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I really like the quote from hippocrates "Cure sometimes, treat often, comfort always" and i wanted to get a tattoo of it in Italian. I know some Italian from my grandma but I don't know how to say a few of these words so can somebody help me that knows how to speak Italian? I won't be seeing my grandma for awhile because she lives in Italy and doesn't have a phone and I don't want to use a translator because they aren't always right. Thanks!

Cure a volte, trattare spesso, comfort sempre

im pretty sure thats the way it goes...

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My friend and I used to be so close but now one of my other friends is sort of stealing my friend away from me. All three of us used to be really good friends but now im being pushed out of the group. i dont want to loose her because we have been friends since pre-school. we are now in grade 7 (almost 8)
What do i do?????

Well if you and your friend were real close then pull her to the side and tell her how you feel and then maybe things will work out.

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I am 17 and my boyfriend will not make out with me yet, but I want to!! What do I say to him or what do I do?

well what you need to do is tell him be honest with him maybe he's just shy..... or maybe he just is a little scared.
Just try talking to him maybe he will loosen up a bit

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What are the best ways to better your personality? I don't like myself and my habits, style, and actions sending a message I never intend to send. I want people to be turned on by my personality, and not turned off because I'm not self aware enough of my actions and their message. I want to understand others more and respond with true intentions sending a message I want to be read. I want to win people over because I know how to approach them. I want to be likingly unique; not unique where society doesnt find me acceptable. I want to know if my style turn heads away and to turn them my way. I want to change being weird in distasteful ways. I want to be confident in myself instead of focused on my disgust of my exterior appearance. It not being perfect. I want good character and I lack it because my concerns are shallow.

well if you really dislike the way you are why don't you go out and find who you are and find who you want to be. i mean i love being open and honest and people don't like that i think its normal to want to change, but change for the right reasons not for the worst.

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My aunt keeps getting Facebook messages on her phone from people she doesn't know. She's told them they have the wrong number but it doesn't stop. She doesn't have a Facebook. How do we get this to stop? Thank you answerers

go to facebook on the computer n type her number and report it to facebook...

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There's an anime called Togainu no Chi, but the site I'm watching it on takes almost a full hour to load only 20 minutes, so I was wondering if there are any sites out there that load it faster and better? With English subtitles too...

http://www.animefreak.tv/watch/togainu-no-chi-online

there are a lot off animes here also....

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Okay so im 11 yrs old and i've gotten my period already im on it this week so tomaro i have school but i sit next to a guy, how do i know when i have something in back or what if i smell? but also today i was wearing shorts and some blood ran down my leg... im terrified if that happens at school help !!!!!!

are you using pads? and try wearing dark colors that usually helps.... and you shouldn't smell if you are taking showers and changing your pad every 4 hours.....are you bleeding alot??

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debating on whether to show these to the muse. im not looking for edits(im happy with what ive written), just opinions on how they make you feel, and if they seem deep enough. also, they might be confusing bc theyre written about personal situations..ps, only in high school (; These are peices ive had saved on my labtop for about a year and this is my first time opening them in awhile. perhaps show me your favorite, or generally what i could improve on, thanks. (again, i know there is many type o's and errors. butits late and i just wanted to get this out.)

