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I am 27 my BF 27.
I am in a long distance relationship for five years. We see each other 2/3 times a year. My boyfriend is very caring and nice. And off course I trust him a lot.
A few months back a saw a girl commenting on few of his post. and by her comment it seems like they chat sometimes. She always reacts with love react to his post. and sometimes comments praising his singing.
Now my BF has other female friends, they are his classmates and colleagues. And I am not insecure about them at all. But this girl is not his classmate or colleague.
Now I am not saying that he is having something with her. Like I said earlier I trust him completely. But I don't know why I have this weird feeling that the girl has a crush on my BF and she is trying to impress him. Should I do something about it? It is bothering me a lot. I didn't ask my bf about the girl yet. Should I ask him? How can I ask him? or should I just ignore it?
BTW we don't share our couple picture online or post anything about our relationship online. As me and my BF both are very private person. Our close friends and family members know about our relationship. But we don't showoff online. (link)
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Communication is key in any relationship, no harm in telling him what you think about her and hear out his response. Better than keeping it to yourself and letting negative emotions fester.
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Gosh, being bi is so confusing and it tears me apart thinking about it, my friends, a lot of them are homophobic. It sucks to know that even if I ever gather up the courage to come out, I’ll be alone. I don’t want to be involved w/homophobic people because I’m literally bi and also, i have a moral compass. But I’m too scared to be alone without them. Especially hazel, she’s the closest to me but because of “her religion” (in her words) she’s one of those “I dOn’T aGrEe wItH thE lIfeStylE” but it’s so complicated. Is it just religion? Is that even a justifiable reason? But it fricking sucks knowing my closest friends of 4 yrs would leave me just because I like girls (and boys).... I guess in the end, my question is as simple as, what should I do? (link)
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If you're bi, you know your friends won't like it, you don't need to tell them. You still like girls so thats fine for them to know and you aren't lying to them. If you like guys then keep that private. No need for them to know you also enjoy having sex with men, it doesn't add anything to your friendship. Just enjoy it in the privacy of your bedroom like everyone else.
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hey! I am a 12 year old girl. Last night my mom and I were talking about stuff and the conversation made it’s way over to s*x. she said a bunch of things and I found out that my parents still have s*x.
I’m honestly not sure WHY I’m so freaked out about this, but it makes me really uncomfortable to think that they still do it. I didn’t really know that people do it for joy, and to show love to the other spouse, I just thought that god made it to make a baby. Once you have that baby, it was done and done. Haha I was wrong i guess.
So I guess my dad uses a condom or whatever that is, and that freaks me out. Just thinking ab it freaks me out to be honest.
I cried myself to sleep last night while listening to Jules Leblanc :) I shouldn’t be this upset about it and I honestly don’t know why I am. It’s just weird thinking about that the bed that I’ve sat on many times before my parents were having s*x.
I am still upset about it and I just need to figure out why. I don’t want to think about this day and night, 24/7/365. any ideas?
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Haha yes sex is very pleasurable so older people including your parents will keep having sex. Guessing puberty hasn't hit you very hard yet since you're not feeling horny. But when it does happen, you will need release to stay healthy and sane, which is another reason you're parents have to keep doing it. Just try not to think about them doing it if it freaks you out haha.
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Is it ok for my boyfriend of 4 years to call me a fucken bitch I know it’s not all right but what should I do. (link)
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It really depends, generally speaking no it is not okay. I don't know the situation at all though considering you didn't say anything beyond he called you a fucking bitch. Did you do something awful to him to piss him off? Is he just an asshole for no reason? We don't know. Its okay to say it if the situation calls for it, extreme example like cheating on him certainly would warrant him being allowed to say that. If its for no reason and hes just a dick, then its not okay and hes a dick.
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Thank you for reading my question.
I am just confused and will like some help on gender identity. Here we go….
I have been assigned the gender of a girl, but I don't always feel that way. Before you start to think "Transgender?", let me get to a point.
