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So I'm 15. I like this guy who is 17, he's a senior now and I'm a sophomore. Is that a big age difference? He'll be 18 in a couple months so it would be considered an adult. We're friends and all so its cool. I'm just wondering about the age and how it would be when he turns 18.

i was 15 when i had my first serious boyfriend and he was 17 at the beginning of the relationship but shortly after turned 18 while i remained 15 for 7 months.. i have absolutely no regrets and as long as you both are close or equally mature i don't see anything wrong with it.

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15/f

It's embarrassing to admit and I feel like a complete moron but I just learned that you're supposed to wear a condom while preforming oral sex on a guy. I've just started having sex and have gone down on the guy three times without protection and am freaking out. I never knew you were supposed wear a condom and somewhat assumed that it was only necessary during vaginal or anal sex. I never thought of oral and now, the more that I think about it, the more I feel like a complete idiot for not thinking of it earlier. I plan to use a condom from now on but am worried that I could have caught something? Also, would it be strange for me, now even after I've gone down on him three times without, to from now on ask him to put on a condom? And I know I probably sound completely naive but do most people use condoms while preforming oral because out of all the people I know who are sexually active, they've never said anything about it.
thanks.

i've never used a condom during oral sex.. i don't know anyone who has either.. i don't think it's as uncommon or taboo as you think it is..

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I've had sex before.. and I guess I wasn't so nervous about this issue because I was with my boyfriend for two years.. and comfortable around him...

but anyways, I'm single now.. and I'm about to hook up with a friend this weekend. I don't want to completely shave and seem like I haven't been through puberty because I hear shaving all the way freaks some guys out... but at the same time I don't want a lot of pubic hair..

I shaved a couple days ago, and I'm seeing him Thursday night, I mean.. I wanna make sure I have no stubble . . but I don't know how to exactly groom myself to make it look nice.. should I just let it grow in, shave my bikini line?

That way it's not too hairy.. but there's no stubble.

I don't know.. any advice would be appreciated.



i'm telling you shave all of it 97% of guys i'd say don't like hair down there.

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do all girls masturbate and some just dont admit it? or do many really not do it?

most girls masterbate and don't admit it but there's always exceptions.

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Why did you part ways from your first love? Your personal stories will help with my issue. Thank you. Please feel free to go into as many details as you want or leave it as vague as you choose.

He fell out of love with me i guess. we dated for about a year and when we had been dating for about 6 months we started argueing frequently. so we took a break(his idea) and he came rushing back into my life about 24 hours later, and like a fool i took him back. then he met another girl, and after liking her for 2 weeks while we dated he left me for her. we had a nasty breakup since we were both in highschool, we said things we didnt mean and he hates me now. hes dating that other girl and has been for a month now. i recently asked him if he was ever in love with me and he claims that he was. i lost my virginity to him, and i don't regret it. good luck with whatever your going through.

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i have like bigger than normal vaginal lips.
personally, i think they are ugly.
opinions?

mines that way too, and truthfully any guy will just be happy that he's coming into contact with a vagina. don't worry about it at all and if a guy is really judging you over your vagina then you shouldn't be wasting your time with him. basically everyone has insecurites and everyone's different- i mean some guys like it.. TRUST me

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why is is so hard to get over your first love and why is that even after they hurt you so much its still harder? what have you (guys and girls) done to get over them and can you ever even get over them completely?

my boyfriend who i had dated for just under a year broke up with me about two months ago. he wasn't the first boy i loved but he was the first boy i was in love with, if that makes any sense. basically, you have to get rid of everything that reminds you of them, and just shut them out of your life for awhile. trust me i KNOW it can be really hard but you don't really have any other option. hangout with your friends alot too because they're going to help you out the most. ALSO i've found that a nice rebound works out nicely ;]

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this isn't really and advice question. well it kind of is...
basically if you've ever been in love, id like to hear about how you met the right person, y you fell in love, and basically a quick summary of what happened and how/if it ended...i need a few stories, and please they have to be true! if you leave your story it'll be worth your time =) thank you!!!!!!!!!!!

i fell in love when i was fifteen, and he was eighteen. i met him over myspace? haha but he went to my school so it wasn't creepy or anything. we hungout on december 22, 2007 for the first time and we hungout every weekend after that. at first i was really drawn to him and things were great. he truly was my bestfriend and he knows everything about me, just as i know everything about him. we really were in love, and we even said that we wanted to be together forever which i fully meant. he took my virginity on april 6th.. we had been dating for about 3 and a half months, but i was the 3rd person he'd had sex with. we did EVERYTHING sexual together, even grosser things like anal and 69 and all that. we were just really comfortable around each other i guess. things started getting bad over the summer and we started argueing more and more over stupid things that don't matter. so in the beginning of august we decided to take a break. it didn't last one day and he came running back to me claiming that he'd made a mistake- the only mistake made though was me taking him back. so things got significantly better in out relationship, he even got me a promise ring on september 15th for my birthday. it's funny how things happen though and how your plans change. he broke up with me exactly a month later on october 15th. then went out with another girl who i had suspected he liked while we were dating about 2 weeks later. me and him dated for 10 months. he and his new girlfriend are still dating but it's only been about a month.

i can't go 10 minutes without thinking of him. i'm only 16 but i mean he really did break my heart as cliche as that sounds. i don't regret it and i wouldn't do anything differently. i've realize that when you love someone sometimes you have to sacrifice your own happiness for theirs. so everyday i wake up and he's not there but then i think of everything and i know he's ohk and i know i'll be ohk and that makes it alittle better i guess. we talk occassionally but we're not friends. when we see each other we don't make eye contact, we don't say hi.. it's like we never loved at all.

