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I am a thirteen year old girl and whenever it comes to presentations...i start getting nevous. Not only presentations...reading out loud. My voice gets stuck and i cant read properly. Even if its in front of 16 students including my teacher. Im really scared. We have a presentation to do alone which is 7 minutes long. Practicing in front of the mirror does not help me. what else?? please i need advice so i wont be scared for the presentation (link)

You have to remind yourself that YOU and you alone are the authority on what you are presenting. You MUST tell yourself this over and over as well as that your classmates and teacher MUST hear what you have to say about it. They're craving the info you have to deliver.

Most actors in theater use this next trick. Find a spot on the ground and plant your feet there and don't move. Pretend there's a spotlight shining down on that spot and don't move. Look dead ahead at something on the wall, focus, breathe and keep speaking until your speech is done.

Block the teacher out, block the classmates out and focus on that spot. You'll have a better delivery, less nervousness and higher mark if you do this. Forget practicing in the mirror and just go into it this way.

I Know your voice will be fine if you do this. Even if it does crack just breathe and start again. Nobody is going to shoot you for being a tad nervous or uncomfortable as 90% of them probably are. Shit, if you want to be realistic they're worried about their presentation and marks and not anything else including you.



Female: 17 years old (both)
hey(: me and my friend are in drama in high school and we are putting on the musical thoroughly modern millie. we need two contrasting monologues (drama to comedy) and a song from a broadway production. the song should probably be from the 1920's or it should take place in the 1920's. is there anyone that could help us in our search because we are having some major difficulties. thank you so much!
-theater geeks
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Check out the works of Rodgers and Hammerstien. No, No, Nannette was one of the most popular musical comedies of that decade. Getting your hands on sheet music and a script from which to take a monologue should be easy.

The library can help there and they could also point you towards books containing monologues from that time period as can a good quality bookstore. Take your search off of the Internet and into a library or speciality bookstore that sells copies of plays. They exist in most major cities.

Also, is there a community theatre group or even a professional one in town? If so go to a general meeting or ask the president or a member about monologues and songs from that time period. Also, go directly to the drama teacher at school putting on this musical.

Tell them that you want to audition but have zero idea how to find 2 monologues from that era as well as songs. They'll tell you both what to audition with and where to find it.


im 16 male
im writing a novel thats like 300 pages.
i just finished.

what do i do next? this is big to me...so i need to know. (link)
You don't get yourself published by major publishers but your literary agent does. They will read the first three chapters of a manuscript and shop it to a buyer ie: Random House.

You don't do any of this yourself. If the agent doesn't like your work or doesn't feel you have something or can make it as an author they won't take it or you on.

You can also check the Internet for publishers that make you pay to print your book. It's up to you to promote it and sell it. You won't find a lot of readers this way as everything is on your shoulders to make it succeed.

I think what you should be doing is go back over the 300 pages, edit it, re-write and learn the mechanics of writing. Learning those skills and how to tell a story better than anyone else is key. Make it the best you can. If you can't write well or like a professional you won't get the notice you want.

If you think this project you have worked on is really that good have a teacher evaluate it and give you ideas on what to do with it. If they don't think it's solid enough to publish they'll tell you why. But above all keep writing as this will help you one day publish articles, stories etc.

If you decided to self publish it costs a lot of money and usually isn't worth it. You have to pay for every book, cover, page printed and then market and sell a minimum 1,000-2,000 or so units on your own.

There's also that perception (and its usually correct) that those who self-publish CAN'T write for beans and have to pay to get themselves noticed because a real publisher passed or an agent did. I'm NOT saying that of you but most self-published books are badly written and or badly put together by a publisher out out make money off of anyone who writes anything.

Right now, become the best writer you can through school, writing courses etc. etc. and re-write the 300 pages, edit them and really craft that story and have a teacher evaluate it. They'll make you into the writer you hope to become and get people to acknowledge your talents and ideas from what you've done.

I know what I'm talking about too. I started out as a journalist 16 years ago at age 14. I'm telling you the truth about how that industry works and the channels you have to go through to get to where you want.


i applied for my school paper, and didnt get in.
i really really want to get involved with writing this year; i want to be a writer someday and i want it to look good on my college application ... so what are some alternatives i can do if i cant be on the paper?
i know this is a vague question considering nobody knows where i live or anything around me, lol. but its worth a shot. (link)

You can go one better than the school paper. Try a real one. I'm not talking about a daily paper but rather the community one they deliver with all those fliers.

