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Sup, my name's Aaron, i'm a band freak, health freak, grammar freak, perfectionist, and I just love to watch people do stupid things even if it includes me, because heck there's no point in being uptight about life when in the end it all ends... hahah gotta love my type right? There's not much about me that you probably haven't heard that you can't compare to other people, I mean i'm a friendly person who once you get to know me, tends to grow on you like mold on bread. I'm smart, courageous, a leader, fun, loving, honest, brutally honest, sadistic, idiotic at times, ignorant to certain topics, indifferent in some controversial issues, unconcerned about what you think about me, happy, sad, depressed, angry, and basically any other attribute you can give to a 16 year old teenager. I'm an ex-swimmer, meaning that I quit... just because of band, and no i'm not that big a band freak, I'd just rather be playing my instrument and feeling the soothing sensation that music has to bring as opposed to getting stressed about being beat by other people! But no, haha I love swimming and if my school allowed me to take both at the same time without sacrificing my grades I probably would. I'm not the kind of person that sits and watches something, for instance, I hate watching football but I love playing it just because of the adrenaline rush. Blah, haha not sure what else to say, I mean I suppose I can tell you that i'm chinese, and uhh that's about it I think... I like to philosophize haha if that makes any sense, I feel that although philosophy is basically the "DUH" of life, sometimes you just need to be told, DUH. There's nothing better than discovering the obvious... Anyways, life's so much easier for probably you and me if we chatted on AOL, my screen name is An3mu5c0r9u5 yup yup =D hehe

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I have a bf but it seems like all he wants to do is hug,kiss,and hold hands, and cudle. I am just scared bc my last relationship didint workout and all my ex wanted 2 do was hug,kiss,hold hands ,and cudle. so i just dont want 2 hurt anyone or even get hurt wat do i do?

talk to him tell him about your previous relationship and how you don't want it to happen again... again.. communication is the key to trust in a relationship

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This was something my mom and I talked about the other night, and it really made me think. Is it possible to love two people at the same time in the same way, as in a bf/gf? I'd appreciate to see some opinions on this...

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I'm kind of confused what the question is... are you saying that you like a guy AND a girl or either or at the same time.. like 2 guys or 2 girls.. well i guess you'd just have to pick one of the two that you think most likes you back..

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My friends are a little jealous of me and don't even like to introduce me to their friends because their guy friends that they like might like me. This past week I was with my best friend and she finally started to go to college after a year off. She never really had many friends while growing up, just mainly me. Anyways, I spent a full week with her and she went to parties and everything. I was dragged along. I met people there and got along just fine with them. She got jealous. Then this guy she plays co-ed football with,we'll call him M, calls her one night to come over and see his new apartment so we went over there. After that, him and his roomies were awesome and wanted us both to come back again and just chill. She started having feelings for M and kinda figured he didnt like her back. So a couple days ago she got upset with one of M's roomies and her and M talked. She asked him if he liked me and he said I was very attractive and that he would have to get to know me better in order to say he liked me. Earlier that night he had given me his number just to hang out while my friend was going to a concert and I had nothing to do. She said to me that we were leaving and then she stormed outta the house.

Now what I wanna know is, is there anything I can do that this can stop? I mean, she is my best friend but whenever she likes a guy they always like her friends and it kills her. Her self-esteem lowers everytime this happens. Is there anything I can do about her self-esteem? Is there anything I can do to make these guys realize that my friend is a great girl and that she deserves a chance instead of her friends??

Well.... this is hard because she feels inferior to you because I guess your looks.. Maybe you should just give her some room and let her go to parties on her own so that she can make friends and guy friends too... If you over compliment your friend then it bothers them.. trust me.. my friend does that to me a lot so I tend to just tell her to leave me alone for awhile

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My boyfriend and I have been seeing eachother for a little over 2 years. I know he really loves me, and I really love him too. The thing is, is that he has always had a fantasy of having a 3-some with me and another girl. He said it's only going to be a one time thing, and that the other girl isn't going to mean anything to him- it's just his fantasy. I understand what he is saying and I want to do this for him, but I know I would feel REALLY uncomfortable doing it and I'm not quite sure I could go through with it. I keep telling him I don't really know if I want to- but he keeps bringing it up every now and then. It makes me feel bad when I tell him no. What am I supposed to do, or what should I say to him?

well... first of all tell him that it is making you uncomfortable.. and also in order to keep a relationship both sides must sacrifice something.. so if he wants to do this.. maybe you should tell him one of your fantasies to him and see what he thinks about it... although it may sound kind of weird at least he will know that "you have to give something to get something"

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i have an AWESOMe friend. i am 1 year older than him and we arent going out. his mom says he is not old enough to have a GF but she is insisting for us to go to the movies together. i LOVE him but i dont know if he LOVES me... i know that he likes meeh but i dont kno!!! please help me!!!! i beg u!!!!!!!!!!

well talk to your parents and assure them that you guys aren't going to actually do anything bad and that explain to them that you both like eachother... because the best thing in the world is to talk... because God gave us voice boxes for a reason..

