games so often, he'd easily have enough money to take them, and finding out where to take the SAT is as easy as looking it up.) He doesn't have his license or a car, and I don't have a car quite yet either, so it's difficult for him to get around to places, and he refuses to ask people for rides or just take the bus or a taxi, for some reason. He's talked numerous times about saving money in order to get into school or get a car (to make life easier) or whatever, but something always comes up. Once he spent several hundred dollars on a computer, saying he "needed" it to look up schools, but all he's done with it is play games and surf the Internet and download songs. Another time he spent 150 bucks on a PS2, when he had been saving that money up for school. Other times, he's told me that he is waiting to see where I wind up career-wise, then he'll move there and go to school wherever I am! He originally planned to move in with me this summer, but something in my gut told me that was not a good idea just yet, so I told him I'd like to wait on that.
I have held several discussions with him about this before. Every time, I let him know that if he didn't really want to go to school, or was having trouble trying to figure out where to get started with it all, I would help him out as best I could. I mean, I'm very lucky to come from a family that could afford to send me to school, and to have had a lot of guidance early on about colleges and things of that sort. He's doing this all on his own, and I've always been very eager to try and help him out as much as I could. But he's put off all offers of my help, and sometimes, it's like he's just waiting on me to tell him what he needs to do. I have my own job and schoolwork and life to worry about at the moment, and he's got to meet me halfway. I can tell him where to go to register for the SAT or who to talk to at my own college about career and college guidance, but he always insists that I go with him. One time I told him about a minorities program that would help him out a lot financially (he's Puerto Rican), but he put off going to see the advisor and well, he just never did it. Another time I was telling him about how a friend of mine pays for school by being a resident advisor, and he instantly turned down that idea flat without even looking into it, saying "Nah, that's just not for me."
He often says things like, "You've got to have faith in me, because if you don't trust me, how can we have a relationship?" Well, I do trust him, but how can I have faith in him when he doesn't do anything?
We've been friends for 8 years and I love him with my whole heart, and I want him to be there in the future when I'm ready to get married and buy a house and settle down. He knows this, and he's always said he wants the same things, and I believe he does. But the last thing I want is to marry someone who can't even pay his share of the bills! Let me make it clear that I pay for plenty of things myself in this relationship. I'm not the kind of girl who wants a guy based on how much money he has. If I see something nice that I want, I buy it for myself, most of the time. So I'm not asking for the world here. I can make my own dreams come true! But I would like to see him live out all his dreams, and I'd like to see him live the nice comfortable life he says he wants to live. These are all things he's brought up on his own, not words I put in his mouth. It's not as if I'm trying to force him to want the same things I want.
These days, he spends most of his time (when he's not sleeping or working) playing video or computer games or watching basketball games, or hanging out with me. When I encourage him to do stuff or make suggestions or offer some help, he tells me he's working on it and seems eager to change the subject. So, I take that to mean that I've nagged too much in the past and he's grown tired of hearing it, and so in the past few months I haven't really brought it up at all. The last thing I want is to be a huge nag and drive him crazy.
I've been in lots of relationships and this is easily the best one. He is extremely kind, generous, fun, very talented and creative, and best of all, he loves ME exactly the way I am! He has never tried to change a single thing about me (well, except the fact that I am a big slob, haha). So I feel bad that I'm being a hypocrite of sorts by trying to change him. But it's not so much that, as that he says he's going to do things with his life, and then he doesn't do them. Even my family and friends have noticed that he's not really going anywhere. I hate when my family asks me questions about the progress he's making with school (because they're excited for him wanting to get into school, not because they're trying to be snotty or nosy), because I have nothing new to share with them. If he would just be upfront and honest and say "I don't want to go to school" that would be fine. But he says he does want to go, he's always said that, before we ever got romantic.
I feel I also have to mention that this is not the only thing he has been slow about. He hasn't seen his family, who live in Texas, in close to three years. My mother looked up some discount plane tickets for him several times that he could have easily afforded, but he wouldn't go, even though he is always talking about how much he misses them, and emailing them and calling them! My mother was very confused about that. I was, too! Other times he'll say he's going to go see his fam in a few months, but a few months later, it's obvious it's not going to happen!
I don't want to let him go, but I wonder. Am I justified in worrying that I'm going to be hanging on forever waiting for him to DO something? Am I doing something wrong in the way I try to talk to him, since I wind up hitting a brick wall every single time? Am I being a huge bitchy snob who needs to stop trying to make her boyfriend be just like her? Everything's perfect in our relationship, to a tee, except this. Maybe I should let him find someone who is better than me. (link)
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Girl he is not a slacker nor a nag. Im going to assume your around 25-28. I may be wrong. Now the problem is he is somewhat unhappy where he is, how would you feel if you worked a nightshift and never went to college, but your boyfriend is landing their dream job after all that hard work? It just gets to people knowing that their lives are passing them by and when they see their loved ones succeed at times it become hard. And in his case I think he is hitting a crossroad between does he want to be a clerk all his life or does he want to do something but feels his failure would make him look less of a man. I hope this helped a little.
Chris
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does anybody know any FREE! psychic readings i need to nkow what my future is gonna look like cuz i have these dreams that seemm like they show my future but i cant tell i need someone to tell me... please help me find someone to help me... asap i really need to find out.. help! make sure it is free (link)
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There is no way to tell your future. Because everything changes for example my friend I have known since I was 5 wanted to become a musican, hacker, skate, business man, director, and actor. He picked up each hobby and fulfilled it to the max and right now he is pre med. Like myself I wanted to be a rockstar and im going into directing. And most people like myself did a reading and told we were going to either live an extravegant life.
Cspinoza1
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My friend got fingered by a guy, and she has had her period. I was wondering can you get pregnant from being fingered. Does that also mean ur a no a vergin anymor?? PLease write back thanx (link)
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does sperm come out of a finger? NO so that generally mean she can't get pregnaut. So knowing that she is not able to get pregnaut. And from a church perspective your not a virgin, from others you are.
Cspinoza1
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everywhere I go I feel like someone is following me I don't know if it is good or bad but this feeling takes place when I'm alone. is this normal? (link)
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You might be paranoid about something, watch anything scary lately or hear any story because normally that is the main reason people tend to gain feelings as such. So its normal when by ones self but if its constant its not good.
chris
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i have a bf who is cheating on me and wat shold i do (link)
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Dump him, first of all its nopt worth the ache of dating him if he clearly indicates he doesn't want to be with you. And plus every relationship no matter the size is based upon trust. And don't try to convince yourself you need him because no one deserves or needs a person who cheats on them no matter the situation or circumsatance.
Chris
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