hi peoplez! im alorra, if u need advice on anything, like boys, girls, school, work, or anything else, dont be afarid to ask me, ill give you a good answer to just about any question.
thoughts for the day: some people are only alive because its illegal to shoot them.
i dont suffer from insanity, i enjoy it.
earth is the insane asylum of the universe.
Most important: Dont cry over someone who wont cry over you.
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18-Female
about a month ago i started getting this nauseas feeling all the time. I constantly feel like i am sick to my stomach and it makes me have more BM's i used to do it only a couple times a week and now it is a daily thing.(which i understand is whats normal) but it is different for me and its not normal because it makes me feel sick. Along with the sick feeling i seem to have a constant headache and pain in my lower & upper back. I am not completely sure is what up or even a little bit sure whats going on all i know is i want to feel better.
I'm pretty sure there is no way i am pregnant i have been using condoms and none of them have broke and im understanding that that is the only way i could get pregnant using them.
I want a few opinions before i decide to go to the doctors or buy a pregnancy test.
Thanks. (link)
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Well, you are more than likely not pregnant, the symtoms you've mentioned are not the symtoms of morning sickness. Understand that i am not a doctor, but based on the body aches, mild diarrea, and nausea, i would say you probably have some sort of stomache virius or the flu. You should head over to your doctor and get yourself some medicne
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i'm 19. i've been on tri-sprintec since feb/march. i've taken it at the same time every day until last week when i was at the beach on vacation and got the hours all screwed up. i still took it every day but at diff times later than i was supposed to. today i had sex w/o a condom, and had already taken my pill at the correct time. are my chances of pregnancy much greater since i didn't take my pill right on time last week? (link)
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As long as you still took your pill, you should be just fine. The fact the the birth control pill got into your system means that it is still working to prevent pregnancy, even if your timing was a bit off. I would still recomend using a condom during sex, just for the sake of being extra careful, but so long as you took the pill at the right time this time, and you were getting it during your vacation, the timeing a week before wont make your chances go up any.
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i'm very aware of how shallow this sounds but it's the only way i can explain.
15/f
so according to a very large group of boys, i'm considered hot.
and based on how they look at me and how they ignore me all the time and laugh at me, it seems as though a lot of girls (the popular brats in particular) think i'm a freak. like they seriously don't like me and think im really weird.
it seems like a very odd situation to me. I know i probably seem like im naive or asking for complients or im plain stupid, but i just want to know if its actually possible to be "a freak" and "hot" at the same time.
thanks:) (link)
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it sounds like the olny reason those girls dont like you is because all the boys do. You are at an age where people are very petty and immature, and jealousy is the number one reason people act that way.
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Okay. So I've been with this guy since October of 2006. He is my love. My life. My everything. I've never loved someone more. Well, we recently broke up, because his parents are not very fond of me anymore because of some stuff that has happened in the past. Long storiess. And it's hard to have a relationship where parents don't like you, ya know what I'm sayin? So it was better sooner than later I guess. Well here's the thing. We still talk all the time, which I love. And we occasionally hook up and stuff, because well, I love him a lot, and I know he loves me. But usually after a breakup with him, we don't talk for a while, because I can never handle the thought of us being "just friends". Well, this time feels kind of different. I think I am actually accepting it, which I never thought I would do, ever. Like I said, we occasionally hook up, like kiss and we cuddle, and sometimes we have sex, which don't get me wrong, it doesn't bother me at all. If anything I'm mostly the one who starts it, because I love to be close to him. And he says he didn't break up with me because he didn't want to be with me, because he still does. So that's why he loves to kiss me and be close to me because it's still something special that he can share with me..that's what he says to me. And ya know, I do believe him. I know he's not lying, and I can see in his eyes that he loves me. I guess what I'm getting at is, what would you call us?? We're not together anymore, but when we hang out, he still shows affection and love to me, even around alll his friends!! We kiss, sometimes even have sex, and just pretty much, we're super close. Something I never thought would happen after a breakupp. I don't even understand myself. How am I okay with all this? haha. What are some thoughts? I'd love to hear anything on this. Is it wrong? What would you call my situation?
