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my dentist says that eating causes bad breath... and if you brush your teeth 3 times, or after every meal, and floss you won't have it........ i am not eating (literally nothing no drinks nothing in me.. just to test the validity of this) and i brush my teeth and floss!! and yet when i don't eat my mouth seems to be in its stinkiest yet! my tongue is all white and disgusting! i am just soooo grossed out! what should i do??? (link)
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Hi,
it sounds to me that you may have something that a breath mint or mouth wash is not going to cure. You said that your tongue is white. To me this suggests that you might have at worst, some type of yeast infection (sometimes called thrush), or maybe at worst, halitosis (a condition that causes bad breath.
I don't know if you have told you dentist your exact symptoms. He can really help you. Please do. That is not just bad breath. With correct treatment, I am told that although embarrassing,it can be cured. I really hope I helped.
Good luck,
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Ok so I've known this one guy for a little over 2 years. I went out with him twice back then, but I broke up with him because I did'nt know him as much as i wanted to. It was pretty lame.
So now, 2 years later, I really want to say.. that I am completely in love with him. He has no idea either. I've liked him for so long and it's killing me inside. He's the only one i want to be with for the rest of my life.
I was hanging out with him once out of school, and it was like the best day of my life.
He held my hands so i did'nt fall when attempting to skateboard, we laid down together everywhere, and even tickled eachother(haha).
I'm with him almost every second at school.
Everyone thinks we're going out.
But we're not, and I'm so confused on what to do.
I thought about telling him that I like him so, but I'm too scared of what he will think. He's like my best friend, and i don't want to ruin that.
My question is, Should I tell him how I feel? I'm just scared he won't feel the same way.
Thanx in advace. And sorry if it's too long at all. =S (link)
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Hi,
I think that since you are nervous, the next time the two of you are together and having a good time, you should just casually start asking questions. For example; so how do you think this relationship is going? Do you ever think about how it would be if we stayed together? Do you ever think about it? If he says something like, I think it's going well. The best thing we could have done is broke up or stayed friends, then you will know how he feels without actually putting yourself out there. I hope it answers your questions and he gives you the answers you want.
Good luck,
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im a dancer and latly when i do a high kick with my right leg i get this very painful feeling in my right knee
its in the back of the knee and its hurts really bad, kinda like something is being yanked out of the back of my knee
but the thing is that i get injured a lot since i dance so sometimes my parents will tell me its nothing and i just need to wrap it
so i would like some heads up to what it may be before i even go to them
thank! (link)
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Hi,
although this is probably common to dancers, you can take nothing for granted when it comes to any kind of injury that feels that bad. Continuing to dance on it is probably making the problem worse. You have to see a doctor as soon as you can. Let him/her be the judge of what kind of injury it is. Better safe than sorry.
Good luck,
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There are some things about my boyfriend of about a month now that i would really like to change... i know thats kind of bad but its not major things, just a few.. like i would really like it if he shaved more often because i really like clean shaven men rather than the stumble.. and he has a bit of a problem with acne and i think a good facewash would help like neutrogena or something... is there a polite way to bring this up? thanks for any advice in advance :) (link)
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Hi,
Fiest of all, make sure that you really want to do this. You haven't been with him that long. He had acne when you met him and he probaably feels comfortable with you. Bringing it up might make him feel more self-conscious than he already is about his problem.
He might think that you don't like him the way he is and he'll develop a complex around you. Maybe he's tried acne remedies that haven't worked. No one wants acne.
As far as shaving is concerned, just tell him that the stubbly look looks great on him, but sometimes when you really want to get close, it makes you itch. That should do the trick!
Good luck,
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my friend (girl) has a problem with guys.When she was younger (around 9years old or may be younger),a relative used to masturbate in front of her and to abuse her sexually.He used to open the toilet door when she is using the toilet, and things like that.She didn't tell me she was raped but she told me this terrifies her.Now she doesn't trust any guy and she's afraid when she is left alone with a guy.How can i help her to get over this problem and go on with her life?I really want to help her but don't know how!!! (link)
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Hi,
I don't think there's anything you can do for your friend right now except to listen to her and let her know that you are there for her.
