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Okay. So, I'm 18/f and I want to tell my mom that I recently lost my virginity. If you must know - I'm not technically "with" the guy, but we've been talking for a little while, but she hasn't met him yet. Also, I don't regret it.
My mom & I are fairly close and she knows most things that go on in my life, I just don't know how to bring it up to her because I don't know how she will react. It's not that I anticipate problems with it, I just want to have her behind me and aware of what's going on in case anything unexpected happens. Any positive advice would be wonderful. (link)
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Maybe a note will suffice asking her to talk to you further about it. Believe it or not she will be happier knowing about it and that you are being safe than not.
This could also be an excellent opportunity to discuss birth control and become completely protected. If a note isn't your style just try talking to her and letting it out. She may not like it but honesty is important here.
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Sooo I've never given head before and I've been dating this guy and I really want to go down on him but I"m afraid I'm going to hurt him or do a really bad job. Any advice as to how or what to do? (link)
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Relax. If you aren't sure about it or anything else sexual don't rush into it. Read, research and learn more about it. Also, he's the expert on his genitals and what he finds pleasurable. Ask him what he enjoys and I'm sure he can guide you. You really can't hurt him either.
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Me and my father aren't close he says mean things about me and makes me cry basically feel like crap i feel like i'm always the main target he intimidates me and i hate when he's home i try to avoid him i hardly ever talk to him because i feel like he's going to say another mean thing
and there's no point
Here's some things he's said about me
He called me a hermit,Called me useless,Told
me to go away,Told me to get a life made comments about my hygiene
My questions are:
Is what he's saying to me considered child abuse? Also what would be the best thing for me to do?
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The problem isn't the abuse. The problem is that the person dishing it out doesn't see it as such nor knows the effect it has. Talking to him will get you nowhere. If you tell your teachers, councilor, doctor or relatives/trusted adults it will.
Often being confronted by other adults a person knows about how he treats his kids will embarrass him enough to change his ways. Also the abuser is never talking about the victim when they spew forth venom.
They're always talking about how they view themselves but making others feel the brunt of what's on their own shoulders. As far as hygiene goes it could need work but even if it does their is a more tactful way to have it pointed out. Bathe and keep clean as there's no way you can be attacked for that.
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Tomorrow i am going to the beach, so my mum and I went shopping yesterday to get me tampons. I have never used them before, so this was my first time. We got the smallest size possible.
This morning after I had a shower, i tried to use the tampon. I did exactly what it said (i washed my hands and put my leg up on the bath, I did everything properly!) but I couldnt get the tampon in me.
It was like I didn't have a hole or there was some wall blocking me. It was really frustrating!
I thought that this might happen because once I read that good practise for using a tampon is to use your finger, so I tried that a while ago and couldn't get my finger in.
This is kinda embarassing, but it is also frustrating because I need to use a tampon for the beach tomorrow!
Please help me find a way to use it easier, and also if anyone could answer why it won't go in? (link)
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The first thing to do is not to get stressed about it. That makes you tense and your pubic muscles as well. There may be a small chance that your hymen's opening is small making it harder to put a finger or a tampon in.
According to an article 2% of teens have that but you may be one of them or not. Also they recommend you use a handheld mirror to help with insertion and a water based lubricant applied to the tampon applicator so it glides in. If you still have problems talk to your mom for advice. She may have insight that mat result in success.
I hope you make it to the beach. Let me know via inbox or comments what happened. This article may be a world of help as it has tips, instructions and illustrations. http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/tampon.html
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I'm a girl in my 20's. So I've been dating my boyfriend for 1 year. I've always been really reserved and quiet. I'm coming out of my shell alot with him. On Halloween, we went to a club. My boyfriend, my best friend(girl whois bisexual) and I. we all were pRetty drunk and sat at a bar table inthe corner. My best friend goes to the bathroom. My boyfriend convinces me to take off my thong and giveit to him under the table...so I was drunk, and I did. As soon as she comes back, he shows her and she gets all mad ish that I did that. So I get super embarressed, put them back on. That night she went home and we haven't spoken since. Should I be the one to call her?! Or her me? I don't know what to dooo . I didn't do anything wrong... Did I? (link)
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I would wait a few days and see if she comes around. What you did disappointed and offended her. It was inappropriate of both you and your boyfriend.
She's probably upset that you allowed yourself to become so intoxicated not to have had better judgment. I NEED to be harsh with you here and I think you know this: no matter what the situation doing this in public drunk or not is wrong in most eyes. It's even worse when he did what he did. Both of you are at fault.
