i have got these small red sort of thing on my hand
they don't itch
and are very small like a ant has bit me or something
they are a couple of them on both my hands
could it be an std?
because of oral sex?
Hey,
These are not common symptoms of an std, so my assumption would be that that is not the case. Are you experiencing any other more common symptoms, such as sores or pain on your sexual organs or around your mouth? If so, then you may want to consult with a doctor, and even if not, you still may want to see a doctor, or use some sort of medicated ointment or lotion, because it sounds as if you have been bitten or you are having an allergic reation to something you use on your skin.
Hope I helped =)
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Hi! I'm 18/f & my boyfriend is 18/m; We have been together for a year, but it feels like so much longer. I'm in college, studying to be a NeoNatal Nurse; My boyfriend's mom left him homeless as soon as he turned 18, therefore he has been living with my parents and I since August.
Riley & I have both agreed that we shouldn't get married until I am done with college and have a stable job. I know we haven't been together long, but since we have been faced with a lot of adult problems, it seems like we work together well, and we have been together for years. I wouldn't mind if he proposed to me, because getting engaged doesn't mean you have to get married immediately. Right? My dad told him when he moved in, that he has 6 months to save up money from his job, and get his own place. So he moves out on Feb. 14th. He is really wanting me to move in with him; and I would, but the economy is so bad, I'd rather stay with my parents, because its free, and focuse on school and not have to worry about a job right now since I'm dealing with the toughest classes of the career at this moment.
But, what I'm trying to get at is, Riley says he doesn't want to get engaged until 3 or 4 more years, but he says that he knows I'm the one he will be with for the rest of his life. But why wait that long, if he supposively knows I the one for him? I'm not rushing him at all. I respect his decision; I'd rather him do it when he feels it right, instead of rushing, and regretting.
Hey,
Engagement can be a big mental move for guys, even when they're madly in love. You and Riley sound as if you two have a nice thing going. Maybe the two of you can come to a consensus as far as a good engagement season. Emphasize to him that engagement does not mean marriage is in the immediate future. Maybe you two can agree on a good engagement time that works for both of you. Being that he wants you to move in with him, he's more than likely sincerely dedicated to you. I think you're making the right move by taking you alls financial status quo into consideration. It can all be worked out and understood with a good heart to heart.
Hope I helped =)
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Sarah, female, 23 yrs old
There is a friend that I have known for two years. We started working together and became fast friends. He is a really silly guy and always cracked jokes to make our time at work fun. The thing is, eventually, he started cracking jokes about us being a real couple one day. I didn't take it seriously and just brushed it off. Surprisingly, these jokes didn't stop. He kept this going on for almost an entire year. After people began to ask questions about the nature of our relationship, I started to wonder if he was really being serious. I wasn't too worried about it and figured even if he did like me, he would never have the guts to actually tell me. To my surprise, almost a year after wondering if he really liked me, he asked me out. We were standing outside after work when he asked me. I so shocked and caught off guard that I just looked at him and said, "Well... you're a really good friend". He seemed sad after I said this and looked down at the floor. It was unexpected and I wasn't sure what to say, I just said whatever came to my mind. It's not that I don't like him but I realized early on that he was not the usual type I go for. Even though I love funny guys, I've never gone out with someone as silly as him. I have flirted with him in the past just for fun and he with me, but I never thought it would turn into something complicated. But after that incident I started thinking about what happened and questioned if I should actually give him a chance. He is a funny, sweet, caring, charismatic person and I enjoy spending time with him. He is NOT the typical guy go I for but dating only my type hasn't exactly been a positive experience for me. I've been wondering lately if I should give him a chance and just throw the type thing out of the window. I do like him and care alot about him and do see many qualities that I want in a boyfriend in him. But I worry about crossing that line and destroying my friendship with him by pursuing a relationship with him that might fail. I don't want to lose a good friend but at the same time, I'm scared that if I don't give him a chance I might miss out on a great guy. What should I do? Should I pursue something with him or not even take a chance? Please help!
