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Q: I have never before used tampons and I want to start trying them but I am like so terrified that I am going to put it the wrong place or it will hurt to bad does anyone have any ideas?

read instructions on box, try to execute. if it hurts, you didn't put it in far enough. that's the best advice you can ever get for tampons.

Q: hello! i was wondering how do you get rid of stretch(growing) marks on your breasts or hip/thighs area?any reconmendations? thank you :)

strectch marks don't go away hunny. once you have them they're there for good. a good tip though is not to go sun tanning, because often they'll turn purple from overexposure to the sun. dont get me wrong, you can be in the sun. just dont use tanning oil or go on a tanning bed. also, they usually fade into a less noticeable color once you've had them for a while. and don't get too stressed about them. they really aren't that bad, and most people have them. hope i helped.

-Rachel.

Q: hi, next month i have my first appointment for the gnyo, becuase im 15 and have had my period irregular since i starting getting it 4 years ago,so my mom made me an appt...so anyway my concern is that, a couple months ago my boyfirend and I of 9 months decided to take are relationship a little farther and he fingered me, quite intensly and has done it a couple times..(but I have never had sex, and dont plan on it anytime soon)I am worried that the gyno will tell my mom,(becuase i know the gyno will be able to tell,becuase i am quite stretched out from it) and i really dont think that my mom wants to hear "oh by the way your daughter has been fingered" and she will be quite dissapointed in me. If i ask should the gyno keep my information confidential?

it's not allowed. the doctor can't tell your mother anything. gotta love those confidentiality laws. when you go to the gyno, most of the time they don't want your parents in there...actually they ask if you need them in there. just say no, that you'd feel uncomfortable. your mom wont hear about it.

Q: Well, I hope this doesnt get deleted because I really need some advice. If anybody knows how to handle Geometry proofs and knows how I can get ahold of it, that would be great. It is over Finding congruance of triangles, by using a proof. Please Help!!! ^_^

_-Devin-_

i'm rather good at proofs. i'm not sure how to teach you to do proofs in general...but i could help you out with specific ones.

Q: ok, does any oen know any good ways to get rid of hiccups? and fast? and is it bad if i get hiccups on an almost daily basis? please help me out

When I used to get bad hiccups, I would get a teaspoon of sugar and let it disolve in your mouth. You can't swallow it until it disolves. It's sort of gross going down, but leaves a nice tatse. It may sound sort of strange, but it's effective. Good Luck hun.

-Rachel.

Q: Okay i'm about 5'1" or 5'2" and i think i'm fat because i weight inbetween 125-130 but i'm on a diet, basically just for healthy foods and just cutting it down a little bit, i'm in volleyball theory at high school and cheerleading. everything things im perfect, but i think im fat, i run in my spare time, crunchers and all this abdominal crap, but i don't know what else to do, im a freshman so that means im 14 if this helps any. I don't know if i'm normal or over weight, i was reading a thing in the paper and it said only for my height to weight about 109- and my formal is coming up in December, please help me, I wanna look good.

Oh, hunnie that's not a bad wieght. I weigh quite a bit more than that, and i'm so thin that i've been accused of eating disorders. It sounds to me like you aren't going to lose that extra weight. It's probably just your body type. Also, you're so active I wouldn't be surprised if most of that weight is muscles. Remember muscle weighs more than fat ;x. Hope I helped.

-Rachel.

Q: my other half left his email on one day recently and on the screen was this weird message. Is it some kind of code? how or where can i decipher it or find out more info?? Please help if you can, its sending me over the edge.this is what it looked like:
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looks like spam to me :) don't pay any attention to it.

-Rachel.

Q: Hey everyone, I was just wondering if anyone could tell me your favorite places to shop online..I'd prefer ordering my clothes online because they always come in different sizes, I'm mostly an AE girl..so places like that are a plus..thanks alot :o)

delias always has nice clothes. i like urban outfitters also. :D

-Rachel.

Q: im 14 years old and i think that i am losing my friens. I say this because they dont invite my to partys anymore and dont really talk to me!.....am i crazy or are they still my friends?

most likely they are still your friends. fourteen is an age were friends drift, and you get some new ones. maybe you should say to them 'I feel like we haven't hung out in forever. Want to go out this weekend?' if it keeps going on, let them know that you feel discluded. Good Luck babe!

-Rachel.

Q: Well my boyfriend is acting really strange...well he always act like he doesnt want to do anything with me i always have to make the plans...he doesnt call me....he doesnt ask to meet me places accept for at times that is really not a good time...and i call him all the and he doesnt pick up unless i send a text message saying PICK UP YOUR PHONE...and i think that is very unacceptable i dont want to take up tooo muck of your time but please help HELP

Try dropping hints, for example: you,"hey, call me tomorrow we'll hang out or something". If that doesn't work, you're going to have to tell him the truth. You'll have to tell him you're tired of being the only one putting effort into the relationship. Good Luck hunny.

