I'm a woman in Texas. I'm married and have a school-aged child. I have a medical background. I'm quite liberal, socially. I love helping people with medical, parenting, and social questions. Don't ask me about tech stuff or finances, because I need advice on those things myself!
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Age: 34
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is this website really real its been going on in myspace comments:
www.bosgoe.com (link)
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There are no pills that will make a person's penis bigger. None. No matter what they say.
Sabine
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so for the past two months i have been sick my symptems are soar throat, swollen tonsils, fever, and stuffy nose, im really week and dizy. they have put me on medicine for strep twice and each time i was on it i felt better but after it stopped i would get sick again. so they stopped and tested me and i dont have strep, and i dont have mono, and the doctors have no idea what i have. i am so sick of being sick i feel like just killing myself i dont want to feel like this anymore..
what do i do! (link)
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You do exactly as the doctors say. You should get plenty of rest, fluids, and nutrition. Avoid junk foods and eat fresh, whole foods (like a whole apple as opposed to apple juice) as much as you can. You can also take vitamin C and echinacea and zinc tablets as those are shown to help with illness. Avoid non-fructose sugars (and limit those), junk foods, and processed foods like t.v. dinners. Get exercise to the extent that you are able. If you're dizzy, for example, choose a recumbent bike if you belong to a gym that has one, rather than running. Get enough sunshine, like about 20 minutes per day on your skin, and plenty of fresh air.
Other than that, don't give up. Keep trying to get better until you either are better or you figure out what's wrong.
Sabine
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Ok im 16. Had my period since August of 04 and it has always been regular and on time, give or take a few days. Its been late on 1 occasion last year due to stressing about something but thats not the case this time. I have not been stressing at all about anything recently, my diet hasnt changed, ive not been sexually active.
Well now it is late, it was due around April 27th.
This may sound insane, but please dont judge..
Im starting to worry because im making myself think im going through early menopause or something because i keep gettings like hot flushes and stuff and i dont know.. i guess i could just be being stupid.. but it is not uncommon for this to happen.
But what are the chances of that happening? like.. the odds of it or something.. idk.. (link)
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I really think it wouldn't hurt for you to go see a doctor at this point. It's not just the missing period but the hot flashes. I would just ask to go see a gynecologist. You can make the appointment now and if you get your period before your appointment comes (it might take a few weeks) you can always cancel. But it would make you feel better to know that you're getting it checked out.
I hope you're back to normal soon.
Sabine
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how often should you have your period (link)
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28 days is only the average. Normal is anywhere from 21 to 35 days. It does matter how old you are, how long you've had your period, how many children you've given birth to, your health history, your medications, and how heavy the bleeding is.
Sabine
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if it is possible for a woman to still see her menses during pregnancy, does it follow that she will ovulate too. (link)
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To clarify, women do not menstruate when pregnant. They rarely ovulate (they can if the hormones are not high enough, though the hormone imbalance usually is a result of a blighted embryo and is a sign of impending miscarriage).
When a woman bleeds during pregnancy, it's not the uterine lining being shed. The shedding of the utering lining is what makes it a period. The bleeding during pregnancy is sometimes a spotting that occurs and has to do with bleeding from the vaginal tissues or the cervix or from the embryo, fetus, or placenta. If the uterine lining is shed during the pregnancy, that is an indicator of 'threatened miscarriage' or miscarriage. It's not a good sign.
The bleeding one can get during pregnancy should not be as heavy as menstrual flow. It's usually just a spot of blood-tinged discharge in the panties. Passing clots during pregnancy is always suspicious for a problem with the pregnancy. Any pregnant woman who has blood from her vagina should consult her gynecologist right away for evaluation and treatment or for reassurance that nothing is wrong.