Hey,
Sarah, I think you've answered your own question in the midst of asking it. You've said more and more positive things about this guy, and you seem to really have a thing for him secretly. A plus would be the fact that he has been a friend for a while, so you know him pretty well already. Now sure, pursuing something as more than friends is taking a chance, but who says it has to ruin you twos relationship? Don't rush it. Take it slow, but give it a chance. Seems as if the two of you are smitten with one another. Also, as far as "your type" goes, there's absolutely nothing wrong with stepping out of your comfort zone, and if you haven't gotten good results in your comfort zone before, it sounds like stepping out of it would be the best thing for you to do. I say go for this. Take things slow, but definitely go for it. I'm excited with what may come about in this match up. If you decide to go for it, please try to let me know how thngs go!
Hope I helped =)
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if your x boyfriend kisses you months after we break p and says he wants you back what should i say?
Hey,
This all depends on how you're feeling and the circumstances of the decision. Does he deserve to have you back? Did he hurt you? Have you two hurt one another? Do you think this would be a healthy step to take? What would be the pros? What would be the cons? Why did the two of you break up in the first place? Do you think he's sincere? After you two get back together, what will be different, better, worse?....
These are all very important questions to take into consideration before back-tracking. Be careful, because you don't want to make a move you'll regret.
Hope I helped =)
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Hey Im 16 and a senior in highschool. I met this guy in an interschool competition. He's the same age but is a senior in some other school. We started talking after the competition and became good friends. We have gone out on three dates till now. And yeah, we have kissed each other and made out a little. We cannot resist each other at all. But the problem is that even though he says he is falling for me, he keeps telling me he cannot date me cause he's a bad guy and he cares for me too too much to hurt me. He says he is not one of those dateable guys who will love their girl completely and he might find a new girl and dump me.That would hurt me and he doesnt want to do that! He also liked this girl a year back and he says he feels guilty that he got over her and fell for me! But when we meet we actually act like we are dating, cause he gets me stuff, he tells me he loves me, we hold hands. I dont know what to do. Because I really want to be with him. But cant figure out how to make him ask me out? and if he is really a bad guy? HELP.
Hey,(This is a bit lengthy)
I know it's a great feeling when you meet someone that you really like, but your situation does have a downfall :-/. You and this guy are already more than friends, but he doesn't plan on you alls relationship going any farther than where it's at right now. With him, you can really respect and appreciate his honesty, because he makes it clear that if you two were in something more serious, he would probably not be deicated to you only, and what girl wants that? Most guys are not truthful about that, so I wouldn't say he's a bad guy, he's just not ready for a commitment. That being said, you need to beware! As ladies, we tend to fall harder emotionally, even when we know it's not what's best for us. You probably don't want to continue falling for him if you know he's not going to let himself fall for you. I'd advise you to cut off the physical actions between you two, and make sure that you understand that you two are just friends. If he wants more out of you alls relationship, he'll make some changes.
Hope I helped =)
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I was just curious whether colleges care that you do sports/clubs or anything like that (I'm in three clubs and community service). I play a little lacrosse, and I've done some cross country, but I was no good at long-distance running. I could probably get away with playing basketball just because I'm taller than everyone else. The problem is I think I missed tryouts...HELP!
Hey,
When it comes to college, any sports or extra-curricular activities matter, so just go for it! Depending on which schools you look at, they may be in need of athletes. My roommate received a softball scholarship from my school, and they had never even seen her play before, so all of your activities can help you out in the long hall. Nothing is too big or too small to make you look good as a well-rounded individual. Promote any sport you feel you can play and any group or club you feel you'd make a good asset to.
Hope I Helped =)
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Ok so im a 18 male and in college. Im so sick of people always thinking im a weirdo or mean or something. I try to be the nicest person ever and when ever i try to talk to people (girls mostly) they wont talk to me and if they do they talk once then ill go to talk again the next time and they blow me off and dont answer. Last night people were saying they need help in a class *a girl* and this one guy says ill help you and she didnt say anything then i said the same and her friend was like hell no..like why do i come off as such a creep. all the asshole guys get all these girls and nice guys like me get screwed over all the time im so sick of it. people always look at me as a weirdo when i try to be nice and help people? what the hell. it seriously gets annoying...help
Hey,
I want you to relax. First off, know that there's nothing wrong with you. At 18, most people are either still trying to find themselves or settling into a young adult mentality that they are content with for the time. My suggestion to you would be to re-evaluate who you're involving yourself with. Just like you feel like people are always out-casting you, I'm sure there are young ladies whom you're overlooking that feel the EXACT same way you do. Try to connect moreso with them, or those who may be more mature. The whole "outcast" attitude is very elementary, and there are other girls and guys on a much higher level.
