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Just found out my Sister is a Prostitute?
Me and my Sister both live together, She's 20 and I'm 20. Yesterday she was out and I went on her laptop to check a few emails, And her email was still logged in, And a few subject lines caught my eye, When clicking on the email. And reading through emails, I discovered she's selling herself for money, Not only that she's doing Skype shows, And selling Videos of herself and pictures to other people. On Adult chat sites, Craigslist etc.
She has a job, Works 9-5, She's not on a low wage, But not high either. It kinda makes sense now when I found out,She has a new car, Buying new things, And having a whole lot more money in her purse.
I don't understand why she would do this? Is she lonely? She's never had a boyfriend, And always had self confidence issues,
I just can't get my head around it, I found in her room after snooping, (Wrong I know) Like a client list, around £3k stuffed in her knicker draw. Sex toys, Condoms, Lube, All sorts of crazy things.
After also reading, It sounds like she's enjoying herself. I know she's 20 an adult, But she's my sister, And I don't want her selling herself.
How should I confront her? And why do you think she is doing this? What makes someone have sex in exchange for money?
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Well, it can certainly be a boost to a gals confidence, especially if low. I know of a couple who split up but remained friends and the wife felt he didn't meet what she needed sexually, after years of marriage, still felt she wasn't pretty and desirable as a woman and yet she had a high sex drive. She got into a chat room where the guy after a while tried to talk her into camming and stripping for her, it wasn't a sex site. It disturbed her, as she thought initially as you believe, that it is wrong. Her ex, told her he thought she should go with it, its safe, just dont give out info where shes at, she could gain some self confidence and enjoy herself because the guy was visually attractive. When she got into it, eventually the guy stopping contacting her on line and she really missed it as she told the ex. He suggested she try some of the on line sex sites. She did and got really good at it. there are men looking for women of all types, some want the young things, others attracted to the mature mother types, some to way older women, and some actually like big women, big boned or chubby or overweight. And so this gal I know of, began making tons of money in her forties. She lived way out in the hicks and didn't want to move as she loved where she lived but there weren't eligbible nice men around at all in her area so she got her satisfaction and earned money for it too. I know an older past neighbor, a woman in late sixties who walked over to visit as i was trying to suntan topless when she came across me. That started convo about how shes comfortable with nudity and still actually quite sexually wanting, just not finding any local guys her age bracket as a friends with benefits thing. So she told me she turned to the internet doing the camming for free in order to try to find a couple of guys. Eventually she did meet a couple good guys who became steady friends with benefit partners for her but it took about 2 yrs to find them.
If older women can do this for their own reason, there's no reason a young one can't.
Its a way to get some sexual gratification, gain self confidence, pad the bank account, and be unable to get pregnant or catch a STD. It is actually an ideal way for some women to live if they're cut out for it. I am too social a person and want the in person physical interaction, to know I could be happy in lets say your sisters position. Some do it especially just for the money, a way to earn a living and have boyfriends or husbands okay with it cus its not cheating to them. they know she does it, that its only an on screen thing with these guys and she never will meet them in person, may not even be attracted to them if doing it for the money. Some put on a persona in this case, and began a character like in a play or movie. In fact many actors/actresses are nothing at all in real life what you see shown on stage. The acting or stage presence, is like a set of clothes they put on, its just an act. As long as sister is not endangering herself in any way, its actually a really different but still respectable enough way of earning money.
There is no reason to try to convince her to change her mind. there are many lonely men, crippled, divorced, widowers, who still need a sexual outlet and masturbating to a photo doesnt cut it for them. Its still mainly all in their mind, the orgasms that they achieve but their thoughts are stimulated by some of the senses stimulated, two---sight and sound. What they hear from the girl and see is enjoy to bring them pleasure and men are willing to pay for it. Some look for it free by asking a girl to be his girlfriend when he really isn't interested in her or a relationship. If a man who wanted free sex somehow convinced you he cared about you and in the end you come to realize, he just wanted free sex, would you feel like a prostitute just because he was using you like one, not because you went for him with that intent?
When we think of the service industry, we tend to think of dry cleaners, carpet cleaners, cable installers, computer repairs, tailor, tax accountant...etc...the list is great. All these people earn money, earn a living by fulfilling a need, giving service with something they were either trained to do, love to do, or something that they have a natural talent for. So why is it when it comes to sex that we think getting money for having sex makes it dirty while not getting paid for it is okay and normal.
Then theres the issue of how many different men involved. Do you shop strictly at one grocery, or do you visit many stores, following the sales or going for particular items one carries but the other doesnt? You aren't loyal to just one store.
In the same way, sexually, some people are not gong to be loyal to just one. In real life, no camming, theres monogamous and polyamorous. Poly is valid too. I've seen it work and also not work for some people I've known. It isn;t the most popular way of life, not many doing it but just because the majority are monogamous doesn't make the poly people wrong, dirty, or evil for having relationships with more than one with all knowing and approving.
You might try to remain open minded about her choice here. If she is meeting up with any guys in person, it then becomes a real safety issue, especially if using a site like craigslist for meeting in person. But still its her choice. You might want to let her know she left her last email up when you went to use the computer after she left and saw the email and now realize what she's been doing and likely how she 's gotten the extra money for new car and all. Let her know you're not condemning her (if you can come to that point) and just want to hear from her what its like for her, why she does it, and you want to make sure she isn't doing anything to endanger her or you for that matter. She shouldn't let any guys have any info on her that they could trace or pay someone to trace so they can show up uninvited and unnannounced on your doorstep, maybe even at a time you are there alone and she isn't. So you do have a right to know what precautions shes taking if any. If she is going about it haphazardly, and putting herself in dangerous postions, as her roommate, she may be opening you to dangerous possibilities too. As her roommate, you have a right to know what your'e up against. As her sister, you love her and have concern for her well being, so if its something that can physically harm her or endanger her, then as a family member, you should be saying something about your concerns. She is an adult however and does not have to listen to you, even if sound advice. She can make her own choices, even if bad ones, and no one can stop her from making them or change her mind and stop doing this. I hope this helps you to have a different out look on the situation.
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Well the short answer would be, some people just enjoy it, its exciting, its fun, it feels good, and to top it all off, it pays pretty good. Its not a big surprise shes moved into this line of work, I understand it can feel unpleasant if its your sister. But you should simply just come out and tell her you know and talk to her about it, see how she really feels. If she really is enjoying herself or theres some other reason, if she enjoys it then let her be, if its another issue then help her out. Hope all is well.
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