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My name is Christina, and I'll try to answer questions honestly, and to the best of my ability. I give pretty good advice, I think.
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Hmm, okey..
I was just wondering which one of these is best:
WinMx
Bearshare
Kazzaa
Imesh
e.t.c
I've heard some of them give you viruses?
So which one is cheap and doesnt give your computer any viruses?
I appreciate any answers =D
Sorry about the spelling mistakes, just that im in a hurry :P
Have a nice day ;)
Ares Lite. That's the one I use, and it takes up no space on your computer hardly, and has virus protection. It's also completely free.
Hi. I'm a fellow Advicenator. I have my own column, if you ask, I could leave you feedback with my username. Although I've always been good at advice...I feel lost right now. Maybe I do know the answer, but I just need to hear it from someone else.
For the past few years...Something hasn't been right with me. I'm tired of not fitting in, I'm tired of always needing to get good grades, I'm tired of people not telling me anything, tired of being ignored, hurt... I'm one of those 4.0+ GPA students. Friends would describe me as hyper. Heck, that's even part of my username. But all this time it's been a cover up of how I really feel. Crying by myself sometimes make me feel better, but time doesn't heal, like they say. Things get worse for me.
This year seemed to work out so well. Until last Friday I realized that this year has all been a lie. A friend told me about something my other friends have been hiding from me. I found out that the people I LOVED, my FRIENDS, were talking trash about my boyfriend and me.
They don't realize that WE HAVE ALL CHANGED. I know I have changed, and I accept that. I accept that they have changed as well. We all want our "old" friends back, but what can we do? I miss them, but I cannot change what has happened between us. My boyfriend has brightened up my life. I thought they would be happy for me. What's funny is THEY were the people that pressured me into saying YES to my boyfriend sooner than I expected. (I don't regret it at all.) I could have gone for months, not giving him an answer. "OMG, say yes already" "Oh, he's a nice guy" I remember lots of quotes, CLEARLY. And now, here they are, talking trash?
My REAL friends are supposed to be there for me. They're supposed to talk to me, even if it's something I don't want to hear. They need to at least try to see things my point of view, and NOT talk trash behind my back. They need to either talk to me about it or keep it to themselves and NOT spread around how I'm such a changed and horrible person.
The only person that is giving me the will to live is my boyfriend. I feel bad he has to see me like this. He tells me he knows how I feel, but he doesn't care because he has me. I'd like to say the same, but honestly, it hurts too much. I love him, but the pain won't go away.
I don't know what to do.
At first I wanted to like yell at my "friends" and go rawr! But then as these few days passed I just wanted to forget. But then I can't forget the pain... I see them every day. I think to myself, maybe if I forget, we can all pretend it never happened because I don't want to ruin things even more. But then I tell myself how could I pretend when something like this has happened? My brain goes back and forth...all the time.
I want to thank you for taking the time to read this. I apologize for the length...I really needed to get that out... Please...I need some wise words.
You know, I hate to tell you this, but those are some extremely sorry ass friends. It's really, really hard to find good friends, people who will stick by you no matter what. Right now, I'm at the point where I just stopped trying. (I had friends like yours, and I got rid of them, and I've been happier.) Obviously, they think that their opinion means something to you, and it shouldn't. You have a great boyfriend from what I understood, and if he'll stick by you, and not care what they say, you shouldn't either. Most of the time, you don't see those people after high school. What you need to do, is be happy. You've seen how they truely are, and that way you don't stick your neck out for them too far. Try to find some better friends, and let those assholes know you don't need them. Because, even though it hurts, you really don't.
Could someone please help me? I know it's been long since the last time I'v seen this guy i like so much and I ought to forget this guy. There's no day that I can't think even once about him and the reason why it's because memories will just suddenly crash through after thinking of something that is related but i didn't intentionally think about him. I don't like anymore to think about him even once. I'm tired of hoping and hoping that one day I'll see him but there's nothing left for me to hope. Please tell me ways on how to forget someone. Those that won't cost much. And also another problem of mine is I don't want to date others. It's just him or no one. It's just different if it's him.
If you figure out how to forget someone thats constantly on your mind, maybe you should let me know.
I'm in your same situation, and the best advice I can give you is that things get better with time.