Hope I helped =)
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okay so our school will be celebrating teachers day on the 17th because of the ongoing exams
as it is going to be my last teachers day in school
i want to give something to each of the teachers who have taught me for atleast two years now
i have a maths sir who teaches me and the rest five subjects are taught by women
any sugestions???? i need help.
i don't have a very huge budget. but i can splurge a lil'.
Hey,
A common gift for teachers that is affordable and for both males and females would be fancy breath mints. In most cases, chocolate mints or the york peppermint patties in decorative cases (or wrappers) go great. However, keep in mind, these are popular, so your gift may not be unique if that's what you were going for. Cards of appreciation are always nice, especially when you add a personal inscription on the inside. Gift cards are a wonderful idea, but you would definitely be splurging! What about encouraging refridgerator magnets? It's a nice, inexpensive thought that does count! These are just a few ideas, most of which I've gone with before.
Hope I helped =)
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i know this sounds REALLY weird, in a way that even I dont quite understand about myself. and it makes no sense. when people insult me, somehow, i feel better. and when i like, have cramps (btw they HHHHUUURRRRRTTTTTT and ive had 2 stay home from school it was that bad) but i always refuse to take medication (asprin) for it. for some odd reason, it makes me feel better about myself. beacause i have the courage and perserveirence to go thru the pain instead of taking the easy way out and giving in. it makes me feel confident. and i dont understand it. and when people complement me i absoultally HAATTTEEE it EEESSPPPEEAAACCCCIIIAALLLLYYYY when its about my apperance. i seriousally have cried for hours because my freind called me "beautiful" and i just dont understand it.
Hey,
Sounds to me like you love a challenge, and that's an okay attitude to have. You just have to set limits so you don't impose real harm on yourself. For instance, if you're in some fierce pain, like bad toothache pain, it's okay to use some Oragel. Challenges can be fun, but they can be dangerous if we take them too far. Don't feel as if you have to prove anything to anybody! You are strong, courageous, and smart; smart enough to know where to draw lines. Also, compliments are in no way to be taken negatively. When people acknowledge the fact that you are gorgeous, talented, or simply amazing, accept it with a smile. Know your self-worth, and know that they're telling the truth. Let the truth motivate you to be the best you that you can be. Never let something great be something dreadful. If you continue to feel these bad feelings when complimented, consider talking to a counselor to see if he or she can help you better understand your feelings.
Hope I helped =)
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female, 17. okay, SO, its summer. I was talking to 3 guys, nothing big, just summer flirting, ive hung out with 2 a lot and the third one not so much, im not really interested in that one. the guy i was talking to first is really nice and he asked me to be his prom date, 2 months later he asked me out and i said yes. this weekend he went on a cruise and the 2nd guy i was interested in asked me to go out and just hang out with him, i said yes and took 2 friends with me, i didnt think it was anything serious. we ended up going to the movies and he paid for me and everything, he texted me today and said he wants to be more than friends. heres the thing, i dont really want to because last summer we had a summer-fling going on and then he suddendly stopped talking to me and started going out with another girl, so i dont know what to tell him, he doesnt know i have a boyfriend nor do i want him to know at this time. thanks in advance(:
Hey,
it doesn't sound as if you really want to be tied down to anybody right now, and that's fine. You should make sure your current boyfriend knows that you still hang out with other guys; this way, he won't get too serious about the relationship and think that it's something more than what it is right now. As far as the other guy, the one who wants to be more than friends, you should keep a healthy friendship between the two of you, and leave it at that. You don't want to start liking him even more, leave a good guy for him, and then open up the chance for him to drop out on you a SECOND time. You don't have to tell him that you have a boyfriend, but you should tell him you're more comfortable being the way you are with him right now.
