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Q: I have this sisgusting red thing on the lip of my eye. My mom said it's a "sti?". How do i get rid of it! ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

Just flush your eye out with some rosewater. You can either buy a bottle of rosewater or make your own by boiling some rose petals and letting it cool.

Q: i've had a best friend for 3 yearz and we both got caught lying and sneaking out and my parents grounded me from ever seeing her agen..im not allowed to hang out wid her AT ALL forver.i really lost their trust wid me and my best friend. but the thing is shes the only one i talk to in this town dat relle cares about me. and i told my parents dat but they dont care no matter what i sai.dey tell me to find another best friend but i cant bc i only want her and im not going to find another best friend this quick. i cant just forget 3 years of friendship. please help on what could i do. i rate good.

Your parents are probably still really mad right now, you're gonna have to give them time to get over it. In the mean time, you have to be on your best behavior. Before too long, they will start to trust you, a little bit. Then you could suggest letting your friend come over for supervised visits. (I know that sucks, but it's only temporary.) After a while, (of being on ya'll best behavior) your parents will realize that they can trust both of you. Be patient because it will take some time.

Q: i recently moved to a new town and dont know any kids here im going to a new highschool starting 9th grade in 2 weeks but im scared i wont make any friends...is it easy to make friends and meet people there???thanks

Chances are there will be other kids that are in the same situation as you. So just look for anyone who looks as lost as you feel and go up to them and start a conversation.

Q: i like this guy, but he lives kinda far away, and i promised my ex boyfriend that i wouldn't date any of his good friends, but this guy is his good friend and they knew eachother alot and then my ex boyfriend moved here, and the guy i likesmokes pot...only sometimes, but i don't really like that part, and i dunno what i should do...please help!!thanks!

If you really like the guy then you should go for it. Promises to your ex, don't count because he's your EX.

Q: Um, I like having sex, I'm not going to lie. But the last time I did, the guy I did it with kind of... made me have anal sex with him. And I tried to say it hurt but he didn't stop. I said it loud but when I told him afterwards, he said he didn't hear me. I cried afterwards b/c it hurt so bad. Is it my fault? I didn't want to do it... I feel gross. What do you think?

xoxo Alyssa*

It's definitely not your fault. I think you know deep down inside whether or not he heard you. You should be able to tell by how he reacted afterward. If he did hear you, but chose to ignore you, then he's nothing better than a rapist. He's the one who should feel gross, not you. If he truly didn't hear you then that's another story. Don't be afraid to make it clear what you are or are not willing to do, and never let anyone talk you in to anything you aren't comfortable with.

Q: OK, I met this guy at the mall and we got to know eachother. He calls me almost everyday and we flirt ALL the time. The thing is, he already has a girlfriend. I think he likes me and all but i don't want him to break up with her for me but i REALLY like him. What should i do?!?! PLease help me!!!

Just be patient because if he has feelings for you, then his other relationship won't work out. But have enough respect for yourself to not let anything go beyond friendship until he is single.

Q: okay so i was at my cottage and this guy was like chillin with me and my sis and my cuzins and so we were chillin and my sis was beggin 4 his sn!! i wasn't even really interested but he gave it 2 me secretly!! doe sthis mean he likes me?? or does it mean he wants to be friends??

Hmmm...That's hard to say. You're gonna have to find out from him. But since he gave it to you secretly, I think there's a pretty good chance that he likes you.

Q: I have almost clear skin, but I get really large zits ever so often, and i try so hard i use everything to get rid of them, i even have proactiv but sometimes it doesnt work too well. Is there anything, (ive tried the clean and clear stuff in the silver bottle) that works good for getting rid of somthing that big before it takes over my facee!!!=(

Try lemon juice and cinnamon mixed together.

Q: What's a polite way to get off the phone with someone. I'm not annoyed with this person, in fact I'm completely in love with her, but I just don't want to turn into one of those 4 hour conversations every day kind of couples.

The best way is to have an escape plan before you get on the phone. That way at the beginning of the conversation you can mention it, so she'll know that you don't have endless time on the phone. (Like you have to be somewhere at a certain time, or someone else in the house needs to use the phone, or you have something important that you have to do.) There's always the old stand-bye of an important call on the other line.

Q: alright, im not one of those overweight/underweight girls wanting attention or needing "emergency" help with their weight. but i have been wondering this question for a bit. when you say this weight is "average" for this height... are you saying most common kids for this age are this weight, or this is the weight you SHOULD be... in simpler words: are you basing average weight as the weight most common and good, or the weight that is considered average by professionals? i mean, the US has a large percentage of overweight children these days, and if you base it on average weight of all gendered children, wouldnt that make the scale a little off? sorry this is long- just want to know what everyone is basing their advice on! thank you and goodnight.

There are charts that show the average weights that are considered healthy based on height and age.

Q: i know this boy and we dated for 8 months 2 years ago then we didnt talk for 2 years and then we started talking and we botrh started liking each other and like i moved to vegas from ga and im goioing bak in about 10 montha and we decieded to have sex then we got in a huge fighta nd he still thinks i will have sex with him whne i come bak what sohuld i do i really do love him im not sure if he loves me

If you are not sure how he feels about you, you shouldn't have sex with him. Having sex with someone who doesn't love you, is just setting yourself up to be hurt.

Q: i have 3 brothers and my dad...(my mom too but she isnt the prob.) well anyway..they ALWAYS piss on the seat..sometimes its a lot and i HATE that! im always the one to have to spray disinfectant and wipe it off. One time i was dumb enough not to look before i sat down..and i sat in piss! how sick is that..o man. i tried telling them how mad i am about that..i even tried leaving the seat up so they have more space to aim..but its not working. Should i try all this again only more seriously this time? Please help..i just wanna be able to feel that my own bathroom is clean..im so grossed out!

any help is great thank u so much!!!!!!

