My name is Ashley Laskarin and i am sixteen years old. I have been through many different experiences in my life as many have, but i believe i have a gift for advice most of my friends and family come to me when they have an issue. im a good listener and love to help people. My life is the very essence of drama. I dont like it but ive grown up with it and know how to deal with pressure. ill answer anything with the best of my ability. so ansk me anything! :)
E-mail: nicolelaskarin@hotmail.com
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Location: Indianna
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Age: 15
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im 17/f. so i've been in a relationship for a year and i just got out of it like a few weeks ago...i went to a college party last night and i started hooking up with this really hott guy but i felt so dirty and slutty so i stopped and told him that i couldn't do this. when i was with my boyfriend i was like a sex maniac haha but i never felt slutty at all because we had that really strong connection you know? i thought being single and meeting guys and hooking up is suppose to be fun? i don't understand. i'm young and i'm suppose to like this....i guess all i want is someone who cares...idk what should i do...
like if thats what college is like then i'm not that excited..i don't just want to be another pointless girl he's hooked up with...i want to mean something. (link)
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its okay to feel that way. sometimes hooking up isnt the best idea. Some people can do it with no problem and some cant. Your the type of person it seems that needs to know they are cared about in order to move further. Sometimes it takes love and condiseration to bring that side out in someone
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I have this one friend, he comes off as a player, I guess you can say. He hits on pretty much any girl that comes his way.
But him and me have been good friends for a while. And I think I like him. Yeah. Not a good choice.
But I'm not sure if he likes me back.
He calls me pretty much everyday.
He wants to hang out whenever we can.
He calls me 'sexy'
But when he says 'I love you' I think he just means it, as if we're just friends.
"I'm just kidding, I love you" would be something he would say.
Any advice on what I should do next? Or where I stand?
Thanks =DD (link)
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hmm sounds like me and you have a few simularites in the friend department. Ive got a friend the exact same way. If he's single then its only normal for him to hit on girls, hes free and probably looking. If you calls you sexy and pretty he is obviously attracted to you. If your worried about him being a player think back to when he had a girlfriend last, was he loyal? you see my friend will hit on a whole bunch of girls but when he gets a girl is completely devoted to her. Tell him you like him and see what happens. I know it doesnt seem like a good choice. believe me i know considering i like my friend too. Its gets annoying that he hits on girls all the time but hes loyal like i said. Just think back to that and watch him a little more closly there will be hints if he is a player. If you feel confident you can trust him then go for it :)
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hi my name is nichole nd i hve a boyfriend problem ill try to mske this short.i am 13 he is 14 we hve only seen each other once. wen we were together he was tlkin bout our future he plnned out our future together.nd wen he said he loved me i thought he meant dat nd da future he planned out was gonna cum true.did he realy mean it cause i thought he meant dat.it was a long distance relationship. me nd gerardo datz his name hve been datin for 3mnths he kept breakin up nd he kept askin me out again nd i kept sayin yes. He broke my heart. nd now he has a new gf named martha. he tells me wat they do nd evrytig is he tryin to hurt me?Me nd my ex used to be friends.bt now we arnt. nd wen we were friends. evn tho he had a gf he said he still luves me. nd my baby bro jus died nd i tld him nd he says i was lyin.nd im not he realy did die.soo my cousin tld him sumting. n now he wants to beat up my cousin dnt know wat to do!!! nd the crazy tin is i still love him!! (link)
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okay first if it was a long distance relatinship you cant really rely on it as stable. i dont mean to put down on your age but as young as you are you need to find someone around you. hormones are crazy and it will be hard to trust anyone from a distance. Long distance is damn near impossible to begin with, you have to be able to handle it.If hes far away dont worry about him beating up your cousin. If he is close enough to fight him then there isnt really anything you can do but try and talk him out of it. As for him telling you everything he does,its just a immature boys way of seeing if you still care and if he know that then hes trying to make you jealous
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I'm 13 and I just started my period 2 days ago. The first day there was brown period, and then there wasnt any period at night. The next day there was brown period and nothing at night too. Then the next day, there was nothing all day. Is this normal? (link)
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okay when you first start your period its goin to be very abnormal. it will take a few months for it to get on track before it starts to regulate. trust me ive had mine for 5 years now. when i first started it was all wacky and sometimes i would bleed a whole lot and someday not at all. some days i wouldnt bleed during that day and only at night and others it would be complete opposite. its just your body trying to get a kick start into womanhood. as for it being brown..that to can just be a sign of it trying to get a kick start. i wouldnt worry unless afew months from now its still doing that.
