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Im young, so I haven't experienced everything yet, but I'll try to help.
I am 18 years old, studying A levels in sixth form. I've watched all the dramas of school and family life happen around me though.

People say I think sideways... so if you don't mind that ask away.

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i no longer want to live life but have a beautiful family i love. also court in a couple months people trying to stand over me n my fmily have people coming too my house trying to kick the door down have ran out of anyone i could call a friend as they all owe me money court most likely lookin at a jail term am thinkin i would be doin myself and others a favor byjus calling it a day n necking my self there are so many different fucked up situations going on jus cant deal with it!!! wat do i do? jus call it a day to have fucked up rollercoaster ride leading nowhere good for me or my family but minus me my family would be free of alot of these issues.

"Every Black cloud has a silver lining"
Ever heard that expression?
Also: KBO! Stands for "Keep Buggaring On!"
Loads of people in the world right now are going through a similar experience. They too are sucidal. But the best you can do to fix your situation is dont give up. If you have a family you love, that probably means they love you too! And truuust me, if you kill yourself, you WILL be leaving them your problems AND the grief. Could you really do that to them?! They will not be happy, they will NOT be free of issues.

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15/f

Hey everybody, I've been doing some thinking and self-exploring and I think I'd like to embrace the hippie style. I don't necessarily mean drugs, sex and tying myself to a tree, but more just promoting peace and love. Thing is, I really want to dress accordingly, not because I have to, I want to.

I need some advice on where I can find some good clothes. I know used clothes stores, but I don't live near too many, so any small brand names would be good. I don't mind if I look like some crazy chick from the 60s, I like the style, and nobody pays attention to what I wear anyway. I don't mind standing out a little. I like being different.

Also, I want to tell my mom so she can help because I'm too young to drive or get a job, but I'm kind of afraid of what she'll say. How do I tell her? Thanks a bunch :)

http://www.park-walk.co.uk/clothing-and-accessories/jackets-and-fleeces
http://www.gypsyrose.com/home.php?cat=100
The first link is from the uk btw... but its quite good stuff!
If you type in "Hippe style" Into google, it comes up with loads of clothes websites.

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Here it is in a nutshell-
I've liked this girl for a while. She's funny, selfless, pretty, etc. The one friend I confided this in is telling me that she strongly believes that she likes me back. Apparently, she is happier when I'm around, hugs me a lot, and is pissy to everybody but me. I haven't noticed any of these things, plus, as far as I know, she's straight. Now another one of my friends is saying the same thing. I just can't imagine her actually liking me back. She is way too good for me and it just would be too good to be true. I'm not pretty, I have way too much baggage, and I'm a nerd. Plus, I've heard her say that she likes a guy. I want to believe my friends but I'm really skeptical. Please help?

Sounds like she does!
This, my friend, is where the art of flirting comes in.
Drop a few hints, be playful with her. Its okay to do that in a nerdy way~ that would be considered cute :D

Make sure she "gets the message" and see how she responds.
If she goes all awkward with a horrified expression, back off, today is not your day.
BUT DONT GIVE UP
If she seems happy/interested , go for it!

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i m from india 21 years old and a big loser on earh pls painless methood of suicide

hey, heres a better idea. DONT COMMIT SUCIDIDE! Its going to be painful no matter what, maybe not for you but your family and friends!I'll bet Someone does care for you out there. Besides dont give up~ find a new hobby, a new dreaaam to follow, there are much bigger losers out there than you- trust me.

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Father m depressed bcse of My girlfriend ,,
She loves me a lot but I kw that I'm the 3rd one in her life nd M totally confused about her that what should I do,,

hello~ im sure loads of people would LOVE to answer your question but were not really sure what you mean. You say youre confused, your depressed , youre the 3rd one in her life. Thats all we know- are there any problems about WHY you think youre confused?
Try adding more info and maybe i can help :)