You say you’re a cheater not a liar,
Then why do you not even bother
With all the people you said you needed
And all the places you said you wanted to be
Preferably, with me.
I stood there watching your white van roll away
With my damsel in distress heart with it
As I hear yout tires speeding up, I also hear my heart slowing down
With one last kisson the lips, you whispered
youd come back
And the time would be short,
If I keep you in my heart
Will I stay in yours?
Cause I know this story
I know the tragic ending
oF the poprock princess and the rockstar
Traveling to each new kingdom
Only to find a new fair maiden in each one
Just say it isnt like the rest
That im just not another girl
Don’t give in to the flow
I know it’s different
I know we’re different
You can’t deny the chemistry
Or the things you do to me
You said you never meant to get this far
And that my heart wassn’t a thing to mess with.
Stay with me , we can be magnificent
We can make things everlasting and terrific
We can show the world new things
And lighten the world day by day
Like white does on black.
And come into my arms
You know I need you mre than
Ive ever needed anybody
I just don’t want this to be the last time
I can feel my heart beating.
Remember back to the times when I was your only comfort
And you were the only one in my heart
Come back to the time where it was just you and me
Standing on the old dirt path
Clutching your arm so tight, begging you not go
I should have known this is it how it ends
Tear stricken face, and body so vulnerable
You did your best to get out without fumble
Come back t me, its where ive always wanted tyou
Come back to back to me you know I need you
If you just had the strength to follow your heart
Im sure we wouldn’t be this far apart
So bring in the phone calls, and the ever lasting texts
Youll only remain in my brain, so complex
Farther in distance day by day
But closer in mind as you fade away
Before your gone forever
Tell me one last time
How you wish you could stay and you could be mine.
You left me broken, on the old dirt path
With nothing but your shadow
My arms were trembling and my face was leaking
How could you just walk away.

Its 3 am and of course its you on the other lilnle
Expressingyour exhilaration and happiness of the show
Longing for your hug,
Or just a moment with you
I smile and tell you how proud I am
Making jokes, and living in the moment,
Traveling the country with each passing day
A phone call is all I get, an explanation of your day
Or maybe just a drunken recollection of your past
What happens when these calls stop
Am I left with nothing?

the next 2 are kinda of similar-
But then it hit me, and I realized that these minutes with him were numbered.; quickly decreasing with each passing breath. Trying ot gather my thoughts was useless, I was to marveled by his perfection. His touch, words, stance, smile. Everything seemed to come all tgether. And when he touched me, we blended into one. But then we started kissing again, and I wasn’t even sure hwo started it this time, only that he was holding me stable, being the support net that I truly needed more than anything else.He held me tight, tight in a little bear hug that I loved. We inched apart and then kissed again, and again. I knew I had to let him go, but how do you let the one thing that makes sense walk out of your life? I knew I had to, but I couldn’t. So I clung. I clung to him, silently begging him not to go with my tears. His soothing words only made things worse. I looked up at him, and it occurred to me that I would be happy just standing here, in the middle of a filth covered parking garage for my whole entire life, with him. Heck, I could be sitting on a bench in central park in below freezing weather with him, and would still love it. I knew I could stay with him for a long time, maybe even forever. I was feeling light headed, I didn’t want this to stop. Not Ever.

next one:

We stood only centimeters apart, me sopping wet in those faded blue shorts and black t. Clinging to your damp yellow shirt, feeling your solid stomache bear all my sorrowful punches, trying to make you stay. I grasp your arms, you pull me closer, whispering sweet nothings to me. This wasn’t fair. I finally found happiness, and it was being taken away so quickly. I buried my head into your chest crying harder nad harder with each breath. You told me not to worry, I was amazing and that you’ll be back soon. When I looked into your weak eyes, I could tell even you weren’t sure about that. Begging you, pleading, doing anything to make you stay. I needed you hera with me. I needed to feel your body next to mine, to feel your fingers wipe away my bangs curtaining my face. You said I shouldn’t cover my beauty, to show it off to the world and make them jealous. I wish you could see how much you mean to me, how much I rely on you each breathing day. Knowing you had to leave, I only held tighter. One last kiss on the lips , I could tell I wasn’t the only one who was going through pain. I wish you stayed. I wish you realized how much you mean to me. I wish you were here, with me. Not there, with them. My grip finally loosening, accepting reality, we stepped apart. Giving me a once over, you pulled me back into your arms. “Your making this so hard for me” you whined. Stop being selfish, stop thinking about yourself, stop living for you and no one else. I know you don’t do that. I know your not an ass hole. I know that YOU know, that deep down inside you, you have the ability to put the bottle down. Your worth so much, so much to me. Closing my eyes, inhaling your scent , i realized I was being tugged away. Tugged away from merely someoneI couldn’t breathe without. I don’t even know you. You don’t even know me. This shouldn’t be hard, youre nothing in my life. An apologetic look filled your eyes as you were being pushed into the van. This was it. This is how it ended. Another tragic ending to this pointless life.