If you called their editor and told him you write well, can take decent photos etc. He or she may give you a shot as a volunteer and or pay you freelance per submission for your efforts or turn you on to other programs too. This WORKS. I'm proof of it with a career that is now in its 16th year. That's how I started.

The beauty is you're learning from real editors, reporters, copy editors, photographers. page designers in a real life newspaper scenario and not from snotty kids who can't write or shoot photos worth a lick. You'll be ahead when it comes time to enter university with tons of clippings.

Your only problem is if you CAN'T write well. As long as they didn't decide choosing at school because of that you're fine. Also there are organizations in the U.S. and Canada that train kids/teens to write for them and do photos that they syndicate to papers, Internet and other outlets.

Check out TEEN INK on Google and ypress.org for starters.


For weeks I have been iffy about even writing this.
I am young 18 and just got married in August. I am pregnant that is not why we got married but I think we rushed into it. We were planning the wedding already had my wedding dress before i found out I was Pregnant.
Sometimes I find myself regretting getting marred My reasons. I wanted to work days and go to school nights. It would be tough but id be able to better myself for me and my family he through a fit and didnt support me at all. told me either work or go to school but advises me to work because we need the money. Being pregnant I have my mood swings like most if we have an argument its all my fault he will yell at me and blame me then make me feel guilty by saying oh its always all my fault i forgot your so perfect. sometimes he makes im crap. If i feel nauses or sick at night or anything and he wants sex he pouts and acts like he is mad by not saying a workd until he gets it then goes to sleep. he goes hunting, fishing, baseball teams and tournaments etc. anything he wants and i dont argue about it i just let him.
I have asked a million times to look harder for a job. he works 2 days aweek at a sale barn doing something he likes i work full time on my swallon feet 40+ hours a week and come home exhausted and tired. its like he dont care he doesnt want to even try to look he put an app. in at burgerking one app.. in 5 weeks? we live at my dads. which i dont feel is save but dont have a choice. hes lazy
and to top it off he always wants to spend money. i used to get food stamps which just stopped but hed want a gallon of tea every 2 days. go out and buy food he wants all the time because hes to lazy to cook one thing or wait for it to get done. as soon as he gets paid he goes and spends most of the money on garbage food and gets mad when i tell him i dont want it id rather eat food i cook at home.
I love my husband to death trust me and want to work things out but i dont know what to do i talk to him about it and itslike it is in one ear and out the other. (link)

What is it about this guy you actually love? I just don't see why. To be blunt he's a Grade A A---- if you get my drift. If he cared for anyone other than himself he would NEVER be doing this to you. He also knows that you don't have the nerve to stand up to him. He's walking all over you like a rug and it's got to stop.

What to do? If you have any sense and I'm sure you do you'll see that he's a big mistake and you need to move on or continue to be miserable for sticking it out with him. It's not a healthy environment to bring a baby into.

What you need to do is tell your parents what this SOB has been doing and that you need to come home and have their support to raise your child. They may not like this idea at first but as all parents do they'll take you back in. odds are they think he's as disgusting as he seems here.

While living at your parents pursue your dream and go to school, work days and better yourself. You won't get that with this jerk. Tell your parents and other family members what hell it is to live with him and they'll help no questions asked.


If so, what do you all think about it and where is some good information on it? Thank you (link)
The short answer: NO. Info: Mythical. It's nonsense filtering down through the Internet as it usually does or someone's idea of a joke or prank as the case may be. Absolutely, nothing to do with reality. If anything NASA's eyeing a return to the moon. They're always studying it and have found traces of water recently.


f-14

ok so like i kind of got drunk at a party i went to @ this guys house, but it was the type of drunk to where i still remember what happened and so i had sex with this random guy but he was really hot. a few days ago he enrolled in my school and every girl wants him. he put a note in my locker (cheezy) and it said- "i hope you remember that night at the party, your the only thing iwant right now." and a lot of people tell me that he stares at me all the time, but i dont like him,, and he kind of scares me because at the party he was really demanding and rough. wht do i do??????? (link)

This guy is bad news and I'm glad you can see it. You mentioned briefly that he was really rough with you that night. Are you sure you consented to sex? If you didn't it's sexual assault. Even if you had if he was forceful and didn't stop that's also the definition of a sex assault.