If she doesn't come around in a few days phone first and then e-mail an apology letting her know it was wrong, offensive and out of character. You have no idea how this affected her and her view of you. If she won't talk to you after that take heed of this hard lesson and make sure you never get into a situation where you can't make sound decisions.
Her being bisexual or previously interested in you has no bearing on her reaction and let's face it her disgust. She's not talking to you because it disgusted her. I'm just being straight up.
At 20 you're an adult and as such whether you wear undergarments to clubs or anywhere is your choice provided others can't tell. Taking them off in a public place and having him more or less broadcast it is where you made the wrong choice. Your friend thinks less of you not so much for doing it but for making the decision and for what your boyfriend did as a result.
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so i like this boy in the year above me in school an he knows i like him but he doesnt no that i love him because i do love him. i really wont to tell him how i feel about him but im scared that he will just laugh an tell all his friends an they will just laugh at me as well. i thiguh about maybe tellin him on msn because i could mever do it face to face, but i just really dont no what to do im scared. please hellp me :'( (link)
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The absolute WORST move you can make is to use MSN, a note or anything that can be kept or printed out and handed around to other people. If he's a jerk it will be fuel for him and other classmates to cause you grief over.
Also telling him you LOVE him out of the blue may not be the best card to play. It could scare him seeing as he knows you like him and you don't even have a relationship together.
If you are smart I would approach him when you are alone and tell him "Let's not make this hard any longer. I was hoping you could tell me where we stand are we just friends or could we try something out."
If he says no than that's okay. If people find out they'll soon forget about it and move on. However, if you say you LOVE him in person or on MSN it will likely scare him off and make you the target of classmates.
You can also try inviting him to a party, movie with friends, bowling etc. etc. and see if he sounds at all interested. If he doesn't and especially if he says no to more than one offer he's telegraphing "I'm not into you (at least not in that way."
So kiddo, th eonly way to get what you want here is to ask him "Where do things stand?" rather than say I Love You. It protects you. Try it out at school tomorrow and send me an inbox note. I promise this will at least get you an answer out of him.
Being scared is okay and believe me if he likes you back and is your friend he'll understand. He may be very scared to approach you for all you know. You just have to do it or you'll forever be wondering what if. So, there's your homework to do. If he's worth it than so is sticking your neck out.
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18, Female
I have a job interview this Tuesday at Rue 21 (a clothing store). Subway is the only other job I have ever had, and I was related to the manager, so getting the job wasn't an issue. The problem now is I have no idea what to expect at my interview.
I am really stressing out, because I have been putting in job applications for the past six months, and this is the first call back I have received. I don't want to blow this. What should I expect? What questions will be asked? How early should I arrive? What should I wear? I definitely don't want to be underdressed, but I also don't want to look stupid by getting all dolled up.
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You actually know something you haven't thought about. You know that they like you already and have seen what they like in your cover letter or resume. All you have to do is answer questions about the experiences you had at Subway, how you handled customers, bosses and pushy people etc etc. and your interests in and out of school. T
hey want to see that you have a cheerful personality and the ability to deal with all kinds of people in an assertive and calm way. The only way you can screw this up is with long-winded answers, offering too much info up or badmouthing former employers, managers etc. which you won't do. You'd be surprised ho many people had a job in the bag until they did this.
Be yourself. It's a cliche but its true. They want to see you like you have written about yourself and not a front. When it comes to interviews always go with business casual (slacks, blouse, sweater). However, this is a trendy, urban place so I would say dress in style exactly like their current staff would as is doing.
Having no sense of style and working for a clothing store don't mix. They'll want to see you looking like their clients as well as like their staff. They won't say anything about dress clothes but if they did tell them you wanted to dress like their staff does in stores and how clients dress to give them an accurate reflection of your fashion sense.
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I definitely want to Watch Michael Jackson This Is It Movie Online now - online and for free? You see, I'm MJ's craziest fan!
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If you are his biggest fan than why not line up to see at your local movie theater? Downloading pirated films or uploading is illegal.
Doing It actually contributes to BOOSTING the fees to get into a movie and watch it. Nobody associated with the movie makes any money that way. The movie is online and can be found out in the open to download through Internet searches.
Having said this what you'll end up with is a very crappy copy of the movie in terms of picture and audio and maybe even a computer virus or worm attached to the file as well.