I used to live with 3 adult men and 1 teenage boy, and I had the same problem. No matter what I tried nothing worked, so I just kept a pack of disinfectant wipes right next to the toilet paper, and wiped the seat before I sat down.

Some guys just have bad aim, and unfortunately there's nothing we can do about it.

Q: I think I like one of my closest friends and I think she just might like me back. But it's tough because I don't really want to say anything me being a girl myself... Should I tell her how I feel and risk our friendship or just ignore it?

I don't think you should say anything to her just yet. First, you should try to figure out how she feels for sure.

Q: ok.. one of my best friends uncle died last nite we were all really close with him but they were like really close n shes talkin about killing herself wut do i say to her to help her try n stop trying to kill herself? help i rate high

The best thing I can think of to tell her is that her uncle wouldn't want her to die. That he would want her to go on living and enjoy life, even though he's gone. And if she can't do it for herself, then she should do it for him.

Q: im a 7th grader and i would like to know if it ok to date a 6th grader i mean hes cute and i talk to him but i dont want people to be all like mean and like talk about it the rest of my life. by the way im a girl....

It's perfectly fine for you to date a younger guy. If you like him and he likes you, it shouldn't matter what others think.

Q: Wellllll.......I have a boyfriend, and I love him with ALLLLLLLLL my heart, and trust me, I do...I'm not just some girl saying 'i love you' and not meaning it, he's everything to me. But...I'm 15, and I have never had a serious relationship until now...I'm the type of girl who goes out and does spontaneous stuff.....well ok a few weeks ago I started feeling REALLY tied down. It got to be the end of summer ya know and I just wanted to be FREEEE....and i ended up telling him i wanted to go on a break...while we were 'on a break' i kissed another guy. well that's what made me realize how much he REALLY meant to me, and the next day i talked to him and told him how much i really loved him and everything....but i left the part about kissing another guy out. i have a guilty conscious about it, and i really want to tell him, but at the same time i have this feeling it would only break us up.... n that's the LAST thing i want.... even if it didn't break us up he would totally lose my trust for obvious reasons, but we go to different schools and that's one of the things we HAVE to have....I dono what to do......there's no way he could find out but i dono if i should tell him or not...I know everyone would say 'just tell him it's better' and all that...but put urself in my position and think about what u'd really do, cuz it's a lot harder then to just tell him because it's the right thing to do...thanks in advance!

I don't think you should tell him, and you have no reason to feel guilt. The kiss happened while you weren't technically together, so you weren't cheating on him. As long as you are not seeing the other guy then everything is okay. Look at it this way, if you hadn't kissed the other guy then you wouldn't have realized how much your boyfriend means to you.

If you feel like you absolutely must tell him, make sure it doesn't sound like a confession, because you didn't do anything wrong. Just say something like, "Remember when I said I needed to take a break, well I kissed this guy, but it felt so wrong. And I knew that I didn't want to be with anyone but you."

He'll probably still be pissed, but at least he'll know that you chose him.

(Sorry so long, but I hope I helped.)

Q: Last question today i swear ..
Well whenever my best friend is around her boyfriend she id relly mean to me and starts like changing what do i do?

Maybe your friend thinks you are being a third wheel, and just wants to alone with her boyfriend. But if she were a true friend, she would just be honest with you instead of treating you badly. I think you should talk to her and tell her how you feel.

Q: I like this guy Brian, and he likes me back. He doesn't want to ask me out though because he thinks asking people out is dumb because then they never really do anything. I can see where he is coming from but I mean com'on! Well my friend was talking to him and she was agreeing with him on everything about hot you never go out and you stop talking, and I mean i guess it's kinda true. But I really want him to ask me out! So it's kind of like she is working against me. Then after she said I should be thankful for her even sending me the conversation, which was totally useless because all it did was make me upset. What should I say to her to make her realize how I'm feeling? By the way I'm in 7th grade.

You should tell your friend exactly how you feel, but before you do that you should try to figure out why she did what she did. I mean, maybe she's jealous. And hey, why wait for him to ask you out? Why don't you ask him out? What's the worse that could happen? If he says no, at least you'll know how he feels.

Q: i was out with my ex boyfriend last night. we still hang out and all that crap. basically, we still act as if we are still girlfriend and boyfriend. well, while we were having dinner, i said to him, "im a good girlfriend, youre just to dumb to realize that you should be with me." i watched his reaction, which he didnt really have one, and a couple seconds later he replied "its better that were just friends.." he seemed sort of unhappy when he said that. well, after that being said, the rest of the night, he was holding me, laughing, all the good stuff.. and he tells me that he loves me. he bought me a painting to have it say [his name] loves [my name]. so right now, im feeling sort of confused. he always tells me that he loves and that were going to get back together when he gets his head together.. but then, he says that whole thing with us being "friends." how should i feel right now?
btw.. im very much in love with him, and so he says that he is with me. we are both 18

I think it's obvious that he has feelings for you, but I think he's a bit overwhelmed by how strong those feelings are. So it's easier for him to deal with it if ya'll are "just friends". He just needs a little time to come to terms with his feelings. Just be patient with him and everything will work out.

Hope I've helped and please feel free to drop any other questions into my inbox.

Q: I'm sbout 5'2" and weigh about 90lbs (I have a REALLY fast metabolism). Is it possible to gain any weight on my arms without getting any on my stomach? That's where all my gained weight goes. Could I be able to beef up my arms a bit?

Use weights to build up the muscle in your arms.

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I can give advice to anyone of any age, because I'm still young enough to be able to relate to the problems that teens face, but I'm not so young that I haven't had to deal with adult issues. So if you have any questions, just drop them in my inbox, and I'll answer them as soon as I can.