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meeting him for the first time
19/f
my good friend suggested an online dating site for me and I found this guy who I'm really interested in. We've been texting back and forth for a long time now and we sent pictures and I really like him :) he asked me to hang out this weekend and I said yes. I am comfortable meeting with him, even though I've never met him before. I realize the consequences. Thats not my problem. My problem is that I have my period, and what if we get intimate? I don't want to stop and tell him I have my period because I feel like that's weird and awkward. but i don't want to make up an excuse like "oh its too soon to get intimate" because honestly I'm fine with it. (don't judge). I don't want to cancel on him either. So what should I do about this dilemma?
thanks :)
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The truth is you don't know much about him at all aside from pictures and words in e-mails and text. You're right he's probably a good guy but could also be pretty scary.
Meeting someone should be okay but you have to be super-cautious no matter who you think he is. I'm sure you know this but I re-iterate it for anyone else reading in the same boat.
I think you need to meet in a bookstore, library or coffee house or public place that is well-lit and heavily frequented. It would be good if you had another friend preferably a male around that can call you once you sit down and have a signal for cutting things if you're in a bad situation.
I'm not judging you but asking that you be smart and really use your head and keep it about you here. Who you sleep with is your business and nobody would dispute it but I don't think sleeping with someone you just met and don't know well from the Internet is a good idea. I would get to know him as a serious boyfriend and then go down that road. I'm saying this so you regret nothing later and be safe.
As for the female issue there's not much you can tactfully say except that you don't feel good physically, don't have protection, not a good time of month or want to wait. Nothing wrong with waiting and not your fault if that disappoints him. It may be less awkward for both parties.
Just deal with meeting him first and staying 100% safe first as thinking it will turn into something sexual automatic may not happen. You could even hate him or he could be a sicko you just don't know yet who you're actually meeting aside from what online stuff tells you.
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I know you said not to judge, and its not my place to judge. But you are asking for advice.
Personally, I wouldn't have sex with him. This is your first time meeting him. He could be different than what he said he was when you meet up with him. I'm sure you have thought about that as well. But what I'm trying to get at, is guys love a chase! Once a guy gets a girls "goods" he find the chase quite boring, and moves on to the next girl.
I say, be a tease. Be something thats going to want him to keep coming back too. Make him wonder. Leave him on his toes. Build a phsycial bond first without the sexual content.
But more than likely you will do what you want. Being 19 as well as you are, we feel like since we are adults by the law, we can handle decisions on our own; therefore, you will do what you please.
So if you insist on sleeping with this loverr boyy, the only thing you can do is tell him straight up before you guys meet that you on your period, and your bummed, because if things were to get hot and heavy you'd really want to take that opportunity and do it. Most men don't mind having sex with a female while she's on her period.
If your worried about your blood flow being to heavy, and bleeding every where, starting out in a pool, hot tub, or even a shower can calm the blood flow down. I'm not saying, sex in the shower, start out in the shower, kissing, body touching, maybe a little hand job, blow job, him playing with your goods; ect
That will get the mood between you too just right; and than you guys can proceed to the bed, and the blood won't be so bad. Once you guys start to "Do it" the moisture of your discharge, cum, ect will also calm the blood flow.
So to sum this up, just ask him if he's ever had sex with a girl on her period, if he likes/don't like it, ect.
I'm sure he'll be fine with it!
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