Be careful! Spending the extra $12 on a ticket is worth it for this one as it's visually spectacular and you won't see that on something someone copied on their Sony Cam. This film is meant to be seen in the theater or on Blu-Ray or it loses the magic.
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i am 16 and heres the thing, a guy has never given me an orgasm, i had sex with my ex more than a hundred times and i hardly felt anything was he doing it right??
also my current boyfriend has fingered me and again i cant feel anything, am i normal??
and also my current boyfriend and me went to have sex but his penis wouldnt go in or anything, he had a hard on but still it wouldnt go in, hes not really got a long penis more of a thick one. is there a possibility he could be too big for me?? and if he is how can we make it fit?? (link)
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The vagina can stretch enough to handle the birth of a 9 pound baby therefore, it can handle a penis of any size or girth. You have to be lubricated or attempting intercourse is futile and or will hurt you. The more lubricated the easier to enable penetration.
Most women don't climax from sex alone and need a combination of things. Don't worry if it's not happening all the time or if at all because most women only achieve orgasm through self-stimulation or a combination of the two. You're anatomically fine and physically. Is he doing it right?
Well, if you're not feeling anything try changing positions as it controls the depth and type of stimulation and intensity.
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when my boyfriend is fingering me ill climax...then he'll keep going and it kinda hurts...i guess it gets really sensitive...is this normal? or is there a way to stop it? (link)
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Most guys are clueless about female anatomy and are pretty rough with their own genitals. They don't remember or "get" that a girl's genitals are more hidden and mostly internal.
The clitoris itself has millions of nerve endings and the hood hides more than even half of it or so it's believed leaving a part exposed. Naturally, if he's being too forceful it's going to hurt. It's up to you to say "WHOA STOP, OUCH." and tell him why so he doesn't continue further.
He won't know unless you say it's too rough. Explain to him how sensitive and sore it gets. Another reason guys don't understand is that they're often circumcised. Non-circumcised guys have a forsekin protecting the head and would feel the same kind of sensitivity after awhile that other guys don't.
So, it's all natural that after climax you need to stop or it gets irritated. Is there a way to stop? Well, I'm a not female but maybe a water based lubricant from a pharmacy if your body isn't producing enough. I dunno, I'm a male but hazarded an educated guess.
Also, it doesn't have to involve penetration either. If he just does that without lubrication and very rough than no wonder it hurts after time. Tell him to ease up on being rough and exactly what you like and don't want him to do. Unless you speak up when something hurts he can't change it.
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We're supposed to have our yearbook write up made by a friend all about myself. The thing is I don't know where to start. Could you give me any tips or guidelines on how to make write ups? (link)
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http://www.essortment.com/all/howwritebio_rfin.htm
The second example is how you write about someone else using information you have about them. The first is how to write about yourself. It will give you a good starting point.
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17-f
dating 18-m
for 2 1/2 years
my boyfriend and i have decided we will just go shopping together to get our gifts for each other i know what im getting and he knows what he is getting. But along with what i am buying him i want to give him something thoughtful he has always bought me thoughful and nice things and i just want to show him that i care and get something he will like but isnt to out there. I dont want it to be so much about us as it will be just about him he doesnt have many interests and im almost clueless sadly you would think being together for 2 1/2 years i would know but its tricky to buy for teenage guys. (link)
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Try going to your local movie theatre. Ask about their gift cards and load it up with $50-100. He would like that as it's at least 6 flicks or movies, popcorn, drinks. It's a gift you can enjoy together.
Also you might want to get him a TICKETMASTER card to go towards the purchase of tickets for whatever he wants or buy him tickets to a show. You could do the same for CDs, books or clothing.
The problem is you know him better than anybody else and would have better judgment that we would. That's just a fact. One key thing that may help you is an older sister if he's got one or his mother. They know what he's been itching for better than anyone would or his interests. Use them to help you.
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16/f
So, my friend got fingered the other night and she said it hurt really bad and it was only one finger but it hurt a lot. Her boyfriend told her she was really tight and he didnt even stick his whole finger in her, just a little and she said it still hurt her really bad. What should she do? (link)
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Your friend needs to speak up and tell him he was being too rough. She has to tell and or show him what she finds pleasurable. This activity doesn't have to involve penetration either. Clitoral stimulation is fine. If there is penetration it's best if she's lubricated or it will and can hurt her. That's why she's experiencing pain.