Thanks ! xoxoxoo (link)
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Well the best deffinition i can give for what you have here is sort of a more extreme fwb (freinds with benifits) relationship.
It's not nessicarily wrong, if your both alright with it, and it might even be what you both need right now. But you should know that it cant last this way and some time it will end in one of 3 ways. You two will either get back together, stop the 'benifits' all together, or one of you will find someone new and it will end on a sad note.
My best advice would be to be carful with this one, but to enjoy things the way they are if your truly ok with them.
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I'm female, 15, and i'm not sexually active. Nor have i ever been. But my vagina has a really gross smell to it, and i always just feel dirty down there. I don't thiiiiiiink i have a yeast infection. I haven't gone to a doctor about this, and i don't plan to. Is there anything i can buy at the store, or anything else i can do to get rid of this smell? and to feel cleaner down there? (link)
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There is really nothing youi can do without knowing what the problem is, so you really need to get to a doctor.
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ok, so i love my boyfriend, but hes a little bit too small "down there." Are there any ways to get me more satisfied during sex since hes so small? (link)
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have you ever heard the fraze "its not the size of the boat, its the motion of the ocean."? well its completely true, you see most of the nerve endings that creat pleasure are located the first 3 inches inside of the vagina, 80% in fact.
So I would suggest a lot of fore play to get you in the mood, and then during sex you might try having either him or your self rubbing youir clit. I would also suggest trying different positions to find ouit which ones feel the best.
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I have been in this relationship around a year I do have a gem for a girl friend and there is no doubt that she wants to marry me . I just want to get more of my eggs in a row although I am thinking more along the lines of marriage and not so much ingagement.So my question is would this be to soon?Keep in mind we are not young 18 year olds we are both 45 years old she has been single for over 20 years while she made commitments to raising her children now they are grown and so are mine I am a widower my wife passed away in 1985 although I did date over the years I was single for 6 years prior to meeting her in church.And yes we dont sleep together.We choose to be patient. (link)
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I applaud your patience. I don't think it is too soon at all. If you both are committed to eachother and very much in love, AND both wanting to get married, then i would have to say, pop the question. You are both still young (yes you are dont argue)and have so much time to spend happily married, and if you really love eachother there is no reason to "drag the wait out" so to speak.
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Me an dmy boyfriend are going to have sex like next week for the first time, what are some sexy/kinky things i can do before to get him in "the mood"?
15/f (link)
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First off i know you're probably tiered of hearing this, but in my opinion you are still a bit young for sex, so make sure it is something you really want to do, with someone you really love befor you do anything.
Ok, so kinks are difficult to give advice about because they viary from person to person. So i would start small, running your hands over his chest and through his hair. Holding him with your hips against his. Lots of kissing and rubbing. Some guys like girls who nibble their ears, so you can try that. Basicaly think about what he likes when you two kiss/make out, and take that to the next level
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we were each other's first love or whatever. I'm 16 by the way. We went out for a year. The relationship was good, with its ups and downs but we held on.He had a friend that liked me and wanted to take me away.....then i told him that one of my new kinda friends at school thought he was cute....He had the nerve to call her one weeked and ask her to chil!!!haha...we broke up...we haven't talked or seen each other for three or four months. My friend and I are super close now. He would always talk shit about me to her...try to make me look bad all the time. But my friend would always stand up for me...i was even able to read some emails of her defending me. I thought that was really cool. And he always tries to talk bad about me...he doesn't as much because my friend has stopped him. whats wrong with him? why does he have to be such an ass hole....then this one day he texted me out of the nowhere...and we got in an argument....it didn't end so well. at the end he said "make sure I don't know your next boyfriend".......anyway...thats the story....what do you guys think? (link)
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In my opinion, he is your typical garden veriety jerk. He obviously has no respect for you and dosn't have the guts to move on, so he hangs around just to make you angry. I think you should forget him and move on. Find someone new, or just take some time and concentrait on yourself for a while. Whatever you decide, do what you need to to make your self happy, and forget him
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18/F
So my girlfriend and I have hit that rocky part of the relationship...i hope just a phase. we are arguing about everything and just i feel like we really need a romantic date just to remind us of how in love we are... I live in the danvers/boston MA area, does anyone have any good restaurants/ places to go that are rly romantic? (link)
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Well you can always try a little italian place called Uno. Its cute with good food and great pizza, and their spagetti is delicious too.
