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Hey well as you probably see I am 19 and I'm Christian (JesusFreak) and go ahead ask me something hopefully i can give you an answer thats right and ok with you. Have a good day
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My dad won't let me date till im 16. Im only 14 right now and I have a boyfriend, and i have guy friends. My boyfriend called me this afternoon, and my dad heard the message he left me. All it said was his name and phone number, but my dad got mad. Then a little later, one of my guy friends called, and dad got even more mad. He said im too young to have guys calling me.
How can I convince my dad that im just friends with these guys? I really want to keep my friends, but he doesnt want me to hang out with guys. What do I do?
your dad is the typical dad hes gonna hate every boy you know because your his little princess and is always gonna b his little princess...the best thing you do is like have an older sister or older brother talk to your dad about it..if you dont have that option i guess you can have your friends meet you dad but thats a last resort otherwise i dont know what to do for you....
JesusFreak
I have a cold. I feel so gross and all I want to do is sleep. But I cant because I have loads of homework that I should be doing right now but I just feel..gross! Is there anything I can do to make me feel a little better so I can concentrate(sp?) on getting my work done? Besides taking medicine..I rate :(
I know this sounds gross but try eating a garlic close like only one of the big garlic its self it well totally clear our sinuses in a jiffy and make you feel better and if you have a soar throat take 2 tablespoons of honey
JesusFreak
Hey...im 14, a female, and just started the 9th grade a few weeks ago, there wis this one guy everyone was always talking about...all the girls from my middle school thought he was just SO hot but the girls from his middle school don't really care for him...well of course I had to fall for him...i've gotten a lot less shy when it comes to guy but I still have that "barrier" so like i got his sn and started talkin to him like the 4th week into school...I never really knew what to say to him b/c I didn't know him very well at ALL. (I love guy friends...and I wanted him to at least be one) Like he kinda seems to flirt with everyone ya know? but he flirts with me alot when i'm around him, it's akward...it's like i can't tell if he means ir or is just leading me on...the thing is, is that he doesnt really know me that well or how i behave or ne thing like that so i guess he doesnt seem to comprehend that i dont just want a "more then friend" thing outta all guys ( even thought i wouldnt mind one with him ;) ) so he kind assumes i guess that i'm just always "pushing myself on him"...one of his newer friends is like my best guy friend (even though me and him are having a shaky realtionship right now) and so like at lunch ill go and sit with my "best guy friend" so i can sit with him (no one knows that though! lol) and i just get so many mixed signals...but oh yeah...i'm white and he is too but he thinks that i date black boys and like them and all and I don't but idk for sure if he understands that or not or just like messes with me just so we have something to talk about ( ihope you understand what i mean by that, like just so that theres something he can say to me...i just had to add that too)...anyways, but...yesterday night my friend (in 10th grade) had a party and he was there too...and i found out from another friend that when he was standing with these like 3 or 4 other people he said something along the lines of that i liked him and was like "obsessed" with him...and that just really confused me! b/c i know i say that kinda stuff about people when i want ppl to know that this one guy likes me, i guess to brag in my own way or something but idk what guys mean when they do it! (he said this at like the middle of the party) but then he was like flirting with me towrds the end of the party...) idk if he just does that kinda stuff (like flirt with me and all) b/c he knows ill do it back or has figured out that i like him, but im just so confused and would love to knwo what to do! the thing is that i dont treat him any different than any of my other guy friends and dont talk to him more and in a diff. way...so thats why i said he just doesnt know how i act very well...i just dont know why he would say that i was obsessed! it just makes me feel so stupid ya know! im just so used to like recebtly all these guys that i go to school with and good friends with sayin how i could get ne one and then he comes along and is just kinda thrown in that circle and i hope he's not going to mess it up! im not going to lie i would love to have him! but...i just wanna know how he sees me! like if i really do annoy him or if he's just saying somehting differnet on the outside then on the inside ya know? and i also said that he's gettin tight with my best guy friend and he better not tear me and him apart! :-/! gosh im just so confused! just can you tell me what to do, if i should just not talk to him so he doesnt keep on thinkin im obsessed or w/e...any advice what so ever is welcome! please help me in any way you can! and i know this is a mess so hope ya can understand what i mean! ya may needa think long and hard about this response! thanks SO much! i just had to tell somebody! :-) im really really sorry its so long i just couldnt make it short! hope you arent upset....
hey hey....i think you should forget about him...i know in the past when i had a girlfriend i dumped i would tell people she was obsessed with me...cus i didnt like her so i just wanted to prove to them by saying that...hes not worht your time...you should move on and find the right guy for you...
