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austin
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ok so like i kind of got drunk at a party i went to @ this guys house, but it was the type of drunk to where i still remember what happened and so i had sex with this random guy but he was really hot. a few days ago he enrolled in my school and every girl wants him. he put a note in my locker (cheezy) and it said- "i hope you remember that night at the party, your the only thing iwant right now." and a lot of people tell me that he stares at me all the time, but i dont like him,, and he kind of scares me because at the party he was really demanding and rough. wht do i do???????
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This guy is bad news and I'm glad you can see it. You mentioned briefly that he was really rough with you that night. Are you sure you consented to sex? If you didn't it's sexual assault. Even if you had if he was forceful and didn't stop that's also the definition of a sex assault.
Even if you had sex and wanted to it's still him taking advantage of someone who is drunk. What's that say for him? He's a creep. Keep that note you'll need it incase you charge him or he keeps harassing you at school.
As hard as it may be tell an adult that you trust be it your parents (whom you can always tell), older sibling, aunt, uncle, grandparent etc exactly what happened and give them the note. They'll know how to proceed. You MUST do this so this creep can be handled. You can't do it yourself.
You should also find the school principal or guidance counselor and tell the story from start to finish and furnish the note. Although embarrassing they'll keep an eye on you and him and act on the harassment that's going on in school. Don't take any of this lightly.
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For now, you should just ignore him, or better yet, let him KNOW that you aren't interested back. Hopefully he'll leave you alone. Also be sure not to be alone around this guy. If he knows that you aren't interested, then he might back off. If that's not the case, then unfortunately, he might think you're playing 'hard to get' and be even MORE interested in you... You shouldn't let him bother you though. If he is making you feel uncomfortable, or even touches you in ANY way that makes you uncomfortable, that could be considered as sexual harassment. Even if he leaves notes for you; if he is saying things in the note that makes you feel uncomfortable, that would still be considered sexual harassment. If he doesn't back off, you should tell one or a couple of close friends just to be safe, and tell a trusted adult. If that doesn't work out, imediately talk to your counselor. Trust me, you can't just avoid this situation. You HAVE to do something about it. If you do end up talking to the counselor, then your counselor will do their best to resolve everything. Again, just be sure you clearly state that you're not interested in him.
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