Sabine
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hey i am 14 years of old i just wont to ask wot is soo wrong about love bites? because my boyfriend daniel i stayed over his house for the weekend and he is 16 lk and we slept together and then he give me about 12 love bites and now i do not know wot to do lk plzz help me?? i need help i dont know wot to do lk
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Well, I would think that the worst thing that can go wrong with love bites all over your body is that someone will discover that a 14-year-old girl is being allowed to spend the weekend with her 16-year-old boyfriend and the two of them are being sexually active! Love bites will be the least of your problems if you get pregnant. I'm not just talking in terms of having a baby. I'm talking about a 14-year-old body has a very difficult time delivering a baby. You have a much higher risk of injury or death from delivering a baby at your age. Your parents/parent/guardian, also, might face an investigation into child neglect.
Hickies or love bites are just bruises on the skin. They don't cause problems. Except that they are a way for one person to mark another as his/her property sexually. They are a way of showing off that you are taken by someone. They tell more about your personal life than should be on public display. If your boyfriend wants to give you love bites and you think it's a great idea, make sure they're in a place that can easily be covered up with clothing appropriate for the season.
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im 13/f
i really like this guy who is one of my really good friends. however, i dont think he likes me more than a friend. how do i make him like me.
thanks! (link)
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I'm sorry, dear, but you can't make someone like you. All you can do is be yourself and let him discover that he does like you. But maybe he doesn't and it's not personal. Sometimes we are just looking for something specific that another person can't provide. Some day within the next couple of years (I know, that sounds like forever) you will probably meet someone whom you don't have to convince because he will immediately see how awesome you are.
I wish there were a secret to getting someone to like us. If there were, though, a lot of us would end up with people we don't have anything in common with. We'd marry the wrong person. So it's better to let things happen naturally, without trying to make puzzle pieces fit when they don't belong together.
Sabine
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Does God punish you if you sin, or if you are planning on sinning.
Like if i know i'm going to cheat on a test, or if i already have, will God punish me by making something bad happen to me, or by makeing me get a bad grade or soemting along those lines? (link)
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Well, it all depends on what you believe. Some people don't even believe in God. Some people believe in Karma (what goes around comes around or what you do will come back to you).
Personally, I think God probably won't punish you, but there are consequences. First, you may be caught and punished. Second, you will always know you didn't earn that grade and it will either be something you're proud of or something you wish you could change. I'm betting that when you're older and you have a child of your own, you won't want to have to face that child asking 'have you ever cheated, Mom/Dad?' Third, you won't know the material and that can have consequences in your future. It's the natural consequence of cheating. You cheat yourself out of an education.
None of us can prove that God exists, that he's watching us, or that he tallies sins and doles out retribution. You have to decide for yourself whether it's worth the risk.
Sabine
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A couple of days ago i started getting a really sore throat and now it's just scratchy and really annoying. Sometimes if i swallow i'll feel like i have strep or a fever but i don't. Any thing i can drink or take would be helpful just to get rid of this scratchy and sore throat!!!
and i went to my allergy surgeon person today and he ordered a pill that supposedly makes things swell less and these things in my sinuses are swollen well the side effects are:
-swollen face
-increased appetite
-being very moody
-getting hyper
-feeling loopy
-gaining weight
i guess i just really like the way i am and i don't want any of these side effects i'm 13/f i weigh about 98 or 99 lbs and i'm about 5' 3'' i know i'm tiny i guess i really don't want to get chubby in the face. should i really be worried? or just ignore it and let the medicine work.
please help.
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What is this pill? It sounds like Prednisone, a steroid. If it is Prednisone, the pill does those things in high doses over a period of time (weeks to months) and not all at once. I could advise you more if I knew what the medicine is.
However, my advice is this: you went to the doctor and he prescribed the medicine, so you should either take the pill or call his office and speak with the nurse or someone about your concerns. Don't let him think you're taking these pills if you're not. You can write me in my inbox if you want to clarify or get further info from me.