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when we first started dating my ex gave me a little heart necklace with our names on it. we broke up about a week ago but ill be seeing him today. should i give him it back? do guys take it as an insult? like a side of me wants to keep it to remember my first love but then the other side of me wants to get over him as soon as possible...what should i do? (link)
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if you dont want to give it back,stick it in a small box and put it in the back of your closet or a drawer you rarely go in. thats what i did. honestly if you fell you should give it back then do it. just explain to him why. he'll understand. But if you choose to keep it do what i said and when you know for sure you over him you can take it out and just keep it for a good memories sake.
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why do guys give us the silent treatment? It has happened once I told him its a pet peeve of mine that he didnt mean to do it just had a lot on his mind, but its been 3 days since ive heard from him. whats the deal? (link)
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lol thats how is goes. guys will talk to who they want when they want, do what they want when they want, u just gotta let em know what bothering you. half the time they wont understand lol but thats just how it goes
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well to start out my mom is an alcoholic...she benge drinks..meaning she'll go on a month spurt of where all she does is lay in bed and drink. this has hasppened for my whole life..i can't remember a time when it wasnt going on. She is also bipolar..drinking is a symptom of this disease but they diagnosed her seperatly. well my whole also she has kind of isolated me from the world..wanting me to spend all my time with her. I didnt all the time but she made me spend mosto f my childhood with her. i am now 16. she still does this. we have been fighting so hard and i cant even tell her when i have a bf. no matter anyway if i did because she wouldnt let me see him. I have no life partly because of her. We have sat down and had numerous talks and deicusions but ir always goes back to normal. i told her that whe needs to get friends but all she says is that i am her everything and thats how she wants it. I DONT want to be all she has for many reasons. 1. im going to leave and move FAR away...so where is that ging to leave her? and 2.i need a life. I stay in my room most of the time because all she does is yell and scream and call me names...yet she wants me to spend time with her nearly 24/7. I awm so low all the time because of everytning she says to me. I ahve told her awnd talked to her about that 2. she apologizes and its ok for a few days and then it goes right back to it. She takes away all my things whenever i dont do something she asks...or even if i bring home nething lower than a b+ (yes that means ANYTHING lower) im not exagerating one bit. this is what i live with everyday and im so tired of it. i want a normal life. my point is Talking does nothing we have sat down and tried...its like it goes in one ear and out the other with her. i need a way out but i dont know what to do (link)
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You just got your way out.
Mom
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okay i really like this guy and he flirts with me alot and asks me what i would do to him but he nevers says anything about dating..so how would i ask him if we would be having a relationship or if he would just use me for action?
thanks
loveboys (link)
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Hun if he hasnt said anything about dating you then dont even bother. its just another player trying to get some action. he may be charming in his ways but its another way to get you naughty faster
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i'm 15 and i was just wondering i really think that the male penis is disgusting, i felt my boyfriends through his jeans and cringed in repulsion. i really thought it was gross ya know, is that normal? (link)
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your definitly not gay hun....i had the same reaction. they arent the prettiest things in the world but u get used to them.
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when you use an eyeshadow brush, should you get a different brush for every color or use the same brush for every color?
if so, how do you get the previous color off the brush so you can use it for the next color? (link)
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what i do is..if there are like 4 colors in one pack of eyeshadow like purple, light purple and white, i use one side just for the dark eyeshadow and then flip it for the two lighter shadows..but when i would be done with the light puprle for instance i would use that then scrape the remaining off on the side of the eyeshadow pack and move to the lighter color.
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im almost 13 and i want to have sex and i know i shouldnt wat should i do????? (link)
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heres wat i can tell you. 1. yes you are way to youg. 2.at your age hormones are raging. when i was your age i wanted to also. and believe me the temptations are high. most people dont want to admitthe fact that they fell that way. but the turth is every female goes that around your age and if not older. the best thing i can tell you to do is of course wait. but if you feel the time is right which more than likely it isnt just used protection and make sure its with soeone you can trust. thirteen years old is way to young to start something that serious so try to wait.