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Does it mean he might like me? He's criticized Megan Fox and Natalie Portman for not being good actresses, in his eyes, and shooed away one of the "popular" girls at school. I was surprised. He even indicated that he doesn't like how action movies did those typical things to appeal to guys, after I said I didn't really like most action films. Does this mean anything or am I just reading too into it? He often initiates talking to me, even though he's generally this quiet, loner-ish, guy who keeps to himself during class (we're both 17). Sometimes he seems a bit eager, like trying to catch my attention by jokes/random outbursts, or talking too much (which is funny because i'm normally an extrovert and he's normally an introvert. around him I feel more shy and anxious) and other times he's nonchalant (is that a bad sign?), but we have a lot of eye contact.. sometimes longer than normal. Idk what to think, or what to do. I feel like my liking of him has been obvious, as I pay him more attention than any other guy in that class, cause we sit right next to each other (honest coincidence), and I often smile at him and give him attention pretty often. If he didn't like me, wouldn't he be backing away from me or something? unless he's been completely oblivious? sometimes I feel like there's sexual tension between us, too, like when it's dead silent

If what you say is true, then yeah. He likes you!
You could test this out by not talking to him for a while and see if he cares or gets angry or worried. Asks "Whats wrong? Why arent you talking to me, what did i do? ect.."
Maybe even misses you!
(I know it sounds mean, but it works!!!)

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My boyfriend and I are very much in love. I feel very comfortable with him, and have no issues when it comes to my body with him. My only issue is that I cannot dance in front of him! When I go out with my friends I have no problems but whenever I go out with him I just freeze up. We're going out tomorrow night to see a DJ we both really like and I want to be able to enjoy it. How can I get over this?

20/F

Awww that is such an awesomely unusual question! dont ask why , just is!

I think you should try and get him to dance first. See if hes awful.
*Ask him to do a REALLY embarrassing dance, like the funky chicken. (cus he loves you of course)if he looks stupid, maybe you wont feel so bad either. XD
* I wouldnt usually recommend this but have a few drinks to losen up and let go!

* or just tell him the truth and see what he says? The reaction wont be bad, i promise!



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Im a classy girl having torble figureing out what to do for an up coming event to see 6th graders off to middle school and since i had only been there for about 1 mouth i want them to have somthing to remember me by sooo.....my question is can u help me come up with an idea thats not to lame but not to out of there?

Talent show? Well that obviously depends on your talent! Can you sing, dance or do magic? The easiest thing i think; You could write a poem... i know that sounds lame, but if you make it funny, or deep and epic, about change or memories of elementary school, it will go down alright. Just a suggestion :) good luck in whatever you do!

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I use to date this guy and after 4 mnths into the relationship, I found out that he cheated on his ex gf with me. I didnt know they were dating, he told me he broke up with his girlfriend a couple mnths ago when I first asked him. So no his gf and her friends dont like me a lot. Its been a year since I dated this guy, found out recently that he's back with his ex gf. I started texting his gf a weak ago and now I think Im into her or hoping to be friends with her. She thinks Im someone else, I accidently called her and that's when we started texting. I made up the details about myself when she asked about who I was. It's kind of weird that I have these feelings for her. Do you think that we can have a relationship or friendship? She's been telling me that the guy she's with isn't anything serious. I dont really know my place here or how she'll feel about me after she knows the truth.

uhm...hahah this certainly is an intresting one! It seems to be that you are bicurious, becoming a lesbian or bisexual...which, yeah okay, whatever floats your goat .

Now if you definetly want to be with this girl, are you sure she swings the same way? If she;s dating a guy, she might not be into girls! You'd be better off with a friendship- that will stop things getting more complicated. (unless you ask her casually she has ever considered a girlfriend?)

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Hi my name is Sarah. I am really clever at school but now i have just started high school and i failed one of my tests so i took 20 ttablets but it did nothing and it created more problems for me. So i am thinking of taking tablets again shoud i.

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
You dont need the tablets! You dont need to commit suicide over a TEST! Blimey! That test isnt going to destroy your life, even if it was one of the big ones, you dont need to die! Just prepare next time, and since your'e smart you'll be fine!

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Is there a way a friend can find out that you have them restricted on facebook?

If they go to your page, does something pop up saying they cant view your page or you have them restricted? What does it show when you have them restricted?

Yes, It says that you arent friends when they try to contact you.