Sabine
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ohkay so i really want to get my mom somthing special for mothers day. she really deserves it.
i want to buy her somthing, then i want to make her somthing, like a card but i dont no what to say in the card.
can you help me what to say? i want it to be really sweet and that she knows that i love her.. because i dont reallly treat her like i love her :\
and also what should be a good thing to buy her?
thanks. a lot (link)
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What to buy her depends on her interests and how much money you have to spend. For example, you could buy her a massage if you have about $50-75, but only if she's into that. There's also the facial option. Then there's perfume, if she uses it. Anything that will make her feel beautiful and cherished will be welcome. Special things are good - like great chocolates (we'd rather have 4 pieces of great chocolate than 50 nestle crunch bars), like if she loves coffee, go to a gourmet coffee shop and get her some whole beans flavored like something she likes. That's not too expensive.
As long as your gift shows that you know and love who she is, it will be appreciated.
As far as the card, you should go to the grocery store and look at what the cards say. Then combine a few things or edit and make your own expressing what you want to say. Or you can use poetry to say it. Just get a poetry book and look for mother-themed poetry or poetry by favorite moms.
Sabine
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on 4/30* (date changed incase he sees this) well anyway. "Pat" asked me out. i had jsut told him i liked him. so obv. i said yes. over the weekend he and i were together the whole time. and today he asked me to do something and i lied about it and said my mom said no ;cuz IM ALREADY SICK OF HIM. i find him semi-annoying when hes deff. not annoying. and im afraid of falling in love with him too fast. yeah im pretty sure thats normal though. but idk what to do. i know i like him , but im not about to be excited to see him for once. what should i do. need more info jsut ask. (link)
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I think you should tell him that you're very busy with lacrosse/debate/whatever and that you think he's cute (if that's true) but that being around him all the time stresses you out and makes you upset. So I'd state that 'absence makes the heart grow fonder.' Then, I'd set a date for the next time I wanted to see him and I'd make it clear that I could not hang out before then. If he is still annoying you, then you should gently tell him that you thought he would be a great match for you but you can now see that you need something different and it's just not going to work out. Don't give him the 'we can still be friends' line if you really can't.
It's a tough situation getting yourself out of a problem relationship without hurting the guy and feeling guilty. I wish you the best.
Sabine
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Ok so my school has had lots of head lice in it. I got checked a week and a half ago, but was OK. Recently, however, I've noticed something. My head hasn't been itching abnormally frequently. I scratch it from time to time, which is true always. However, I've noticed that sometimes when I scratch it, it hurts. Does this mean I have lice? Should I get checked again? I was going to ask the nurse to do so today, but there was other people in the nurses office and I didn't want to do so in front of them. What should I do? I kind of want to get checked anyway. That way, if I'm clear, I can be relieved, and if I'm not, I can at least do treatments to get rid of it ASAP. What should I do? Thanks for answering a kind of gross question... (link)
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Why don't you have someone at your home take a look? The school nurse would be fine. Maybe you could put your name in and ask her to call you into her office when she's available? Head lice are not a sign that someone is dirty, by the way. They move from head to head and every race and socioeconomic class gets head lice. But I understand the stigma.
The tenderness when you scratch is probably not due to lice. It's probably just due to you thinking about lice and scratching your head more often. I am scratching and I haven't been exposed. We just do that in response to the idea of lice. But it never hurts to have it checked.
Hope everything's fine.
Sabine
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Today is the 7th.
I had sex for the first time on the 4th,
and he did "pop my cherry."
I bled a little bit that night.
But I have been "spotting" (bleeding lightly) everyday since then, including today...
Are there any other possible things that would cause me bleeding this long besides being pregnant?
We did use protection...but I don't know if the condom broke sometime in there because i'm so tight being a virgin at the time.
Help!=[ (link)
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It's doubtful that you're bleeding because you're pregnant. You may be, it's never 100% sure, but it seems unlikely. Usually when the condom breaks, it's obvious because when the guy takes it off, it leaks on him.
Spotting is not a typical symptom of pregnancy, but it's not uncommon either. I think more likely the spotting is because of your broken hymen and possibly some irritation of the tissues since this was your first time.
If you go one full month without having a period, you should definitely look into the possibility of pregnancy. Other symptoms are sore breasts, fatigue, and nausea with or without vomiting at any time of day.
