Hello Everyone. I am Kaci. I am 18. I may be young, but I can give some good advice. If you ever need anything at all, do not heistate to ask. I'll help the best I can.
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Im not sure with him..but me only till the 3rd. He doesnt know that,though. And he still hasnt texted me back (link)
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Well, when did you have sex with your ex??
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19/f
my good friend suggested an online dating site for me and I found this guy who I'm really interested in. We've been texting back and forth for a long time now and we sent pictures and I really like him :) he asked me to hang out this weekend and I said yes. I am comfortable meeting with him, even though I've never met him before. I realize the consequences. Thats not my problem. My problem is that I have my period, and what if we get intimate? I don't want to stop and tell him I have my period because I feel like that's weird and awkward. but i don't want to make up an excuse like "oh its too soon to get intimate" because honestly I'm fine with it. (don't judge). I don't want to cancel on him either. So what should I do about this dilemma?
thanks :) (link)
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I know you said not to judge, and its not my place to judge. But you are asking for advice.
Personally, I wouldn't have sex with him. This is your first time meeting him. He could be different than what he said he was when you meet up with him. I'm sure you have thought about that as well. But what I'm trying to get at, is guys love a chase! Once a guy gets a girls "goods" he find the chase quite boring, and moves on to the next girl.
I say, be a tease. Be something thats going to want him to keep coming back too. Make him wonder. Leave him on his toes. Build a phsycial bond first without the sexual content.
But more than likely you will do what you want. Being 19 as well as you are, we feel like since we are adults by the law, we can handle decisions on our own; therefore, you will do what you please.
So if you insist on sleeping with this loverr boyy, the only thing you can do is tell him straight up before you guys meet that you on your period, and your bummed, because if things were to get hot and heavy you'd really want to take that opportunity and do it. Most men don't mind having sex with a female while she's on her period.
If your worried about your blood flow being to heavy, and bleeding every where, starting out in a pool, hot tub, or even a shower can calm the blood flow down. I'm not saying, sex in the shower, start out in the shower, kissing, body touching, maybe a little hand job, blow job, him playing with your goods; ect
That will get the mood between you too just right; and than you guys can proceed to the bed, and the blood won't be so bad. Once you guys start to "Do it" the moisture of your discharge, cum, ect will also calm the blood flow.
So to sum this up, just ask him if he's ever had sex with a girl on her period, if he likes/don't like it, ect.
I'm sure he'll be fine with it!
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He got home today. I get home tomorrow. (link)
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Kaci Binkley.
My Email is Littledeshae92@aol.com.
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Why isn't there a REAL inbox in this site?! :p
I like your way of thinking, this is probably what I should be doing to know exactly where I stand, but I don't know if now is the correct timing...
I mean, we didn't talk since monday and probably won't until I'll make a (contact) move...I was thinking calling her Sunday (yeah, I'm thinking about it too much!!) just for a normal chat, but I don't know if I should come up with this now or wait...On the one hand, if I'll come up with this now and she says she just wants to be friends, I think I rather end this so as you said "both of us will be happy", but if I'll wait and will come up with this later on, I'm afraid it might seem like all this time my intentions were being with her as a boyfriend and not as a friend...Plus her boss is leaving where I work in one month so I'll probably meet her when she comes to say goodbye, maybe I should wait till then?...I don't know...
Thanks again for all your help, your advices are truly helpful! :) (link)
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You are so welcome! I love helping people. I have this one girl that I have been helping for 2 months now. I like to called her one of my "regulars" lol. So I don't mind it. You just keep coming until you feel comfortable taking matters into your own hands! (:
You know, I asked myself the same thing. Its such a hassel having to put a category and a title and such!
You know, you know this girl better than I do. If you feel like right now isn't the right timing, than don't second guess it! Sometimes you have to forget about what other people say, and actually go with your gut instinct.
I absolutely understand exactly where you are coming from about the statement:
"I'm afraid it might seem like all this time my intentions were being with her as a boyfriend and not as a friend"
You don't want it to seem like you are only contacting her to be with her; you need a friendship built first before you can considering taking it to the next level.