Their words are nothing to me.
Trying as they might, they cant penetrate this forcefiled of love.
Blocking every jab, and dodging every put down.
I know you, and I know your kind
Two whole different comparisons.
I never thought itd be you I’d find
The rockstar, and the small town girl
Your far , its becoming a blur.
Please, don’t let this memory
Fade away.

Forever waiting , but never patient
Give me back my heart that I lent.
I can’t deal with this anymore
It’s so damn hard to hold on to a heart
When theres so much in between
I know its for the best
So make this my last request,
End the texts. End the calls
Cause with every word exchanged
My heart just falls.
Deeper, and deeper.
Flag the white bandana, I surrender
Bring me my vacation, I retire
These long nights and unhealthy feelings
Cant be right. I’m not your slave
And your not my sire. Make this easy
Help me let you go. rip the frays from
The line we sever when we say this is over


Why is it that whenever my subconscious thoughts become actions, my fingers end up holding the phone with your voice on the other end.
You know you don’t have my heart, and it’s not yours to mend.
But the care and strength you put into making me safe is enough to prove your own thoughts wrong.
Another day , another worry. A new problem a new song.
“the worst feeling in the world, is knowing your not safe and I can’t do anything about it’
You repeat to me, time after time.
If only you could choke on your own words that your killing me with.

Silly and special, I’m your little wonderball you sya
If only how true yo knew that was
A hard outside shell, seeming unbreakable
But ot simply shatter at the slightest hit
Candy coated , and bittersweet
Filled with little suprises.




Your words like a noose aroud my neck
Leave me on edge
The edge of what could be, and what has been
They slither up around me neck,
Slowly constricting my airways
Tightening, tightening then loosening
You give me air so I can breathe, but
The entire time im holding my breath.
In my head I know im stronger than this
But these words mean so much
Coming from you. Anyone else
It would be a mere snowball flocked my way,
You sent an avalanche , leaving me numb
To everything around me. Cut the rope,
Melt the snow, I can’t deal with this .



Holding my breath with each silent day,
Ive brought this all upon myself,
I poured the kerosene that burnt the bridges,
The again what kind of victim are you if you merely watched?
No fetching of water, no calling 911,..was this your intentions all along?
I’ll be silent, waitng for the outcome. Standing tall as an oak
But knowing my insides are rotting, one day , when the breeze is blowing,
Ill collapse into the green green grass.


How can I forget the the drunken I love yous? I LOVE YOU,
The 4 AM talks of bittersweet goodbye & wheat thins are gonna be nothing but a tear jerker now. Tell me how your voice changes so quickly, loving and endearing ot frightful and dream breaking. We met as two but left as one, now im missing my other half.

I’ll let you fly your way back to me, youll know where Ill be. Sitting here as usual waiting for the ever so faitfhful words of wisdom you seep through your mouth. You’ve taught me so much, you can just end this. You’ve said to much, you can just end this., You cant leave me here, broken shattered nad incomplete, baby your so over me and I have to even start on you. To tell you this would be absurd, do risk the chance o f rejection? Not a chance. So for now ill sing lonely lullabies to anyone waiting at my window, looking odwn on them they wont be bal to see the disappointment nt n ny face when it isntu r gleaming smile shooting right back at me. If I could do this over you know I would, id go o the top of every hill, only to tumble down into your arms.id