Sabine
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so i have not had my period for 45 days now is this bad?? i was al scared so i took a pregancy test that i bought at walmart and it said no. Are there any signs that i might notice if i am pregant??? if i was to have gotten pregant it would have been from april 7th so 4 weeks ago (link)
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How regular is your period normally? If it sometimes skips for no reason, this could be a normal variant for you. If you're usually like clockwork, then there's some explanation, even if it's not pregnancy.
I would take the preg test again because it may have been too early when you took it. There are also both false positives and false negatives with every test. In addition, a pregnancy test sometimes gives a false positive when the embryo has implanted on the fallopian tube (ectopic pregnancy) rather than in the uterus. This can be very dangerous, can require surgery and can leave you with fertility problems. So if you have pelvic pain, you should see a doctor right away.
If you don't have any pain but your period does not come within 2 weeks or so, you should see your doctor. Some signs of a normal pregnancy are lack of period, overwhelming fatigue, morning sickness (nausea which can happen all day long), and sore breasts.
I hope you are back to normal soon.
Sabine
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I am a 22 year old female. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and everything in our relationship is good except he has a problem with my sexuality. It is REALLY hurting the relationship. I feel as if sex is more of a chore then anything else. We still have sex a good amount, but not as often as he would like. And he knows I do not enjoy it (dispite my acting haha). It's not that sex feels bad or anything, it actually just doesn't feel like anything at all. I can enjoy myself sexually by myself, but have never really gotten pleasure out of sex with any of my partners in my life. Maybe I am masterbating wrong, therefore my boyfriend cannot get me excited? I know that I am supposed to tell my partner what feels good to me, but I don't even know where to start. Nothing really feels that good.
This problem has really been wearing down on me and my relationship lately and I could really use the advice. Thank you for your time!! (link)
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Well, I'm 34 and I'm in much the same situation, after a 15-year relationship with the same person. Is there any thought that turns you on? Like role playing, something different he's not doing, etc?
If you just don't get turned on, do you have medical problems? Have you had a child? Childbirth has been shown to cause libido problems. Have you been checked for depression or thyroid problems? You should schedule an appointment with your gynecologist so that hormone levels and thyroid can be checked. Try new things, such as introducing vibrators or things you may find exciting. And hang in there. You know they say you have to have sex in order to want sex, so maybe just keep trying.
I certainly wish I had the magic key.
Sabine
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I have this weird thing where when i touch something with one hand i have to touhc the same thing with the other hand or if my toes touch the floor and my other foot touched the carpet i have to touch the floor with the foot that didnt touch i t and the other one to touch the carpet i dont kno why! why do i often do this!? (link)
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That's called a compulsive behavior. When it's combined with rituals (have to say everything 3 times, have to wash hands a certain way, have to check each lock 7 times before bed) and obsessions (the same phrases and thoughts running through your head over and over) and when it disrupts your life, it's usually diagnosed as obsessive compulsive disorder or OCD. When it's there to a lesser degree, it's called obsessive-compulsive personality type. It's thought to be due to a chemical issue within the brain.
I hope this is just a little compulsion and nothing in the diseased range.
Sabine
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Someone who I trusted so completely, who I could tell anyting too, and I adored with every fiber of my being told me that she doesn't care about me anymore, or how I feel. We faught occaisionally, but all friends do. But these past few weeks thats all we had been doing, so I told her how I felt. Everytime we faught it was because my opinion wasn't the same as her which meant: I was ignorant, I didn't know anything about the world, and of course I was wrong. I'm so tired of being always wrong, especially when its just an opinion or belief. I wrote a long letter explaining how I felt..begging her to treat me right. She told me all she could give me was apathy. Later when I tried to sort things out with her she told me I was nothing but a drama queen...like I was stirring up crap for no reason. She said she didn't want my forgiveness because she believes she didn't do anything wrong which means - suprise! I'm wrong again. She said she didn't want to make peace with me. She didn't care about me anymore. In her eyes I'm nothing but a self rightgeous idiot. It couldn't have hurt me more if she had just killed me herself. How after being friends for a year she can treat me this way, I do not know.