Even if you had sex and wanted to it's still him taking advantage of someone who is drunk. What's that say for him? He's a creep. Keep that note you'll need it incase you charge him or he keeps harassing you at school.

As hard as it may be tell an adult that you trust be it your parents (whom you can always tell), older sibling, aunt, uncle, grandparent etc exactly what happened and give them the note. They'll know how to proceed. You MUST do this so this creep can be handled. You can't do it yourself.

You should also find the school principal or guidance counselor and tell the story from start to finish and furnish the note. Although embarrassing they'll keep an eye on you and him and act on the harassment that's going on in school. Don't take any of this lightly.


Okay I'm an 18 male, My boyfriend had recently told me that i make him feel like a nobody, cause Everyone whos anyone fonds over me like i'm celeb! and cause i have friends who are celebs! and talk to them on a daily basis. how do i make him see im just a normal person and i don't like ppl being at my feet 24/7!! I told him that, but he doesn't understand when im with ten million ppl, thats when i get lonely! What should i do? (link)

He has an inferiority complex. Webster's Dictionary defines it as "an unrealistic feeling of general inadequacy caused by actual or supposed inferiority in one sphere, sometimes marked by aggressive behavior."

He feels inadequate to other men you know and your friends who are well-known people. He's also jealous of the time you spend with them. This is his problem and it's psychological. He sounds like he needs help from a psychologist to deal with it. You can't convince him that you love him and don't think he's a nobody or idiot. This problem he has will always override what the truth is.

You'll have to tell him point blank that you have friends who like you and though they may be famous and fawn over you that's not what you're looking for from them. Tell him you're with him for a reason and that if you didn't like him you would be gone by now.

Tell him it pisses you off greatly to be told you treat him like a nobody when you bend over backwards for him. If that doesn't work tell him to get help for an inferiority complex and that until he does you don't want to be around. He'll forever drive you nuts with this until someone gets him to see reality versus what he perceives is so with your relationship and his place in it and life in general.


16 - Female

Basically, the issue is that I am extremely depressed and unhappy every day because of the school I go to. My parents thought it would be a good idea to pull me away from public school and send me to a Catholic, college prep, all girls high school. It is my third year and I am still unhappy. I miss my friends, and I want to look back at my high school years and not have to say that they were the worst years of my life. I'm not a loser at school. Really. And I do have friends. But the problem is, is that I don't fit in anywhere. All of the girls have been friends since they were very young and are in separate groups according to what middle school they attended. I have tried to have a positive attitude but at the end of the day, I just find myself miserable and lonely. I'm not trying to complain. I just am sick of everything. It might not sound like that big of a deal, but it is strongly affecting who I am as a person and how I am growing up. I think everyone deserves to be happy. I put three good years into this school, and I think for my senior year, I should be allowed to have some fun and graduate with my friends. I don't want to be the one crying on graduation day not because of leaving her friends, but because she was never happy in the first place. My parents don't understand this, and my father is very stubborn about switching schools. He is positive that this school is the right decision for my future. I feel differently. I feel like this is a huge mistake and I believe that life should not be all about education, even though it is very important. I think how I feel matters more than that. I believe that I can excel in life without this school. It's not like I'm going to end up on the streets because I graduate from a public school. I don't think it is fair and I think that my parents are forgetting that I have a lot of potential. I know that they are only trying to do what is best for me, but I don't agree with their decision. Is it so bad to want to be happy my last year of high school? These are supposed to be the best years of my life. I just don't want to end up regretting staying at this school. I need help with trying to convince my dad to let me go to this public school for my senior year. Please help! ): (link)

Sometimes all it takes is for another adult in position of authority to speak with your parents. Is there a teacher, principal, counselor at school that you can confide all of this to? If so, and they can really see your misery and depression is real they can approach your folks and make a recommendation.

Even better is consulting a family doctor for referral to a psychiatrist which doesn't mean your crazy for his/her advice. If they can label you as depressed and can outline the cause of your depression as being school related than your parents have to listen and act.

If your parents receive pressure from the right people and or friends, relatives etc. they often act in favor of their position because they have been embarrassed or shown the error of their ways.