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ok yesterday i started going out with a guy.. i known him for a while.. he is like the sweetest guy.. he asked me if the only reason were dating is so i can get laid but like he said sex isnt everything. should i believe him. bc i think the same way. who wants sex.. so like yah (link)
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he may say that now but it depends if you just started going out with him i wouldnt clig to every word. i bet later on he'll begin to see things in a different way. hold on tight and seee what happens i doubt that will be the case later on.
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My mother passed away 26 years ago. After her funeral, I gave her diamond engagement ring to my daughter, "Emma." Since then Emma has had two husbands and two more diamond rings, plus several others with various gemstones to match outfits. As far as I know, she has never worn my mother's ring.
I would like to spend my last years honoring my mother by wearing her ring. I am now 82. It would, of course, be returned to Emma when I die. Would it be all right to ask for that privilege? (link)
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Of course it would be okay. Its something that belonged to your mother and I think your daughter would understand that you would want that as a way of remembering her in your last years. If she hasn't worn it then i don't ser that there would be a big issue. If she knows how you feel about the ring then there should be no issue
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There is this boy Elvis, to me he is amazing..we have the perfect story.
I have known him scence 6th grade,then i liked this other boy Garin,Elvis was an ass to me omfg he was soo mean.Then in 7th grade he wasnt that bad but still a jerk. So half the year in i had to move-_-, i hated it then when i went to the other school i meet a new boy,Lany he is my good friend now.. then i moved back,in the 8th grade but i still didnt see elvis Becuase i went to the other middle school. But i wasnt thinking of him at all..then the end of there year happends i was so happy i just got out of the worst reashonship of my life.I went to the library.and there he is.he is like long time no see.i was like ya whats up? He had just got out of a bad relationship! I thought that was the end of our convo nooo of course not.My friend wanted to make out with his friend, but she wanted me to kiss elvis too. so we went into the stair well at first i didnt like him at all.then he kissed me..its amazing.wow. i loved his tounge on mine n his hands on my waist. Then i had to go we kissed like 4 times before that haha.Then we saw eachother again,we made out then he asked me out!! i was like yessss..but he was going to NYC for the summer he said we could just talk on the phone alot.i knew it wouldnt work and i was right.. for the 3 weeks we went out he didnt call once, and i didnt wanna do anything with any other boys u no.Then he did n i didnt answer, he left me a voice mail. "Trish you were right, ima be in nyc for 2 mounths, callme anytime you need me okay", It sounded like he was crying im not sure..I cryed so much that night called every person my on phone and cryed with them. I was dead inside not sure why at all, I tryed not to let my heart get that far, quess it did it on its owen.We talked on the phone he said he was sorry and that as soon as he gets back we will ge back together..my ass belived him. Im in high school now.and i see him all the time wioth other girls it kills me.I want him back so bad. I talk to him but yet im scared of him.He flirts with so many girls and i just found out that he was back home in the middle of summer, he tryed to get with my friend, she was like hell no Trish likes you. haha he felt like an ass, and he is, i dont know what to do,I miss him and he and i are soo much alike its not even funny. I cry more then anything and i hate it and i wont go out of the house cuz i know ill see him flirting with other girls. I need him, what should i do? (link)
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sounds like to me this guy doesn't know what a relationship is and he isn't ready to actually have a REAL one. you may like him alot and it sucks to like someone like that. the only thing i can tell you to do is to try and put all the good things about him out of your head and focus on the bad. that way when you see him you can't think of all those wonderful things you have in common....but all those horrible things that you dont like about him...i know it sounds immature but i works
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im an 8th grader and i started to like a girl a few monthes back,and i came back to school and found out she was movin to arizona(i live in missouri)shes moving in 1 month, and i think she has a crush on me to, so my question is should i ask her out or not (link)
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oh wow that is tough. Well hun the only thing i can tell you is that she is leaving in one month and that if you want to ask her out then go for it....but what is going to happen in a month. its one of those things you know isn't going to work out...but if you really want to then go for it just be ready for the disappointment when she leaves
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I live in an apartment and the family across from me love to party late at night. Almost every night they have a party with their friends. They have small children and the kids are left unattended in the hallway while the adults drink beer and various other forms of alcohol. The children run up and down the hallways, screaming and yelling, while the adults are inside drinking. Once in a while, someone comes and screams at the children to, "Quiet down!" but this only keeps them quiet for a few minutes. Sometimes the children even start to bang against my door--in the middle of the night!