I think you should contact her before Sunday. How about tomorrow (Friday-->I know you know tomorrow is friday, but I'm not sure when you will recieve this; so it could be Saturday, lol)
I'd call her, see how things are going, see how she is, and ask her if she wants to go and hang out soon.
Hanging out with her will actually allow you to understand her a little better with what exactly she wants from you. She will show it, and let things 'slip'; you just have to be ready to read it. Than after you guys hang out, come back on here, and tell me everything that happened.
While you guys are hanging out, DO NOT mention how you feel about her, unless she starts it first. If she askes you, than answer it, but don't bring it up first. You want it to be a casual hanging out for FRIENDS.
You don't want her to feel like you set her up, ya know?
Try the hanging out thing, and see how that goes. If she doesn't want to hang out, ask her why. If he reason is pathetic, than I'd tell her then. She obviously isn't working to keep the friendship up, so why should you? Some people try, and some people just could careless; figure out what type she is, so you won't be more attached and hurt in the longrun.
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So yesterday I was feeling really bad that he hadnt texted me or contacted meabout hanging out over winter break so I texted him and said goodluck on allof your exams. And he didn't respond :( I'm starting to believe he is mad at me or just moved on or something. I mean if he wanted to hamg out over break than he would respond to my text messages right?
This absolutely kills me because I know that I'm in love with him still and really wanted to see if he felt the same. I mean a month ago he was telling me he hadn't found anyone else and that he missed me.what could have possibly changed in that small amount of time? I really don't want to seem desperate so I'm not gona text him ever again.i mean if he wanted me he'd make an effort right? Especially when we are home.I'm so confused on the right thing to do cause I really do love him and want to be with him but there is so much in our way that we both have to be fully committed in order to have a functioning relationship. So I've showed him I like talking to him and now I have to wait and see if he makes an effort? I'm just so scared he won't and ill go into a worse depression.
I feel like so empty and like I'm never gonna find someone I love as much as him.this is going to sound vain but on top of the way we click and enjoyed each others company..i was really attracted to how he looked too. I mean plenty of guy friends tell me that they are interested in me but without those two things I just don't want to date them. I really feel like I'm going to be alone forever because I am too picky and I can't move on from this.
But then I start thinking of maybe hes really moved on and this love I think I felt is romanticized in my head..i mean everyone who loves me always asks why I missed him so much and he didn't treat me like he should.
I'm so scared to say anything else to him cause if he has moved on then I'm way too stubborn to admit that I haven't.
This is more of a rant but any advice would be amazing! I've been crying since yesterday :( (link)
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Here, before I get started,
Have you guys had winter break yet??
Than as soon as you let me know that, I'll give you as much advice as I can!
Take care!
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You just answered my question about me and my boyfriend going farther . so I have another question .
How am I suppos to give him and handjob ? Like standing , sitting .. Or what ? I'm so confused haha >:| (link)
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Sitting down, for sure. You need to be just as comfortable as he is. Your the one doing all the work while he is enjoying it.
It's best to sit beside him; you're going to notice your hand starting to cramp up, so just start to use the other hand. Once again, make sure you get it moisturized. If you don't it'll feel like a rug burn for him.
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Hi . My boyfriend and I have been talking lately about going farther . Like him fingering me and I giving him a handjob . We both haven't done anything yet , before .I need some advise on what position I should be when he fingers me and all that . Could someone please help me ? (link)
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Once again, here is your advice.
To me, the best position is laying down, or sitting on his lap. If you want "easy" access for him to finger you without taking your pants off, Jeans are pretty difficult to squeeze in, to get to 'that' spot. Girls typically wear their jeans a little tighter, so thats why its difficult. Skirts, shorts (blue jean, softee shorts, and type of shorts that are lose around the thighs) and even sweat pants work great. If you begin to get comfortable with taking your pants off, than wear some cute panties, and he can finger you without taking those off; that way would be your best bet.
