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Friends or not friends?
18/Female/ Ok,sorry if this is long,but I would love it if someone responded. ok so I'm soo lonely! I have like nooo friends anymore! I also am more of a quiet person, which I hate about myself! ): because I feel like its the reason why people dont like me. Until I get to know someone pretty good or alot, then I get more comfortable and am more talkative. but heres the story, I used to have a best friend and we would do everything and go hang out with a bunch of people! but were not friends anymore, because she was into drugs and would get me into trouble, and treated me like shit, so I dropped her. I had another best friend, and we eventually kinda stoppped being friends, but we hang out occasionally and still talk. I had a good best guy friend but he's being dumb and everytime I try texting him and saying hi, he just doesnt text back and doesnt seem to care anymore. And yea, all I hang out with is my boyfriend, just me and him, or with his friends, which are guys. I need girl time too! but I have trouble making girl friends. I'm graduated and the girls I would hang out with in high school all get back together and put pics on facebook, but it makes me feel like, they dont even want to call me up and be like, Hey! we are all in town and getting back together! you should come! but no! And I took the year off from college, I should be a freshman, but I really hated school, and homework, and stressing, so I just wanted to relax, find a job, and just do my own thing. So during my free time, ive moved out and got my own apartment, I've gone to a few parties and met some people, but none that I have become best friends with, except this one girl, we've hung out and one day we were acting like we were best friends but then eventually we stopped talking, and once in awhile we talk, but I am always the one to text her or the person or say, lets hang out! no one ever says we should hang out! I feel like if I keep asking they will get annoyed with me and just not text me back. so I just pull back, and just wait to see if they they text me...but they never do! I dont know what to do..no one seems to care, except my boyfriend! I am fun, and a friendly person, but is that not enough?? Cuz the people I have hung out with have seen that side of me but yet they still make it seem like im not good enough. so what should I do? keep texting "my supposed" friends and get nothing back? or wait till they text me but that doesnt go anywhere either. but also, now its making me afraid to go to college, because I dont want to end up with noo friends, and such. yea maybe college is different from high school, but people can still be the same. ): I feel like something is wrong with me, please help!
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THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU you're just different that's all I'm the same way and honestly I have the same problems but honestly all I can say is be yourself and let people know that you are you and there is no one else you can be if they don't like you it is because they aren't worth your time. My problem was I was always putting peoples happiness ahead of my own. Please don't make my mistakes. Update me if you want let me know how everything goes after awhile.
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I think we've all had friends like that and quite frankly you're better without them. If they dont consider you to be a part of their life then why should you?
I suggest you get out there a little more. If you go back to school you're bound to meet some people there, join a sport or a hobby, call up the friend you've drifted apart from and arrange a girlie night out or in. Anyone you're still in contact with them invite them out places and meet new people along the way.
Its difficult maintaining relationships sometimes but a friendship goes both ways - you both gotta pout in the
effort to keep in touch more and go out places. Put yourself in a range of social situations and be more open with people. Some may think you're closed off or less approachable because you're a little less talkative at first. Have confidence in yourself and your value as someones friend. Dont let your own insecurities and past "friends" put you off making new ones.
And believe me. College is MUCH different from high school. There are people of all ages and personalities there. Usually most people leave the immaturity at high school.
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