194 Endicott Plaza
Danvers, Massachusetts 01923-3609
There is also the Brutole Brick Oven Pizzaria.It has soft lighting and big pretty dining rooms, great food aswell.
Route One Danvers, Massachusetts 01923
If you'd like something really fancy then i would highly recomend the Danversport Yacht Club Restaurant. Its a bit more expensive and i would suggest calling ahead for a reservation, but the food is good and there is a beautiful lake view from a bunch of the tables.
161 Elliott St
Danvers, Massachusetts
Of course it is always nice to have a well preparred home cooked meal by candle light, and a little dancing around the dining/living room. That is always a great idea for a romantic evening.
Hope i helped
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hey im 18/f and planning on moving out of my parents house and my boyfriend and I are going to get an apartment. we've been dating for about 6 months. I really do love him. but as june gets closer (which is when I plan to move out) my parents are supportive. but today I went through my head all the what-ifs. I started thinking that maybe my boyfriend isn't the one and maybe I should play the field and maybe this and that. he believes were going to be together for a really long time. I thought that to but now im doubting myself. is this normal to think this? (link)
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The things you're thinking and feeling are completely normal. Whats more, its a good thing to look at all the ways a situation can play out. The thing you have to realize is that poeple grow and mature and change, and it is possible that your boy friend may not be the one, but at the same time maybe he is. It's all about time, if you grow and change together then everything is great, but if not, its not the end of the world. Remember just becasue you are dateing him now dosn't mean you have to marry him, you are still young. If you dont love him anymore, then you should play the feild, but if thats not the case don't break it off out of "the fear of missing out" because if you really love him you are not missing anything. Besides, like i said your still young, there is plenty of time for you still.
I would suggest an affordable appartment and a good job so you know that you can be independent and support yourself alone if you have to. But after that, just relax and have fun, enjoy your relationship and let it take the course it is menat to. And above all, do what your heart says is right.
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15f boyfriend is 16 and we have not had sex, just kissed. Lately I have been having this sudden urge to give him a handjob, sounds weird because im not the one being pleased. He hasnt asked for one or even mentioned it, but i have been thinking about it a lot and i dont know why. (link)
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Ok no offence to Jack, but no one has the right to tell you you are not ready. if you REALLY believe your ready, then talk to your b/f about it. but if your not ready, dont bring it up. But dont let anyone (even people who are dead set against sex b4 marrage) influence you one way or another. Do what feels right for you, and no one else. And besides, a handjob dosn't mean you have to have sex. in fact It might be a good alteretive to sex, because he can do things for you too. If you really think you are ready TALK to him.
As to why your feeling it, its completely natural. Hormones and all. you are going to have those feelings because it is natural to feel that way. but as i said before, dont act on them until you are ready.
Hope i helped
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My boyfriend and I have been together for a while. I just recently started giving him handjobs and he's been fingering me. The only problem is, he's never fingered a girl before, and it shows. He always seems so confused he doesn't penetrate at all and I don't know how to tell him how to do it right. Any ideas?
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Pay attention to what feels good. if your comfortable, try fingering yourself to find out what you like, then next time you and your b/f are together, tell him what you wamt. trust me, guys love to hear what you like when it comes to stuff like this. and if you like something he is doing, let him know, (if you know what i mean) if you dont, tell him. maybe move his hand to show him where to touch you. hope i helped
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Everything is just fine with me and my boyfriend except for one thing. His best gal friend which is someone I'm very jealous of sometimes. They talk alot with each other and I know they're just friends but sometimes I feel that he likes being with her than with me. I know he loves me but how can I let him know I dont like this, that he should make some time for me too as much as he makes for her and that maybe she can back off alittle? (link)
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I know the feeling. sit down and have a serious talk with him. Tell him you know she is his friend, and you really don't have a problem with her, but sometimes she makes you a little jealous. tell him your feeling a bit lonely lately, and above all, just talk calmly and you'll get through it.