Hope I helped =)
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Okay so there is this real close friend of mine.We are classmates. And we had this sleepover, a couple of us, guys and girls. I just broke up two months back with my bf who cheated..so i am still getting over it...And my friend broke up a few days ago. We ended up chatting throughout the night, and i dont know what happened but we ended up kissing each other too..it was not our intention of doing ANYTHING like that. we pretty much have feelings for our ex's and not each other. i dont know why and how it happened.
we have promised not to tell this to anyone. and that this incident will stay a secret between the two of us forever. but i feel weird about it, i feel disgusted for doing such a stupid thing now. do you think things will change because of this? i am scared he would tell someone which i really dont want.HELP. how should i handle this?
Hey,
I want you to relax. You say this guy is a friend of yours and that you two are in similar situations as far as your ex-relationships go, so more than likely, he'll understand. From what you've told me, I don't see why he would run around telling people. The best thing you could do would be to see where his head is. Make sure he's on the same page as you. Find out what he thinks of the incident. Then, tell him how you're feeling. Tell him you're probably vulnerable right now because of your recent break-up and that you don't want what happened between you two to harm you all's friendship. Also, tell him you don't want him to think you're ready to be anything more than friends. Don't feel disgusted with yourself. Like I said, you're probably just feeling vulnerable right now, but it will pass. Just be careful not to sink into your own vulnerability and disappoint yourself. I doubt your friend is going to tell anyone. Keep me updated.
Hope I helped =)
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okay so I have been dating this guy for the past three months and I recently found out he was cheating on me! He told the girl he made out with that he was single and that I was just his friend! I found this out cause i incidentally talked to the girl.I really got angry when I found out he had been lying to me all this while and I immediately broke up with him. when i confronted him about the whole thing he had to accept it but then for the first five hours after confrontation he was all like "i cant believe i could lie so well.." but after that he said sorry and kept on texting and calling me up! he wanted me back and told me he was very sorry and all and he actually spoke to some of his friends (who i know too) about the whole thing and how he really feels sorry about everything. he told some of our mutual friends to call me up too ..should i trust him again and go back to him or not????
Hey,
if I were you, I'd take into consideration here that three months isn't really that long of a time to have been with someone and already have cheating issues. Not saying that I condone cheating, but I do feel people make mistakes, but they often make them much later in the relationship. I'm scared to tell you to trust him and take him back, because if he's slipping up this early, he may not be ready for commitment yet. Give it some time. Stay friends for a while, and see where his head is really at. After a few weeks, maybe even a couple months, it'll likely be an easier decision for you.
Hope I Helped =)
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After chasing me for 12 months I finally allowed my new friend to come over. He's visited twice and being spontaneous Aquarians, both times we've had sex. How do I move the relationship away from my apartment as I've already told him I'm not interested in a booty call relationship?
Hey,
if this guy has chased you for 12 months, the chances are very strong that his attraction to you might be much stronger than just physical, but you'll never know unless you make him show you. You have to make it clear to him that you're not just out for the booty call, and if he really does want to be with you, it has to be more than just sex. In other words, you have to initiate the "no sex for a while" role, and see how he reacts to it.
Hope I helped =)
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
Sorry if this is too long!
Hey,
(This is a tad bit long)....Sounds to me like your boyfriend is completely in the wrong in this situation, for a couple of reasons: He didn't consult with you before he made this private page, he has you alls private relationship info exposed, and he denies it! This tells me that he's being really inconsiderate of your feelings, and because he continues to lie about it, he shows a lack of respect to you and you alls relationship. You shouldn't continue to be in this relationship at this cost, it's unhealthy for you. Give your boyfriend one more opportunity to be honest with you. If he does, or even if he doesn't confess, tell him you've known all along, and that you've seen the page for yourself. A relationship without trust and respect isn't one you want to be in for the long run girly :-( Stress to your boyfriend how much you don't appreciate his actions and tell him if you're going to have to worry about things like this then maybe you guys shouldn't be together. If he really cares, he'll hear you out, apologize, delete/edit the page, and make other changes. If not, he probably doesn't have your best interest at heart, mooooove on chicka!
