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Akward situation..?
I'm a girl in my 20's. So I've been dating my boyfriend for 1 year. I've always been really reserved and quiet. I'm coming out of my shell alot with him. On Halloween, we went to a club. My boyfriend, my best friend(girl whois bisexual) and I. we all were pRetty drunk and sat at a bar table inthe corner. My best friend goes to the bathroom. My boyfriend convinces me to take off my thong and giveit to him under the table...so I was drunk, and I did. As soon as she comes back, he shows her and she gets all mad ish that I did that. So I get super embarressed, put them back on. That night she went home and we haven't spoken since. Should I be the one to call her?! Or her me? I don't know what to dooo . I didn't do anything wrong... Did I?
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Call her in and apologize.
Your boyfriend owes her an apology as well.
Giving him your thong wasn't wrong, but showing them to her was very rude. You should have kept that behavoir private between the two of you. She also probably already felt a bit like a third wheel out with you and your boyfriend, and that made it far worse.
Apologise for making her uncomfortable. A good friend deserves that much kindness. Her being bisexual has nothing at all to do with this question, ANY friend would deserve more courtsey then you and your boyfriend showed that night, and an apology now.
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I would wait a few days and see if she comes around. What you did disappointed and offended her. It was inappropriate of both you and your boyfriend.
She's probably upset that you allowed yourself to become so intoxicated not to have had better judgment. I NEED to be harsh with you here and I think you know this: no matter what the situation doing this in public drunk or not is wrong in most eyes. It's even worse when he did what he did. Both of you are at fault.
If she doesn't come around in a few days phone first and then e-mail an apology letting her know it was wrong, offensive and out of character. You have no idea how this affected her and her view of you. If she won't talk to you after that take heed of this hard lesson and make sure you never get into a situation where you can't make sound decisions.
Her being bisexual or previously interested in you has no bearing on her reaction and let's face it her disgust. She's not talking to you because it disgusted her. I'm just being straight up.
At 20 you're an adult and as such whether you wear undergarments to clubs or anywhere is your choice provided others can't tell. Taking them off in a public place and having him more or less broadcast it is where you made the wrong choice. Your friend thinks less of you not so much for doing it but for making the decision and for what your boyfriend did as a result.
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