For example, one day I feel feminine. I look in the mirror and I absolutely love my body. But the next day I look in the mirror and I hate it so much. (Wait, I'm not done yet.) Then the day after that, I look in the mirror and I don't really care. As in, I don't feel feminine or even masculine. That was just an example. Each feeling could last a few days at the most.
Sometimes, and this just makes it more confusing, I want to wear makeup while wearing a tomboy outfit. Or even the other way around. I want to wear a dress, but no makeup.
This might seem like normal, but I am just very confused on my gender. I think I have one, but sometimes I feel like I don't. But I know that I'm not agender. Please help me.
Thank you so very much. (link)
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Sounds to me like you're just a normal female. Some days girls think they look great, other times they think they look awful or just simply don't care. You don't need to find a label for yourself amongst all these insane identies that shouldn't be what define who you are anyways. You have nothing to worry about as long as you behave however feels right to you.
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Um ok so for some reason I finger mysealf a lot when I am in bed is this weird thing to do?? I keep sticking my fingers up there. Please help!! (link)
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No, there is nothing at all wrong with you for doing that. Almost all girls do it at your age some even younger, perfectly normal and natural. Relax and enjoy it.
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im girl 17,i told my classmate(boy) who is also my crush in the concrete i gave him a note, saying i like him..two days later, i asked him to talk about it bc he didnt give any respond and i wanted to how he feels ,during school,i asked him if we could go and talk somewhere private , he said it is nice that i told him about my feelings for him,he also told me that he know how hard it must´ve been for me to hide my feelings from him.then he said he doesnt have time for relationship bc he has activites besides school (he plays guitar, he dances)and also he told me he firstly wants to develop more spiritually..(if that makes sense) bc we go to catholic church ,and then he hugged me saying that we should continue to be friends and then i deleted him from my friends on fb during summer holidays bc i was always checking if he is online.now is new school year and he found out i removed him from my friends on fb, and he texted me why i did that, and if he did something wrong he is sorry , i told him i did it bc it hurts me and that i dont want to be friends, and he said it´s ok, i thought it would hurt less, but it hurts me more ,now i ignore him bc i dont know how to act to him..he sent me friend request on fb but i didnt accept it yet..he was good friend to me before i told him about my feelings..please help me should i be his friend again or not? if yes what should i tell him,why i suddenly accepted his friend request on fb,and also today is his birthday, should i wish him happy birthday even i removed him from my friends??..thanks for help :) (link)
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Well if you cannot find it possible to focus your attention on anything else outside of him, or try to be social with other people, then it could help to reestablish contact with him. Can simply tell him you miss being friends and you want to be able to move passed this, sorry about cutting ties before but you just needed to know if moving on would be easier that way, it wasn't, and you wish to try moving on while remaining friends. So if you are going to contact him again, then yes, wish him a happy birthday, a good chance to start talking. Good luck!
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Now I'd like to start off that I have depression, for a few years now, I am 17/female. I don't know how this plays into this well enough or has little.