She is reaching out asking for help and she needs to talk to someone who is educated in this field. I would advise her to try talking to her parents. If that is not an option, I would definetly tell her to try and go on the web and seek out counselors who could steer her in the right direction.
This is a horrible thing to have happen to her. She cannot just forget it and move on with her life. It is not that simple.
Maybe you can be there with her when she is looking for a counselor.
Good luck to you and her,
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I am a thirteen year old girl - btw. So at my school I have an huge crush on a boy. And I am pretty sure he likes me too. But you see, a ton of other girls like him too, and I am scared that I might lose his attention while I have it. What should I do? How can I keep him interested with out moving to fast?
katwashala. (link)
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Hi,
I think the only thing you can do is to continue to be yourself. If he really likes you, he will continue to like you just as you are no matter who else comes his way. I know you are probably feeling a little anxious because of the way you feel, but it will work out in the end.
If it is meant to be, it will be. In the meantime relax and have a good time being his friend.
Please don't do anything that doesn't feel right or that you know your parents wouldn't approve of to keep him interested. That is not the way to get a boy to like you. He already likes you remember.
Have faith in the wonderful person that you are.
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ok, my boyfriend of like 2 weeks told me today that he loved me.. i was kinda speechless and didn't end up saying anything because i was so taken back by it. its not that i don't love him, i just don't really know yet, its only been 2 weeks and this is my first relationship. anyway, what does that exactly say about him (saying that he loves me so early in the relationship) and what can i say next time he says that to be that won't hurt his feelings or anything like that? if anyone could help me out a bit, that would be great, thanks in advance for your advice :) (link)
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Hi,
I think you are right to go with your instincts on this one. It is almost impossible to know if you're in love with someone after only 2 weeks of going out.
I think the best way to go about it is to tell him just that; of course be thoughtful of his feelings. Sometimes when things are new and going well in a relationship, we can confuse love with infatuation. Sometimes it's hard to tell the difference even with adults.That's probably what he is feeling. He is perfectly normal and you can probably take it as a compliment.
However, I would tell him that although you enjoy his company and like him very much, you wouldn't want to say that you're in love yet. Tell him that you want to take things slow and get to know each other a little better and maybe there will be love in your future.
Good luck,
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Okay, so my parents just found out I have a myspace about two months ago. I'm not supposed to have a myspace. They blamed me for "lying" about it. And I'm aloud to have other websites. I just want them to trust me enough to let me have a myspace. My mom says I'll never get one, but that can't be true. How do I convince them? (link)
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Hi,
You didn't say how old you were in your question, so this answer is two-fold. If you are still in grammar school, I as a parent would be concerned. I have children who are in high school and I have seen some of the things on my space.
However, that doesn't mean that it is all bad.
Maybe you can suggest this to your mom. Maybe she'll reconsider if she is allowed to monitor your page and the people that visit it. Another thing you might want to tell her is that you are growing up and she can trust you. Tell her she raised you well and you know right from wrong.
There are so many things to consider. Your mom loves you very much and there are dangerous people out there in cyberland. Predators are all over the news. Try and understand her point of view too.
Take things slow, one step at a time. Maybe she'll come around.
Good luck,
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I'm 17 years old and was adopted a little over 10 years ago by people I love very much. I can't help but wonder, though, about my real family. I have so many questions I want to ask them and I just want to know who they are. I'm not necessarily looking for a relationship - I don't think I could ever even consider calling them mom or dad, but I just have so many thoughts going on.
I'm afraid of hurting my parents - my adopted parents, that is. I don't want to tell them that I want to search for my birth parents because I don't want to upset them. I'm happy that they adopted me and even though we don't always get along, I know I have a better life here than I would have.
Would I be hurting my parents too much if I tell them I want to search for my birth parents? Should I just give up and try to forget about it?
I don't know what I'd say if I found my biological parents, I just feel like it's something I need to do, but I don't want to hurt my mom or dad.
