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I burned myself on one of those mini-ovens while heating up some pizza. It hurt a lot at first, but went away after a few seconds. Now (about 1 and a half hours later), it's sort of throbbing and hurts. Any advice?

i heard somewhere sticking the burned spot in mustard helps relieve the pain? i dunno if it works but it's worth a shot.

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ok well ima a girl and a couple days ago i went to my aunts house and she has a son and he's my cousin.were both 14. well we kinda like each other alot and i guess we just set aside that we were cousins. well we ended up sleeping next to each other and he was touching me, like my boobs and butt and all that stuff. and well the next day we ended up making out like the whole day..and the thing is i liked it alot and i know it's wrong to like your cousin but i can't help it. why does it have to be so wrong? we both love each other and we have ever since we were little kids, we practically grew up together. i just don't know what to do, he kept asking me things like are you a virgin, do you wanna live with me when you grow up? and im just so confused on what to do, i don't want to end up having sex with my cousin, but then again, what if i do?, and what if i like it??! please help me. i need all the advice i can get.

i'm sorry, but there's no advice to give. it's wrong, it's ILLEGAL, it's disgusting, and you need to get over it now. don't even think 'what if i have sex with him' cuz you CAN'T have sex with him. incest is illegal in all 50 states hun. just get over your feelings, it can't happen.

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15/F

I have terrible luck with guys, but I know one through my best friend and we get along amazingly. He likes me back.

The problem is, my best friend likes him as well and he lives about an hour away and she would get to see him more often than me.

She knew him first, but I would have to say I like him more. And he likes me, not her.

Is it wrong for me to try to purse a relationship with him? And would she have reason to be mad at me over this?

Thanks! =)

no it's not wrong, it's not your fault both of you like each other, why suffer because of your friend? she might be mad, but she'll get over it.

this actually happened to me a few years ago. i met the guy through my best friend, and she didn't tell me she liked him. so one day i was like "i think i'm gonna tell him i like him" and she was like "what?! you knew i liked him" and i was like "no i didn't..." it wasn't my fault she didn't make the move first you know?

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My nephew is turing 16 this month. I was wondering if these gift ideas are ohkay,a dn if you can think of somthing better..

i got him a hoodie that says bowling on it since he bowls for his school, and it has the year he graudates and its really nice; and its somthing diffrent tthat ive never see n him wehre..
also i was considering getting him somthing else.. like.. i don't know. something.. like for his psp but i dont know anything about those.. so ideas would be nice..?


thanks a bundle.

You could get him a game for his psp, but if you don't know what he likes I wouldn't get one since they're $40 a piece. Maybe instead of buying him a specfic piece, you could get him a gift certificate to a video game store, like EB Games or Best Buy or something.
The hoodie's a good idea, I like that..
Maybe you could get him cologne, a DVD, or a CD... I don't know really. Hope I helped a little!

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most of the time when i pee it was this weird odor and when the next person comes in they can even sumtimes smell it why do i have this odor when i pee ? and how can i fix it ??

Everyone has a certain odor.. But if it's that strong: along with the odor, does it hurt to pee, is your pee really yellow, or do you get random, srong urges to pee? If so, you might have a bladder infection. If you go to the doctor, they give you this medicine that you take for a few weeks and it should go away. If that doesn't work then you might have something else.

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How young is too young to have sex. Im 16/f and i just had sex for the first time a couple of days ago.

I don't really think there's an age restriction on when to have sex. As long as you're mature enough to handle the possible consequences (getting pregnant, etc), and you did it because you cared for the guy rather than because it was the 'cool thing to do' or you felt pressured, I think it's fine.

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i may not be the most popular girl in school, but you could say im in that clique of girls. Theres this guy i like, & people say he likes me back & he was suppose to ask me out but then i guess didnt do it. I want to get his attention, i mean i always think i look ugly but people say im not. Is there anyway i can feel & look pretty to get this guys and maybe other peoples attention? please help me

I really don't know what to tell you about this one. Confidence comes from the inside and out, so you just need to remind yourself about all the good things about yourself. Dress in a way that makes you feel comfortable and pretty so in you're head you're thinking "I look great, he's a psycho not to look at me." Guys think confidence is sexy, so just hold your head up high and do your best!

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Are stephen colletti and Hayden Panettiere (sp?) dating? I saw him kiss her last night on the New Years Eve special on MTV (Im so jealous. Ha.) And I was just wondering, if theyre officially a couple.

