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My friend's are into druds, alcohol, smoking ,ans sex. I'm just not interested in any of that stuff at all! I think it's just wrong, but my friends say it'll make me look cool, but, i don't think it will. I think it'll make me look stupid. I'm afraid of giving in, what shoul i do? (link)
dont give in !! please
your 'friends' are acting rediculous, (no offense) thinking sex and drugs is cool, cus it totally isnt. if anything it makes you look easy and young. as hard as it mite be to hear, i would start hanging with a crowd u enjoy being around, people you can chill at the mall with or hang out at the movies. you cant change what your friends do, but that doesnt mean you should give in and join them. your rite to think what they do is wrong. be straight up and tell them that doinng all that stuff is really immature and say u wont do it, but you still want to be friends. if they say no, its their loss and you start fresh with a new crowd .. hope i helped much luck get bac at me if you need to


Theres this kid named matt that I thougth I liked and he likes me A LOT! I led him on and now i feel horriable about it and I like this other kid named Justin SOOOOOO much more and Justin likes me too and now im stuck and i dont know how to get out of this. i know its not very nice and i really dont like myself for doing it but ugh i can't help who i like and dont like. :[ (link)
well, dont go for someone that you dont like. if you really like justin then its not a crime to go for him! but make sure that you apologize to matt because you owe him one. be sincere and say that it was never your intention to lead him on at all, but youd like to be friends rite now because you cant help your feelings for someone else. hope i helped .. good luck!


14/f freshman. i want a boyfriend! ive never had one before , never been kissed or anything. i've had chances (okay like one maybe two) but still :[ i talk to some guys but i dont really have any guys friends. the thing is im really shy. so it sucks, i get weird around guys. i'm kinda interested in these two guys jake and tom. jake is in my gym class and i've talked to him before but the thing is he like talks to everybody. he's a people person. lol. and tom is in english and history with me. i've never really talked to him cause he sits far away. first of all, how can i get up the courage to talk to these guys?? i tried adding tom on myspace but he hasn't added me back :[ also, how can i get other guys to notice me. it's not like i'm ugly, i mean i'm not perfect but i'm not really ugly. i dress nice, you know i wear brand name clothes, straighten my hair almost everyday..makeup, etc. but im shy! ughhhh yeah so what should i do to 1) get guys to notice me, 2) get jake & tom to notice me/talk to me or how i could get up the courage to talk to them.

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ok first off - dont want a bf just to have a bf! when theres someone that your REALLY interested in then you go for it, trust me unwanted boyfriends are more trouble than their worth. really, dont be shy! try to talk to boys as you do with your friends, if you put on an act around a guy, usually the notice and call you off. its better to always be yourself. if you like these guy and want to be noticed, you dont have to wear brand name clothes or straighten your hair silly. laugh, smile, show off your personal flirty side, talk to your girlfriends in front of them so they say your name and the boys end up knowing who you are, or ask them about hw or comment them on that "really hot shirt" their wearing that u saw in the window at the mall. little stuff taht you show off guys notice and cling to, most. hope i helped ask if you need nythin else good luck


my boyfriend is two years younger than me. is it bad? i mean he acts alot older and we really do like eachother.. (link)
yeah there is absolutley no reason why you shouldnt date him! its not bad at all. if you really like him, stick with it !


alrite well i have never kissed a guy before and my boy friend wants to french kiss me i want him to but im very very very nervous seeing as i dont now what to do someone please explain to me i really dont want to make a fool out of myself please!! thank you so much xx (link)
i feel like ive been answering this question forever lol but anyways yeah so its really not what you think its going to be. there is no right or wrong way to do it and you just cant think about it. it comes totalllly natural i promise. he'll end up leading you anyway. dont be nervous have fun, and make sure you never get made to do nythin you dont want to