HELP?! (link)
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Hi ,
I t hink that if you don't tell your adoptive parents about your desire to find your biological parents you will regret it for the rest of your life.
I'm sure that your biological parents love you very much and want the best for you. They would understand your natural curiosity. It's perfectly natural at your age.
They have probably been waiting for the day that you tell them that you want to look your biologial parents up. Have a little more faith in them.
Have a discussion with them and tell them what you want to do. They know you love them and I'm sure they will support you.
Good luck with your search!
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Iam 19 years old female and i just graduated high school last year and i moved out ot my mom 's house and into my cousins house and iam much happier at my cousins house than i was when i was living with my mom in high school and i have a much more structured envorment at my cousins house than there was at my mom's and now i've realied iam a lot happier in a structured enviornment. I might better explain to you what it's like at my mom's and what it's like at my cousins.
when iam at my mom's house my mom and i always get into fights last weekend she got so mad at me she through a chair on the kitchen floor and broke it into 4 big pieces and when i tried to call my cousin to come and get me she snatched the phone from me and somehow i managed to get the phone from her and got my cousin to come and pick me up.I also did anything i wanted to and ran wild even if my mom begged me no to do something i did it anyway. Iam going to give you some examples.
1I smoked
2 I had oral sex with a guy and a girl
3I tried drinking and i drank untill i got drunk
4. I tried pot
5 whenever i got pissed off at my mom i ran off no matter what time it or how late it was at night.
but now at my cousins i've settled down and iam not as wild and i don't do those things anymore or even want to do those things anymore and i don't want to go back to my mom's anymore becouse iam afraid of getting into trouble but i don't want to hurt my mom's feelings either what should i do? (link)
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Hi,
first of all, did your mom ask you to come back or are you feeling guilty and want to go back?
Either way I think that you know yourself better than anyone else and you have already answered your own question.
YOu are doing much better for yourself and you are succeeding as a person and a student. What could be better than that?
Every child, whether they admit it or not wants some structure in their life. It's human nature. It shows us that people care about us.
On the other hand, I'm sure you love your mother very much and want a relationship with her. Why don't you take small steps into making that happen.
Make appointments to sit down and talk with her to talk about your issues and how you cam make your relationship better. Go from there.
I hope I helped. Good luck,
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I am a sophomore in highschool and I am sort of in a relationship with a 22 year old. Do you think this is strange or perfectly fine? Any advice/comments are appreciated :] (link)
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Hi,
No, I do not think this is a good idea. You are much too young to be in a relationship with a 22 year old man. According to most states, this is statutory rape. I really think that you should get out of it as quickly as you can.
I don't know how long you've been seeing him, and if it has been a while it might be difficult for you to do. He knows that it is wrong and he should be ashamed of himself. I know this may seem exciting for you to be with him, but in the long run, I think you may get hurt.
Do your parents know, if so, what would they think about it. Talk to them, if that is not possible try talking to someone else that you trust.
I hope I helped. Good luck,
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I'm a 18 year old Female.
I think i may be pregnant, and i really do not want to raise/give birth to a child. There is no abortion clinics around the area i live in, and i have no ways of getting to a close one(the closest one is 4 hours away). Me and my boyfriend are really not expecting a child, we both how alot of our life ahead of us. So getting to my question, since theres no way i can get to an abortion clinic, are there other ways that i can "abort the child", or "cause a miscarriage"? I'm too scared to confront my parents about this, and don't really know if it's possible i can make an appointment with my family doctor without my parents finding out.
Any answers are appreciated, and i know, i shouldn't be hving sex, because i know this is a consiquence of it, and i also am agaisnt abortion myself, but there is no way i can go on with this pregnancy,(if i am infact pregant) i know for sure i will not be able to raise it, and i would not be able to give it up for adoption.
Thanks. (link)
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Hi,
I really feel for you because I was in that situation when I was younger. When you're afraid our minds ten to run away with us and we start to get desperate.