I think they are, I remember hearing that somewhere..

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Laguna_Beach:_The_Real_Orange_County

Under Stephen's profile thing it says that, but I dunno how true it is.

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Alright, well.
where to start. I've never really told nebody about this, but my best friend knows. alright, well, I met this guy online, and we became great friends, and one day he told me that he loved me. and he gave me the day, and I realized, I loved him too. Well, this guy... has to be the sweetest male alive, I love him with all my heart, we talk about everything, now, the problem is, he lives in South Carolina, and I live in california. I'm a country girl, hes a city boy. well, our diffrences dont bother us. comming in march, will be our 4 year anniversery. another problem, hes turning 20 this month, and i'm only 15. again, we dont view this as an issue.
we talk online practically 24/7, he stayed up till midnight califonria time for me last night for new years. we've sent letters back and forth, talked on the phone, we've done a ton of things. well, he wants to meet the year I graduate. well, theres two problems.
1. My Mother. she is the most over protective thing EVER. though my oldest brother had an online girlfriend in PA, and visited her for his graduation present, but they knew about his gf. buuut they dont know about me and my bf.
2. my religion. I'm mormon, and i'm not supposed to date until I'm 16 (this september) and i know for a fact my mom wouldnt approve of him. he doesnt approve of my guy friends, any of them over the age of 16, little lone 20.

though I do think i'll have some more freedom by then, I dont know if it'll work. plus, after hs, i'm planning college and a mission...and more college. by the time we can really settle down, he'd be like 32, and yes, we've planned all this out, and hes upset with that idea, but I dont know what to do!

well, I have a few questions

1. I want personal opinions, do you think we would last if we tried

2. since hes upset about him being the age he would be, should I just drop off like, going on a mission, or a few years of college? should i just go to an out of state college, and move in with him?

3. Do i keep this stuff from my parents? they once got into my e-mail and found a ton of e-mails from him, and i was practically dead meat, I blocked his sn and deleted his e-mail off my list in front of them, and they stoppped bothering me, so what he did was change e-mails and I unblocked his sn, that was 3 years ago. Do i risk chancing it now? do i wait until i'm 16 or 17 when i'm of age?

I really want to spend my entire life with him, and I know that for sure right now.

please guys, help!!

I'm actually in the same exact situation, but a little worse. I've known this guy online since i was 10, and i'm 17 now (he's 21 now).. The problem is, he left for a while in that time and I met a boyfriend here. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, but I still love the other guy and we still talk and want to be together. My parents don't know about us either..

Anyway, I totally disagree with the other two. I don't think he's some pedophile, why would he wait FOUR YEARS to do something? If he was some creep he would've tried to find you/meet you right away.

I honestly think you guys could last, if you've been together four years nonstop. You've heard of ematch.com and stuff, internet love DOES happen ok? Don't let any of these people convince you otherwise, he seems like a great guy.

As for your second question, that's up to you. In my situtation, I'm thinking about going to an out of state college to be with him. But mine's worse, because I can't really choose between the two guys yet. Sorry for talking about my problem too, but I'm a little confused myself.

And for question three, I don't know what to tell you either. I haven't told my parents and it's been on and off for seven years.. but if you're serious about him, I would tell them. Maybe not yet, maybe wait a while, like when you're 18, so they can't try to stop you from being with him.

If you wanna talk more, since we have a lot in common, just send me another question! Good luck with everything

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okay, so this is just a simple question. but do a majority of girls shave "down there?" like i'm afraid when it comes to when i become intimate with a man that he'll be turned off if its shaved or not? so, what do most girls do? shave, or not?

i was with a large group of girls and one of them asked this, and about 3/4 of the group raised their hands to it. so, i guess that answers your question that a lot of girls do shave. it's not always about looking good for a man, it's just nicer looking for yourself and when you swim you don't have to worry about people seeing hair down there. either way is okay though, you decide what you wanna do.

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my boyfriends birthday is in less than a week and i need to find a good gift for him (hes 14 by the way)

guys love video games, so maybe casually ask him what the latest games are or something, and they like cologne, but i dunno if 14 year olds use it. or you could just do like the others suggested and get him a gift certificate or card to somewhere he likes, or take him out to eat and plan a fun day. my boyfriend took me to an amusement park for my birthday, so maybe you could do that. and for my boyfriend's birthday, i took him to the mall and was like "ok, pick out whatever you want, my treat" and i bought him a bunch of shirts he wanted. sorry if i wasn't any help, but good luck!

