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My worries :/
Hello, (Sorry, if it's long..>.<)
Okay, well to start off my boy friend and I have been together for a year now, and this person has became so close to me, and I care for him very much. I'd do anything for him.
He doesn't have a family who is really there for him, his mother lives in Alabama and he doesn't know who his father is, so he lives with his grandmother, and great great grandmother. His mother was into drugs and all that :/
His grandmother has been there for him, most of the time but she is so mean to him, and she puts on an act for others and my mother and I. She's strict on us not seeing each other at all, no dances at our school, no dates were only aloud to see each other at school..I'm also not alot to call there house, he's not aloud to call me.
My boy friend dislikes that so much because he works so hard for her, he cooks, cleans and helps his great grandmother with her oxygen, he helps feed her he does everything she asks, so he made a phone, with a seprete phone line, so he can talk to me when he gets a chance. He usually calls me around 8, and around 11 or so because he's so busy. His grandmother cut his phone line, so I'm not aloud to talk to him at all until the middle of March :( Only in the mornings we can talk, I miss him and I'm the type of person who worrys so much, about everything..and thats just the person I am >.< He has made some mistakes recently so it makes me worry if he just doesn't want to talk to me. I just worry, and miss him which really makes me depressed. :/ I don't like being depressed. I use to go threw it alot, but I haven't really been in a real depression sense 6th grade. My boy friend helps me feel more secure with my self, sense I'm shy, and I don't feel like I fit in with everyone. I do believe he loves me, with all we been threw, I just worry to much, and have bad feelings like he'll break up with me ( even though he says no, because he has been hurt by all his past girl friends and i'm the only one who as treated him right, plus he doesn't break up with his girlfriend he says :/ they always hurt him) or he might cheat. I always feel like I'm not good enough for him, even though he says I am. His past girl friends cheated on him, and are really judgemental :/ He believes I'm the one for him, but I'm just scared of losing him, and being alone. >.< What do you guys think? Do I just need to relax and wait until I'm able to talk with him again? :/
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Hi, i just read you question and it really called out to me. I have been through depression before as a matter of fact, I just came out of one. From what i read i can tell that you both care about eachother very much. I highly doubt he will break up with you because it seems he really cares about you. I mean he is doing everything in his power just to talk to you. I have a really good feeling that this will all work out for you. Dont worry about all this just think of how much he really cares about you because this seems like the real deal. I hope this has helped you in some way. I know this is going to work out for you. I wish you all the best!
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Alright. Here's my advice for you!
What you must understand is that your boyfriend comes from a broken home(with his mom being on drugs, and him not knowing his dad), he also comes from many broken relationships(his past girlfriends cheating on him..), so when he says that he loves you, and you're the one, BELIEVE HIM! He has gone through too much pain to lie! And yes, his grandmother may be strict, but to the grandmother, your boyfriend is all she's got. And she knows the pain he's been through. And it's definitely not easy raising a teenage boy as an older woman. Not to mention times have changed, the things teenagers do now a days when their in love... i think it scares the grandmother. Look, I know where you're coming from. My boyfriend and me are going through some ruff patches..we hardly have time for each other, parents are interfering and annoying..we haven't been alone in weeks! It's in those times that I think that I might lose him. But then there are those moments, you know? When finally after that long time, you get to talk to him, you get to be with him, you get to kiss him and it's the best feeling in the world. It's those moments that you've got to hold on to. And be patient..you'll find ways to meet..if you truly like each other, you guys will stop at nothing to be together!
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The last sentence, yes. Just chillout. You seem to be living your relationship in the future, thinking he might break up with you, he might cheat on you, he might hurt you. He's got a lot on his plate right now and I'm sure he doesn't need you worrying so much about the stability of your relationship. You need to be confident in your feelings towards each other because doubt is one of the things that can tear a relationship apart. I'm sure he's trying to talk to you and see you as much as he can, so try not to worry so much. Find other hobbies to do to occupy the time that you don't get to see/talk to him so you won't worry so much. Goodluck, Jess.
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