Hope I helped =)
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I mastuerbated to internet porn and i feel ashamed like i have cheated on my girlfreind. would you consider this as cheating on her i love her soooo much! please help
Hey,
I wouldn't call this cheating. You weren't physically with anyone else. There are even certain couples that use pornography to enhance their own sexual experiences. You obviously love her very much. You can talk to her about it to see how she feels. She should understand.
Hope I helped =)
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ok so i have been waering tampons for a while now im not looking for a how to insert a tamptin answer
well im on my period. and i went to the toilet earlier. and i tensed my abs when i went as like i felt like a bit constaped kinda thing.... and lumps of blood came out which is normal in some of my periods.
although this massive bit came out like the size of a tampon.
and i did have a tampon is so i was assuming it was that.
it did not hurt, at all. all i did was tense. to be honest i had totally forgot the thing was in there at the time. and it popped out and went dowmn the toilet.
im just intrigued. im a gymnast/cheerleader and i workout alot. could that kind of thing happen to just anyone or just someone that has the muscles to do so? like tense a tampon out of my vagina. because thats all i did.. tense.. i didnt pull the string or anything.. and when i looked just to double check... there was no pull string. so it must have been the tampon.
Hey,
this happening is pretty normal. In most cases, this means that the tampon has pretty much been completely soaked and it's now slippery, so it's much more likely to just slip out suddenly. I would suggest changing tampons a little bit more frequently, especially during the heavier flow days. Just like a sponge, a tampon can only absorb so much. Once it's full, blood runs right pass it as if it's not even there, and you don't want that.
Hope I helped =)
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I'm looking for a really thin, yet very absorbent pad. Any suggestions?
Hey,
Always, specifically thin. Works like a charm.
Hope I helped =)
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Ok so my boyfriend is coming to visit me around september 13th. I just got my period yesterday (August 31). Usually my period lasts 4-6 days... I usually have a pretty regular period, should I receive my next period around the end of next month? Or will I receive it more around the first week of September? I don't want to have it when I see him, it's the last time I'll see him before he leaves. Also, I have yet to take my birth control. I'm wondering if i started it the last week of August if it would delay my period for more than 3 weeks.. any ideas ladies?
Hey,
all cycles are different, and in some cases, hard to predict or keep track of. You said your periods are pretty regular, and that's good. I say go off of how far apart your cycles run normally. More than likely, it will have passed by the time he comes to visit you. It msy come around the first week of September, but you should be well off before the 13th. As far as your birth control, that's a little complicated, depends on what form of it you're using (pills, shots, patches....etc...) Hope I helped =)
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What do i do my boyfriend an di have dated for 2 months and we are intimit(not sex) but intimit. He makes my feel good but i dont know what to do to make him feel good i keep thinking im doing something wrong. what should i do ??
Hey,
talk to your boyfriend about it. Ask him about what he likes and what makes him feel "good". Tell him you want complete honesty so that if you're doing something wrong, you can fix it. You guys can "practice", or anything. Just talk to him about it. Hope I helped =)
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating for quite a while now, and we are really uite fond of each other :) He is just so amazing.
The only thing is, we are leaving for college soon, and will be hundreds of miles apart. I want to plan one last, special date night for him and I.
I just want some ideas of fun places to go, somethings to do on our last day together. I was thinking maybe going some places we have gone before to prom or something, to revisit. Also, I should let you know, we are not sexually intimate, so please don't include things of that nature in your plan ideas :D
Thanks!
Hey,
in your situation, I'd definitely say the most important thing to keep in mind is quality time. Not for intimacy purposes, just pure romance. Go places where the two of you can focus on each other. Do you guys share a hobby? For instance, if you both liked basketball, you could go play basketball together, but not at a public court, maybe on a friends' court, so it'll be just the two of you..... and that's during the day. As far as how to end the day, maybe watch a movie at one of your houses, or take a walk on the beach. Do something sweet, romantic, loving, and memorable. Just find somewhere you guys can go and just love the life out of each other. Laugh, talk, cry, cuddle...the cute stuff. Make it special. Hope I helped =)
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