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Why isn't there a REAL inbox in this site?! :p
I like your way of thinking, this is probably what I should be doing to know exactly where I stand, but I don't know if now is the correct timing...
I mean, we didn't talk since monday and probably won't until I'll make a (contact) move...I was thinking calling her Sunday (yeah, I'm thinking about it too much!!) just for a normal chat, but I don't know if I should come up with this now or wait...On the one hand, if I'll come up with this now and she says she just wants to be friends, I think I rather end this so as you said "both of us will be happy", but if I'll wait and will come up with this later on, I'm afraid it might seem like all this time my intentions were being with her as a boyfriend and not as a friend...Plus her boss is leaving where I work in one month so I'll probably meet her when she comes to say goodbye, maybe I should wait till then?...I don't know...
Thanks again for all your help, your advices are truly helpful! :)
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You are so welcome! I love helping people. I have this one girl that I have been helping for 2 months now. I like to called her one of my "regulars" lol. So I don't mind it. You just keep coming until you feel comfortable taking matters into your own hands! (:
You know, I asked myself the same thing. Its such a hassel having to put a category and a title and such!
You know, you know this girl better than I do. If you feel like right now isn't the right timing, than don't second guess it! Sometimes you have to forget about what other people say, and actually go with your gut instinct.
I absolutely understand exactly where you are coming from about the statement:
"I'm afraid it might seem like all this time my intentions were being with her as a boyfriend and not as a friend"
You don't want it to seem like you are only contacting her to be with her; you need a friendship built first before you can considering taking it to the next level.
I think you should contact her before Sunday. How about tomorrow (Friday-->I know you know tomorrow is friday, but I'm not sure when you will recieve this; so it could be Saturday, lol)
I'd call her, see how things are going, see how she is, and ask her if she wants to go and hang out soon.
Hanging out with her will actually allow you to understand her a little better with what exactly she wants from you. She will show it, and let things 'slip'; you just have to be ready to read it. Than after you guys hang out, come back on here, and tell me everything that happened.
While you guys are hanging out, DO NOT mention how you feel about her, unless she starts it first. If she askes you, than answer it, but don't bring it up first. You want it to be a casual hanging out for FRIENDS.
You don't want her to feel like you set her up, ya know?
Try the hanging out thing, and see how that goes. If she doesn't want to hang out, ask her why. If he reason is pathetic, than I'd tell her then. She obviously isn't working to keep the friendship up, so why should you? Some people try, and some people just could careless; figure out what type she is, so you won't be more attached and hurt in the longrun.
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