My best friend has a really bad headlice problem. At school you can see them all in her hair! and the problem is i dont like hugging her because i feel shes going to pass them onto me. What can i do please help?? Shes had them for ages since ive known her mabe even before that.
rate high thanks
There's this product that gets rid of lice, that you can buy in a store. She should be treated, her bedsheets, everything that her head has had contact with. Even her family should be checked. Her hair will probably fall out eventually if she doesn't get rid of them.
OMG I soo totally Love hard rock!..my favorite band in the whole world is Dirturbed and I love every one of their songs and i know the words to all of them and i listen to them 24/7...but i am a christian i like other music too but hard rocks my favorite....is listening to it a sin?? and do they worship the devil??? thnx for any help
No, it's not a sin, it's just music.
Ok well I have tried to use a tampon like a million times but everytime I try to put in, It doesn't go in all the way even though it looks like it!! When I walk, it's realllyyy uncomfertable..What am I doing wrong???
okay, use a light absorbency tampon with a plastic applicator. sit on the toilet, with your legs spread if you were going to have sex, and push it in, kinda towards your lower back. make sure you push the tampon in until your fingers touch you before pushing the thing to make the applicator come out.
people always copy me. and i might sound conceided but it is really annoying. for example i like to do things that noone else does so i started saying "thats so rad" instead of cool. and then everyone else did it. and i started wearing these beads. and like my whole grade did it. it is so annoying and everytime i find something i like, someone goes and takes it. what can i do?
Hey, take it as a compliment! There's really nothing you can do to make them stop, because I have this girl who copies me on every SINGLE thing. Just take it as a compliment, and if it really bothers you, change your style to something nobody else would copy for awhile. Maybe then, when you go back to something cool, they will be like ewww I wouldn't wear that, so you can stand out.
Have you ever thought that you liked someone when you were going out with a different someone (that you love soooo much!) and sometimes wonder what it would be like to be with the other person?
I know its wrong, and i told my boyfriend {of 1yr and almost 2mos.} but i dont know how to stop. because I don't truly like these other people. I Love my boyfriend tho. I hope this isn't too confusing!!
Anyone experienced this?
Help me to stop please!
Oh, I would never cheet on my boyfriend or break up with him. So your probabaly wondering, "whats the problem them?" well I still dont want to think these things. i mean i know im a teen (freshman/female) but I have a great boyfriend and I know this isnt right! so, anyone??
Thanks In Advance!
-*KeLs*-
p.s.=if this doesnt make since { how i worded it or if you need to know something else}, say so in your answer, and i'll re-ask the question to you differently!
Thanks!! :)
Wow, that's exactly how long me and my boyfriend have been together. It'll be a year & 3 months on April 8th. I look at other guys sometimes, and I wonder, but that's it. I'd never cheat on my boyfriend, and I'd never even actually do that. I don't even like them, it's just a feeling you get sometimes. It's human, and it happens to everyone. Especially since you've been with your boyfriend for a long time. It's normal, nothing to worry about. If you really want to fix it, then just stop looking at other guys. It's hard, but you can do it.
I hope that helped!
I really want to buy a vibrator... but I don't know where to go. I am 16 years old, and do not want one shipped to me, I want to go to a store. I was wondering, do I have to go to a sex store or are there any other stores that sell them?
~Kristin
Spencers sells them.
Ok well it all started when me and my friend ( chelsea ) was sitting at lunch and matchng people up with good couples she matched me up with this new boy michael in 8th grade ( im in 7th ) i didnt know who he was and when i did find out who he was I LIKED HIM .. ALOT .... and i found out he had a girlfriend in 6 grade but she was cheating on him so I told my friend to ask him out for me and to tell him his girlfriend was cheating on him ... he told my friend he didnt know who I was and he would ask his girlfriend about the cheating thing... so then after that, the next week or so ... my friends dared me to say hi to him and i was really scared but i managed to choke out a fast hay and then the next day ( today ) i got caught throwing food and i went to turn in my tray and he said haha you got caught throwing food and he just smiled and laughed ( i didnt care that he laughed @ me i was just happy he talked to me )then i told my friend to ask him out for me and she said he said he didnt know who I was ( but he really does because i wrote him a note and all saying I like him and blah blah blah ) ... and then today after school my friend said she talked to him and he said im OK looking ... but honestly i dont think he knows who I am because before that he said is she that short fat girl and my friend was all like no she is tall and skinny so he said Ohhh she is ok .... so does he like me r not my friend said he was flirting wid me when he said that thing about me getting caught throwing food signed ~!~ confused ~!~
STRIKE UP A CONVERSATION, AND THEN ASK HIM! If you're too shy to do that, then maybe you should write him a note, and give it to him personally. That way, he knows what you look like and such. I think it would look much better on you if you asked him in person, because then it would make you look more confident.