-Rachel.

Q: ok well what would you do if your boyfriend told you that they though someone who is 4 years older then them(hes 15, shes 19) is "bangin"? with me it kinda hurts...but i dont know what to do about it. do i just ignore it or what? please help. it would be nice to have someone to talk to about it...thanks

My suggestion is to ignore it this time. If he ever says something like that again, just hit him. Don't hit him hard or on the face. Just sort of lightly hit his arm and give him a disapproving look. If he's says "what?", just say I don't appreciate that. That's what I always do. Demand respect when it's needed. Most likely he won't do it again. I hope that was helpful.

Q: my friend...... is so depressed.. i was, but now im happier than ever. It feels so good being happy. I want her to feel that too, but its so hard. I just want her to live. and not let life pass her by. i donno wat to do.

Depression is a sticky situation. Really all you can do is wait it out. Most teenage depression doesn't need medication because it's temporary. She's the only one who can figure things out. If she gets to the point of hurting herself intentionally, you need to tell somebody. The best thing you can do to help it pass is be a good friend. Listen to her when she talks; try to make her smile; compliment her when you get a chance. It's small steps working through teenage depression. She'll appreciate you being there for her.

Q: hey, well i've had my period for almost 2 years and i still get that discharge is that weird?? what should i do

No, it's not weird. Discharge is very normal. It helps to relieve your body of bacteria. Just think of it as a cleaning system for your body.

Q: ok i've never worn a tampon and i kinda want to but its a little weird knowing that that will be going...there. and what if i put it in wrong? any advice on like what kind to use for the first time? or anything like that...

Alright the best thing to know is, stay relaxed, and put it in as far as you can w/ out sticking your fingers up there. If you feel discomfort, it's probably because you didn't put it in far enough, or you used cardboard applicators(those always bug me =x). Good Luck!

Q: when i was in the bathroom, i didnt feel too well. i was just sitting there and i was pushing, and i wiped and it wasnt regular feces. it wasnt really brown and solid, it was like cream and gelly. is there something wrong with my digestive system or body, or is it natural.
signed,
Worried and Confused !!!!

Well, it's probably something you ate. It's not a bad thing usually. It happens to the best of us sometimes. If it's constantly occuring, or there's discolor for longer than three days, i suggest you consult a doctor, just in case. Well, happy...er..yeah. good luck!

Q: i'm 15 and i want my belly button pirced and my dad doesn't mind but my mom want let...i mean all my close friends have theres done...even my friend that has the meanest parents in the world! but i was woundering how i could get my mom to let me get it done!??

You're only fifteen, maybe you should wait a year or two. Honestly you shouldn't get something done because all of your friends are doing it. I'm sure you still want it anyways though, right? Well, my suggestion is you research the piercing. Show your mom that it's completely safe. Ask if you could get it done for your sixteenth birthday. Maybe make a deal about it, you know the if I get these sort of grades or working around the house for the rest of the year, that sort of thing. That's probably the best way to do it. If she still says no, she probably has a problem with your young age and piercings. If that's the case, I suggest you wait until your eighteen. Even though it's hard to wait for something you want that badly, believe me, it'll be worth it. Remember patience is a virtue. Good luck sweetie!

Q: I Have very heavy discharge for about 2/3 days... I read in this magazine that u get ur heavest discharge like i ntha middle of your cycle.. like not wen ur on ur period.. is that tru.. or am i gonan get my period soon like in a few days? help meh!!

It honestly could be either. For me before I got my first period I was discharging like crazy for a few monthes. Now I discharge pretty heavy the day before my period and a few days in the middle of my cycle. It's hard to predict if this discharging means your periods coming, unless you know how your body usually acts monthly.

Q: is it ok to have stretch marks or like scars of some sort on ur breasts?

Strech marks are completely normal on your breasts. It just means that they grew in pretty fast. In time the stretch marks will become a lot less visible. And try not to tan in that area, because they will turn purple, which is very noticeable.

Q: does anyone have any good ideas for a good job that i could have. im 13/f. i would really like to have a job.

It's sort of hard to find a job at 13. I think your best bet would be a babysitting job. Make some flyers for yourself and post them at the grocery store. With a little luck you'll be racking in the dough. Good luck hunny!

Q: i met this guy at adventureland (he was REALLY hott!!) in des moines and i got his # but i dont want to call it cuz im afraid that its the wrong number! but then again the area code and the first 3 numbers were from the area that we were located in...what should i do? call him or not?
-confuzzled!