And I know you didn't ask about the whole hand job thing, but I noticed how you said that you guys were new to it,
a tip for a hand job, make sure you keep it wet and moist. If you do it and its dry for a little bit, it'll begin to feel uncomfortable. So spit on it or on your hands. Nasty I know, but he'll love it!
Good Luck,
need anything else, I'm here!
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My boyfriend and I have been thinking lately about going farther . Him fingering me and I giving him a handjob . We both are pretty shy about this . But have a really good relationship . We are both also new to doing this . I need some advise about getting fingered ? What position ? I don't really wanna take my pants off , could he just put his hand down my pants or what ? (link)
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You have asked this question THREE times. I'm sorry if my advice wasn't what you was looking for, but repeating the same advice over and over will only irriate other advicenators, and make them not want to answer it.
Here is what I said to you, once more.
To me, the best position is laying down, or sitting on his lap. If you want "easy" access for him to finger you without taking your pants off, Jeans are pretty difficult to squeeze in, to get to 'that' spot. Girls typically wear their jeans a little tighter, so thats why its difficult. Skirts, shorts (blue jean, softee shorts, and type of shorts that are lose around the thighs) and even sweat pants work great. If you begin to get comfortable with taking your pants off, than wear some cute panties, and he can finger you without taking those off; that way would be your best bet.
And I know you didn't ask about the whole hand job thing, but I noticed how you said that you guys were new to it,
a tip for a hand job, make sure you keep it wet and moist. If you do it and its dry for a little bit, it'll begin to feel uncomfortable. So spit on it or on your hands. Nasty I know, but he'll love it!
Good Luck,
need anything else, I'm here!
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me and my bf text or vidchat 24/7. its long distance and weve been dating for almost a year and a half. sometimes, like lately, he just gets on my nerves and does/says little things that peeve me. of course we love each other buy is it reasonable to experience this? should we cut down on talking or does this mean my relationship is failing (link)
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Girl, your relationship isn't falling. Shockingly, this is perfectly normal. After 5-7 months of being with someone, you begin to exit the "Honey Moon Stage"; you've been with this guy for a year and a half- this behavior is very much normal.
I live with my boyfriend(not by choice; but because he had nowhere to go); we've been together for a year and I experience this alot. I get so annoyed with everything he does, and everything he says just makes me wanna explode! I felt like you did, I thought it meant I was losing feelings for him, but it just meant that I was tired of not having my own personal space. Unlike you, I can't cut down talking to him; because I see him every single day, of every single moment.
But you, luckily, you can cut off some contact with him. Just make sure when you do it, he understand completely why you are doing it. You don't want him to think your taking a "break" from him, losing feelings for him, or don't want to be with him. Let him know that you enjoy talking to him, but you wanna go a couple of days without talking to make yourself miss him like you use to when you guys first started dating.
Good Luck girl! It'll all get easier in time! I promise!
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I need help deciding on what to get my boyfriend for christmas he is 21 years old and iam 22 years old if that helps any.we have been dating since 9th grade on and off if that helps any.
any suggestions are appreciated. (link)
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I'm in the same boat your in!
Here is what I came up with for my boyfriend, and you can see if any of these relates to your man, since you know him best!
A hat?
shoes?
jeans?
shirts?
cologne?
a shaving kit?
toothbrush/toothpaste/mouthwash?
A chain?
A promise ring?
boxers?
socks?
I made a couple of things too; like some homemade coupons;
for example: Free 10, 15, & 20 minute massage for his back, shoulders, and feet whenever he desires.
A hot cooked meal;
Sexual things; ( blowjob, hand job, four play, teasing session, sex, sex in the shower, ect)
A full day of being pampered by his girlfriend;
And I even got him a little package that I made for a date night; it includes our favorite actitivty outside of the house, his favorite restruant, and a gas card. *all those are gift cards* that way we can go out on a date for basically FREE. (:
Figure out what he really loves, and go with it. After being with someone that long, I'm sure its hard to remember how in love you guys use to be; so a nice, long love letter would probably help him remember. I know kind of childish, but guys never get old of them!