Okay ijust started highschool and like im realli stressed out cause like my dad has cancer and i think im already failing classes and stuff.... sooo i went to a counsiler and like i started counseling today to help me with all this.....
so my question isi how do i tell my parents about counsiling without like freaking them out??? (link)
i dont think that your parents will be upset at all with you !! high school is an extremely big change from middle school and that alone kids need counseling on .. and with your dad having cancer (im so sorry) it must be extra hard on you. asking for help is the best way to go and im sure taht both your parents will be very understanding. sit them down and tell them why you like it and why you think you need it to help be more relaxed everyday. hope i helped much


im from greece .i moved here 10 y ago.
i somewhat started my life here but to many bad things happen the last 5 y .i was deprest for the past two until i went back to greece for a visit my relatives and i show how they live(the life style).
my question is i have my brother and sister here in the states and i dont want to separate from them just the idea kills me,but at the same time i really like the time i had with friends and relatives there.
im in the middle and dont know wich direction to follow (link)
i think that because you dont enjoy being in the states and you really love living in greece with your relatives and family, you should move back there. its always hard to put yourself first over the people you love but sometimes you have to; you can always contact your brother and sister on the phone every day or week, email them, write them, visit once or twice a year hope i helped much luck


14/f. school starts wednesday the 6th and so does field hockey. this year i will be on the varsity team, but i'm not sure if i want to do field hockey again this year. every year i HATE going to practices, like i really do dread going to them. you have to run so much and the coaches are not nice at all, they dont' care if your tired or anything. but i LOVE the games. i just don't know what to do. like should i quit this year because i hate the practices so much, or should i continue because i like the games?

i played field hockey in 7th & 8th, and this year i'll be in 9th grade, which is my last year of middle school if that helps at all. thanks :] (link)
heyy i play field hockey too and yes, i HATE practices!! i hate running i hate drills i hate being yelled at. but when im on the field in a game its so exciting and i love it i also like being on a team and having people there for you, i try to take the coach seriously (even tho shes mean !! ) and try 110% always when you look like your trying your hardest they seem to go easier on you too. if this is really a passion maybe you should finish up your last year on varsity its really an honor to be on varsity and the season isnt very long so i would stick it out, tahts what im doing now hope i helped much luck


I know this probally sounsd bad but me and my "friend with benifits" are going to the movies this week and he was like takling about making out and stuff I never had so I am so excited but nervose is there any tips/rules i need to know about. hahaha! cant believe im asking this, well thanks! (link)
trust me i was in the same position you are and i was a nervous wreck and had no one to go to so im telling you now theres absoulutley nothing to worry about i promise. it will come so naturally if you just relax! like thelaura said also dont feel pressured tho. its def. nothing to worry about having fun and is the most important part! hope i helped have an awesome date


I'm 13 years old and interested in getting braces. My teeth really aren't that bad and my mom doesn't wanna pay for the braces. But, I would still like to have the teeth on the top of my mouth nicely alined. How much would braces cost if you didn't need them too badly? And also, if the cost is too much, then can you/would it help to just have a retainer, or do you have to have braces first? (link)
hey well i had braces, and i hated them lol but anyways, they are really, really expensive so if you dont really need them i suggest not getting them if they arent really needed also you have to wear a retainer to keep your teeth in line when the braces come off and that also costs a lot too. i think my braces were a little over 4000 and my retainers around 200 but maybe you could try invisiline? they are removable braces you cant see for not - to - bad teeth. you also could just get a retainer to put them in the correct place ask your dentist or have an orthodontist have a look at your teeth and tell you whats best hope i helped a little much luck


im fially going to have my own bathroom but i can't decide on a theme. anybody got any ideas?
~Jaime (link)
hey i think that you should do a beach theme like some others said that would be really cool, or bubbles would def. be cool and put a color theme like light blues greens and yellows, oranges, reds and yellows, or have a relaxing sort of theme with colors like lilac, whites, and dark purples, striped walls are always really pretty hope i helped much luck