Anyways, for thepast month my depression has gotten hard on me, all the whileI've slowly detached myself from my boyfriend, and with trying to converse with him during those weeks has made him irritated from my lethargy and dealing with me, and soon I called myself off from him and became distant to him. My feelings just started to fade, feelings for him and also I couldn't very well identify my own emotions. It's gotten worse between us and before any of this problem I had made a new (male) friend. I had no intentions to have feelings for him but now they're starting to form little by little. It's all a bit too confusing. Now getting out of the hard hit of depression I had gotten now I'm trying to work it out, but I feel like I'm rejecting a bunch of things out of fear of what'll happen. My boyfriend is sweet, caring, and I'm completely comfortable with but then, sometimes he is just so messy and disrespectful to his parents, embarrassing and boring at times. And then with this other guy, through out my worst days, has managed to make me laugh, talking almost non-stop. While my boyfriend has made me feel pushed away, like what went on inside didn't matter, now all I can explain is "I don't know what's going on inside, I'm sorry" and its tearing me apart if its just depression dampening my emotions or if its legitimate, any of them. Thank you if you read all of this. (link)
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Well, if you're having trouble with your boyfriend, then it would be best to speak to him about how your feeling, and if there are things that he does that bother you, tell him. Its better to be honest with someone and let them know when your having a problem with something they do, rather than keeping quiet about it and having your resentment build. If your enjoying talking to another guy, then there must be something hes doing to help you that you need, meaning you should talk to your boyfriend about this, so he can help you in the way you need it. If he loves you then he will have no problem listening to what you have to say, and would want to help you in any way he can, but you must make it known that you need his help in a specific way. People don't always just know exactly what you want, and its not fair to just keep quiet about it and go get what you need from someone else instead. I've seen a lot of good relationships come to an end when someone gets emotional and ends up seeking comfort from someone else other than the person they are dating, making them think theres something wrong with their current relationship and just moving to someone else, which is usually not the right thing to be doing. I wrote a lot, i know, but bottom line just speak to your boyfriend, tell him what bothers you, tell him what you need from him, and just go from there. Good luck!
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No one is giving me the support I want n it been so hard 2 me because I haven't tell anyone how I fell (link)
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Very vague as I don't know the problem your having, but if you feel you need support and haven't really mentioned it to the people you want it from, you have to say something so they know you need the help.
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My boyfriend asked me tonight if I was a virgin because he is and has never done anything at all. We've been dating on a couple weeks and I didn't know how to answer it though. This is why:
I've gave a few guys head
I've been fingered A LOT
I had anal twice
I masturbate like once a day
I never had like...sex sex, you know? Like the making babies kind LOL. You know what I mean. Does that mean I'm a virgin? (link)
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Eh, vaginally sure, but you've done anal and have been pretty sexually active, so just telling him yes you are would not be right. Be better of just telling him everything you have done to clarify. Someone says their a virgin, you tend to think of them as more pure and less experienced, which you clearly do not fit in that category, so just tell him all you've done so hes aware. Good luck.
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So basically I'll start off with I was with my boyfriend for 5 years and when we broke up in June I felt so sad i have always had depression and self harmed myself but no one knew Fourth of July weekend I felt the saddest I have ever felt and looked at my medicine cabinet and said what am I going to take to kill myself I thought about death every day and thought it was normal. I talked to my doctor and she put me on zoloft. I have never felt better until yesterday. I met this new guy and I finally moved on to my ex we had sex twice both with condoms. The only skin on skin action was us in the shower but we never physically did it until after with a condom. The next day I had an outrageous yeast infection and I found out yesterday I have Herpes. I have only been with 2 people and this is what happens...the guy I slept with is in denial and said he doesn't have anything but maybe he does now because I gave it to him! He was with his ex for 2 years and he said they are both fine. I just don't understand how this happened to me and now I am back in my hole where I don't want to live anymore. I feel broken and sad and nobody is going to want me. (link)
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Thats very unfortunate to hear. I can't say for sure how the herpes came to be, but I've had some health problems in the past that our medicine hasn't been able to help or cure. So I actually go to a Chinese doctor for acupuncture and herbs, my problems are pretty well cured now. They are able to cure or at least help many things our doctors cannot, in a healthy manner without nasty side effects. I had asked him about herpes at one point, pretty sure he said it was something they can at least treat. Either way you should check it out, their methods may seem odd if you're not used to them, but the results speak for themselves. Might even be able to help you with you're depression without the need for medication. If you can at least help that, remember that you did feel happiness again, and you can continue to find it again, do not lose hope just yet. Good luck!