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My boyfriend and I have been thinking lately about going farther . Him fingering me and I giving him a handjob . We both are pretty shy about this . But have a really good relationship . We are both also new to doing this . I need some advise about getting fingered ? What position ? I don't really wanna take my pants off , could he just put his hand down my pants or what ? (link)
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To me, the best position is laying down, or sitting on his lap. If you want "easy" access for him to finger you without taking your pants off, Jeans are pretty difficult to squeeze in, to get to 'that' spot. Girls typically wear their jeans a little tighter, so thats why its difficult. Skirts, shorts (blue jean, softee shorts, and type of shorts that are lose around the thighs) and even sweat pants work great. If you begin to get comfortable with taking your pants off, than wear some cute panties, and he can finger you without taking those off; that way would be your best bet.
And I know you didn't ask about the whole hand job thing, but I noticed how you said that you guys were new to it,
a tip for a hand job, make sure you keep it wet and moist. If you do it and its dry for a little bit, it'll begin to feel uncomfortable. So spit on it or on your hands. Nasty I know, but he'll love it!
Good Luck,
need anything else, I'm here!
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First of all, thanks alot! :)
As you can probably already tell, I'm still very confused...Monday was the last time I saw her when we met together with some friends from work, and I guess now is where things are gonna get more complicated - I guess I won't be seeing her for a long time now (if at all), and I really don't know what to do - should I wait for her to contact me (we haven't spoke since then)? and if she doesn't, should I contact her?(and if I should, how much time should I wait?)
I really don't know if I should let go, I spoke with her friend from work again and she said that she thinks I shouldn't wait for her because its impossible to know how much time its gonna take for her to get over the breakup, but she doesn't REALLY know all that I know, with all of her weird behavior around me, and she suggests that it was just a friendly behavior and not a flirty one...
Well, bottom line is, I still can't make a decision whether I should keep trying, or just let it go...I guess if you answer these questions I could bring me closer to a decision :) (link)
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Hm,
Well, I think you need to contact this girl and be straight up with her, ask her
"I know you aren't ready for a relationship, but if you were ready could you see yourself with me, or do you only see me as a friend?"
Because technically, you don't even know how she truly sees you. You only know that she doesn't want a boyfriend right now; but even that doesn't answer how she looks at you. Regardless if she isn't ready for a relationship, girls can know if they can see someone "like" that. So your best bet is to ask her. Because like that girl said from your work, NO ONE knows what that girl is thinking, or wanting.
When she answers that, make sure she doesn't give you an answer that could lean between both a friend or a boyfriend. Make sure its very clear. If she has difficulty answering the question be like,
"I don't want it to seem like I'm pushing you because I'm not. I just want to know if I should continue waiting for you, because I don't wanna wait for something that you know will never happen between us"
See what she has to say. If she still continues to have a hard time answering it, tell her your going to give her a couple of days to think about it, and than she really should give you an answer. If you notice that she's starting to get annoyed by this, or angry, tell her
"Look I respected your decision about not wanting a relationship, so can you please respect me, and give me a straight up answer. If you know we are guna be together when your ready than I'll wait; but if you know, or you aren't sure if we will ever be together, than I want to let you go, so we both can be happy."
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So basically my friend and I are like...bff. On day she texted me saying "I think we should spend some time as not best friends". I felt extremely mad and discouraged, but I knew I should keep cool. I answered saying "tell me why you are mad, and I will try to fix it". She said that there is no way of fixing it and that she doesn't want to forgive me. The text messages have been going on for about a month now, and when we see each other in person at school we she completely ignores me. I really miss my friend. How can I get her back? (link)
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Well it would kind of help to know what you did to hurt her, or make her mad.
So if you don't mind sharing, just send me a message to my inbox and I'll help you out!
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Hi!
I recently got a 1.9 out of 5 (final grade) on a test and i need to get it signed. HOw do i approach my mom and tell her about it? I'm super scared because it's my first failed quiz of the year. Help! (link)
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Just be like,
"I have something I need you to sign, and I know your going to be disappointed, and I'm sorry. I really thought I did better than this."