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So , Ive known this guy for almost a year now and I liked him last summer and then I started liking him again these past couple months. We talk talked twice (once last summer and once this year in february until march, one month). He told me that he had too much on his plate and that he doesnt have time for a relationship right now. But he said he's always going to like me no matter what and I said the same thing to him. I'vve been trying to move on though but no matter how hard I try nothing works. So, what does this mean? Am I in love with him?

Well... You dont just like him, lets put it that way! Im not sure what you mean with the talking...did you say you only talked twice? do you see each other a lot? If you know him well, it could be love (aw! Go you!) but if you dont it could just be infatuation...

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Ok, so my best friend and I are REALLY close. I'm never mean to her at all.
I was in English class, when the phone rang. My teacher answered it then said I had to go to the principal's office. I thought it had something to do with my best friend, because she didn't show up to class.
Well, when I entered his office I saw my best friend sitting down and he told me to take a seat next to her. He asked me if I had any idea why I was there and I said no. He said he would give me a few seconds to think about it and I still didn't know. Well, he told me that i've been mean to my best friend. So, she told the principal that I did.
Well, she hates these 4 girls, and I do to and they hate me. I think they forced her to tell the principal lies.

Well, he told me to somehow make it up to my best friend, but I don't know how. He said she won't forgive me if I just say sorry. So, did I screw this up? Did I mess up our friendship for good? How do I make this up to her?

You should tell this story to the prinicpal, and your best friend. Tell them truthly, and explain why you dont know anything, and tell your friend you are "sorry for what ever it was i did."
But DO NOT tell the prinicpal about these girls... or at least dont Accuse them of something youre not 100% sure they did.

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This is hard to explain but I've been thinking about what to do in life and today a new idea hit me! so I often have a unique perspective of things and I realized my unusual comments about a subject from my point of view really get people thinking and really listening to what I'm saying. So my question is are there any kind of jobs where you can voice your perspective on things that others wouldnt normally think of in that way? I want to do a lot of things and I want to have a voice in the world although public speaking at this point of time is not my strong point. Thanks for reading please leave comments and thanks :)

do philosphy and ethics...if you get people to think and have a different view on things, do you do Critical Thinking at school?
You could probably be a teacher or a lecturer, or better yet, a politician!

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There's this guy that i've liked for 5 years. He makes me laugh a LOT, he stares at me like all the time, he smiles at me, and more. But lately, i've noticed something: he's been talking to certain girls right in front of me. 2 girls. But only in front of me or when i'm around. Like this one time, we were in English class, and he asked one of the girls an English question when I walked by them. Does he like me or not?

Yeah. Im no expert on this really, but talking to other girls in front of you sounds like a really cliche way to make you jealous. If you talk often, and he stares at you and smiles, then he MUST like you one way or another. Apparently, most people want the person they like to make the first move. So be brave~ ask him what he thinks of you!

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Me and my boyfriend have been together for two years but we've been fighting alot lately.. He found out I was moving in 1 month and everuthing just went down hill. I want to know what I can do to just drop the situation and be like before?? Always laughing and hugging and kissing and stuff..

Ask him why he;s angry....Are you moving far away? Because that might have made him sad! Even though you can still see each other, it might not be as often.

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22/f. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost a year. This is my first real relationship that's why i am clueless in the beginning. When i am with him i am happy. Super happy. Like things are just perfect and i dont give a damn about anything else. But when we are apart, that's when the fights and misunderstanding happens. An every single time we fought, i always cry my eyes out. At that moment i know i have never been more sad in my life before. It just heart breaking everytime we have a fight. Sometimes when we dont see each others for dayssss we started to get irritated about small stuffs, we say hurtful words but we always make up in the end. So there... I know every relationship go through tough times. I am certain he loves me as much as i do (or even more) and i feel the same way. I cannot imagine myself with anybody else in the future. During happy moments i feel like i am at the top of the world, but during the sad parts i feel like ive never been more down. Is this normal or we are headed down the wrong way? What should i do to improve our relationship?

You only fight when you're apart? In a way, isnt that good?
Cus if it were the other way around, i.e you fight when youre together and happy when youre apart, that would be a bad relationship!

