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Spirits and Dogs
Hi..
Two weeks ago, my grandfather of 58 passed away due to a massive stroke. It was an extreme shock to the family as he was never ill, it just happened.
He was in a coma for 30 long days before he passed away.
I live with my grandparents and have since I was a child. I'm now 21.
For Christmas 09 my grandparents bought me a puppy, Maltese Shitzu. Girl. We never had inside animals but my grandmother melted at the site of her and allowed her to be an inside dog.
Since my grandfather passed, she has been looking out the back window, she has to climb on the sofa and lean on the arm of the sofa to be able to see outside. She has never done this before and only started when my grandfather passed.
The direction she is looking in is at the bird cage where my grandfather always stood and spoke to the cocky we have.
We have purposely left the door open for her to run in and out and she still insists on standing on the arm of the sofa to look out the window.
Could it be my grandfather looking in at us through the window?? I know that animals are suppose to have some sort of 6 sense. I beleive that he wont lay to rest until he is able to tell us that he's ok simply because it was all so sudden and we never got to speak to him.
How am I able to tell he's there? It hurts because he raised me like a daughter and I feel lost without him. I just want to have one last contact so I know he's ok. I want him to know that we love him so much and it's ok he left us because he can now go to a better place.
Please share your experiences with me. I really need to speak to him!
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Dogs grieve much like humans do. This one knows your grandfather is missing but hasn't figured out why yet or accepted it. It's looking out the window or in spots your grandfather used to be looking for him to return.
Your dog isn't sensing his presence but rather missing him terribly. This isn't unusual. I once heard a true story about a little dog that had such a remarkable bond with it's elderly owner.
When the man died the dog had to be taken to the cemetery every day where it would lie at the grave of its owner until the cemetery closed each night reusing to move unless carried. When the dog died it couldn't be buried with its owner so the cemetery buried it near the gates.
I know it hurts to lose someone close to you. Unfortunately, your dog has no more connection with a departed individual then you or I nor do they have the ability to sense presence of the deceased.
While you cannot establish contact with your grandfather you know that he always loved you and that which he taught you is always within you. In that sense you have contact with him still as that and his memory is always with you. Be well.
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I believe your dog is pining for your grandfather, too. I don't think he sees or senses your grandfather's presence, but, instead, longs for him, as you do. Animals know who's part of the family. He will grieve just as you do.
I personally, don't believe that the dead can contact the living. I believe once they cross over, the contact is over. I also believe your Grandfather knows infinitely more than you do, now that he has crossed over, and I believe he knows how you are feeling and even how the dog is feeling. He is in a better place than any of us are and he now understands the purpose for his life and death. We aren't capable of understanding many things in life while we are here, but once we pass on, we finally will get it.
When we grieve, we look for answers as to why and we look for relief. You are looking for those things now and it will take time for you to come to terms with this event. Usually, it takes a year to fully grieve before the pain lessens. It will lessen and you will not always feel this way.
Take it from someone who has been there many times in life. Why not speak to God? He can tell you infinitely more than your Grandfather can. After all...God wanted him home.
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