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hey, im jane and i love helping people out with their problems even though sometimes i can't help myself and trust me i've been through a lot so i won't judge you with anything that you ask me. anyway i love giving advice to those people who need someone to tell they're problems to. so ask me a question and i'd be happy to answer. c:
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My boyfriend has just gone away for just three days!Even so,I'm already missing him as if he had gone a year ago,or as if he had gone for a year,I cannot focus on my things,I'm thinking about him all the time,I'm going mad,it's not normal,what can I do till he comes back to hug me and kiss me?thanks:)
I know it's hard, but your really should just stop thinking about it. maybe hang out with your friends more often or do stuff that you like instead of continuously thinking about him. just think that another gone by is another day closer to seeing him again.
I'm seventeen, female, freshman starting college in the fall. Now, I am firm believer in "everything happens for a reason", all senior year, this boy who has a girlfriend and I had gotten very close. We had a class together first semester, all we would do is goof off, we were quite the fans of taking pictures of people who weren't paying attention and we would laugh at the for days. By the end of the semester, we knew our class was going to change and we wouldn't see each other everyday so we exchanged numbers. We text sometimes but not very often. I wouldn't think much of his, I guess "advances" such as me catching him looking at me a lot or not even being a part of a conversation I'm having yet still laugh at a joke I said, because I'm pretty sure he loves his girlfriend but sometimes he has me second guessing myself. Today, I had college orientation, low and behold, he is attending the same college I am. We didnt acknowledge each other all day until we were let go for free time to go to the party in the dorm basement, as he was walking to the party, he saw me pass him, walking to my room and called my name and motioned with his head toward the party. Going full circle, back to everything happens for a reason, I think both of us coming here while his girlfriend attends college five hours away, isn't coincidence. I know I shouldn't get involved because he is taken so please, no lectures on that but just tell me what you're thinking. Am I thinking to much into it or is he flirting? What do you think I should do if he makes more "advances"? What of he wants to hang out? Thanks.
Well maybe you should wait for a while and see what else he'll do. For now you could just stay the way you are and see where it goes. cause it might be a bad thing to get involved, cause as you said he has a girlfriend and i'm sure you wouldnt want to be the third party or anything, so just wait for the right time.
I dont feel happy anymore, i feel lonley.
Ever since my boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago, everything has gone wrong. A girl who i thought was my best friend, lets call her "B", got jealous of me and my ex because she introduced us, and was original friends with my ex, so she told him that i cheated on him, which i didnt and he knowes that but he dosent want to be mine agian, saying he wants to be " friends with benifits" because he dosent want to completly lose me... i look at B's facebook satus it says " in a realtionship", "loving life".... this makes me break down into tears, i have lots of friends but i still feel lonley, and if i am happy then i feel that i might die, and that today maybe my last. i just want too be happy.
You can be happy. Just enjoy your life. Stop worrying or thinking about that stupid friend of yours, and maybe you should stop being "friends with benefits" with your ex cause it just seems like he's just using you cause he knows that you love him. Try and hang out with your other friends and try to meet new guys who'd respect you and maybe fall for you. Be happy and live life to the fullest! :)
Hello everyone thanks for taking the time to read this!Well right now i like this guy that is 19 and graduated high school i am 17. He was the shy kid in the back wall all time.He never talked unless he was spoken to and always seemed depressed. i talked to my guy friend in that class most of the time and that friend sat next to the guy i liked obviously my guy friend didn't know i liked him but it was because at that time i wasn't sure if i even liked him. he was way too quiet and i almost gave up on him until he brought his skateboard in the class and my guy friend asked him to show him some tricks and well i commented that he was good of course he answered with thanks but even that made him shy. well eventually we talked more.He was less shy and we got to know each other but one day he asked for my number well i did and from there we text we talked about our personal experiences with life. He asks me for advice about things like opinions and i guess i always helped him boost his confidence to even make more friends.He felt comfortable talking to me. We even hanged at a skate park once one of my friends came along and he said he didn't want my friend to get the wrong idea about him and me going out and well that sucked its hard to tell if hes like a friend or more were even hanging again...
Well if you have a wonderful friendship like that maybe you should just leave it alone and not try to make a whole new relationship. Sometimes making a friendship become more could just ruin it. For now maybe you could just try to be there for each other as friends and when you feel like theres more to that then talk to him and see where your relationship goes.
I am still in love with my wife but she is with another man while we are still married what should I do I dont want to divorce her but I dont know what to do
Well i really think you should have a divorce. It will obviously hurt but at least you'll have a chance to meet someone new. Try to move on and be happy for them. And find a way to make yourself happy. Try dating again, give yourself a chance to find someone better.
