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I can't gurantee that my advice will always be right. And some things I might not even know. But I will do my best to answer any questions :] I'll tell you exactly what i think, so if you don't like it, dont read it!And lately, i've discovered that one of the best answers for relationship problems is communication. talk. explain. share. it does wonders.
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okay theres this guy. we'll call him fred. well ive had like one of those long unknown crushes on fred since i met him like back in 5th grade. but i haven't done anything. ive kept it to myslef ... tried likin other people. well i told him the other day i liked him. n he said he didnt know who he liked right now
well fred asked me to hang out with him on friday. hes gonna come pick me up n were gonna sneak out. well i think some more than "hangin out" is gonna happen. because i know i want him n he says he wants me. but like idk if thats a good thing to do since i have the feelings for him. i know he doens't like me, and it would be friends with benefits. but idk what to do b/c some action w/ him is better than nothing. but i've mosta the tiem been a relationshp person not a friends w/ benefits.
people are saying im a slut n stuff anyways even tho i haven't dont much. part of me just wants to give them something to talk about, and now i have the chance ..
Damn it. I typed out a brilliant answer and then my stupid computer went and deleted it. ARGH. I'm not going to type it all out anymore =___= I'll just start with what i was about to say before my stupid computer went retarded.
Whats your question? o__O;
Are you serious? Are you really willing to have people talk about you [in a bad way]? Why give them the chance to talk bad things about you? I dont think that 'some action with him is better than nothing." I actually think nothing is better. You said that he doesnt like you anymore than a friend, so do you really think that he would care after doing 'more than hanging out'? Friends with benefits may sound like a good thing, but it really isn't. Don't 'sneak out' with him, at least tell your parents where you're going in case something happens [not that im implying something will]. You can ignore my advice, but i'm strongly advicing you not to do anything stupid... like sneaking out and doing 'more than hanging out'. And don't do the 'friends with benefits' deal. It's stupid and it isnt worth it. Find someone who will love you.
i typed a lot more, but i cant remember any of it x__x it was like a spontaneous thing...
Hi, i hav this new guy friend who is in love with my "best friend" this chick isnt really my best friend were not even close friends but she's so gorgeous! She makes being a girl look easy, standing next to her, you can look like crap!i've totally been jelous of her cuz my guy friend wont stop talking about her. i sorta like him but everytime i talk to him or wanna get closer to him, he just says his crush's name i like die!i m just sick of it! he has 0 chance w/ her but is always thinking about her. He is so out of her leaugue. Is this wrong that i m jealous? I told him that he totally had a chance with her, but that was a lie. Now he's trying to get her interested but the girl has a steady bf! I just hate my guy friend b/c i m a girl and not that confident. It just burns my throat the fact that my guy friend who isnt at all what you would call hot or even goodlooking likes someone who is so out of reach instead of liking someone more in his league. It just stresses me out
In this case, it isn't wrong to be jealous. However, you shouldn't be so stressed out over his love life. He seems to be more interested in looks rather than personality. You should stop helping his dreams and pop his bubble. Tell him if it's definite that he has no chance with her, don't lead him on believing that he DOES have a chance.
my navel piercing is really bruised i got it done a couple of months ago and it is still bruised i am pretty sure its not infected what is wrong with it and will the bruise ever go away??? :
Some bruises take months to heal, so you shouldn't worry about it that much. :] If you don't think it's infected, then it's probably fine and just taking its time healing. Unless it seems like something is really wrong, dont worry :)
My brother just broke up with his gf of almost a year and isn't sure if they'll get back together. For a while people (my mom and dad, family friend) have asked if he likes my friend Nicole because whenever she's over they joke around a lot and he teases her. I've talked to her about this and she has said she doesn't like him like that...it would be weird because he's my brother. He says he doesn't want to date her but he likes her and is attracted to her. This really upsets me because she's my BEST friend. He thinks I'm being immature and that Nicole really does like him. Help!
Your brother says he doesnt want to date Nicole, yet he says he likes her and is attracted to her? Doesn't that contradict just a 'little' bit?
As a sibling and friend, you should talk to someone about it [parents probably]. Make sure they know that he's interested in Nicole and tell them how you feel about the issue. See if they can talk to your brother for you, though talking to him yourself is a better idea. You should let your brother know how you feel. He has no right to think you're being 'immature' for caring about your friend. If he still doesn't get the fact that Nicole doesn't like him, have Nicole talk to him and tell him that she just wants to be friends [or whatever she wnats to be with him].