Send a smile my way, make me laugh day by day
Show me the ropes and teach me the course
I want this , but must not force
We’ve taken two steps forward and none back
With our feelings drying right out on a rack
Everythings, everythings open
We ran this race and finished in pace
Som uch time with lots to do
No point in rushing to be with you
If its love we can wait,
If if its love its time we can take
We know how we feel, and we know how to deal
Todeal with the distance, to deal with the emotions
Keep me laughing, and Ill keep you smiling,
Keep me missing and ill keep you wanting
This is so absurd, the way we act
For mere strangers we do not act
One day we’ll be together
Youll spin me round and round forever
We’ll lay in bed making silly faces
We’ll lay in bed with good graces
Our time will come, and when it does
Our hearts will be ready for all it brings
But for now we must wait,
For the time of our souls
To beg togheter again
For now we are only memories
Only far off dreams distanced by fences and trees
We’ll hop the fences and climb the trees
And spend the days swimming the rivers.
Our connection is something undeniable





go for it you will never know if you don't try... in my opinion they are good

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So i have a boyfriend and i dated someother guy on the internet like 8 times & we r friends now, we haven't met like hang out only have seen eachother like 3 times and he said he wants to go back with me but i dont know because i love both of them.. /: help! i dont wanna hurt anyone :(
i know distant relation ships arent worth it but im in love with him and my bf /:

why don't you do a list on both of them...what you like about them and what you hate.... if one does better then the other then you know who to pick... n you should really be faithful sweety cause honestly you could end up losing both of them....

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my gf believes shes found her soulmate. its not me. you know how much that hurts? i have never felt this bad in my life. and ive had a pretty horrible life. and ive felt pretty horrible in my life. please help me. i cant take much more of life

Don't feel bad, I know how that feels. Just let her go she is a bad person, if she wasn't feeling you the way you was her she should have told you. Find someone who will cherish you the way you cherish them. There're alot of people you need to look in the right places

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Ok, a few years ago, my best friend got involved with this guy. I liked him when I first met him, but then I found out from several people that he was weird. So I convinced her to stop going out with him (they were never really "together"). Ok, he called her non-stop; she never picked up and he wouldn't take the hint. He even got her number and called her at work. Finally, I called him and told him it was over. She never heard from him again after that.

Now, however, I found out that he is dating my cousin's friend. I don't really know her, but I think I should warn her about him. This guy is a weirdo and a stalker, and I think any woman he comes in contact with should be warned about him. I just don't know if it is my place to tell her. Any help would be appreciated.

I think you should warn her sweety she needs to know what type of person she is dealing with.....

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Okay im 16 and transgender male, my boyfriend and i have been togather for a year now, before me he had a really bad relationship with a guy named josh who hurt him very badly, but ever since we have been togather he always brings josh up and it bugs me, im transgender male so i was born female but am now male, i feel threaten by josh who is not only his ex but who was also born male unlike me. Well the other night josh messaged him and asked to be his friend, my boyfriend wants his number to call him just to "brag" he says. Well its been two days and josh hasnt replied to him now all my boyfriend does is talk about josh more, and keep checking his myspace every half an hour to see if he replied yet it bugs the hell out of me. Whats going on i really want to trust my boyfriend or is he just using me to get to his ex...if so i have wasted a year of my life on this.....i really need help

hun i say talk to him about how you feel if he starts throwing in his ex tell him your gone cause honestly that's not how people should treat a person that they have been going out with

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Okay so there's this guy I went to school with in middle school and I never saw him after 8th grade ever, in August on 2010 I SAW HIM and I was all goo-goo gagga over him , haha ! Butt.. I was pregnant, now I'm not and we are always texting and flirting .. But I'm still with my daughters father, and I plan on leaving him . (Thats besides the point) I've seen this guy twice and it seems as if we really like each other but when we see each other we don't have much to talk about, What can I do to fix this ? I get shy and I don't know what too sayyy . I really like him and I want to see if this will work out. Any Ideass?

talk to him about how you feel and if you still feel like you don't want to be with him then tell him he could have visitation rights for his daughter but you also got to make sure the other guy is willing to accept the fact that you have a daughter and be willing to deal with it and help you with your daughter....sorry thats the best i got