How can I dress the way I like without driving people away or becoming an outcast? Not to mention my family too. They are very religious people -not that it's bad- and don't like some of the stuff I like. I would never change them or try to change them in any way... But they can't really change me either. Should I just feign that I like stuff that I don't like? PS. It's not that I'm homo OK? I just like the color black a bit and like goth and punk like things.
Don't mind people who don't like the way you dress. Be who you are and show them that your proud of that and if they don't like it, the hell with them. there are many people who will like you for the way you are. And as for your family talk to them and tell them that's what you want, that's how you dress, and that's who you are. just give them time. if they love you, they'll accept you.
I have been going out with this boy for 1months now,but I still love my ex boyfriend,we were together for 6months but I found out I was being used cause he didn't like being lonely,he broke up with me about 4times in them 6months saying he didn't love me and that but I was stupid enough to go back to him,cause I loved him,now I'm going out with a new guy,he was my ex's best friend:-/ I'm not going out with him for spite or anything like that,but I do love my new boyfriend he treats me better but I still love my ex:-( he is always flirting with a girl now she's 4 years younger than him and 2years younger than me and she's always telling me that she loves him so much,what should I do:-( I love my new boyfriend so much but I still love my ex:-( help!
if you know that you love your bf now then try to stop thinking about your ex. do more stuff with your new bf and give him a chance. let go of your past and start paying attention to the present. don't mind that girl and your ex. just try to be happy for them and try to be happy with the guy your with. ;)
I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 20. He means the absolute world to me. He is, hands down, the sweetest guy I've ever known. However, he's black.
My dad was perfectly fine with that fact that I had a boyfriend, until I told him that he's black. He won't even give him a chance. My dad knows that my boyfriend is important to me, but all he does is complain.
I told him that if he's just going to act this way, then I'm not so sure I want him around. He said that that was his plan and that if we ever get married or have children, he won't be there for us or for his grandchildren.
It's really upsetting me that my dad is doing this. I'm not too sure what to do. Help?
you could talk to him about how you feel. tell him everything that you want him to know and tell him that if he loves you then he'll respect your decisions. it's really hard to choose between the person you love and your family, but if you can't let your bf go then just give your dad a little more time and space to think about it. i'm sure in time he'll have to accept it.
Okay, so I've been engaged for about 8 months. My fiance and I have been together for almost two years. Lately, I've developed trust issues with my fiance and I feel as if I'm losing a lot of our connection, and it hurts a lot. My fiance's best friend, who is one of my closest friends as well, has been there for me, and when we all go out together, I feel like I don't even want my fiance there. I think I'm developing feelings for my fiance's best friend. It sucks because I know we could never be together, and I'm still in love with my fiance, but I also have feelings for our friend. I'm so confused, I don't know how to handle this! Help? Please and thank you!
well you could try spending more time with your fiance first instead of his best friend. maybe you guys just need more time with each other or you could try to stay away from his best friend for a while and see how that works out.
i need help finding a guy who likes me ( i am a tomboy).
simpliest advise i could give is be yourself (well as a girl), just try talking to guys that you like and hang out with them. have a conversation with them and try to get to know them better. i'm sure they'll like you for who you are.
So my family is going swimming this Sunday and I just got my period on Thursday. It usually lasts 5 days but I need it to go away before or on Sunday so I can swim and everything without having to feel uncomfortable also because there is no way for me to change a tampon or anything all day! Also this can't invole using birth control pills please because I'm only 13 almost 14.
well you can't really make it stop cause you might get an infection for stopping it or something if you try. maybe you guys could just reschedule or you could go swimming but as you said you'd feel uncomfortable.
So there's this guy and I have had a crush on him all of my life and now he has a girlfriend. Is it a bad idea to tell a guy how you feel even if he has a girlfriend that he really likes?
Thank you to everyone in advance!!!
it's not really a bad thing but if you're going to tell him, you should be prepared to accept the answer he tells you. but if i were you, i wouldnt tell him right now. maybe just wait for the right time.
So that guy I met on the interenet over 6 months ago, ( we meet once ) has really really liked me but then he kinda seemed uninterested, (but we were still talking) in last few weeks so I said that I'm ending things with him as I'm tired of feeling like I'm bothering him, and he hasn't replied to me yet. Is it possible that he will miss me,( even if he did lose interest in me) when were talking every single day, and had plans for the future, his friends really liked me and so on? I kinda regret I said that now, but I feel like I've done the right thing. What you guys thing?