If you talk to a school administrator tell them that there's not a problem with the school, the teacher or curriculum but with you feeling like you have nobody at all and just don't fit in like you did back home. They may have suggestions for you to make things better. They'll hear you out if you hear them out.


Hi..

Two weeks ago, my grandfather of 58 passed away due to a massive stroke. It was an extreme shock to the family as he was never ill, it just happened.

He was in a coma for 30 long days before he passed away.

I live with my grandparents and have since I was a child. I'm now 21.

For Christmas 09 my grandparents bought me a puppy, Maltese Shitzu. Girl. We never had inside animals but my grandmother melted at the site of her and allowed her to be an inside dog.

Since my grandfather passed, she has been looking out the back window, she has to climb on the sofa and lean on the arm of the sofa to be able to see outside. She has never done this before and only started when my grandfather passed.

The direction she is looking in is at the bird cage where my grandfather always stood and spoke to the cocky we have.

We have purposely left the door open for her to run in and out and she still insists on standing on the arm of the sofa to look out the window.

Could it be my grandfather looking in at us through the window?? I know that animals are suppose to have some sort of 6 sense. I beleive that he wont lay to rest until he is able to tell us that he's ok simply because it was all so sudden and we never got to speak to him.

How am I able to tell he's there? It hurts because he raised me like a daughter and I feel lost without him. I just want to have one last contact so I know he's ok. I want him to know that we love him so much and it's ok he left us because he can now go to a better place.

Please share your experiences with me. I really need to speak to him!

(link)
Dogs grieve much like humans do. This one knows your grandfather is missing but hasn't figured out why yet or accepted it. It's looking out the window or in spots your grandfather used to be looking for him to return.

Your dog isn't sensing his presence but rather missing him terribly. This isn't unusual. I once heard a true story about a little dog that had such a remarkable bond with it's elderly owner.

When the man died the dog had to be taken to the cemetery every day where it would lie at the grave of its owner until the cemetery closed each night reusing to move unless carried. When the dog died it couldn't be buried with its owner so the cemetery buried it near the gates.

I know it hurts to lose someone close to you. Unfortunately, your dog has no more connection with a departed individual then you or I nor do they have the ability to sense presence of the deceased.

While you cannot establish contact with your grandfather you know that he always loved you and that which he taught you is always within you. In that sense you have contact with him still as that and his memory is always with you. Be well.


hey can masturbaution cause acne? also can it cause any other like problems with your body. and if not masturbaution doenst cause acne does anything like that do it (i mean other then not washing) like stress and stuff like that. thanks! (link)

It has ZERO connection or impact on acne. That's a myth about it. Stress and diet can have impact on acne. In fact you should Google "ACNE" and read more about treatment and cause.

I can give you tons of tips that I cannot. If you have severe acne you'll need a prescription cream from a dermatologist or family doctor. Over the counter remedies cannot burn through the bacteria that causes it.

You can masturbate as much as you like and it will have no impact on your complexion or much less health or anything else. You're fine.


my friends asked me to ask why they discharge alot one says she does it all the time and its scareing her and they both havent had sex in a few weeks and also want to know if you can go to the doctor to get birth control will they tell their parents? she has a period 2 times a month and her mom wont take her and she doesnt want them to know she is sexually active (link)

A doctor cannot tell ANYONE anything about your or their medical history to ANYONE regardless of their relationship to you without consent. The only time that changes is if you're in crisis or a situation where your life is on the line and you can't make decisions on your own.

They also can break this rule if you're on a psychiatric hold in a hospital. Your friend needs to be HONEST with the doctors about their sexual history because there may be something wrong that will get totally overlooked and be detrimental to their health otherwise. Never lie to a doctor under any reason.

They cannot tell parents anything by law. In fact you or they can go and get birth control or pregnancy checks anonymously even through a Planned Parenthood Teen Sexuality Clinic. They can put people on birth control and provide a first pack but beyond that you're responsible for costs.

It's best that your friends do this if they're having sex and are concerned about discharge and other issues. I can't fathom why her mother won't take her to be checked. Must be about the cost or a stance (religious possibly Catholic etc.) against birth control devices. I honestly don't know why but if her daughter is requesting it she ought to listen up.