JesusFreak...
hey i have a 4 month old beagle and he bits on EVERYTHING..especially people! i mean i know he's a puppy and he's teething but we bought him like 1000000 toys and he only chews on them when he wants to play? we give him frozen vegetables but that doesn't work either? Is it gonna go away..cuz I dont want an agressive dog! Also are there any tips to help him not bite as much?
i know when our dogs were teething we froze wash cloths and gave it to them to chew on
I see people at parties, or at the movies, or just see them talking and I get jealous because they're in such a good relationship and I'm not in one! I don't know what to do... I always think maybe I'll get a boyfriend soon, but it never happens... How to I get the people I like to notice me, and how do I get closer to having a relationship??
I'll rate!
Just be you...i know you must hear that alot but its true...if you want to find a decent relationship built on honesty and trust and find a good guy the guy is gonna havta like you for you...and i am in the same predicament u right now i sooo want a girlfriend just to hang out with to talk on the phone with and everything but it aint happening...it will happen soon once the right guy sees you and maybe you can even pursure a guy you like yourself instead of a guy coming to you...just dont sacrifice being yourself for some guy to like you....
I like 2 people a LOT!! One of them has a girlfriend, and the other one is my good friend. We're not BEST friends, but we talk a lot. I know that the first one is kind of out of my reach right now.. so I want to go for the second one! How do I get the second one to notice me as more than a friend?
-*I'll rate, thanks!*-
odds are he has already thought of you in that way cus at one point most guys think abbout there friends that r girls in that way...so just give him subtle hints like ask him would he ever date a good friend of his...or ask him to go somewhere just the 2 of you...and its good that you guys are good friend and might get into a relationship cus most great relationships are formed on a solid friendship...
JesusFreak
Heyyy im the grl who asked the question about the junior n stuff... the thing is today he saw me and i got really nervous n i got really shy. and everyone who knows me knos that im not shy at all! and soo how should i get over being shy around people :-/ its ruining things... he asked my friend y i was soo shy and that i might not be his type bc of that.
just get to know him more...i know the first time i meet people i am incredibly shy but once i get to know them i get myself around them...you could even tell him that..that you get shy around people you dont know that all well and i can almost guarentee you he will say "looks like we will havta change that then" meaning that u will havta get to know him....
JesusFreak
im a big christian. very religious--but the guy that i like, and likes me, is jewish. i know that sounds dumb, but seriously, i dont know how my parents would feel. what should i do if he asks me out?
hey hey....take it from me religion will become a big factor in your relationship down the road, like on your guyses beliefs and morals...take it from me (former Jew now a totally devote Christian)...mayb you should ask like a youth pastor,pastor or something if you dont feel comfortable i will even ask my youth pastor for you....but for now dating is fine but as you guys get more serious the more problems it will bring...just tell that you have to think about because of your guyses different believes no reason not to tell him the truth he should understand how you feel...
JesusFreak
i really like this guy sam. but he only likes the popular girls. im not saying im a nerd or anything, but im just not popular like that, for the reasons these girls are. they've all done IT and we're only in 8th grade!! well anyways, i like sam, and i know that he doesnt like me, but he knows i like him. he doesnt talk to me anymore i guess cuz he thinks its awkward. i wanna be his friend still but i cant get the courage to even say hey. can anyone help me?