my mom my brother and my sister all do drugs and i no thats gonna be me one day hiding from the cops like my brother...im constly fighting the urdge to cut agian...not that many people like me because im emo/gothic/scean...my mom has a deadly dease....my other sister jen well shes a drunk and we never no where she is or if shes even alive..i get made fun of also.......i always have to face a smile or a laugh bc i dont want anyone to knoe how i realy feel ... i have people i dont even no makeing fun of me...every bf i have had has beet me up....school is hell for me....i always have to make my friends feel better and totly forget about how i feel bc i cant stand when people feel the way i do.i would be cryin now but no i have to fight it bc then ppl ask ?s that i dont wanna awser so yes i cry alot also....and my friends tells her boyfriend dan everything i dont want him to know and i dont trust him not to tell other people..my friends say im beautiful but i think im not.I HATE MYSELF.im a huge mess who is not going to get help from a pro counsler beacuse i have befor and they make things worce....i have no one to talk to...im hopeing maybe someone can help me,make me feel better

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heyy sweetheart first off im so sorry that your being put through all this crap no one should have to go through this. please dont cut yourself, even though it may feel like its giving you the satisfaction that you want, there are other ways to make yourself feel ok. get some real good friends, stay away from people who try to infulence you especially the boys. its ok if you dont want to go to a counselor thats totally understandable but that means you just have to be taht much stronger for yourself. always stick up for yourself and have condfidence in yourself. try and make some really good friends you can relate to and hang out with them to get your mind off of your family for a while. although its probably not your responsibility, try and take care of your mom and let her know that you love her. ignore the people who make fun of you and act like your better than that never stoop to their level. when your friends tell you your beautiful, even if you dont, say really? thanks a lot your real pretty too. it will boost your self esteem so much when you start thinking positive about yourself. anyways hun i hope i helped feel free to talk to me anytime x0xchristinaxx on AIM anytime so much luck to you take care of yourself


14/f. i'm starting school soon and i have two questions:

1) i dont know what to wear on the first day of school. i want to wear jeans, but my school has no air conditioning, and i don't want to be hot. so i thought i would wear a jean skirt, but i think that everybody will wear skirts, and i don't want to be like everybody else. oh and i really don't like wearing shorts, so any good ideas?


2) also i have a problem for school picture day. i always straighten my hair, and that is what i want to do on picture day. but since my school doesn't have air conditioning, i'm worried that my hair will curl and frizz by picture time. i have my pictures taken 7th period, which is the second to last period of the day.


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heyy so ive had much trouble in this category too hehe so i think that you should wear burmuda shorts i thought i was going to hate them when i tried them on i loved them! they really do look good or wear capris those always look good with flip flops or a cute shoe and about picture day go to somewhere like CVS and in the hair isle thing lol ahh they should have shampoo conditionar, moose and hairspray that are non-frizz buy a really small non - frizz spray and put it in your purse and around 5th or 6th period spray it on rite b4 pictures and you should be all set good luck hope i helped


alright i am 14/ female and i am going to be a freash man this year, so since for the past like for ever i have been playin tackle foot ball on the teams with all the male class mates of mine i figured id try freshman foot ball, so i did, but today i just coulndt do it, our skool is very competive in the foot ball department and all, and even my own aunt and unkle think i shouldnt play cuz im gurl, and i must admit i was pretty good too , but today i quit because im sick of being th eonly girl and i wasnt having any fun, but then all day i have been crying because i REALLLY love the game, and i dont want the people who did support me to go to thinking that gurls cant play and then they next gurl could have it even harder then me, idk, well i guess my question is what should i do next? i cant even stop cryinbg for more then 2 hours (link)
heyy if you really want to prove yourself and prove to everyone that girls can play football, work just as hard as boys can, and be good at it too, stick it out as much as you can. tell yourself you can get through the practices and people putting you down because thats what i think is getting to you. if you really really love the game like you say you do then try 110% and make the best of it because once your out there and playing im sure your going to be having a ton of fun like you always do when you play. if you think you cant handle it, then try another sport and stay active hope i helped soo much luck to you