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i have been on birth control for a about a month and two weeks almost three well im not very good at taking them like at all the other week i forgot to take the pill so i took two the next day. then the other day i was about to take it and the pill dropped and i couldnt find it OF COIURSE! that day me and my boyfriend were having sex and i told him not to cum in me but he did anyway. he almost alawys cums in me by the way. (we just started cuming in me thoug) and even missing the pills i dont take them all at the same time everyday sometimes i forget in the morning or i figure i dont have time and take it when i get home from school or b4 i go to bed. but sometimes i take it regurlary everyday in the morning but that lasts like three days. and i know there are chances of getting pregnant ALWAYS! and the way ive been doing things i have a greater chance of but. what are the sighns and stuff and percentage of getting prego. like the first week of getting prego do you have signs i have been pooping like three times a day now that mean anything! (link)
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Your birth control pills are utterly useless to protect you from anything anymore. Once they are missed this often that's it.
It doesn't matter if your boyfriend ejaculates as precum contains more then enough sperm to make you pregnant. Don't jump to conclusions but if you think you may be pregnant find out for sure.
If you aren't then I recommend you get on NuVa ring. You don't need to remember to take pills at the exact same time daily. This is a small ring that fits into the vagina monthly that sends out the right chemical that kills sperm. It doesn't hurt. Look them up on Google and see if it's for you.
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Does anyone know who covered that Muppet's song "Mahnahmahnah" I know the song was on a triple J album.
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mah_N%C3%A0_Mah_N%C3%A0
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I am 15 years old and ever since i started my period, i would always have this gooey discharge on my underwear. I know girls have it around when they are ovulating buti always have it! It even stains my underwear AND it stinks bed too. Even when i wear jeans i can feel the moisture on them. I am still a virgin if that helps. Is this just a sign of good fertility?
Thank you,
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If the discharge is clumpy, like cottage cheese and or smells bad it's a sign that something isn't right and possibly an infection. Does it burn or is t just discharge? At any rate it appears to be too much and if it smells bad is not a good sign.
See a gynecologist when you have the opportunity to have it taken care of. In the meantime, wear a pantyliner so that any discharge is absorbed by it and not your underwear. You should also tell your mother what's happening because she might have experienced this herself.
As embarrassing as this may be she'll know what to do and where to go to get it taken care of.
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if your masterbating and its around the time your suuposta get your period can masterbation induce it? (link)
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No. They have no correlation at all. You're fine.
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I go to a center everyday and there's this girl named terra and everybody makes fun of her becouse she pees in her pants and she has a medical problem how can I make people understand so they won't make fun of her anymore or should I tell staff? (link)
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The staff are probably very aware of the situation and how sensitive it is. They probably expect others are aware of the fact or expect that and haven't thought about anyone who is ignorant.
It's really up to them to do something about the teasing and ridicule. Seeing as they haven't bring it to their attention and ask them to address it. If they show reluctance or no desire to tell others at the center her story than you can do it.
Take the individuals that make fun of her aside and tell them that she has a medical problem and cannot help these things and that it's not right to poke fun. Hopefully, that will curb the situation.
You don't need to go into a ton of personal details as to what she has and why she can't control her bladder but a brief explanation and a "how would you feel if it were you?" should suffice.
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Did the New Moon movie get canceled? You know, the one that is the sequel to Twilight. My Dad said he heard that it was canceled and won't be coming to theatres as planned. I read somewhere online earlier that it was canceled, too! Is it really true? Why would it be canceled though? Why aren't people making a big deal about it? (link)
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It will be in theaters for certain November 20, 2009. Yes, some films can be pushed back due to special effects, editing and or post production issues not completed fully. However, that's not the case with this film. The studio still has it in for this date.
I have not read nor heard anything different and believe me if this were so you'd hear a lot of people upset. Either your father is pulling your leg or was misinformed or heard something he thought related to this film. Fear not, if the movie was pushed back a zillion Twilight fans would be going ape twittering, bloging etc.
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Did Abigail Breslin tak ean acting class/school? If so which one. If not then WOW! (link)
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I remember when Little Miss Sunshine came out. At that time when she did interviews or the press wrote about her they made mention that she didn't have lessons or an acting coach.
She would lock herself in her trailer and work herself up for emotional or dramatic scenes. Still does from what I've read. She may have a coach now but I highly doubt it. Some people just are that natural. I can't see her changing the way she does or did things. So based on quotes from the past she doesn't.
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