hey hey....he isnt worth it if he doesnt like you for you...and the thing is thats super cool that you havent had sex i respect that in you...just try not to think about you not being "popular" just think of guys as equals...just start a convosation with something simple like can u help me with homework something like that...but dont change for him though ur cool the way u r
JesusFreak
OK here we go!! I am going out with my neighbor who is also going out with one of my best friends!! I know this but my friend doesnt so!! I cant tell anyone! Well we were outside and he was with his friend and he told his friend and my little sister that they were it and whispered in his friends ear that me and him were going to hise together and make out!! well we did and his friend later that night got my friend and his girlfriend cell phone number and is saying that he is going to call her and tell her about us!! And last night when i tried to talk to my bf he was like all pissed off but i think it was because my cousin was with me and he is kinda shy!! And he wants me to give him head or a hand job!! Sooo how do you do both of those?? And what should i tell him tonight??
i dont think its right for a guy to date 2 girls at once...you deserve better then that and so does your frined who doesnt know...personally i would tell him to chose bettween the 2 of u or if he doesnt id tell that he wont get neither of u cus u will tell the other girl
I Like relient k, their coming out with a new cd whoo hoo. Falling up, thousand foot krutch, skillet, casting crowns, third day...lots of rock stuff..dc talk is cool..so yea thanks 4 the verse..i knew it was in romans..
no problemo
hey well i'm really nervous about the first time i have sex. im nervous about becoming pregnant, like if the condom breaks. so i was wondering if its wrong/weird for the guy to wear 2 condoms (one on top of the other)... is that really pathetic? i know im supposed to use lube but i'm still scared so could i make him wear 2 just in case?
It almost sounds like your not ready to have sex yet...and also to have sex that means you must be ready to deal with the consequences of it too...i honestly believe in waiting for sex till after marriage....dont let a guy pressure you into having sex if he loves you then he can wait on it till you decide you want it not when the guy says you want it...
this uy asked me and my friend is going out with him what should i do
signed
comfussed
tell your friend, would u want ur bf cheatin on one of your closest friends...she probably wont believe u at first but she will realise ur tellin the truth and hes not worth losing u as a friend
sorry if its long!! ok. there is this gurl umm lets call her jenn* i used to like her, but when i got with my boyfriend, i found out some stuff that they did like umm..have sex in his truck. (this was back like 2 years ago and i have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now and havent done anything with him) ((she broke his glove compartment door by the way when they were doin it.lol)) ok well..everytime i think about it, i get sooo jealous/mad! i mean he dont like her or anything and always calls her a whore, which she does do a lot of ppl. well anyways..but i just dont know how to stop being so worried and stuff about it. ya see.. i saw her last night at the fair and we got on the same ride. she was 2 seats down from me. i didnt know she saw me. but obviously she did because she called my baby adam today and told him she saw me there. she asked him if he wanted to come over and go swimming and he told her naw. i asked him why he didnt go and he said because he wouldnt want me to go to a guys house and go swimmin and plus he just didnt feel like it. but do you know anyways just to keep from gettin so mad/jealous when i think about it? PLEASE HELP!
hey....i wouldnt worry about it...your boyfriend seems pretty loyal to you...cus im sure he knew if went over "jenns" house he would have gotten some...and if the sex thing still bothers you maybe you need to talk to him about it...i know when ive had past girlfreinds tell me about what they have done with there old bfs i hate it cus i always up seein the guy and start to dislike them...what i usually do is just ignore and tell myself that shes my girl now not theres whats in the past is past....
JesusFreak
No,I'm not afraid of not winning the fight. I'm afraid of the consequences (I.E.- getting arrested,never seeing her again). I'm not afraid of anybody.
ok i am sorry i assumed that you would be afraid
Just wanted to say Hi! Ohh and do you know the verse where it says "If you confess that Jesus something something something and you will be saved" LOl Sorry But i forgot it and I kinda need it. Thanks! Ohh and what kinda christian music do you like?
xo_sherry_ox
Romans 10:9
"If you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you will be saved." lol its ok...i really like relient k, dc talk and super chick what are you into?
This is a bit of a hot-button topic and I want everyone to know that I understand extreme responses, but I am asking here in the spirit of recieving support and suggestions. I'm interested in the practicalities of your opinions, here, not simply upon recieving judgement. PLEASE show some compassion and kindness.
So here's the deal: Next week I'm taking a plane flight to Scotland to marry my partner of 6 years. We have a very strong relationship. However, I feel I have very little on the level of practical support to offer in the relationship -- such as a finished education, a job, general income, etc. This relationship is my priority at all times and I will not compromise it for anything.
