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Me again :)
First of all, thanks alot! :)
As you can probably already tell, I'm still very confused...Monday was the last time I saw her when we met together with some friends from work, and I guess now is where things are gonna get more complicated - I guess I won't be seeing her for a long time now (if at all), and I really don't know what to do - should I wait for her to contact me (we haven't spoke since then)? and if she doesn't, should I contact her?(and if I should, how much time should I wait?)
I really don't know if I should let go, I spoke with her friend from work again and she said that she thinks I shouldn't wait for her because its impossible to know how much time its gonna take for her to get over the breakup, but she doesn't REALLY know all that I know, with all of her weird behavior around me, and she suggests that it was just a friendly behavior and not a flirty one...
Well, bottom line is, I still can't make a decision whether I should keep trying, or just let it go...I guess if you answer these questions I could bring me closer to a decision :)
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Hm,
Well, I think you need to contact this girl and be straight up with her, ask her
"I know you aren't ready for a relationship, but if you were ready could you see yourself with me, or do you only see me as a friend?"
Because technically, you don't even know how she truly sees you. You only know that she doesn't want a boyfriend right now; but even that doesn't answer how she looks at you. Regardless if she isn't ready for a relationship, girls can know if they can see someone "like" that. So your best bet is to ask her. Because like that girl said from your work, NO ONE knows what that girl is thinking, or wanting.
When she answers that, make sure she doesn't give you an answer that could lean between both a friend or a boyfriend. Make sure its very clear. If she has difficulty answering the question be like,
"I don't want it to seem like I'm pushing you because I'm not. I just want to know if I should continue waiting for you, because I don't wanna wait for something that you know will never happen between us"
See what she has to say. If she still continues to have a hard time answering it, tell her your going to give her a couple of days to think about it, and than she really should give you an answer. If you notice that she's starting to get annoyed by this, or angry, tell her
"Look I respected your decision about not wanting a relationship, so can you please respect me, and give me a straight up answer. If you know we are guna be together when your ready than I'll wait; but if you know, or you aren't sure if we will ever be together, than I want to let you go, so we both can be happy."
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