Just for note, my mother works late nights so I am usually home with my little sister. I talked to my mother about this problem but she says she cannot do anything since she hasn't witnesses any of this yet.
All of this noise keeps me awake at night and it's difficult for me since I have school the next morning. I get little or no sleep, but I'm more concerned for my little sister actually. She has a sleep disorder and frequently has insomnia. She has enough trouble trying to get to sleep at night without all of this partying going on across the hall. Sometimes the partying will wake her up after an hour or so of sleep and then she'll be up all night long in a miserable state. The family isn't having a party right now and my little sister is finally sleeping, but they could start later (I'm hoping they won't have one at all) because they usually start later in the evening. In my city 10:00pm is the limit for any kind of noise that might disturb others. It's already 9:34pm now and they usually start around this time.
I'm not blaming the children, by the way. I know the noise is not really their fault, but it's their parents' fault for leaving them unattended. I just am not sure what to do! It was suggested that I call the police for noise disturbance and since the adults leave the YOUNG children unattended so often...should I?
How should I handle this?
Call the cops?
Confront the neighbors?
Tell the apartment manager?
Pretend it doesn't happen and hope it goes away? (link)
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well since they leave their kids out in the hallway that isn't very good parenting and that deserves government attention. call the cops and explain the situation. you could tell the manager about the parties....but if they leave their kids out in the hallway then who knows what happens inside you know what i mean.
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16/f and my boyfriend is 15/m
My boyfriend and I just started going out in August and his birthday is on October 22nd. I really have no idea what to get him. I know he loves baseball, but I don't want to be cheesy and get him something baseball-related. I also don't want to get him clothes because that's just something I'd like to leave to him. I'd greatly appreciate if I could have some nice (not cheesy!) gift ideas for him. Thank you so much in advance! (link)
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you can never go wrong with a gift card..yeah they are small and not what you call sentamental but just get one from his favorite store that way he can get what he wants and you not stuck with something you know he won't like
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So I'm a freshmen at school and extremely shy until you get to know me more. Well for homecoming I helped do the float with my friends. While we we're working it started pouring rain. We were in a bus barn. Me and my friend decide to run in the rain and mess around with two other people in a different grade. After a few minutes were back working and its still pouring rain. I tell my friends im gonna go out in the rain for as long as i can. So i go out and just stand there waving my arms around. Then my friends motion me in the bus barn to act like im taking a shower, so i pretend to wash my pits. I stopped cold when i realized my teacher who is in charge of making and selling our homecoming videos was video taping me. I don't want that tape out! I don't want older people thinking im imature and stupid and will make fun of me in school. I know its good to laugh at myself but i feel like thats embarassing and i was a complete idiot!Do you think that would be embarassing?What should i do if people start making fun of me? (link)
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i wouldn't worryabout it to much. if they do make fun of you then just laugh with them. Sure it's embarassing but if she already has the dvd's out there isn't much you can do. More than likely you will have a few that will try to bring you down for it but hey laughter is the best medicine laugh with them. They can't make to much fun of you if you take it as a joke too.
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i want to lose 20lbs...
ive begun my diet and i exercise everyday for 45min+ i work on all my body parts..but does anyone have any tips to lose the weight faster?? i try to take in 1500 calories a day and with a workout, i only take one day off of working out. I weight like 167, i want to be at 150, but that would take like 5 months i think...any faster ways to lose weight? or patience is the key to lose weight?
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well your going the right way with a 1500 hundred calorie diet. that is what is generally recomended. but many poepl recomed 90 mintues of excersise in order to lose wieght. i knkow that is a lot of time but it works. i did it a dropped 15 pounds.
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I have never had many friends... actually, I've only had one or two tops. Well, I'm starting university this year and I'm worried my curse is going to continue. I used to be very shy, awkward, defensive and a bunch of other unnatractive traits but I've gotten a lot better. How do I make friends? I don't know how. Am I going to be alone for the rest of my life??
Thank you. (link)
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i'm the same exact way. i dont have many friends either. what i do is like if ther is a bunch of people around you talking just compare common stories that have happened to you that is connected to the subject or compliment them and as questions on where they got that shirt or sumthing like that and start a conversation from that.
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