Recently, I was looking through job offers in a local paper and found an ad for escorts, offering daily cash, a safe environment, and training. According to the person running this service, an escort can make $10,000 a week -- with such an income, I could not only prepare MYSELF for travel, but I could help my incapacitated father a $1000 root canal on his last working tooth (his densures don't work for chewing), I could pay off ALL my college debts, and I could move on with my life.
However, I know that there are many negative aspects to consider in the world of escorting: disease, stigma, relationship integrity, and legality, as well as personal spiritual health & self-image.
If I lived in a world that had none of the above negative factors, I'd be all over the opportunity! Unfortunately, such a world doesn't exist, and I'm here asking you for alternate ideas, suggestions, anything really.
I'm stuck between my debts, my desire to contribute & not be dependent, my sense of responsibility, my feelings of inadequacy and desperation, and a general feeling that escorting is not something I should do, due to the risks. Help?
well there deal is you said that your and the guys relationship is number one priority and i know i wouldnt want my girl to be an escort...i dont care if it wouldnt mean nething to you or not its stil the fact that you did do it...i would strongly recommend not doing it...and also the wont you wanna be independent thats not marriage at all...marriage basically means dependence you basically rely on each other,you cant live without them..just tell him that u feel ur not bringing alot to the table and i know he will understand cus he loves you for you not what you have or havent got...and besides money is not worth the trade for the loss of ur n his relationship or ur self-image or ur health or intergrity or self worth....
I have a boyfriend that ive had for awhile now, like a year and then some. But lately ive been wanting to hang out with some other guys just for the fun of it. But i really love my boyfriend and i dont want to do anything to hurt him and i dont want to cheat. There is this one senior that i really like and hes in a couple of my classes. (im a sophmore btw) I want to get to know him better. He asked me if i wanted to come hang out with a couple of his friends a few times and i said i didnt know if my boyfriends gonna b ok with it. Then a few days ago before a football game he asked me to wear his jersey, he dosent have a girlfriend and his friends who are girls get to wear it. I wanted to but i didnt cuz my boyfriend doesnt want me 2 and i think i shouldnt have either. But i catch this guy looking at me alot, and i have to admit, if i were single id prolly date him. But i want to know if theres anyway i could try to b friends with ths very hot guy and not get my man jealous (he knows i love him and i dont wanna leave him)..and if this is like an obvious sign that he likes me.
guys no matter what get jealous...even if they are all like "i know you love me baby i wont get jealous" yeah he will get jealous and lash out at you...and the thing is your not just gonna be pursueing a friendship wiht this guy, you already said you would date him if you could and you have feelings of badness when he asks too hang out with him cus u have a bf...i dont think it is possible to be friends with this guy wihtout gettin ur self in trouble with ur boyfriend no matter how secure your guyses relation is with each other...and yes no doubt the football player has his eye on you and likes you
JesusFreak
Last year I met this amazing guy. We never went out, but i knew he liked me. We had a lot of fun together in class. This year he is in none of my classes. On the first day of school at lunch, our eyes met for 2 seconds. I felt so hurt. Then this year my friend told him I liked him. He said "Yeah I thought she liked me" He is hanging out with a guy who smoked pot last year. I'm afraid the guy I like will start it too, but I know he isn't into that and never will be. Lately I've been having so many dreams about him. I thought he was just a crush and I would get over him, but I can't. He means more to me than any guy has before. Should I forget him or keep on trying?
I think you should definately try to talk to him more before making a descision on whether or not to stop trying or keep going...see if he likes you or not or even if he doesnt atleast tell him your concerned about the pot thing....
JesusFreak
Hey, i'm 13 years old. When i wake up...my breasts hurt......is this normal for me? i read somewhere that maybe it's cuz i'm gettin ready to start my period, which i am.....but still...i need advice or whatever...from a girl plez tho......ASAP
hey hey...i heard enough about this stuff cus i live with a bunch of girls to know yeah its perfectly normal your just going through puberty...just take some tylonel to help with the pain...