im 13/m and just wondering. my goal is to be a virgin until i get married, i want that special moment to be with the women i love, can i get some feedback? anything you want to say. ill rate all answers with a 5
irish
13/m
I think that is the most amazing thing I've ever heard out of a guy's mouth.
If you stick through it all through high school & college, then that would amaze the woman you marry.
No matter what anyone else says, wait. I think that's really awesome, and most WOMEN do. Some GIRLS think it's stupid, but fuck them, they're probably whores and will end up pregnant by the time they're out of high school.
Good luck.
Is it wrong to go out with your x-boyfriends brother? Cause I like my X-boyfriends brother and I think he likes me too! But the thing is if he asks me out...is it wrong to go out with him?
thanks in advance! {I rate 5's}
It depends on how old you are, and how long you and your ex were going out.
If you and your ex were serious, and it was longer than a few weeks, then I wouldn't go there.
But, if it wasn't serious, do it.
Or, if he broke up with you, then do it.
if you go to a gyno and you shave is that a bad thing or good thing? what do they say?
My gyno has never said anything about mine. It's not bad for you, pubic hair are just there to keep the scent that attracts the opposite sex, or something like that. lol
OK when i first learned about sex back in middle school...i said to myself "im waiting until marriage" right away. I want to wait..because i dont know if i can deal with the emotions..but then again i want to do it (not now..definately not ready) in the future..you know when i find a bf when im like 18 + ..probably more like in my 20's though. I dont know..i just cant picture myself only havving sex with one man..plus im only 15 and im so curious about it now..im scared that what if i dont get married til im 30? I dont know if i can wait 15 more years..it seems to distant. How do i know for sure if im going to wait? or if im not? Do any of you out there have premarital sex..or have done it with a few people? Was the emotion too much for you when you broke up ? Or a one night stand..was that too much for you? I'll rate 5's
Please take this from someone who gave it up too soon, don't do it. I'm going to tell you my story, because everyone on this site has either only had sex with one person, or are still virgins. You need to hear it from someone who has been there, done that. When I was a freshman in HIGH SCHOOL, I was fourteen years old. I had known this boy for the longest time, and I knew he was a "player," a guy who just goes out with girls to get some. We were together for awhile, and I thought he actually cared about me. We had sex, and then afterwards, he dumped me. We were really good friends for awhile, but it was so painful. I felt used, and to try and make him jealous, I slept with his best friend. It made him jealous, but then the entire school refered to me as a slut. It got really bad, and I attempted suicide. I moved away, and then met the boy I am going to marry. He's never had sex with anyone, and I regret it so much, because I know he is the one I was supposed to wait for. I just rushed into it, and now he doesn't get a virgin when we do get married.
Just.. don't do it. Really. It's not that great, about 80% of women don't even climax during intercourse, and you could contract an STD, or a baby, and it's just NOT WORTH IT. Wait, because the man you marry will appreciate it.
Okay I know its not for a while but me and my friend are going to dress up totally crazy for school. I need some cool ideas for my hair, makeup, and clothes! I dont really want to dye my hair green so idk what to do with it. Any ideas will be great!
Bright green eyeshadow from hot topic, green braclets, green shirts, if you have a green skirt, go for it. Green is my favorite color, so I dress up like is St. Patricks Day everyday. If you're going to dye your hair green, here's some precautions. If you have blonde hair, DONT DO IT. It's only going to come out like you've got chlorine in your hair. Get some green spiking gel, or that spray green stuff and go crazy with your hair. Don't dye it, because that stuff doesn't come out for a couple of weeks.