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thing is i am happy person but some reason i have my lip close look like i am frowning how i get ride of that? i mean i feel like i have to smaile all the time show i not frowing lol. thanks (link)
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try to practice turning your lips up in a small smile when you walk down the halls. glance at people casualy, and give a nice large smile when you see someone you know and like. if you do this long enough, you'll get used to it and it will become natural.
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18/f
I'm in college, and I want to get my roommate something nice for the holidays because a lot of us are exchanging gifts. All of us, except for her, celebrate Christmas. She grew up in a Jewish household, so she celebrates Hanukkah.
Would it be okay to still get her a "holiday" gift. Would I just write Happy Hanukkah on the card?
We're doing a secret Santa, too. Should we invite her to participate or just leave it since she doesn't do Christmas?
What's the etiquette for that? (link)
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go ahead and ask her what she would like. hanukkah is traditionaly a gift giving holiday, so buying her a gift would be perfectly acceptable.
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Okay, i have been dating my boyfriend for about a month now. He is really nice and i really like him. I have been to his house before but he has never been to mine. I want him to come over but i am really scared. I know we would watch a movie or something, but my room is really small and my tv is only as big as a computer screen. I get really nervous everytime i even think about letting him come over. I have a big mirror in my room that if you sit on my bed, all you see is whats in the mirror. I would be really awkward if we just sat on my bed and watched a movie watching ourselves watch a movie and there is no way i can turn the mirror. I don't want to watch it anywhere else either. We haven't really got to hang out since we have been going out except for 2 times. I just don't know what to do. Please help asap!! thanks! (link)
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Ok take a deep breath and chill out. Ok lets talk about the mirror. find a long piece of fabric, like a single floor-to-cieling curtin in your favorite color. pin or tape the middle to the top back of the mirror, then take the sides and pin or tape them to the other sides, to make a sort of cool, elegant drape affect. it will take some of the focuse off the mirror, and make a nice accesory. now dont worry about the size of the tv, if he's a nice guy he wont mind and will prolly just be happy to be with you. so just clean the house up a litte, get some insence or candles for a nice smell and relax.
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Are u supposed to be horny when u do it? because I NEVER am. It's like ok, is it my turn yet?! (link)
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This is something you should talk about with him, maybe have him learn a little bit about foreplay to get you in the mood while you do it for him. id also recomend that you watch his face and listen to him while you do it for him, watch what your doing to him, and how good you make him feel.
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i had sex for the first time about 2 weeks ago. at the time i was not on birth control, and he was wearing a condom, but it ended up breaking and he had his penis in me without a condom for about 5 minutes. the next day i immediately started taking birth control. the day after i started taking it i got my period, and it has been about 8 days and i still sort of have it on and off. i am worried because my period has always been normal, i usually get it for 5 days then it goes away so now im worried. could i be pregnant? is it because of the birth control? someone please fill me in (link)
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You are not pregnant if you have your period. As for the irregularity of your period it is more than likely a reaction to you just recently starting birth control. it should stop soon. But if it does not stop within another week, i would see a doctor, just to be safe.
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I lost my good job in michigan, got married, and had a baby within the last year. I been bouncing from bad job to bad job, running out of money, and I am under so much stress it's taking years off of my life so badly I can feel it. How do I try to take it one step at a time, or at least look to other sources for help? I apply to about 120 jobs a month, but nobody is hiring, and I can't afford to move out of state for work, let alone take my wife, my newborn, and my 2 year old stepdaughter looking for work with me.....PLEASE HELP ME! (link)
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Honey, sit back and take a few deep breaths. now, what you need to do is to stop bouncing back and forth between bad jobs. Take more time and consideration with the jobs you apply to, and make sure they are fitted to your skills. Dont simply take any job because it's there, it has to be something you can actually do, that will actually pay decent money.
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