What are some syptoms of strep? What about the flu?
Thanks!
Same thing as previously mentioned, with a little more:
Throat pain
Difficulty swallowing
Red and swollen tonsils, sometimes with white patches or streaks
Swollen, tender lymph glands in the neck
Fever
Headache
Rash
Stomachache and sometimes vomiting, especially in younger children
what are some symptoms of depression?
Ohh I am going to give you so many. >D be prepared.
•Noticeable change of appetite, with either significant weight loss not attributable to dieting or weight gain.
•Noticeable change in sleeping patterns, such as fitful sleep, inability to sleep, early morning awakening, or sleeping too much.
•Loss of interest and pleasure in activities formerly enjoyed.
•Loss of energy, fatigue.
•Feelings of worthlessness.
•Persistent feelings of hopelessness.
•Feelings of inappropriate guilt.
•Inability to concentrate or think; indecisiveness.
•Recurring thoughts of death or suicide, wishing to die, or attempting suicide. (Note: People suffering this symptom should receive treatment immediately!)
•Disturbed thinking, a symptom developed by some severely depressed persons.
•Physical symptoms, such as headaches or stomachaches.
•Changes in school behaviors (including training courses and work settings)
•Gets poorer grades for assignments than formerly
•Complains of being bored. Becomes disruptive in class
•Finds it harder to stay on task. Loses concentration
•Changes in relationship to family and friends
• Stops going out with friends; shows no interest in group outings Expresses negativity about family
•More than normal conflicts with parents and siblings
•Changes eating and sleeping habits
•Changes in feeling, thinking and perceiving
•Expresses inappropriate guilt
•Feelings of not being good enough, worthlessness, failure
•Expressions of hopelessness: nothing to look forward to
•Preoccupied with self; withdrawn, shows inner distraction
•Cries easily, looks sad, feels alone or isolated
• Fears about having to be perfect.
•Incidents of self-injury. Ideas of killing self
Hope that helps and I hope you dont have any of these symptoms! ^^
does anyone know any websites where you can read stories that people have made up? like i know one is quizilla. i really like [teen] love stories and that kind of stuff so if you know anything else like that that would be cool. thanks and i rate only 5's!!
fanfiction.net
what are some good ways to remember not to get mad on the tennis court? i seem to have a temper when i play. also.. what are some good ways to keep your self esteem up and be confident? it's whats killing my tennis game and i could be a much better player without this. thanks and i rate well.
First off, whatever you do, don't throw your racket/hit it on the ground or release your anger at your opponent or team mates. Not good lol.
When you play, take your time and dont use power at all times. Think before you think, aim where you think will do the most damage. As a tennis player myself, I can tell you, even if you're losing, believe that you can win, and make every shot worth hitting. Make your opponent, even if he/she is winning, feel pressured. If they see you still running after ball and playing as if you're the one winning, their confidence will start dropping. Keep your self esteem up by moving continually, dont just stand there. Act like you're into the game, get into the game, and enjoy the game. Tell yourself you can win and you might just be able to surpass your opponent in points AND confidence =] hope that helps >>;
13/f OK my dad can be so moody somtimes. Like a moment he'll be happy and fun and stuff and the next if I do somthing wrong he'll be all mad. When it comes to boys its really bad. I live right next to these boys who im friends with and somtimes he'll be like ok go ahead outside with them and then another time he'll be like tell them no I dont like you out there with no boys and I hate because I don't get him. And I can't talk with him because I know I can't talk to him about everything and I dont like writing him letters. How can I get him to trust me with boys because it's not like I do anything with them. So please help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
wow, either your father is really over-protective or he's just paranoid o__O or both, which can be a bad thing. Try to show that you and the boys don't do anything 'stupid'. You might not be comfortable talking to him, but that's pretty much the only answer. Sit down with him and talk to him calmly that you think he is over reacting to your relationship with the guys, then explain that you guys have done nothing wrong and if he wants proof, invite him to hang out with you guys. It may be awkward, but if it's the only way to prove your point, then you might as well do it. Good luck with your dad =]
hey everyone - my dress for a formal is mainly black with a very light pink ribbon. My question is should i find very light pink shoes? It would be really hard for me because i am already tall so i dont want over a 2 inch heel, and i dont want them to be over 60 bucks. So should i find matching light light pink shoes? or what other colors would work? how about gold? thanks so much!