I don't know of any ways to abort a child and if I did I would never recommend that as a solution to your problem. It could be very dangerous for you and the baby, maybe even death.
I don't know if you meant that your parents would find out because of insurance or something else, but in most states at your age it is doctor patient confidentiality. They can't disclose what goes on in your visit.
I know your scared. I was too, but the best thing is to tell your parents as soon as possible. Hopefully you have a good relationship and they have your best interest at heart and they will advise you on what's best for you because they love you.
However if this is not the case, there are places you can go to get the help you need; a counselor, planned parenthood etc.
Take a leap of faith and trust one of these resources.
I wish you only the best of luck,
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Sorry this will seem very vague, but I want to be in fear the guy in question ever finds this.
There's a guy and I think he might ask me out. The only problem is, I know for a fact it will only be so he can have sex with me, or he will try to pressure me into sex.
Now, I'm not asking whether I think this is what he wants. After all I'm being vague, that would be stupid. I'm pretty sure these are his intentions.
Usually I'd say no, but the only problem is I sort of like him. So should I say yes and give him a chance and if he tries to pressure me into it I say no and dump him? Haha help! (link)
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Hi,
I think you already have your answer. If you would usually say no to this type of guy, why are you changing your standards now?
Ask yourself why you like him. Maybe that would help you out.
I don't think you need to give him a chance. You already know who he is. If you choose to go out with him, like they always say "buyer beware"
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My ex and i started dating in april 2007 and broke up in early july 2007. we broke up because my "best friend" showed him a video of another guy on top of me. he broke up with me of coarse, but i still liked him alot. i tryed alll summer to talk to him but he would not talk to me at all. now its been a year later, we have talked a few times but only casually online and hardly in person. i tell myself im over him but others still believe im not. i even have hooked up with other guys since we broke up. and he has had a girlfriend and sometimes i really feel that i am over him and done with him.
right after we broke up i would have dreams as that we are still together and about a month later he was not in my dreams anymore. that lasted for about two months and suddenly when school started again in september 2007, i saw him at school all the time and it really hurt to see him, he is also the star athelte which made it harder because im a cheerleader and at football games i would hear touch down by him like every 5 minutes.
but anyway he started to appear in my dreams but we would not look at each other or say anything (no contact at all) as a weeks went on, he started being in the same room as me in my dreams, then after a week, the same car as me, then he would look at me, then we would have major eye contact, then he would start to say hi to me in my dreams, then we would have just a friendly conversation, then we would hug in my dream, and now in my dreams we are hooking up and of coarse it feels so right because when we were together i cared and liked him soooo much. but im over him now since its been a year later and moved on.
but now im just confused as to why im having dreams like that and what i want to know most is what the meaning of those dreams are or if i should talk to him or what should i do and what do the dreams mean?
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Hi,
Guilt has a funny way of shoeing up. I think you are dreaming about him because you have unresolved issues with him and your relationship. You really didn't have any closure.
Maybe you should ask if the two of you could sit and have a conversation to clear the air.
It seems that in your dreams that that's what you want to do. You want to make things right even if it's just friendship.
Maybe you interpreting hooking up the wrong way. Maybe that's your minds way of saying everything's all good. I hoped I helped.
Good luck,
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i started talking to this guy and i really liked him.we talked for a while. well his girlfriend broke up with him when she found out about us. he said he was over it. but now he is saying he's not. and he can't lead me on. right now i'm so confused. i want to be with him, but i want to give him time. and it's like eating at me. it makes me feel awful. i don't konw what to do. any advice? (link)
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Hi,
I think you should go with your gut on this one and give im time. If he's not over it, he must have been really into her, more than you thought. He may even want to get back with her. Only time will tell and that's what you want. You don't want anyone on the rebound and you don't want to be with someone who is still pining over someone else.
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Jason is eighteen and my favorite brother. He dropped out of school and got a job at Burger King. He'd been working there for a little over a year when he realised it wasn't the job he wanted. He has his GED but now its to late to go back to school. Soon after realising that he gave up. On Life. Then one night the cash register wasnt working and he punched it and completely broke it. Now he owes BK 2,500 dollars and had a warrant for his arrest and his court coming up. Well everyone thought if he got a ob before court he would have a chance of paying... but He told my Mom he wants to go to jail.