Any reason why would he not replay to me :/?
honestly, i think your right. maybe he has lost interest in you. but, don't feel bad or don't regret what you told him. it was the right thing to do since he was treating you like that. their are many men out there who would love to have someone he could talk to everyday and won't make her feel like she's bothering him. just don't regret anything that you did if you know you were right.
Hi,
Ok so I'm nearly 17.
I go to college and therese this guy who I'm not sure likes me. Firstly we're both very quiet and shy so thats why I'm unclear.
Like sometimes I'll look up and he'll be looking at me, and although we don't speak to each other he does mutter stuff to me pointlessly when handing out class papers and stuff.
I think he's 18 and nearly 19 and I'm only 16 still. But do you think this is a kind of turn off?
well age doesnt really matter once you like someone. you should just go and talk to him sometimes. it's not a bad thing to like someone older than you, it's pretty normal. just give it a shot. you'll never know unless you try.
I have had a huge crush on this guy since high school, but we never talked to eachother,he was basically my senior in high school we would see each other but we never said hello... Right Now I am in my 3rd year in the university, his not in my school, and I just got his blackberry contact from a friend and I added him up and he accepted but I don't know how to start a conversation with him, I feel like he may just turn me off, and I have liked him since then this shit won't go away pls what should I do
just message him and say hi. you could simply introduce yourself and start a conversation with him. maybe you could ask him to hang out with you sometimes, and if he does turn you down or something then just leave it at that.
I'm 17/f. I see all my friends have long-lasting relationships and they go everywhere with their boyfriends and they're happy. I've never had that. My "relationships" were all about sex pretty much. I have quite a past of guys that I thought made me happy, but really I look back and I've never had a good relationship. I'm attractive, have a good personality, have a promising future, and I can get along with any type of person. What's wrong with me? I'm almost 18 and I'm sick of feeling like I've been used.
I honestly don't even want a relationship with sex in it because I'm sick of it. I've never been on a date and I've never had a fun time with a guy that didn't involve sex. And thinking about it makes me mad. Why can't I have that? I want to stop doing the same things.
And now I like another guy and I have a bad feeling that it will turn out the same as my past relationships. How can I have a good relationship with someone? Please help. Thanks in advance.
maybe you should stop worrying so much about that. theres always that one special guy who will come in to our lives and make us happy. you don't have to rush in relationships cause you could just end up getting hurt. And, this guy maybe you should give him a chance. make him work hard to get you. i'm sure if he really likes you he'll make an effort to show it.
It sucks because I'd love to have a boyfriend or a best friend but it seems so out of reach and out of my control. I'm 18 and it's just embarrassing that I haven't experienced such things and I feel depressed over it. I don't think it could be my looks, cause being totally honest I think I look good. The only thing I want to change is my weight, cause I'm slightly overweight, according to my BMI, but it's hard to get motivated to work out and eat healthy when I feel depressed over my adolescence. I'm 18 but I don't even feel like an adult, really. I just feel like curling into a ball and hiding away from everyone. It's hard to even get motivation to clean my room. But my mom exaggerates my room being messy when I think my mental state is far more important than clothes being on the floor. My mom took away my laptop for not cleaning my room, so I have to use the one in the study room, but it's annoying because I'd rather just lock myself up in my room all day, and only leave to get food. It's pathetic but I don't know how to change. I just feel like my life has been going downhill since I was 6 and my family moved here to America from England. Last year I thought was the worst year of my life but this is, and it shouldn't have been, as it was my final year of high school. But there's absolutely nothing good about these past 2 school years, except the concerts I went to, and the two times I got to travel overseas. Everything else was total crap and I blame myself, cause I think it's mainly my fault, so I don't know why I'm causing soo much pain to myself. and then there's other issues I have to worry about, like race, because for some stupid reason most people aren't colorblind and a lot of people believe racial stereotypes and are racist in a way, when, as someone who's lived in 3 continents, I see the world as my home and I'd never not try to be friends with someone because of their ethnicity because I don't think that way at all. we're all individuals. but I've had some fake friends, like some people who used me and then if I saw them in the hallway they wouldn't even acknowledge me. what the hell? I find it hard to trust people. I even have trouble sharing really personal things with the therapist I just got. I'm just afraid. I criticize myself so I don't want someone else to criticize me for things I'm already worrying about. And I hate how I only get to see her once a week cause I feel like seeing her everyday. There's so much pain I just keep inside. And then I feel guilty, too, cause there's people who have way less than me who are happy and here I am moping about, so why can't I just be happy and move on?? I'm just so mad because I'm such a mess right now and I don't know how I'm going to be able to break free of this and be able to reach my dreams.