Also, it's better parents know what their kids are doing even though it's difficult to tell them. They can make sure they are on birth control and being safe. It's a winning situation.


okay this is really wierd, but whenever me and my boyfriend have sex i always end up getting really wet.. and like idk are you suppossed to get that wet. dose it make sex feel better for guys when girls get like that ? idk i just dont want sex to suck cause im like a waterslide down there. (link)
You may not feel this way right now but it actually serves an important purpose. The lubrication that is being produced makes intercourse easier so that thrusting and friction doesn't cause pain, abrasions and tearing among other things.

It would be like metal scraping against metal otherwise. There are a lot of women who can't produce enough lubrication and those that produce a lot or more than needed. There's nothing wrong with you anatomically or health wise. There's also ZERO to be embarrassed by. Most guys think the fact it's happening has to do with their performance. It's an ego booster. They know to expect this kind of thing to occur. He's not worried about it and you shouldn't either. It's out of your and his control.


My friend told me that on the next season on American Idol that Paula Abdul was not going to be appearing. I asked her why and she said she couldn't remember. So, then, like two weeks later, she says that Ellen DeGeneres was going to be taking Paula Abdul's place on American Idol. I think that's weird since Ellen DeGeneres isn't a singer and Paula Abdul was. I think maybe she misunderstood? Is it true? (link)
Producers declined to renew Abdul's contract. She wanted several million more than she's worth. Her erratic behavior also played a part. Ellen was chosen because she's a music fan and much like the average American in that regard.

She's there to represent what the people at home likely think of the contestants. Producers figure it balances out with Randy and Simon being music biz experts. Also, there's a rotating guest judge for the first few episodes. Avril Lavigne is one of them. She and others were brought in before producers could sign Ellen for the rest of the season.


18/f
I've come to realize lately that I'm into having sex in what I'd consider to be a weird way, by being spanked and choked fairly hard. Yes, I know there are people who are into that kind of thing, but I'm just an ordinary girl and I'm extremely embarassed and ashamed of myself. How can I deal with this or change my preferences? (link)

We're not here to judge people but rather to get them to see their situation in more than one light. My concern is with choking. I think you should stop. A lot of people have been killed by it by partners who didn't know how to stop or applied too much force which turned fatal.

That's very dicey to be involved in. Also, it cuts off oxegyn to your brain temporarily which is not a good thing. You can look it up as it has a name Erotic asphyxiation. The term refers to intentionally cutting off oxygen to the brain for sexual arousal.

I wouldn't be ashamed or embarrassed or feel guilt but rather question anything that could be a dangerous practice. I don't think spanking can damage you psychologically or lead deviant behavior or something terrible occurring later on. Some people would disagree but it doesn't seem to be connected to any kind of abuse you suffered in the past etc. etc.


When the World Trade Center Twin Towers everyone thought that Osama Bin Laden had set out to kill many Americans. I remember feeling really scared on 9/11/01 and just shocked that we were being hit by terrorists. Well, now people are saying it was inside job or something and that our government really planned the whole thing out. I don't mean to be stupid but what do they mean by this? Are they right? Was 9/11 really an inside job? (link)

Conspiracy theories are either bred of ignorance or the inability to accept indisputable truth. Every year on this day some crackpot comes out saying that the government planted bombs in the buildings to make them come down or that it looked like controlled demolition.

These people think that missiles and not planes hit the World Trade Center because the CIA or Dick Cheney wanted a way for the Bush Admin to justify starting a war in Iraq or some other bogus reason.

It's also sickening especially to the families of Flight 93 and American Airlines Flight 11 when they hear the theory that no planes crashed anywhere, the hijackers don't exist and that all the video on TV that day was doctored, done by computers etc to hide the missiles.

It's all CRAP but with the Internet everyone has a theory and becomes a demolition or computer video expert or has an obsession or sick line of thinking that they apply to 9/11 and what happened.

Bottom line the history books are right about Osama Bin Laden, and the events of 9/11. Everything else is someone's thoughts, obsession or ignorant and borderline sick beliefs. There's an old saying "you can't convince a zealot he/she is wrong." That's all there is to this.


so i have this friend, who is kinda wierd at times, but i luv her anyways, and she always texts me, and invites me place, sometimes a lil too much. Then she became friends with this other girl , who im sorta friends with, and is OBSESSED with her, and wont leave her alone, and is being all cliquie and annoying with her. And having all these plans and stuff without me. And then when i try and be a little rude to her shes like "why r u in such a bad mood?" which is not at all what i want her to think. SO how do i either break them up or join in?
and please dont say "if she was really your friend she wouldnt do this." (link)

If you try to "break them up." you'll wind up friendless. It will backfire on you in ways you couldn't begin to realize. If your friend is being clingy and an all out pain in the ass to the other girl that person and she alone needs to address the matter.

