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What should I do about noisy, partying neighbors? Call the police?
I live in an apartment and the family across from me love to party late at night. Almost every night they have a party with their friends. They have small children and the kids are left unattended in the hallway while the adults drink beer and various other forms of alcohol. The children run up and down the hallways, screaming and yelling, while the adults are inside drinking. Once in a while, someone comes and screams at the children to, "Quiet down!" but this only keeps them quiet for a few minutes. Sometimes the children even start to bang against my door--in the middle of the night!
Just for note, my mother works late nights so I am usually home with my little sister. I talked to my mother about this problem but she says she cannot do anything since she hasn't witnesses any of this yet.
All of this noise keeps me awake at night and it's difficult for me since I have school the next morning. I get little or no sleep, but I'm more concerned for my little sister actually. She has a sleep disorder and frequently has insomnia. She has enough trouble trying to get to sleep at night without all of this partying going on across the hall. Sometimes the partying will wake her up after an hour or so of sleep and then she'll be up all night long in a miserable state. The family isn't having a party right now and my little sister is finally sleeping, but they could start later (I'm hoping they won't have one at all) because they usually start later in the evening. In my city 10:00pm is the limit for any kind of noise that might disturb others. It's already 9:34pm now and they usually start around this time.
I'm not blaming the children, by the way. I know the noise is not really their fault, but it's their parents' fault for leaving them unattended. I just am not sure what to do! It was suggested that I call the police for noise disturbance and since the adults leave the YOUNG children unattended so often...should I?
How should I handle this?
Call the cops?
Confront the neighbors?
Tell the apartment manager?
Pretend it doesn't happen and hope it goes away?
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If I were you, I would first write a letter to your neighbors. Very politely inform them of your problem with this, mentioning the children. Don't mention your age in the letter, only the fact that you're a patient neighbor with a slight problem. Sound compromising in the letter, like you don't mind the parties but if they could somehow find a different place for the children or at least discipline them to not bang on your door and such, it would be great.
If the letter does not help at all, you should go to the apartment manager, and tell him/her that you did not want to put any burdens on him, but after writing a letter to the residents they still did not comply, and you felt that there was nothing left to do besides confront him/her.
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well since they leave their kids out in the hallway that isn't very good parenting and that deserves government attention. call the cops and explain the situation. you could tell the manager about the parties....but if they leave their kids out in the hallway then who knows what happens inside you know what i mean.
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The best thing to do is talk to the super at your building with your mother present or listening in on the phone. Have them try to deal with the issue and deliver a stern warning. If the children are unattended and causing havoc than she may have grounds to do more than warn them.
You really have to catch them or their guest drinking or doing something illegal in a common area to get an eviction these days but if the super doesn't like them they'll keep close tabs or jack their rent to force them to move.
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Well honey I would should suggest talking to the apartment manager first. The reason I say this is because you need to go to someone who will do this in a low attetnion type mannor. If you know the apartment manager well enough to trust him, I would ask him to check up on the situation usually around the times you say this all starts. If the apartment manager is willing to keep your and your families name out of it I think that would be best since you are neighbors. If the apartment manager sees first hand what these people are doing its best for him to call the police and handle it. Situation like this where the children are unattended like you have stated DCF can and might even get involved. So I would let an adult you can trust other than your mother handle this one. Refrain from calling the cops yourself being your mother is not there at night, dont want you guys to get in any trouble yourself for any reason. Also if you did call the police yourself the neighbors you reported wold most likely see the police talking to serveral people on that floor. So my best opinion is to let the apartment manger deal with this tell him everything you had said here so he knows all the details. If he is the kind of person who cares about the building and the people living there he should be more than happy to do this and take the pressure off you. I hope this helps you out, let me know what you think..
Remember to take a deep breath and take it onedayatatime..
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That sounds horrible! I honestly feel sorry for you.
The best thing to do would be to call the police and tell the apartment manager.
If you confront them, they might stop for a night or two, and it'll be back to the normal.
Higher authorities have better control over situations like these.
Good luck!
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