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16/F

Okay, it took me about ten years to make all the friends I have now and at the time, they were all wonderful. We acted like kids, we cried on each other's shoulders, we shared secrets, told jokes, had the best time of our lives and now, it's all completely ruined. I have friends who are doing drugs, smoking, and drinking, having sex, and dating guys online who've they've never even met and claim they want to marry him. I have two friends, let's call them Z.S and A.D, who're in a huge fight over some really nasty guy who lives several states away and they both claim they love him, telling each other that the other doesn't love him as much as they do. It's really ridiculous and they're acting like a couple of drama queens. Another friend of mine, A.C, is dating a guy online she's never met, who's slipped up while talking to me before, and he tells her these totally outrageous stories about how he's being sent to a special school for gay/bisexual boys with his brother, who was diagnosed with lung cancer. Another friend of mine, M.R is obsessed with smoking, drinking, and bragging about how she's getting her ID so she can buy cigars and stuff. I'll admit, I did something kind of bad a couple years ago, but I haven't done anything since because what happened scared me. It basically turned me a bit of a coward, but I think it was for the better because I became happy and optimistic, life is awesome if you make it that way. And now that I've started hanging out with my friends again, since we hardly have any classes together, they're ruining everything amongst ourselves. I think they're doing it because they're bored and quite frankly, it's just aggravating me. I don't want to be friends with them anymore, but I don't want to show up at school and get beat up or anything. Not to mention I'd feel super bad about telling them flat out... I'm more of a loner, though, and I have two friends I talk to everyday online when I get home and they're the only ones who understand (btw, I've met them in real life before I met them online). I really don't know what to do anymore and I kind of feel bad for wanting to ditch them, but I just can't handle all the stress again from taking sides and getting involved with this stuff...

Listen you shouldn't feel bad people outgrow each other and the stuff that your friends are doing is wrong you should ask the to stop there crap.Tell them your not like that and that you want them to stop, maybe its just the stuff they doing if you show them you care maybe they will stop and you guys could be friends.

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My exboyfriend and I broke up less than a week ago and he has some serious issues and thinks im crazy (because im not going to lie i got angry and said some hateful things, but doesn't everyone do that after a bad breakup?), but thats just to make him feel better for the decision he made. I am unemployed and have applied at over 30 places and the one place that calls me back is in the same shopping center to where he works (and it looks like we will be working the same hours). Once he sees my car or me going into work he is going to think im stalking him or "oh she got a job right beside me so she can spy on me or harass me" i just want to get over him and hope that nothing will happen. my plan is to just go to work; in and out with my head down and not even look his way. I wish i had a choice to not take this job, but i need it and have no choice. How am I going to deal with working right next door to him? what if he blows it out of porportion and starts to harass me? Please help!

I understand your problem and i think you should just dont pay mind to him it shouldnt matter what he thinks any more as long as your intensions dont involve him.......

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Okay so I'm Bi and I have a Bi friend, whom I kissed at my friends 13th birthday. She and I are both very open about being Bi and I'm 12 and she is 13 we are both girls. I know we are to young to be kissing and dating and stuff. But after I kissed her a really latched onto her and stuck around her and ended up REALLY liking her. She has a boyfriend who is aware of her bisexuality. We slept in the same bed that night, although my other friends were afraid to let us. I don't know what to do about this or if I seriously like her or it's just the effect of kissing her. I don't know. Please help me!

I'm a bi girl to and trust me you should both talk about your feelings twords each other and see what happens... inbox me if anything....

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Me and my bf have been together for a few years now, lately we've broken up but then get back together (its mostly been off).
We're together as of this moment but lately things have been bleh and off between us, and by off i mean we're not that close like we use to be.

When we have sex it feels like he wants to get it over with, or if we do then its just once and that's it. Before we would have sex twice sometimes 3 times a day and he would not keep his hands off me, now he just doesn't touch me at all and it also feels like he just doesn't want to have sex any more. I'm the one that as to insensate it.
Is he cheating?

