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my sexuallity
I don't know what I am.ever since I was young I knew what sex was and I always wanted to have it. I wanted to do it with boys and girls and I find them both attractive I watched porn at 10 and started masterbating at 12. If I see a boys or girls butt it turns me on and I want to experience sex with them both but im 13. I need help im scared of the shame plus im young and my hormones are raging.
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First chill out I think other people do what you do too, and secondly I think they're might be something trying to control you and make you think this is all right so just pray to take these negative things from your life and take a deep breath
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Relax your normal. If you were gay you would have none this long before puberty started. What you are experiencing is normal for young people in the early stages of puberty.
Wanting to experience sex with someone of your same sex is not being gay. It is being safe. Sex or experimenting sexually with the same sex is safe and less embarrassing than with the opposite sex. It is a way to learn about sex between two people. For the most part boys will give each other hand jobs. Some may even go as far to give each other blow jobs but that's the limit. I'm not sure exactly what girls do but it is similar.
Once you are comfortable sexually with your own sex you are ready to move on to experimenting with the opposite sex. It usually starts with make out session and moves on from their. Eventually you get comfortable enough to have intercourse with the opposite sex
Having the feelings you have now does not mean your gay or even bi. It means you are experimenting and learning about your sexuality.
Your raging hormones are normal and by masturbating you are doing what is normal to cool them down. Don't be so hard on yourself for being a normal 13 year old just enjoy being 13. Don't put any labels on yourself or let anyone put them on you.
You need time and you need to experiment with your sexuality to know who you are sexually. Gay you're not. Could you be bi, time will tell and if you are it is no big deal, it is who you are. Just relax and enjoy life.
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have you tried being just friends with girls yet? and seeing how you like it?
im not trying to steer you one way or another here im just curious if your just still confused thats all.
the best thing you can do is try to make sure that this is how you feel (even if youve felt it since you were young) that it is as real for you as it can be. Not to say that your feelings now arent valid, but you may try going on a website where there are other bisexual people and talking with them about it more. Sometimes you can really get the support you need as well, so its helpful on many levels.
good luck.
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Well you sound pretty bisexual to me, no shame in that. I see it as something very common these days and consider those who are bisexual very lucky. You have more people to pick from liking both sexes, you can enjoy having sex with both, getting to fully experience and enjoy your sexuality. How young you are doesn't matter very much either, met plenty of people your age who already know if their straight, gay, or bi, those hormones kick in and you know what you're attracted to, just embrace it and enjoy your life. Good luck.
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