Hmm, if your dress is mainly black, I'd say go for black shoes. Other colors might work, but I suggest black, since that is like the 'main' color of your outfit. i am sure you can find a pair of maybe one or two inch heel black shoes. Hope i helped :] Have fun at your formal!
16 male. I honestly think I am going insane. Things just have been building on me my entire life, and they are starting to just break through to the point where I cannot control my own emotions anymore.
It's like last night, everything inside me just exploded. My mom works on pit crew for my band, and she asked me to help unload the truck. Well, I happen to be the only person who uses the truck that has to unload because she is there. It always makes me a bit upset when she asks, but not like last night. Don't mention this, for it is not the issue. If you do, it is a 1.
What happened to me after scared me. I suddenly had flashback after flashback, showing me how un-normal I am. I have overprotective parents, first off, and began wishing things like they'd stop. I am a quiet person, and I wished that I could speak more. I have not had a girlfriend, I wished I could. I wanted my friends to be a bit closer to me. I wanted somebody to actually be interested in what I say, instead of blatently nodding. I wanted my sister back from her present self where she is dating a guy and is so rebellious that I can no longer stand it.
AKA, I wanted to finally be normal. And it has caused so much depression in me these past days... I feel like my life is going south, and I cannot even look north.
What do I do?
First off, I'd have to say that you are pretty normal, or at least your life is. A lot of teenagers have over-protective parents and clash with them a lot [I'm one of them]. I have often wished my parents would just be gone, but that's not the point. Did you know the number one fear is not death, but public speaking? There are so many people, not only teenagers, who want to 'talk more'. [again im one of them >>]. In order to get your friends to be closer, you have to be closer to your friends. invite them over just to talk or something. I remember I had a long talk with my two friends at like 2 am in the morning at someone's birthday party when we were the only ones awake. We were closer after talking non stop about things that our life. Talk to your sister. As siblings, you're get through to your sister better than your parents. Tell her that you're having issues dealing with her attitude and ask her to.. maybe calm down a bit and be more agreeable? She might lash out at you [my sister would], but talk to her calmly, dont try to yell at her or force her to change.
You are normal. There are a lot of people out there with lives similar to yours. You should talk to someone, a friend, guidance counselor, anyone you think you're close to. Keeping everything inside can be self-destructive and it's a good thing to get it out. Try to find someone who would understand you and just talk with them. Venting out your feelings [not like in breaking doors like my friend did] helps and keeps you from exploding from the pressure of emotions you keep hidden. There are people like you out there and there are people who are willing to listen, you just need to find them :)
If you need someone to talk to, jin.silver@gmail.com You know where to reach me.
I am really shy around guys but I think I come off as standoffish. I don't mean to be shy...I just can't ever think of anything to say. Is this why guys don't like me?
Not likely. Some guys like the quiet shy type and others like the outgoing bold girls. Depends on the guy's taste I guess. There's probably a guy who likes you, but he's probably like you and is too shy to tell you ;]
well, i heard from my best friend that this guy i like, likes me!!! But my friend said she doesnt know for sure....how do i find out with out totaly emarassing my self???? oh im a female and is 11!!!
help me~ AAARRRGGG
wow, eleven o__O People are getting younger and younger these days... anyway.
Well, first off, you can't rely on what your friend has heard. I suppose you should look for some signs first, such as he looks at you often, smiles at you a lot, and talks to you a lot more than he does with other girls. Or you could do the more 'subtle' way and have your friends spread the 'rumor' that you like him, and see what he does. Then there is the 'bold' way where you just got up to him and tell him you like him, and ask him if he likes you. I like to drop hints, though some guys might be too dense to notice those hints =P
I hope you find out whether or not he likes you. I dont know if any of that helped, but if you need any more help, feel free to ask =]
I have poofy hair, it hasn't been so bad because I got i layerd, but anwyay. I can only leave it half down, or in a pony tail. BuT I never have time to do it so it always ends up in a bun. I was just wondering if they're are any sites that can show you how to do differnt types of buns or something, different ways of putting your hair up. It would also help if it had step by step intructions. Thanks.
You could try seventeen.com. It's for the seventeen magazine as if i remember correctly, they have a page on how to do hair... or if you pick up a seventeen magazine, most of their issues include sections on new hair styles for different styles of hair =]
I have liked this guy for a long time, and we've just recently become friends. He is really nice to me and always makes me crack up. He's completely perfect but I have no idea if he likes me. I'm afraid to ask him, because it might scare him off. How do I know if he likes me? Is it lame for a girl to ask a guy out?