I mean, she can be mad, but theres really nothing she can do about it now. It's already done. The only thing you can do, is try harder next time. Or ask your teacher if you can do something for extra credit, so it won't affect your grade that bad. And if you think your teacher will allow you to do extra credit, than add to the statement above,
"..I even asked my teacher if I could do some extra credit, to help out this grade."
To show you realized you did poorly, and your going to do what you can to fix it!
Good Luck!
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okay, right now i'm going thru finance problems and i am tierd of being broke and my mother is rallying on me to give her some money for the holiday (she wants to throw a party) so i need money like yesterday. i ran into an oldd high school friend at my part time job he is very interested in me. he has three cars, two jobs and makes a lot of money. he gave me an ultimatum of being with him and all my finance problems will go away plus an apartment and a car but the problem is i'm not attracted to him so I told him no but now i'm thinking about it because it would mean the world to me if i could get my mother some money for her to do what she has to do for the holiday. so what do you think should i go with this chance or just let it pass me by? (link)
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You know, no matter what your situation is, you should never use anyone for anything. How would you feel if you really liked someone, and turned out they were only using you for what you had?
It doesn't matter what items he has, or how much money. If you don't like him, you don't like him. Plain and Simple. Don't use him for what he has. That isn't fair to him. Regardless if he insists. If you want money, than you do what he does, and work for it! Not everything is handed down to people. Get a job, maybe two, or maybe three. Do what you have to do to get extra cash. Leave this poor man out of this;
You should pass it by. If you don't, your going to have the reputation of being a gold digger.
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Do boys like it when they want to finger you, but you have a hairy vagina? (link)
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It just really depends on the guy.
If you are curious of what you need to do before a guy pleases you. Simply ask him. All guys are different.
Just bring it up casually and straight up, "Do you like it better when a girl shaves or doesn't shave?"
and see what he says. To me, I shave; sometimes I'll go a month or so without doin it, because I'll get really bad razor bumps and what not, and plus me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a few months, so I don't really make it a first priority. If he wants it that bad, he can deal with it, lol.
But like I said, ask the guy! That way you'll know what it is that he likess!
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it was months ago now but ive just realised that ove done something intentionally. i had a party and told my friend a month before but she said she didnt know if she wanted to come. on the day my mum told me to invite her again but i decided i would wait til 7:10 to invite her so she might not bother coming, when the party started at half past. she was looking after her nan as her grandad had died four months ago and when i did ring her it was at 8, later than i thought and her mum got upset and they dont want anything to do with me this guilt is taking over me, she said she wants nothing to do with me but diesnt know i did it intentionally as ive just realised myself, shes haapy now, should i confess or leave her carry on with her life, it was 5 mnths ago? (link)
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You've already posted this question twice already; and from what I've seen you didn't get anyone to help you.
So I'll try.
Let her carry on with her life. It will not do any good. This girl is thinking that you did it by accident, and yet still doesn't want anything to do with you. If she finds out that you did it on purpose, it won't change anything; it'll only make it worse. It's been 5 months, you feeling guilty is normal. Why you would do this to a friend, I dont know. But in my book, you aren't a good friend. I'd get over it, because nothing you can say or do will change it.
Your only human, and you make mistakes. Learn from it, and don't repeat this with future friends.
If you feel like you need to say something to this chick, than atleast apologise. I'm sure if you called her, she would probably just hang up, but can you blame her?
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I think im pregnant with a person that ive been seeing for a year. He has been married to someone else for 11 1/2 out of 12 months.. Does he have the right to know or can I just not tell him and get rid of it? (link)
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I don't think you should get rid of it.
Its not far to the baby, that your going to abort it. Your the one that had sex with a married man, and got pregnant, you shouldn't harm an innocent life because of your careless mistake.
If anything, you said that they haven't even been married a year. I think you should tell him. The marriage isn't long, therefore anything can happen. You never know, he may want to be with you and raise this child with you. You'll only know if you try. Now, it would be a little different if he has been married for years, and had 2-3 kids with his wife, but that isn't the case here.