hey, you know what, it's not your fault if you can't find a true friend or a bf. you don't have to blame yourself for the things that are happening in your life. just be yourself and let people like you for who you are. don't worry too much about things that your not suppose to worry about cause it'll just stress you out. put your mind to something else that would make you happy. i'm sure that at the right time you'll find that special someone who will love you, and that best friend whom you could tell everything to. right now, you should just really tell your therapist what your going through and how you feel. don't just keep it all inside of you,let it out and i a sure you telling your problems to someone who can help you is a big relief. stay strong and enjoy life :)
I have had a crush on the same guy all my life (and no, that is not a dramatic exaggeration) and now, he has a girlfriend. I am surprizingly not bothered by this, why? All I really care about is if he's happy. Does this mean I've given up?
well it doesnt really mean you've given up. it just simply means that you love him so much that seeing him happy even with another girl makes you happy. you love him in a way that you want him to be happy with whoever he wants. it's really normal when you love someone, that the only thing that counts is they're happiness.
14/f i've liked this guy for about a year. i was going through really hard shit with my family and everything a year ago and he helped me through it. last year we just started talking, i have a lot of guy friends so it wasnt unusuale i didnt even like him like that in the beginning. but i started realizing we have a lottt in common. even our signs go together perfectly. but at the time i was really self conscious and i knew people were going to start to notice that we were becoming more than friends. usually i wouldnt care because i dont give a fuck what people think about me, but at the time it affected me. so thats when i started liking him. and im pretty sure he liked me too. but his ex girlfriend is this popular girl who is such a jelous person and is just demented. so i was having a hard time with friends and family. so i thought oh you know what i respect her as a person im not going to date her ex boyfriend. but in reality thats just crazy becase she had stopped dating him for about 8 monthes and she wasnt even my friend. i relaized i should've picked him over her for sure, because me and him would i guarantee still be going out. so i jusft started ignoring him and i could tell it hurt him that i wouldnt give him a hug and talk to him, it hurt me too and i did it anyway. and i totally regret trying to push him away. so then going into this year, 8th grade we didnt have a lot of classes together like we did last year and we dont sit next to each other like we did last year. so it makes it hard for me to to talk to him. but about 2 monthes ago our class was going to the computer lab and i called him over and was like hey sit next to me and as he was walking over he looked really puzzled hes like why? im like idk bc i feel like we havent talked in awhile and he said something like oh well im going to sit over there, and he sat with his friends. im like wtf? it never crossed my mind that he would reject me. but then again thats what i put him through for a year. i wanted to cry and punch my computer screen because it really hurt me. i thought if he had sat down i would have been like hey whats up what are you up to? and eventually saying look i know we havent talked in awhile but im sorry for pushing you away i feel really bad about it, but no he didnt even want to sit down. but he also now gives me alot of mixed signals like saying hi to me occasionally when its convenient for him but he goes up to other girls and hugs them like he used to do to me. but i think hes also scared of me a little bit becasue i come off as this very tough girl and not afraid to tell you how it is and hes a little more sensitive and hes tried so many times that i think hes given up. but i guess the good thing is he wont ignore me he still says hi. i know that if we talk more or if we have more classes next year i know our relationship is still there we just need to work on it, and i need to say im sorry. i mean i have his number, but we havent texted in over a year, were not close anymore and that would just be awkward. and i dont know if should just go up to him and tell him how i feel or what. im really confused and scared. i mean on the other hand i think he'll accept my apology but im still nervous. what to do?? thankyouuu
well first of all don't mind his ex. if your in love with each other go for it.
okay, well i really think you should go up and talk to him. when theres not to many people come up to him and ask him if you guys could talk. if he doesnt want to then just tell him to listen to what you have to say, and if he doesnt response then just leave it at that. at least you told him how you felt and he knows.
Hi I am 24 I had sex wid my bf in Jan wid a precaution he used a condom n still I took a pill too and 10 dayz later I got. my periods normal flow as usual den in feb again for 1st 3 dayz der was no flow n later days again I got normal periods den same in march in april der was no flow cud nly xperience string like hanging flow durin urination n @ times a lil in d pad too same dis month. I means my periods are regular bt the flow is rely irritating me plz plz help. Ty.
you have an irregular flow as you said. pills can cause irregular flow sometimes maybe because your body can't quite adjust to the pill that you've taken or maybe it is caused by your exercise (like lifting heavy things. stressing can also cause that. but to be sure maybe you should have a check up to see what's wrong.