Btw i'm 23 and he will be 30 on his birthday. And also we do not live together either.

I need more information on your bf behavior to help you inbox me if you can. I would really like to help.

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18/Female/ Ok,sorry if this is long,but I would love it if someone responded. ok so I'm soo lonely! I have like nooo friends anymore! I also am more of a quiet person, which I hate about myself! ): because I feel like its the reason why people dont like me. Until I get to know someone pretty good or alot, then I get more comfortable and am more talkative. but heres the story, I used to have a best friend and we would do everything and go hang out with a bunch of people! but were not friends anymore, because she was into drugs and would get me into trouble, and treated me like shit, so I dropped her. I had another best friend, and we eventually kinda stoppped being friends, but we hang out occasionally and still talk. I had a good best guy friend but he's being dumb and everytime I try texting him and saying hi, he just doesnt text back and doesnt seem to care anymore. And yea, all I hang out with is my boyfriend, just me and him, or with his friends, which are guys. I need girl time too! but I have trouble making girl friends. I'm graduated and the girls I would hang out with in high school all get back together and put pics on facebook, but it makes me feel like, they dont even want to call me up and be like, Hey! we are all in town and getting back together! you should come! but no! And I took the year off from college, I should be a freshman, but I really hated school, and homework, and stressing, so I just wanted to relax, find a job, and just do my own thing. So during my free time, ive moved out and got my own apartment, I've gone to a few parties and met some people, but none that I have become best friends with, except this one girl, we've hung out and one day we were acting like we were best friends but then eventually we stopped talking, and once in awhile we talk, but I am always the one to text her or the person or say, lets hang out! no one ever says we should hang out! I feel like if I keep asking they will get annoyed with me and just not text me back. so I just pull back, and just wait to see if they they text me...but they never do! I dont know what to do..no one seems to care, except my boyfriend! I am fun, and a friendly person, but is that not enough?? Cuz the people I have hung out with have seen that side of me but yet they still make it seem like im not good enough. so what should I do? keep texting "my supposed" friends and get nothing back? or wait till they text me but that doesnt go anywhere either. but also, now its making me afraid to go to college, because I dont want to end up with noo friends, and such. yea maybe college is different from high school, but people can still be the same. ): I feel like something is wrong with me, please help!

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU you're just different that's all I'm the same way and honestly I have the same problems but honestly all I can say is be yourself and let people know that you are you and there is no one else you can be if they don't like you it is because they aren't worth your time. My problem was I was always putting peoples happiness ahead of my own. Please don't make my mistakes. Update me if you want let me know how everything goes after awhile.

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My cousin and i have been fighting a lot lately. He's gotten really close to our other cousin who doesn't like me to much. He told me he doesn't want anything to do with me and he's starting to "bully" me now. He's not bipolar but he has moods where he's ok with me and then all of a sudden he acts like he hates me even when our other cousin isn't around. help please! i just want to know what his problem is but when i ask he says he doesn't know.

I went through the same thing one day my cousin hit me in the face and i pushed him down some stairs me and him are cool now hes 21 now and im going to be 18 soon this happened when we were both kids maybe its time that you fight back give me some more info on your other cousin the one that doesn't like you and i could give you a better response

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Ok so me and the guy were super close we texted everyday idk what happened... Now my other friend that goes o a different school she started to talk to him and so Im sure that there talking has slowed down aha but he has been talking to me but not major like texting. Anyways the other back up guy he and G don't get along like they pretend o like each other but really they don't. That's mainly the side stories and how I chose between them I did a pro con list for each of them and G had a lot of pros so I just asked him! Oh yeah I got a restricted phone call last night but i dont know so. Like dont care what you think he'll say well I do a little but I just want to know already what do I do and um just type all of ur opinions aha ok thanks !

Okay lol well ask g and see what happens im sure he will say yes and if he doesn't then ask the other one let me know what happen!!!

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