Don't get involved as it's not your place and will end in them dumping you. As far as getting included goes invite them both somewhere or in a group and go from there. You can also say to your friend "Let me know next time you're going out with X. I wouldn't mind coming."

Your friend still likes you but right now has found somebody new. The novelty will wear off and I'm sure things will go back to normal if this girl can't take her always in your face style. You could also be blunt and tell her you feel discarded. Maybe that's the only way she'll realize that.


I want to persue a career as an actress (13) i'm pretty sure i'm devoted. But anyway, i've had a drama class in seventh grade and i was in the school play. I will be in the play this year also. I study actors/actresses very carefully to try to and pick up good techniques from them. So I have somewhat experience, but nothing like actually being on a movie set. QUESTION: What do you ABSOLUTELY need to know to become and actress? And some great techniques to use. Where do I get my start? I may know someone who has been in some plays but i'm not sure; so i have no BIG conections. Please answer these questions and help me realize my dream. ****DO NOT ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS IF YOU DO NOT KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT ACTING OR IF YOU AARE JUST GUESSING AT THE QUESTIONS; THIS IS MY CAREER... THANK YOU! LUV: bEcKy! (link)
It's not a career until you are doing it professionally and making money from it. Right now it's an interest that may or may not turn into one.

I advise you to find out whether there are community or youth theatre groups in your town or city putting on shows using local kids who are interested in theater. This is a good place to cut your teeth as well as learning about technical theatre.

Nobody can teach you how to act. It's something you either have within you or you don't. All they can do is enhance what you have and make it better. For that local theatre groups, drama courses, workshops and improvisation classes will help you. Ask your drama teachers at school where to train or for leads.

Too bad you aren't in Chicago or Toronto. The best training center going is with The Second City. Now, if you want to be on a movie set and see what that's like consult the SAG and ACTRA web sites for reputable agents.

What you need is a BACKGROUND TALENT agent who can find you jobs on TV pilots, movies etc. where you are in crowd scenes. This will give you an idea of what movie making is all about. Don't sign with any agent wanting you to do courses, photos, post your picture on the net etc etc. That's a scam.

Background Talent agents are the only agents who can charge a yearly fee to join. The other agents are those who only deal with kids/teens. Why? extras and kids/teens tend to bail when they see this is actually hard 18 hr a day work.

As far as getting a principal agent for TV, Movies etc. you won't be able to get one with a lack of credits unless they see something in your look or the way you read lines. You can try the ACTRA or SAG lists again and see if you find one willing to work with you. For now, stick with community theatre and try being an extra.


I really want to take an online fashion merchandising college class and went to ai to see what they have. They have one but they refuse to tell me how much it costs, the school for some reason. Does anyone know exactly how much it costs? Or any other m=fashion merchandising classes online? Thanks:) (link)

I would RUN from this place. No accredited program or school would refuse to disclose tuition fees. This school is probably NOT recognized seriously by the industry and B may be a ladder system scheme charging more and more each level.

They probably also issue lesson plans that don't teach you what you need or give you a diploma no employer would recognize. I don't know about AI but this sounds really fishy to me.

I would avoid ALL online courses. What you really need is a community college or university program in fashion merchandising and design taught but established people. You won't find that online. Something's not right with this picture. Anyone who refuses to disclose that kind of info is an institution not to be associated with.


Im a freshman at college this year and i've been here for about a week. I was fine at first, but now i'm getting more and more homesick. I really miss my parents. I've made a couple good friends but no like a big group which im sure is what is adding to my homesickness. How can I get over this? becuase while my parents are coming for parents weekend in october...i wont be home until thanksgiving.

Thanks! (link)

I would be worried about you if you weren't feeling like this. It's natural to feel this way when away from your family and out on your own for the first time. As you make friends, become aware of your surroundings, town or city these feelings will fade. They'll always be there but not as intense. Stick in there you'll see.

If you have met new people try having a social gathering at your place and make these connections more solid and meet their pals as well. In time which you must give things you'll feel as secure here as you were at home.




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