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sry if this is gross but i'm constipated and i have no way of getting any medicine for it and its soooooooo painful! does anyone kno what i can do? thanx i'll rate ya!

lol... well you need fiber... so.. i'd say take some vitamins or eat a lot of vegetables..

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How do I put a music Playlist on xanga?

Use this:







Artist Name - Song Title
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I have this big problem with friends. I can make them easily but I just can't stick with them. I don't even know if my current friends consider me their friends.

I thought in junior high I'd start over and make new friends.Well, it turns out I made a lot of friends. I don't know if they still think of me as their friends anymore though. I hang out with them and talk to them a lot the first few weeks. Then, after awhile they start talking about people from their old schools. I never know what to say so I just say a few words. After awhile, I stop saying stuff to them and just stop hanging out with them. Then I start hanging out with them again. They don't talk to me anymore. It's like I'm just a tag-a-long. There's this thing called lunch club. All the people with D's or F's go there at lunchtime Wednesday through Friday. This makes it so I can't hang out with any of my friends. Now I sort of wish I were in lunch club. Err. I had to have a change of schedule. Well, I had made some friends in those classes. Now I'm in classes where I hate everyone and they hate me too so I just act mean to them. I just started to hang out in the library at lunch so that nobody could hang out with me. It's not like anyone cares about me anyways. It sucks. That's why I hate school now.

Also, I had a problem like this in elementary when the kids started ignoring me. My old friends from elementary go to a different school and I haven't talked to them in a long time. I don't know if I should start talking to them or what. They'll probably be in my school in high school though....

Could someone help me?

yeah.. i know what you are going through.. i had the same experience and still do now.. the best thing I can tell you to do is to talk to the people you are more familiar with and hang out with them and make them your official group to hang out with.. and then after that everone else just seems to be regular people.. that's what I did and now i'm happy with the people I hang out with

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i have a bad self esteem issue and i want to fix it. how do i convince myself that i am not fat and ugly? i really think i am, and i dont ever say anything about it, but my friends always call me pretty and stuff, i want to be confident in myslef.

Well... from my experience... I just say to myself in the mirror okay im fat and im ugly but im smart and that's what is going to get me through in the world... but also work out because working out makes endorphins and endorphins make you happy... it doesn't matter if you're ugly or fat but as long as people see you as being happy and yourself then looks don't matter anymore

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ok, i got a call from my bf asking if his ex girlfriend had called me. i said no y? and he said that him, his friend, and her got into a fight and that she said she was going to tell me everything. and i said, what do u mean shell tell me everything? and he said i dont know what shes talking about. she wouldnt tell me. n hes like, so if she says somethin to u tonight, just remember that shes insane. so i get home, and theres a message from her. but all it said was happy thanksgiving and a smily. so now, i dont kno whats going on. or what to do. ahhh!! help please.

well... if you're really worried about him.. talk to him one on one and tell him that you don't want to have secrets in your relationship or it's over. Also.. threaten him that if he doesn't tell you the truth that you will talk to his ex girlfriend and then that will make his overall punishment even worse because he lied to you...

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i went shoppin with my friend the other day and we kept running into my dad there and everytime my dad would ask me a question shed answer for me. well a little later my dad got rly annoyed and raised his voice at her and told her off for doing that. i got a little pissed because he had a point but i didnt like the way he was talking to her. so i told him to not yell at her because shes not his kid and he took her home just because i said that. then later he told me how my friend is a liar and she bossed me around and she takes advantage of me and all this shit. i kind of agreed with him on some parts but some of the other things she said was totally out of line. now i dont know what to beleive because my dad got me all confused. is it fair what he said and am i being bossed around? ill rate high because this is so long. thnx

Well, it all depends on you... if you believe that your friend is taking advantage of you for whatever then talk to her about it and tell her... and your dad was doing what any father should do especially for their daughter... because he is your father listen to what he has to say and maybe he is right... but you have to go on your own gut feeling on this one

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okay well i shave down there and it grows back really fast. like in a week! is that normal or what? is there anything i can do to prevent it? and i also get those little red bumps and sometimes the hair is not always completley gone! any tips please? thank you.