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what would give and average 16 year old guy a boner?

thanks :)

average is 5 or 6 inches, i've seen bigger though and i've certainly seen smaller too

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should you use a condom when giving a handjob?

no...? i never have and i'm perfectly FINE

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what does pre-cum mean?

it's a clear white fluid that comes out of a guys penis when he gets horny or turned on, it happens before he actually ejaculates sperm, which is a more whitish fluid.

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Hello everyone:

I was recently told by a girl who I really do not like that most every girl before the age of like 18-20 has had sex. Now I know that it really isn't true and that there's girls out there who are still virgins. I'm a virgin myself and am 22. Do you think that this statement is true that almost any girl good or bad has had sex before marriage? Why or why not?

i know that most of the people in my highschool would agree to have sex when they met the right person-age wouldn't be much of a problem. i'm fifteen, and i lost my virginity when i was fifteen, i don't think this is too uncommon... i'm sure there are girls your age who are virgins too however i think it's somewhat rare.. i'd say about half of my friends, and they're 15-16 have lost their virginity already, hope i helped.

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do u have to use lube when giving a handjob?
if so,what should i use?
but is there anyway to do it without it?

i've never used lube when giving a handjob, it is deffinately not like a must have, but i mean i guess it's all up to what the guy likes soo ask him?

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how do you shave 'down there' because i shaved most of it but i dont know how to shave all of it without hurting myself and that is the LAST place i want to cut myself with a razor!! thanks :]

take a NEW blade with at least 2 or preferably 3 razors on it, i use and in a downward motion, along with hair shave. make sure its really moist and lathered with soap and everything before or ele you could get razor burn.. when your shaving alittle lower though i actually sit down in my tub and spread my legs apart to make sure i get everything. when your done i put like neaosporin or a cream liek that on there so that i wont get razor burn. hope i helped!

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hi this questions is for the girls, i would just like to know how old you were when you first gave oral sex

i was fourteen, and i lost my virginity at 15.

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f/15
does it really hurt for a girl for the first time cause if it hurt so bad then why do people do it again>>>

it didn't hurt for me when i lost mine, it was just uncomfortable but trust me it feels gooood :)

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Hey haapybabe2
i like this guy that i know. we don't go to the same school or anything but i met him last week and we ended up kissing the second time we met. he asked me to hang out yesterday but we were with a group of people so i didn't get to spend as much time with him as i would have liked. my question is do i bring up the kiss? because i would like for it to happen again. =] haha but yea my dad gave him a ride home and we got to talk in the car and i realized how much i enjoy talking to him. he just makes me feel very comfortable. well thanx =]

well it deffinately seems like he likes you if he kissed you and said that he wanted to hangout and everything. so yeah i would bring up the kiss i'm not sure if he's already told you that he likes you yet or not but if he hasn't just be like well since you kissed me does this mean you like me or that you just felt like kissing me.. it seems to me like this could go somewhere but since you said you feel comfortable with him then yes i would deffinately talk to him about it and see what his feelings are on the whole situation : )
i hope i answered your question, if not feel free to write me again :)

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ok..so i'm planning on having sex with my bf for the first time soon
i want to know if there is anything i should do before i go over and do it.
i have no idea weather to shave a certain way?
what guys like down there?

or anything like that
my biggest fear is that we will finally have sex
and he will be disappointed in me

and if i do shave what happens if i cut myself or have razor burn
will he think thats gross?

i would deffinately shave, buy a new razor that you haven't used yet and lather up your pubic area or whatever and shave in a downwards motion, the same way your hair grows. and then after your done if you put vaseline or any antibiotic ointmint kindof stuff like neosporin on the area that you shaved and this will generall prevent razor burn.
he won't be disappointed in you, trust me it's your first time he won't be expecting you to be amazing at having sex so don't worry i was the same way and now it's not awkward or anything to have sex. and if you think he would be disappointed is you after you have sex then that's just lame... good luck, hope i helped!

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So, I know if you have sex with a guy and you're a virgin, he'll "pop your cherry" but what is it like? I mean is it really awkward or something? And no, i'm not having sex anytime soon lol, i'm just curious :]

you don't always have your cherry popped the first time you have sex. my first time didn't hurt at all and i'm not "lose" so it really all depends on the person i think it's more of an uncomfortable feeling than anything else. i use tampons so i probably "popped my cherry" doing that. but like i said every person is different. hope i helped.

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would you rather love a loser or lose a lover and why?

love a loser, who's to judge that your boyfriend is a loser? if you love him then that's all the matters, other peoples opinions shouldn't matter.
hope i helped :)
katie.

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