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How Do I Develop Good character?
What are the best ways to better your personality? I don't like myself and my habits, style, and actions sending a message I never intend to send. I want people to be turned on by my personality, and not turned off because I'm not self aware enough of my actions and their message. I want to understand others more and respond with true intentions sending a message I want to be read. I want to win people over because I know how to approach them. I want to be likingly unique; not unique where society doesnt find me acceptable. I want to know if my style turn heads away and to turn them my way. I want to change being weird in distasteful ways. I want to be confident in myself instead of focused on my disgust of my exterior appearance. It not being perfect. I want good character and I lack it because my concerns are shallow.
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Hello There!
I think that first of all you show good promise in the road to change. The fact that you have written this about yourself and asked for help means you really are aware of your faults and want to something about them.
It seems that the focus of your inner conflict is about your judgement of others. This seems to be the number one focus of your digust against yourself. Than you see faults in people based on their outside appearance rather than inside. Interesting though, that your hatred towards yourself is for the very same reasons.
The reason people turn their heads away is not your looks, but your attitude. You hate your appearance both internally and externally and it is often easier to blame your appearance than it is to blame who you are as a person.
I get the impression that on the outside you look fine, but you suffer from a warped perception of your body. When you look in the mirror you see your inner hate reflected in the glass as parts of your face and body you feel you need to perfect.
It is not the body you hate, but the eyes. Is it hard to look into them?
If you think about what you have done as a person which you regret and feel guilty about, that is where your charecter lies and the answer to the changes you need to make.
You were expected from a young age by those around you to fulfill their needs and often felt like you were not good enough. You hate yourself for not fulfilling them, but you were young and you did the best you could. They wanted you to be something you weren't and you dont need to feel guilty about that!
You need to realise that when you were a child and you were brought downby family, maybe becase you were a tom boy or because you didnt come home from school and support everyone else...You need to realised they were being selfish. They taught you that you had to be perfect, what everyone wanted...
They are the ones with the problem.
You need to address your past and find you. You dont know who you are right nowm because you try so hard to be what everyne wants you to be and hate yourself when it doesnt work out that way.
Your body is fin, you are a hurting soul. You are not a bad soul. Find yourself , I see your morals are in tact and surround yourself with decent people who can see and value that!
Best of Luck, Steph.
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well if you really dislike the way you are why don't you go out and find who you are and find who you want to be. i mean i love being open and honest and people don't like that i think its normal to want to change, but change for the right reasons not for the worst.
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