Jasons been my everything, and I would do anything for him. Im planning on telling him Ill give him 500 to get a job but I dont want him going to jail because my Mom will kick him out.. and he'll have no place to live and Ill be on shit with my Mom bcause ill kill her.
But why does he want this for himself.. I love him and Im not willing to let this happen. What else can I do? (link)
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Hi,
first of all it is never too late to go back to school. You say he is 18. That's when most are starting college. All he would have to do is apply there or any other trade school and he would be on his way.
However, he has to figure out what he wants to do with his life and he is the only one who can do that for himself. He sounds like he has some anger issues. He should probably talk to someone before he does something he can't get himself out of.
If you love him the way you say you do you will tell him this because you only want the best for him. YOu have to show him some tough love. YOu can't keep feeling sorry for him, you'll only hurt him in the long run.
Good luck,
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okay, so i was dating this kid for over 5monthss, and than we had a really bad fight, and he kept saying things like "haaaah i odnt need you, if you only knew the truth" and i figured he was just bluffing to make me jealous, that night we ended up breaking up. The next day at school, my "best friend" said, hey do you mind if me and your ex start talkingg? and i said whatever, hes scum. But that night when i got home me and him ended up working things out and i didnt even question his "if you only knew the truth" and my "bff" asking if they could start tlaking talking. So it was going good for about a month than i was hanging out with my friend and i went in her drawer to get a hoodie, and i see one of my bf's hoodies in htere, so i asked her about it and she said ohhh, we were outside in gym and he let me borrow it, can u take it and give it back to him for me? i didnt think much of that either, than i got home and it hit me like a rock, him saying "if you only knew the truth" her asking if they could talk, her having his hoodie in her room, i got livid, i asked him about it and he admitied hanging and kissing her, she just admited watching a movie. So i took him back, and gave her another chance, but within a month me and him got another fight and iwent out to get my nails done with my bff and i was on her phone, and he called and i answered, he thinking it was my friend said ayy babeee when will u be here? ( we were still together ). long stroy short, we broke up, its been aweek there dating, and he still tells me he loves me, blah blah blah, i wanna completely erase him, im so confused, what do i do, how do i get him out of my life, what do i say to her, Help? thanks. (link)
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Hi,
I think the best thing for you to do is to get both of them out of your life. They both lied to you about the situation when you asked them about it.
As they always say men are going to be men. The fact that he through it up in your face "if you only knew the truth" is unforgiveable.
Going out with your best friend is a definite no, no in anyone's book. Friends don't share men.
If she did it once, she'll do it again.
Tell her how you feel and end the friendship.
He is not even worth your time. How can he love you if he's seeing your best friend? He's trying to be slick. He wants both.
Get things off your chest and move on.