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hey well i was wondering what all u alls views were on teens (well 14 yr olds) making out? is it to young, or not? and what about not going all the way like sex but..just a little ways? i just need to know what other peoples views are on this! please please please i'll rate high!! xo thanks

to me, i think it's ok to make out at 14. but anything more than that is just too much, for that age. i'd wait until 16 to do anything more.

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i was just wondering where you can find someone to be with (as in girlfriend and boyfriend) like online or something. cuz i mean there is no one at school that im really into. i just want a good site to meet single teens ready for a relationship. btw, im 13/f. THANKS A BUNCH!!!

www.espinthebottle.com is a great website because you can meet people in your local area, and it's meant for teens rather than adults.

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Ive been with my boyfriend now for about one and a half months, and i think he loves me and i think i love him, we have a very happy relationship. Thing is i want to go further than how far we have gone, snogging.

He is really indecicive so i dont think he is going to make the first move so how can i without freaking him out, making him nervous, seeming like a slut or being blunt (like asking/telling him, i cant do that)

Particular help needed refering to 2nd base and home run.

♥Thanks♥
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i think you should take it slow, i mean a month and a half isn't that long, and you already wanna go to 2nd base or home? that's really the only advice i can give you, take things slow, so he doesn't get freaked out, and just go with the flow. you'll probably have to talk to him about it, even though you don't want to, because that's a big step.

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well see i got a boyfriend and i care bout him so much and it will be our 7 month anniversary on the 16th but there a problem...he's been put away in a boys home for almost most of ur relationship..and it kill knowing i cant see or talk 2 him at all...i saw him twice this whole summer and it sux....but i really care about him and i've known him since the 2nd grade but i dont know if i shuld break it off or just stick it out until he cumz home...which is in like 2 or 3 months...well im 16 and im a female....WHAT SHOULD I DO???

if you care about him so much, i think you should wait. you've stuck it out for this long (happy 7 months to you two!), why end it now? it's only two or three months, then you can be with him as much as you want!

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Whats the best brand of pads to use. Like I like deoderizer and fast observation and I can wear it a lot.

to me, 'always' is the best brand. they have different levels, like light, medium, super, and then super heavy or whatever, so you can wear the right one that goes with your period.

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My best friend is 13 and I'm almost 14. I got my period last november and she still hasnt gotten it.

So we were talking about it one nite because i got it that nite. So she was like damn it I want mine and I was like you shouldnt. Than she was like my mom told me that when your friends get their periods your more likely to get yours around that time too. I was like really thats weird.

Now is this a true statement or a wild guess I mean because to me it sounda a little out there.

Its a little weird so i didnt know where to put this question.

it isn't always true, but it's possible. if two friends are really really close and do like everything together, have the same eating habits, have the same sleeping pattern, and exercise the same then there's a chance you'll get them near each other. like if you go to camp in the summer, you'll notice all of the girls have their periods at the same time, cuz you're all doing the same activities.

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okay so me and this guy are "together" he said... people have been asking me if were dating, but i have no clue... one of my friends asked if we were dating and he said yea... but when he talked to me he said "i see myself as your boyfriend", like whats the difference from being together, dating, going out and being boyfriend/girlfriend?? he told me theyre all technically the same, so what does he think we are then?!?! (are we bf/gf??

if he told you he sees himself as your boyfriend, then i suppose you two are b/f and g/f. as for those terms being the same, dating is more casual, like you're dating one person, but you're also dating other people (or you may not be at the time, but the other person is). going out, being together, and being boyfriend/girlfriend though are pretty much the same, to teenagers anyway.

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I will be freshman this year. And I'm so scared and nervous. My curent friends are like family, but I can't really be myserlf around them. They are too much into guys. But I've been through alot with them in middle school. And I don't really have any other close friends. So what should I do? Should I find new friends, or stick with the ones I got?

Do both! You're going to meet soo many new people at high school, and hopefully you'll make a lot of friends. But it's always nice to keep those old friends too. If you can't be yourself around them, find friends that you can be. Good luck, and don't be nervous or scared, it's not any different except the school's bigger.

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Ok i really want to makeout with somebody but i dont know with who or when its a good time?!

don't just make out to make out, wait until it's with someone you like at least. and when you're alone is usually a good time, like in one of your rooms. or wherever else you're alone, like at a party go somewhere private or go to the drive-in or something.

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