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Well it's kind of a long story short, around the beginning of July I met this guy randomly on the street he's from the same country as me and everything we hit off straight away, that day we spoke as if we had known each other for a lifetime, well we swapped numbers etc and we've been seeing each other since. We did speak about each others past relationships because we're still on that stage of getting to know each other, he's told me he's attracted to me and he started to like me and he really wants to continue getting to know me how he would like a relationship with me eventually, we get a long great. He told me he had been with someone for 5 years etc... And I asked him whether he still had feelings for her or not and he said that there was still something there for her because she was the only girl he ever been in love with, to be honest this kind of turned my mood down I even told him I wouldn't want to be with someone that still has feelings for an ex. He said that it was the past that he met me now and how he loves everything about me etc and how he rather be honest with me.. However I don't know what to do don't get me wrong I've been in that position as well but I couldn't be able to see myself seeing someone while I still like my ex, it's a bit like ummmfff cause so far he seems like such a great guy we have nice moments together and it feels so good.. Mmmm I appreciate him being honest but it's just ahhhhhh :/ :( what to do ?!!!!!!!????? Cause I have his feeling he wants to start something with me ... I love how direct he is with me but I don't know what to think please help :/ :( (link)
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Its not a problem, if you spend years with someone, and love them, its not like you're feelings are going to 100% vanish, otherwise it probably wasn't love. Its natural for someone who was clearly an important part of someones life for quite a few years to still be somewhat special to them, they always will be. But the fact of the matter is that relationship ended for whatever reason, hes moved on to the point he wants someone else, he loves everything about you, seems to treat you well, and I find it better that he was so honest with you about his feelings despite knowing it would probably cause a problem with you. Thats a good quality that he would rather you know the truth knowing it might sound bad, instead of just lying to you and telling you what you want to hear while actually having unsaid feelings. I see nothing wrong with him so far, so I'd say just keep hanging around with him and see how things go. Good luck!
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i am 13, and i live with my adoptive parents. my real mom had me at 16 and got me token away when i was very young. i have always said that i would not be a teen mom, that i would wait for after marriage. but yesterday i found out that i am pregnant. how do i tell my parents? and i will not get an abortion and i don't want to give my baby away. so how will i tell my mom( that is 6 months pregnant) and dad that their 13 year old daughter is pregnant and wants to keep her baby? (link)
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Well, if you must keep it, either you will have to abandon any chance at a future to invest time to raise this child, or this child will end up becoming a burden on you're parents, having them spent time and money to raise it in order for you to continue life. As for telling them, theres never going to be an easy way to say it, and sooner it will be pretty obvious that you are pregnant anyways. It would be best to just simply come out and say I'm pregnant, I imagine no matter how you say it you are not gonna get any better of a reaction from them, so just say it and get it over with. Good luck!
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Hello!
As the headline says, im trying to be a better man, and being able to do some self defense is never bad idea. I heared that some martial arts are tied with some sort of philosophy and through it teaching other things for life then just "beating people" (because beating people is NOT my desire in the first place). I will be most grateful if you give me any suggestions i could follow.
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I don't know very much about the other martial arts, but i personally find taichi and meditation to be very relaxing and insightful.
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I don't know what I am.ever since I was young I knew what sex was and I always wanted to have it. I wanted to do it with boys and girls and I find them both attractive I watched porn at 10 and started masterbating at 12. If I see a boys or girls butt it turns me on and I want to experience sex with them both but im 13. I need help im scared of the shame plus im young and my hormones are raging. (link)
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Well you sound pretty bisexual to me, no shame in that. I see it as something very common these days and consider those who are bisexual very lucky. You have more people to pick from liking both sexes, you can enjoy having sex with both, getting to fully experience and enjoy your sexuality. How young you are doesn't matter very much either, met plenty of people your age who already know if their straight, gay, or bi, those hormones kick in and you know what you're attracted to, just embrace it and enjoy your life. Good luck.