WOW.. okay use those creams that girls use like nair or something... and depending on what kind of razor you use... you should probably use gillete 4 with the 4 edge things for a "closer shave"... and the red bumps are just there cause of irritation so.. put on some lotion..

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ok my boyfriend and me have been going out for 3 weeks now and it seem like we arnt going anywhere. i mean we have gone to the movies 2 times and out to eat twice and then ice skating and we held hands during both movies but he wont kiss me or anything. is he afraid? what can i do to get him to kiss me? his friends and my friends have told him too but he wont. what can i do to get our relationship going. or is he showing me signs that he has no feelings for me? please help me. thanks.

hmm... toughy... well I think you are the one that is moving too fast.. it's not that normal for couples to be kissing in 3 weeks.. kissing is an intimate bond and should only be expressed when both people love eachother... you should talk to him one on one and ask him how he feels and not what his or your friends say..

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Ok my best friend is a girl and im a guy. She and i have been friends for a while but weve had some problems. She always lies to me . And then when she says sry a week lata she makes up some lame excuse why she said all that stuff. well now she acts like a slut and i dont like her . what should i do and what should i tell her?

well.. considering that you think she acts like a slut.. basically means that you don't want to be her friend anymore... anyways... if you do want to be her friend talk to her one on one and explain your concerns to her.

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ok recently i posted a message about "tyler" rite....

well today i had a dream about him... i went up and asked him if he liked "rachel" he said no...... i like u... so i stood there like an idiot and just said o.... ummm.... so im not sure if i like him or not!! !! so heres the 411....

~hes in my language arts class and math class
~we sit across from each other in class
~he says bless u and smiles at me everytime i sneeze but only to me and he never says it to ne1 else
~if i drop my pen like behind me or sumthin he will GET UP and get it even if some1 else cud!
~the other day i was like "omg my poem sux soo bad" he said "thats really good" so i was just like "ok....."

do i like him or what or does he like me im just so confused!! bc i mean i want him to like me but im not sure i want a relationship!

im SOO SORRY its long but i really need some help!!! plz!!!

*i RATE high!

~boy crazy~

WOW... all right first of all no one can give you advice saying that you like him because that's your decision.. and then if you don't want a relationship tell him nicely that "Tyler, I really like you as a friend but right now I'm not sure if I want to have a relationship with you... so can we just be friends?" and if he says no just be like all right I totally understand..

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my friend ( i just found out ) hasnt eaten in 3 days....we think she is trying 2 become anerexic...even though she is really skinny....she said she cuts herself 2...me and my friend malerie dont no wat we can do 2 help her....i offer her food but she doesnt take it....and she always seems depressed

well.. first of all it's anorexic.. if you think it's getting bad enough tell her parents or try to confront her with a lot of your friends without making her think that you're gaining up on her...

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ok, so i dont think im ugly, but i know im definitely not gorgeous, and when i get compliments on my body or anything else from guys, i don't know how to respond. I've had self-esteem issues and when i hear these compliments, im glad someone thinks of me that way, but i dont wanna sound like "OMG! Im hot shit.." How do i respond to these compliments without sounding like im hot shit or end up rejecting them?

say thank you... the best answer to any compliment and just smile...

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ok im a 15 year old dude and my gf goes to a dif skool and it really sux i know most of u think thats gay but itz all good.. but i don't get to see her a whole lot i don't get my car for three months. do u know how i can strengthen my relationship for these next three months b4 i can see her a whole lot more?

call her and write her letters.. i'm sure every girl would like to know that you're not messing around with the girls at your school..

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Ok I'm addicted to rice!! All I eat is rice, I don't know how to get out of this rut! I won't eat all day long and then come home from school and pig out of a huge bowl of rice! It's to the point where I just eat it all and barely taste it, I want to get out of this habit! Any tips?? I have tried to cut it out cold turkey I will last about a week and then cave and pig out.

okay.. well apparently you are ashamed of your heritage be it that it is probably azn or oriental... as long as you eat rice with other foods I don't see why it's a problem but if it is such a problem with you then just through away the bag and don't buy it.. spend it on american foods

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Well, I have a friend who visits an advice site (the name slips my mind) where most everyone posts idiotic relationship questions riddled with bad spelling, punctuation, and grammer, pretty much in that order. My question is this, how do I tell my friend that he is a moron? And how can I make him stop asking stupid questions? And how can I get him to stop using things like "u" for you, or "r" for are?

Thanks for the help.

Well... good luck first of all... the internet is just that, being able to get away from any correct grammar. It is possible though to make one stop using u for you and r for are. Well, the way I see it is that if he does that in real life then try to stop him because it really doesn't matter if you do it on AIM or something..

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