The fact that you always make up is a good thing, shows that you can get over stuff together. So I dont think you should be that worried at all, just maybe both calm down and be glad to be together ~forget about the small irritable things!

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Hi, sorry I didn't know which category this belongs in, and it is extremely long.
I'm 18/f and I've had many experiences with deja vu. I'm not a "believer"; I don't believe in any religion, anything spiritual/mystical, or anything along those lines.
I always believed deja vu was something that could be explained by science and psychology, but I'm starting to think differently. This is because of an experience I had with deja vu.
Normally, I get the feeling that I've already seen/done something that is happening, but I know iT hasn't happened. You know, just that normal, creepy 'familiarity' feeling that comes with deja vu.
Normally, when I have deja vu, if I tries to think back and remember "Have I done this before?" or "Why is this familiar?", there is nothing, its all just completely new but strangely familiar.
But the last time I had deja vu, it was different. It was like I COULD remember seeing that exact situation before, but different, like I was unconscious or asleep at the time of experiencing it. It felt almost exactly the same as attempting to remember a hazy dream you had last night. It wasn't a real memory, it felt weird, like I hadn't physically done this before, yet I COULD remember seeing it.
I was shocked. I couldn't believe I remembered seeing this deja vu, and I kinda got mad at myself for not remembering it before I experienced it, like "How could I not remember seeing this happen?"

The point of this is that I'm asking you for some kind of explanation or similar experience.
What is your point of view on this and on deja vu? Can you provide any explanation, whether it be logical or spiritual? Have you ever had a weird experience with deja vu?

Don't worry about offending me, just give me your opinion, even if it is calling me crazy :P
Thanks.

opinion:For me, deja vu is when i can remember exactly when and where i dreamt this happening. Its ussally boring stuff like putting on a certain pair of socks and looking at a specific tree at the same time >too bad its not lottery numbers<
But yeah, dont worry about it so much~ its one of the many beautiful mysteries in life :)

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Im 16 years old, almost 17. I've never had a boyfriend, i've never kissed a guy, i've never been drunk, i've never done drugs, and I don't go to parties. At my age that's all my friends want to do. They get drunk/high, they go to parties, and they hook up with guys. I feel like such a loser because I have no intentions of doing any of that stuff anytime soon. I feel like I don't have anything to talk about with my friends because that's all they talk about. Like everytime i've gone to little get togethers with them everyones smoking weed or drinking, and I just stand there awkwardly. There's been times where I want to try it, but theres just something in my head that tells me not too. What would you think of someone like me? should I continue to be the way I am? are there any other teens out there like me? should I just let go and open up to new things? What does being high/drunk feel like?
do people at parties who do get messed up all the time think badly about the ones who don't? HELP!

YEAAAHHhhim a teen out there like u! Im only 15 tho, but im in the same boat. I think I got drunk once, but all I remember was having a bad headache in the morning! But seriously, dont worry about it- you will get those experiences, dont force them on yourself. And you'll probably be better off in the long run. Picture a reunion: the druggies are there, looking 10 years too old, and then theres you; happy, healthy with a really fit husband and kids.Why not? :D

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Okay, it's a long story.... I started talking to this guy about three months ago (We are both 17 by the way) He and I hit it off and he asked me to be his girlfriend, but he just wanted to hang out a few more times first before it became official. He even told me he loved me. Well, between the times we hung out, he met another girl and started dating her behind my back and lied to me about it, telling me he was too busy for a girlfriend with hockey and school and everything and that the distance between us was too much (40 minutes away) However, this other girl lives even farther away from him. Now, he did tell me maybe later on he and I could date if things didn't work out for him and this other girl. But I really don't want to wait for that to happen. And, now I have started to develop feelings for this guy's BEST friend. Would it be okay for me to date his best friend since the original guy and I were never technically dating, and he is the one who broke it off with me? What should I do??

Yeah, its okay.

...wait, bear in mind: Your ex boyfriend/orginal guy will probably be annoyed if you go out with his best friend so be prepared for some agro.

HOWEVER: If you like this best friend, and he likes you back, whats stopping you? Go for it!
Forget your ex boyfriend/orginal guy! If he ever asks, just mention the other girl, that'll shut him up!
:)

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