Well, some signs might be that he talks to you a lot more than he does with other girls, he smiles at you a lot, watches you a lot....
It's not lame for a girl to ask a guy out. Some guys even expect girls to be the ones to take the first step. My guy friend says that, with girls in this time, they wont take initiative, and guys can't be expected to ask or bring up things for ever and ever.
SIgh... I've being rejected.. and i'm taking this harder then i thought i will. My feeligns were always under control, and all of a sudden... I'm just notr eally depressed, but i can't really do anythign either.
can you guys help me?
Mmm you shouldn't worry so much about being rejected. Im not sure if you were rejected by telling you liked someone or if you asked him/her to a dance. But, there's always someone else. Take me for example [bwha], just last friday I asked a guy to homecoming with me, but he told me "he wasnt planning on going", in other words, he rejected me. But on Saturday, I realized that I didn't have to just stay depressed about him, so I asked one of the new guy friends i had, to go with him, and he said yes. Not that's very helpful... It would be nicer if you gave more detail, but all i can say is, "Don't worry so much. Your first love doesn't always have to be your only love" =] Ever hear that quote before?
Ok so theres this guy and he used to act like i was his girlfriend and i was totally ready for him to ask me out but he never did he just acted like he did... confusing i know haha and he knew i liked him.. so anyways homecoming is next week and i don't have a date i wanted to go with him but he hasnt said anything about it! How do i bring it up so he'll ask me to homecoming or even better ask me out!
(homecoming is friday october 14th.. so i need help quick, especially if i'm gonna make a garder)
thanks guys, and please don't give me a gay answer, its just rude and annoying
Seeing that everyone pretty much has the same answer as me, i'll just say it again, lol. You should ask him casually. That's what I'm doing :P Homecoming is in two weeks for me, but i still need a date, so I'm going to be asking one of my friend's guy friends. I'm just going to ask him "Are you doing anything on October 22 [homecoming day]?" And if he says no, i'll just ask him, "Do you want to go to homecoming with me?"
ok so im 13 im around 5 foot and weigh 125 am i over weight? i feel as if i am and if so how could i loose some weight? thanks
oo p.s i dont stick to diets well :\
If you dont like diets, i suggest... exercise! haha. You can maybe jog around your street a little, join a sport or fitness club. If you dont like the idea of exercising, maybe you can find some friends who wouldnt mind running with you or something :]
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-What are some ways to boost self esteem?
-what are some foods that are healthy but very filling???
-what are some ways to lose weight besides drinking water, and eating more healthy??
One way not to boost self esteem: lowering other people's self esteem. That equals bad. Because then they'll start asking "What are some ways to boost self esteem?" and on and on xD Hmm, one way i guess would to do something you like/are good at. Like a hobby or something?
Some food...fruit? vegetable biscuits? [had to mention those, I was eating those for lunch], i guess pretty much anything that isnt junk food? lol.
Some ways to lose weight... one obvious one would be exercise... do a sport, ya da da. Another would be to... just run around randomly for no reason for several minute? i dont know... mostly i'd say is exercise... haha. Anything type of exercise other than lifting stuff animals probably would help XD
Alright, I'm making a new xanga layout and I want to decide which quote I should make it of. I'll give some backround on me- I've never had a bf so if any of these quotes are too "you break my heartish" tell me NO! And I dont want to sound to pathetic and emo(tional) because thats not me! But something not HAPPY! Here's the ones I have to choose from:
Why can't anyone love a breath taker, a smile faker?
Do you ever wake up to realize your life is meaningless? Does it give you strength or lead you to your grave at a young age?
It seems that when I ran away from my past all my dignity, my faith, my pride got left back.
I think it’s time that I realize self pity’s meaningless.
Now I realize I‘d give anything I have to walk a day in those old shoes
Wondering what my first smoke would be like, my first f***, my next f*** up. Or the next band that would change my life.
From confidence to self doubt in 60 seconds.
Trying to win approval from people that I don’t know.
Not admitting I’m fake.
ALRIGHT! Thanks for all the help...I know this was probably a pain to read!
I like the one:
Trying to win approval from people that I don’t know.
Because that's seems to ring true for a lot of people. =]