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There's this guy that I really like. I don't think he likes me though, from what I see, and I was chatting with him, then we said stuff. Near the end of the conversation, he started acting weird, really very weird. He said something like ''I can't tell you or you'll discover my secret identity'' then ''I'm feeling like [my name] and you're probably feeling like me''. I just told him to go to sleep because things where getting weird. But, what does he mean? I'm so confused!
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Might not mean anything, could just be messing with you knowing it will freak you out to entertain himself, or hes just trying to sound more interesting than he actually is.
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Me and my Sister both live together, She's 20 and I'm 20. Yesterday she was out and I went on her laptop to check a few emails, And her email was still logged in, And a few subject lines caught my eye, When clicking on the email. And reading through emails, I discovered she's selling herself for money, Not only that she's doing Skype shows, And selling Videos of herself and pictures to other people. On Adult chat sites, Craigslist etc.
She has a job, Works 9-5, She's not on a low wage, But not high either. It kinda makes sense now when I found out,She has a new car, Buying new things, And having a whole lot more money in her purse.
I don't understand why she would do this? Is she lonely? She's never had a boyfriend, And always had self confidence issues,
I just can't get my head around it, I found in her room after snooping, (Wrong I know) Like a client list, around £3k stuffed in her knicker draw. Sex toys, Condoms, Lube, All sorts of crazy things.
After also reading, It sounds like she's enjoying herself. I know she's 20 an adult, But she's my sister, And I don't want her selling herself.
How should I confront her? And why do you think she is doing this? What makes someone have sex in exchange for money? (link)
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Well the short answer would be, some people just enjoy it, its exciting, its fun, it feels good, and to top it all off, it pays pretty good. Its not a big surprise shes moved into this line of work, I understand it can feel unpleasant if its your sister. But you should simply just come out and tell her you know and talk to her about it, see how she really feels. If she really is enjoying herself or theres some other reason, if she enjoys it then let her be, if its another issue then help her out. Hope all is well.
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it started when we were on vacation in 2014, she would just out of the blue say things like "don't mind me" or "hey i'm going to get naked in front of you, i'm sorry" obviously not naked but she would be wearing her panties... I'll say "oh thats ok i don't care".
She never use to be like that. She would always hide or be discrete like any normal girl. she has gone as far as wear short shorts, tank top thats etc thats what normal girls do when they walk around or bum around. she's only 18 so she dress flirty. hell i couldn't even see her in a towel!
starting to have a huge crush on her (link)
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Seems to me like shes trying to get your attention and to make you look at her in a sexual way, if you feel attraction to her thats fine, her reason for doing so could be because shes attracted to you. If thats the case theres nothing wrong with getting together as long as you don't have kids, due to the heightened risk of disabilities. Have fun!
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so im a 13 year old girl and i act a little horny when i see sexual stuff. is it normal for 13 year olds to watch porn and i want sex with a guy but protected sex. can i do anything sexual by myself to give a sex feeling to myself i know for guys they can maturbate help! (link)
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All normal, and yes you can rub your clit, play with your nipples, and finger yourself to help simulate sex without having it and give yourself relief. Have fun!
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We're 14, dating for over 2 years, madly in love, fairly open about our love to. At least for someone in this situation.
I find it sad that us being related makes people sick that we love eachother, I guess I just came here to seek some approval
We cuddle, kiss, go out to dates, everything a regular couple does.
The part no one except my best friend and our other sister really knows about is that yes we have had sex before. A quite a few times. I'd imagine that'll be a turn off point for most people reading this.
We cuddle, kiss, go out to dates, everything a regular couple does.
The part no one except my best friend and our other sister really knows about is that yes we have had sex before. A quite a few times. I'd imagine that'll be a turn off point for most people reading this. (link)
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I honestly see nothing wrong with incest. You are both happy with each other, nothing wrong with that. As long as you are safe, feel free to have sex as much as you want, as the only problem with incest is that any children you produce are at higher risk for disabilities and other problems. So have fun, but I would not recommend having children together. Hope you two have a nice life together.
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