I really hope it all works out!
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i have been liking this guy (we can call him R) all throughout my high school career. at first, i thought he was the most annoying person in the world but we were friends sort of. then second semester of freshman year i started to have feelings for him but i couldn't do anything about them because i had a boyfriend. but then my boyfriend and i broke up (he cheated) then some time later word got out that i liked R and R told somebody else that he didn't feel the same way and that person told me. Then for a few months, R started to avoid me and didn't talk to me but then resumed talking to me in march of some time. so then I decided to get over R because he was too conceited and then began liking him again the beginning of my sophomore year. once again word got out that i liked him and he had the same response. but this time, he avoided me for an entire year but for some reason i couldn't stop liking him. (just so you know, both of those years i had been planning to tell him but i wanted to build my confidence to talk to him first. then become his good friend, then tell him.) the summer before junior year, i was gonna ask him to this dance but he got a girlfriend right before school started and i didn't like him. he always seemed to have trouble with his girlfriend. like he would write statuses about it on facebook and come to school all upset and i felt bad about it even though i was trying to not like him. then 2 months after he and his girlfriend broke up for the last time, he told me he wanted my number and he put his own number in my phone. i have been claiming to not like him ever since he got a girlfriend but i honestly don't know how i feel. now in my senior year, he's starting to joke around with me and laugh at my jokes and argue with me as well. i've been telling my friends that i am over him but i get jealous when he flirts with other girls. i can't tell my friends because i feel like they are tired of hearing it so i'm telling you guys. i'm tired of lying to myself and i want to either tell him how i feel or get over him. what should i do? if you say i should get over him, how would i get over a guy? (link)
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Well, its a repeated pattern. Apparently the way you feel for him, scares him away. Thats why he continues to have nothing to do with you when he hears about how you feel for him. So chances are, he doesn't like you; and he is going to continue to ignore you and such if you were to tell him how you feel. What I don't understand is, why he does this? Why can't his just accept the fact that you like him, and be a man about it and resume being just friends; instead of ignoring you for a period of time, and than being your friend after a couple of month, to a year?
You need to get over this boy. You've wasted enough time on him. Getting over someone isn't easy, especially when you've been crushing for that long. You juat have to believe that its time to get over him; and that the feelings you have for him aren't goin anywhere and you can actually use those feelings toward someone who really likes, and cares about you. You have to realize that its never going to happen between you too. Thinking this way, should make 'the getting over him' process a little bit easier. Try talking to other guys, and see how that goes.
Thats really all you can do for getting over someone, except for keeping yourself busy! I know it sucks to not be able to talk to your friends because they seem to get sick of hearing it every day; but your right, thats what we are for!
If you need anything else, please don't heistate to inbox me!
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I got my nose pierced in early september. I've changed my ring a few times and I noticed that every time I change it, my nose bleeds... a lot. My other friends have their nose pierced and they said it never bleeds when they change it, and they just got theirs done at the same time as me..
Also, theres like a clump of skin right next to the piercing and under that clump of skin theres dried blood.. it just looks kinda weird. What should I do about this? Go to a doctor? go to a piercing place and have them look at it? Should i try cleaning it with salt solution? (link)
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If the skin/blood thing your talking about looks kind of like a pimple, thats normal. It's just part of the healing process. Your nose was probably NOT ready to be changed; everyone has a different healing time. I've had my nose pierced since I was 14 and I'm 19 now. I've never had the bleeding problem before, or the whole skin and blood thing either. From what I researched over the internet, it's probably infected. You can't switch out an earring used for piercing with a total fake one. You may have to either pop the skin bubble, and give it a couple of weeks of healing, and stop changing the nose ring during that time. I learned it was best to use saline solution for cuts and bruises; that works really well and calms the bleeding (i have a triple helix) so thats what I used.
If things don't get better within a nother 2 weeks, I'd either take it out, or go to the piercing place and ask them. Doctors can't do much about it, considering its a piercing and not a body problem.
Good Luck!
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