Good Luck,
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Okay, so theres this guy and his name is Dan. Hes 45 years old, married, with kids, and I went to canobie with him, my uncle, and my cousins. And the only reason I was there was because one of my cousins is autistic and I was going to help. So right when I get there Dan comes up and puts his arm around me and just starts walking with me, and I was like what the heck? But I didnt say anything cause Im too shy. (Im 18 by the way) and we get to the first ride were going to go on and everyone kinda split up and went there own way and I was trying to figure out who to sit next to when he whispers in my ear, sit next to me in the back, and ofcourse, I was like uhm okay, even though I felt weird about that. But I did and it was fine, until I got off and he had his arm around my shoulder again. Anyways later when I was there this guy I knew and was just friends with came over and gave me a hug and I hugged him back and Dan came over and was like okay thats enough and then practically dragged me away from him. I found that soo rude but I didnt say anything. And towards the end of the day we were talking about who was easier to read, guys or girls, and this girl standing next to me was like oh is he your dad and I immediately said ha, no! And then I thought she would think I was weird so I was going to explain that he was one of my moms old friends but he interupted me and I was like Im a....friend. And I was just like oh yeah, hes a friend. But hes not my friend. Hes my moms friend. And I caught him staring at me a few times too, which made me feel so self concious so we went to his car because some of the others wanted food and water and stuff and I was looking in the reflection trying to make myself look better when Dan was like relax you look great. So I kinda blushed and was oh thanks. So anyways that was Canobie. Then like three days later my cell phone rings right and it was him. It was a text message that said pg. And I wrote back and was like what does that mean. And he called me back and said that it was a mistake and that somehow his locked phone, unlocked itself in his pocket and sent me a text. And I believed him until I talked to one of my best friends and she was like no, hes lying and now I believe her instead. And I already told her all this stuff and she thinks that he likes me, but I really dont know. Can someone please tell me what they think? Thank you soo much, and sorry about the length! (link)
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Hi,
I personally think that he has a problem and you should stay away from him. Besides the fact that he's married, he has totally disrespected you and your familiy's trust. I think he's too old for you. Things that you are experiencing now, he has already been through; decades ago!
He had no right to get in the middle of your conversations, and saying that you looked great was inappropriate.
He sounds like he has some kind of wierd crush on you and it's just not right. I would keep my didstnce from him and I would also tell your parents about it considering that he's their friend. I don't think they would appreciate it either. Be careful.
Good luck,
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Hi! Ok so I'm 19 and early in the summer joined a gym. Im already skinny but I really wanted to tone up. So me and my guy friend got a personal trainer. After 3 weeks together I sent him a text thanking him for working with me. He's 24 and gorgeous by the way. After that day he would always text me, and talk to me at the gym flirtaciously. I didn't think anything of it because I thought its his job to be nice, but one day he told me how he thought I was hot. Or that he wants to get to know me. After a month every trainer knew my name and saw how my trainer acted towards me. Last thursday he texts me saying how sexy I am and stuff. And I guess I got the txt really delayed because I texted him back at 11:15pm. On Friday morning I get a call from an unknown number- It's my trainer's girlfriend!!! Mind you, I had no idea he had a girlfriend, and if he did I wouldn't be talking to him. So we talk and she as well as I appreciated knowing whats going on. Yesterday I see my trainer and he acts like nothing happened and yells "Hey Marlene!" Today I went to pilates and 2 other trainers are at the desk and stare me down and start smiling. Im a little self-conscious of whats going on. Are they making fun of me because they knew he already had a girlfriend? Or whats going on? I'm open to all opinions. (link)
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Hi,
There could be a number of reasons why the other trainers were laughing at you. He could have told them that he was messing around with your head or that the two of you had some kind of fling together.
There is really now way to tell. You're going to drive yourself crazy trying to figure it out.
Whatever the reason, don't give it another thought. You know what went down and that's all that really matters.
He's no good. He showed you that.
Keep your head up and keep working out. If you're too uncomfortable, try and switch to another club.
Good luck,
P.S. Don't bother talking to him about it. He's not worth your time.
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heyy ,
i wrote kinda wrote about this earlier.well i wrote about how my boyfriend (17) is more experienced than i am. he came over my house when my parents were gone and we weren't doing anything big. And he tried to have sex with me but i said no cause im not ready to yet and i dont feel like its a thing to be rushed into.But i was wondering is it possible for someone to get pregnant when im avirgin..and he tried to have sex with me but "it" didnt go all the way in.. it wasnt even to a point to where it hurt me . but i was just wondering if there wwas anyway it could happen. i wouldnt think it would. but im just making sure. what im really wondering is do you have to have "it" mostly all the wayy? pleasee helpp thankyouu !=) (link)
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Hi,
It's highly unlikely that you are pregnant especially if you are a virgin, but take note that you don't have to actually have intercourse to become pregnant. Once sperm touches your vagina they travel, so be careful. It' is not impossible!
To be on the safe side, next time always have a condomn available or consider an alternate form of birth control. You're too young to have a baby.
Good luck to you
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