My room always is smelly, I want to know some inexpensive ways to make it smell better.(I can't use candles and purfume son't work.) THANKS ALOT!!
Do you have a pet? If you do, then that might be a problem. They have cheap pet formula for carpets, and that helps. If you or people in your family smoke, then here's a way. DEEP clean your room. Wash the walls, wash your bedclothing, vacuum, etc. Air out your room by leaving your window open until that night. That should help it, but you have to keep it completely clean and repeat that often. If the problem isn't those two things, then buy some febreeze for the fabric and air, and use it daily.
I hope that helps.
i have a boyfriend.. we'll call him R. R and i have been dating for 7 months. The first 5 months were great! He's been starting to hit me, he kicked me, and I fell and I had a bump on my head last week. Last night he tried suffocating me. I've also been told about him flirting with about 5 other girls at school. 2 of them are some of my best friends. Oh, by the way, I'm only a freshman in high school. He's a sophomore. But anyway, I'm so sick of hearing about him doing other stuff with girls. He told me if i ever broke up with him, he'd ruin my life. What am I supposed to do? I am scared of him, but he'll do crap to ruin my life (believe me, he's done it to many.. trashed reps.. everyone hates that person, etc.) but what can i do? please help! i'm scared
Whoa. Tell your mom. Moms always know what to do, and if your mom isn't that great at handling it, then tell HIS parents. I don't know, all I know is you HAVE to get away from him. Guys like that end up killing their girlfriends.
Don't worry about your reputation, that will disappear after high school. You need to worry about your safety, because if you end up dead, your reputation won't mean anything.
what is a xanga?
An Xanga is an online journal. (http://www.xanga.com) It's completely free, and easy to use.
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alright. for about two years i have been cutting myself. and at first it was very innocent (little scratches with saftey pins... butter knifes, things like that) then one day i ginaed access to a really sharp razor blade and cut extremely deep. and for a year and a half thats how i have been doing it, because it is so addictive. more than once a day, and so i can go to sleep at night. most of my friends found out, one way or another and eventually my best friend got me to tell the guidance counselor. my dad now knows, and so does my psychiatrist (whom i have been seeing since I was 8 and my mom died). but i know he doesnt want me doing it, and niether do my friends. so latelyt i havent. but things got worse. im always pissed off at everyone, and lash out. also, i have been thinking about suicide more and more. i always considered it before but never like this. but when i talk to my friends, all the do is beg and pleed with me to stop. I CANT. when i was on the bus, i started tasting blood in my mouth, and noticed I had been bitting a chunk of my lip off as a pain reliever involuntarily. last night, I cut again and felt SOOO much better. but im so afraid someone will find out and be angry. im on medicine, and everything, it just sux. snapping rubberbands, and all that doesnt help. I know this is long, but im so upset with myself, I just dont know.
I rate 5s.
Manda.
Think about your friends, your family, everyone who cares for you. That's what I do when I want to die. I just sit there and cry my eyeballs out and make my sister hold me still until I come out of it. She's found me twice almost dead because of my psychoness, and we're really close. She sat in the hospital right beside me every minute and I couldn't do that to her again. She had to try and keep me awake because if she wouldn't have, I would have went into a coma and possibly died.
Cutting ISN'T okay, but it's better than killing yourself. I don't want to tell you what to do, but if you can't stop, and it's making you want to die because you can't deal, just stop gradually. Only cut yourself if its something horrible and you CANNOT deal. Also, once you pull yourself out of this mess, you're going to have so many scars.. you'll hate them. You'd probably wear long sleeved shirts for the rest of your live if you continue.
Im not yet either but Im scareed I will become. Earlier this night i tried to make myself throw up. Im 14 5'1 and wiegh about 103. Most people think Im crazy because I think Im fatter than most people, but I do. How can I overcome this feeling, and actions. I know that if i become either it will be very hard to stop. please! I need help very bad! Im not afraid to admit it. so please if you read this, answer my question! please!
♥ scared
Okay, you just made me feel like I should think I'm fat. You need some counseling, you are not even close to underweight, so don't even think that. Counseling will help you, just go see a shrink. If you don't want your parents to know, have a friend, aunt, or cousin that won't tell them take you.