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University woes
I have never had many friends... actually, I've only had one or two tops. Well, I'm starting university this year and I'm worried my curse is going to continue. I used to be very shy, awkward, defensive and a bunch of other unnatractive traits but I've gotten a lot better. How do I make friends? I don't know how. Am I going to be alone for the rest of my life??
Thank you.
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i'm the same exact way. i dont have many friends either. what i do is like if ther is a bunch of people around you talking just compare common stories that have happened to you that is connected to the subject or compliment them and as questions on where they got that shirt or sumthing like that and start a conversation from that.
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First of all, if you THINK you're going to be alone and have a pessimistic view on your potential for making friends, you will be alone.
That being said, making friends really isn't all that hard. Just talk to people! Here are a few ways you can start a conversation:
1. Compliment them.
- If they're wearing a nice pair of shoes, or some cute jeans, tell them. Let them know you like their shoes, and then ask where they got them. After that, ask if they're comfortable or something. Don't be annoying about it, but take interest in the person you're talking to, and hopefully, chances are they'll show interest back.
2. Find something you have in common.
- If they're wearing a band shirt, and it's a band you like, tell them! For example, say they are wearing a Rocket Summer shirt, say to them, "I see you have on a Rocket Summer shirt, do you like his music?" Then, after they answer, tell them your opinion on the band/artist.
3. Talk about your surroundings/where you are.
- Say it's after class and the person next to you is getting up to leave. Walk out next to him/her and comment on the class. Say something like, "That was kind of an interesting lesson." or "Was it just me, or was that lecture kind of boring?" or, if you're sitting outside on a bench, and somebody is sitting next to you, make a comment about the weather or where you are.
4. Make a joke!
- There's no better way to make friends with somebody than to make them smile/laugh. BUT don't make a joke about another person, it will make you look bad AND potentially hurt another person's feelings.
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Good luck!
-Laura (16-f)
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Starting a new school is always a great way to branch out from your regular scene and meet new people. Why dont you try getting involved in extra curricular activities at your new school? Find out what clubs or activities your school offers and try joining a few your interested in, thats always a good way to meet people that share some of your same interests. Arrive at class early and conversate with others in your class, you might even be able to find someone to study with. Just have a positive attitude, and don't be shy, put yourself out there and dont worry about what others think. Your starting out at a new school with many others that may not know anyone either, so dont worry I am sure you will make many new friends just get involved and don't stand down! Good luck and hope this helps!
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