Ok well i started going out with this one guy named jonathan.The thing is dat he knows i like somebody else and i know he likes somebody else.Yes it seems wierd but we told each other that since the beggining.Its like we like each other to but it kind of feels wierd to know he dosent only think of me...i know he probably feels da same way but i dont know.I seriously dont think we are going to last.Although i wish it did=/So if you were in my place what would you do?? (link)
hey, well, if you like someone else, and you know that he likes someone else too, its probably not a very good relationship. your bf should be dedicated to you and likes just you because your different and special if you know taht he likes someone else, i dont think its such a good idea to stay with him especially if you like someone else too! tell him waht your thinking and talk it out together see how things work out hope i helped much luck


OMG!! OMG!!! I am SSSSSOOOOOOO scared! I go to a very nice private school in the mountains with fountains, a good principal, etc. Well, whenever I walk alone to a class to another building, I always see this man with a beard and old clothes staring right at me about 8 feet away. I sware... it's just me and him!!!! This started around April last year and I started school last week and he's still there (doing the same thing)!!!!!!!!! He can't work there, right? Because he doesn't do anything and he's too ratty looking to work at this school!! HELP ME!!! WHAT SOULD I DO!1???? (link)
i would totally be freaked too ! stay calm next time you walk that way, try to walk next to someone and def. tell an adult or someone who works at the school because some random weirdo should not be standing on school property always bring like a cell phone with you in case of emergency hope i helped much luck


14/f. i've checked my BMI on many sites and some sites say that i'm underweight and some say that i'm normal. My BMI is around 17. but i still have some fat around my lower stomach. is it still safe to do crunches and exercise to try to lose that fat? i'm 14, 5'3" and i weight about 98 pounds. but my stomach is still buldgie. what can i do? without becoming underweight? (link)
wow! 98 and 14? your deffinetly underweight already so you shouldnt be worrying. someone around your age and height should be a healthy 110-5 lbs. exercise daily but not excessevly and eat healthily that should tone your stomach and build your muscle for a healthy weight and look hope i helped much luck


=/ Well, I just wanted to know if you were in my situation, like if you'd be mad.

I really want to see that movie Click, and my boyfriend promised that he would take me on Thursday, because we both don't work & we had it planned out & everything (it being our 2 month, I thought it'd be cool to actually do something like that we both want to do), I was REALLY excited. Todays July 4th obviously, and my boyfriend knows I'm home alone doing absolutely nothing until I have to go to work tonight at 7pm.

He just called me and told me that he's going to be going to the movies with his sisters today to watch Click. And, I'm really upset because not only does he KNOW i'm by myself & I really wanted to do something especially today because of it being July 4th, but we planned everything out to see that movie on Thursday.

I just need to know, if I'm getting mad over something stupid. But I think the least he could've done was invited me to the movies with him. =]

Thank youuu in advance!



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from the details you tell me, i def. would be pissed! but it all depends on his situation whether you should be mad or not. if his parents told him to go see this movie with his sisters and to be with his family that day which is understandable seeing as its the fourth of july, the option to be with you was out of his reach. if he purposly asked his sisters to go see that movie with him, then you have a right to be mad because you both no he promised to go see it with you. i think you need to talk to him and see whats up. if he doesnt have a logical excuse why he went without you, then you obviously have a right to be mad, anyone would be. just talk to him and ask him what went on that day and why he went without you. i hope everything works out lots of luck


I have only been singing in a choir, but I want to start singing solos. I don't know how to sing with the confidence and volume I need. I have a good voice, I just don't know how to use it. Can anyone help? (link)
heyy you know i think that you should go see a professional voice coach, or start taking singing lessons. they will no how to coach your voice to its highest potential and give you confidence to take your singing to a higher level. hope i helped lots of luck




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