I invested everything in her, I loved her...she took it all away. I've never felt so hurt in my entire life. I suppose I do sound like a drama queen..but I don't know how to describe it. I've been crying for the past three days..I've never felt this way before.
She doesn't even care what shes done to me.
I try to keep myself busy, but as soon as I stop it just hurts again. I can't sleep anymore because I can't stop crying. I haven't slept in over 40 hours. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to feel better. I don't know how to stop hating her for what shes done for me. I don't know what to do. I just...don't.
Somehow I think shes not worth my time..not anymore. Shes not worth my tears or my thoughts, but I can't help it. Any help would be appreciated. thanks.
and yeah its long, sorry. (link)
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Oh, dear! What a problem! Well, when I was your age, I was also had a tendency to think I was right and anyone who disagreed was an idiot. I didn't give others the respect they deserved (though I never treated a friend like you were treated). Your friend will learn. Life will challenge her, educate her, and smack her down. She will figure it out.
But for right now, she's very unhappy and isn't able to be a friend to you. So give her apathy right back. Who needs a friend who always has to be right. Conditional friendship is not really friendship and *she* is the one with the problem. What you need to do is dry your tears, dust off your dignity, and move on to another friend who will not be so rigid, inflexible, and downright nasty. There are many people in this world who are looking for a friend. Find one. It's easy. :) And you'll be happier. And, if she's like me, someday she will look back at who she was and wish she could slap her past self.
Sabine
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I'm going clubbing this wednesday. It's my first time. I really have no clue how to dance and how can I move without looking stupid, clumsy and not-trying-too-hard? (link)
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Look at what people around you are doing and mimic that, perhaps with slightly less exaggerated moves if you're self-conscioius. If you are there to have a good time, then just do whatever you do, but if you want/need to impress people, just follow what they do. I don't mean mirror them, I just mean see their styles of dancing and their moves and just try to fit in.
Have fun!
Sabine
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One night I was taking a bubble bath and as soon as I got out of the tub I got all dizy and almost fell over. Then as I was drying off I looked into the mirror and noticed I was really pale. I went to my bedroom and just sat on my bed since I wasn't feeling good. I started to not be able to breathe and my throat started to close up. I went to go look for my inhaler but couldn't find it. Luckily, my brother's girlfriend brought over hers so I could use it. Was this an asthma attack?
My Mom said to keep an eye on if it happens again, like maybe if I had a allergic reaction to something?
Please help, thanks! :] (link)
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The first part of your description sounds like something called a vaso-vagal response. Your blood vessels were dilated because you were in warm water. When you got out, your blood traveled to your legs and away from your head. It took a little bit for your blood vessels to adjust so that you had more blood in your upper body and brain. That sometimes can cause a rush of adrenaline and can cause the sensation of trouble with breathing.
I can't guarantee that's what happened, but your mom is right to tell you to see if it happens again. By the way, bubble baths can give you urinary tract infections. Not that you asked, but just in case you get that problem as well.
I'm wishing health for you.
Sabine
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I have a distinct picture of what i want my future to look like (i want to be married to the great guy, with great kids, and live in a beautful house, and be the ultimate soccer mom (president of the PTA...on several charity boards etc.)
I'm really worried that i wont get this life, i dont want to sound like a snob...but if i end up living ni a asmall shack, with no husband and no kids, i'll be reallly sad.)
Does anyone ever really get the exact life they want? (link)
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To be honest, you may or may not end up with the life you want. Moreover, you may eventually decide it's not the life for you. Life is a roll of the dice.
The important thing is being happy and knowing that you can be content no matter what life gives you. You must be resilient to the inevitable disappointments and share the joy when something does go right. Hopefully, you will meet someone great to share your life with. That's more important than what job (or home-based activities) you have or how many kids or what kind of house.
It's great to have goals and know what you want. But I like the saying "hope for the best but prepare for the worst."
Sabine
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