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I don't want them anymore
16/F
Okay, it took me about ten years to make all the friends I have now and at the time, they were all wonderful. We acted like kids, we cried on each other's shoulders, we shared secrets, told jokes, had the best time of our lives and now, it's all completely ruined. I have friends who are doing drugs, smoking, and drinking, having sex, and dating guys online who've they've never even met and claim they want to marry him. I have two friends, let's call them Z.S and A.D, who're in a huge fight over some really nasty guy who lives several states away and they both claim they love him, telling each other that the other doesn't love him as much as they do. It's really ridiculous and they're acting like a couple of drama queens. Another friend of mine, A.C, is dating a guy online she's never met, who's slipped up while talking to me before, and he tells her these totally outrageous stories about how he's being sent to a special school for gay/bisexual boys with his brother, who was diagnosed with lung cancer. Another friend of mine, M.R is obsessed with smoking, drinking, and bragging about how she's getting her ID so she can buy cigars and stuff. I'll admit, I did something kind of bad a couple years ago, but I haven't done anything since because what happened scared me. It basically turned me a bit of a coward, but I think it was for the better because I became happy and optimistic, life is awesome if you make it that way. And now that I've started hanging out with my friends again, since we hardly have any classes together, they're ruining everything amongst ourselves. I think they're doing it because they're bored and quite frankly, it's just aggravating me. I don't want to be friends with them anymore, but I don't want to show up at school and get beat up or anything. Not to mention I'd feel super bad about telling them flat out... I'm more of a loner, though, and I have two friends I talk to everyday online when I get home and they're the only ones who understand (btw, I've met them in real life before I met them online). I really don't know what to do anymore and I kind of feel bad for wanting to ditch them, but I just can't handle all the stress again from taking sides and getting involved with this stuff...
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Listen you shouldn't feel bad people outgrow each other and the stuff that your friends are doing is wrong you should ask the to stop there crap.Tell them your not like that and that you want them to stop, maybe its just the stuff they doing if you show them you care maybe they will stop and you guys could be friends.
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It sounds like you've really outgrown these old friends and there's nothing wrong with that. If you don't want to participate in or condone their self-destructive behavior then don't do it. I don't feel it's necessary to come right out and tell them you don't want to be friends anymore. Just do what you've been doing by avoiding them and seeing them less and less. I'm sorry you feel like you might get beat up if you tell these people things can't be the same between you. That's certainly not okay for anyone to give you that impression. And, you should not feel bad about wanting to put space between you and these old friends. You're making new friends so concentrate on that for now. Trust me, many people will come in and out of your life over the years. It happens to all of us. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders and that's an excellent thing! Hope this helps a bit. Good luck!
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