Hey ya'll, I'm Evie, and I promise to give advice to every problem no matter how complicated. I'm blunt with answers to problems, so I'll always be truthful and give my honest advice. I know what it feels like when you think no one wants to listen to your problems, but I'm here to listen, and to help you with them the best that I can.
I've been through a lot..And not just with issues with guys, a lot of family problems too. So I can relate to a lot.
I'm 14 and from Wisconsin. I love figure skating (life long sport),running,softball, swimming, animals, being near the ocean, going on vacations, going to movies, hanging out with friends,harry potter,guys, reading, writing, and just plain old having fun! =)
E-mail: l0stinadream017@yahoo.com
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I just started school, and I'm a sophmore. Last year I had a boyfriend all year and I was with him every day during lunch and when we changed classes. Now we're broken up and I feel so out of place. I mean I still have my friends and stuff...just bieng with them makes me feel so out of place and I don't know how to act. I know I should just be myself...but I don't know. I feel so uncomfortable, what should I do? (link)
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I know EXACTLY how you feel, I went out with a guy for a year, and we were always by each other in lunch and when we changed classes, during free time and everything...Then during the summer we broke up and it's like...Like you can't imagine life without them right? Like it's so weird to be sitting with your friends instead of your boyfriend.
What you have to try and do, is just forget and live on. You're not used to hanging out with just friends which is perfectly normal, but try it, laugh again with them and just be yourself, try and remember how you were BEFORE you guys started going out.
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hey, i asked a question before about the whole tutor thing and not being sure about what people would say... i have another thing that brings me down. i just went to freshman orientation and everyone was looking at eachothers schedules and i learned that all of my friends are in honors classes and i'm the only one in CP classes. and i'm not exaggerating when i say all of my friends i do mean ALL of my friends. this might sound really consited and selfish but I'M the one that has the higher goals in life and I'M the one that wants to have a great future and they mostly just throw their lives away focusing on boys and partying. the majority of them just want to become like a hair dresser or something like that and i'm the only one that wants to do something great and that's goint to help people I'M the one that wants to be a doctor. why can't I have the good grades??? i'm the one that needs it! i want to be a doctor while all my other friends hardly even want to plan their future! i find this totaly unfair! i feel so stupid sometimes and i just want to sit and cry. what can i do to make myself feel better about all of this!?PLEASE help i rate high! (link)
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I know how you feel, I've always wanted to be a journalist or a marine biologist, but all of my other friends don't have any goals for the future, but still get into good classes. Work harder, study more. If you truly want something you can achieve it. Sooner or later all their partying is going to catch up with them. If you need help in a subject, don't be afraid to ask. Or, look into getting a tutor. You're probably smart, but maybe you just procrastinate and start daydreaming. Try and get more sleep, and DON'T procrastinate, whenever you start thinking "i'll just skip one math problem" or "ill do this later" think of how much you want to be a doctor, and how much you want a great future.
Hope I helped =)
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Ok here's the deal. My friend lives down the street from me and me and my other friend are planning on going to his house to get wasted/drunk in a couple days. However, how am I supposed to get into my house at 930 at night w/ out getting caught drunk by my parents? How do I pretend to be sober? OR, how do I get sobered up enough to walk home and go inside my house (with my friend who is sleeping over) without getting my parents suspicious? I'm going to be walking back to my house drunk w/ my friend and most likely have my parents spaz out when I get home. What do I do? And please..don't give me shit about being too young or whatever..I know the whole deal. (link)
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Seriously, once you're drunk hun, you're drunk. When you're drunk you can't control what you do so you won't remember to try and be sober, and if you know anything about alcohol you'll know you can't just get drunk and become sober 2 minutes afterwards.
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My brother (he's 20) has been dating this girl (she's 22) for about 2 years on and off. The only reason they got together was because my brother found out he was the father of their now 3-year-old. They can never seem to stay together for more than 3 months at a time. But each and every single time they break up, they end up getting back together. They are together now and I found out today that he's going to ask her to marry him. The problem is this girl has caused nothing but problems for me & my family. I have an aunt who won’t even come to family gatherings if my brother's girlfriend will be there. She likes to cause problems and not a whole lot of people in my family even remotely like her. She's also had my brother thrown in jail for no reason at all when they were separated. How he can take her back after that is beyond me. I don't think she's good for him at all. I know he can do a lot better than her. I just don't know what to do. I don't want to see him marry this girl but I also want him to do what he thinks will make him happy. What do you guys think I should do? Sorry this was so long... (link)
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Unfortunately, I don't think there's much you can do, it's your brother's life, not yours. When two people have a baby together it changes A LOT of things, no matter how much they hate each other they have a bond because of that child.
Perhaps your brother is also marrying her for the child's sake, so the child grows up with a mom and dad, and you said about how "she never lets him see her" He might want to be sure he sees his child. Sometimes...it's hard to understand, but the people you break up with again and again are the people you can't see yourself without, as much as you fight you love each other
I wish I could think of something you could do...It does sound like your brother could do better, but unfortunatley it's his life, not yours. Try talking to him about how most of the family doesn't like his g/f and ask him if he can do anything about that like see if she can get help or something...
Hope I helped..
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If your a freshman in High School.. what is the homework load for someone in ALL honors courses? (link)
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For ALL honors classes? Ouch...Of course it depends on your h.s, but I know a lot of people who took all honors courses and later wished they hadn't...
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Ok, I'm sorry, I really don't need advice but...
Is it just me, or is every1 else sick of these kids in their early teens talking about having sex?
It is fully YOUR decision about whether or not u are ready 4 sex but if u r having any doubts about it that u prolly aren't ready. Even better, u should prolly wait until ur older (or even married) cuz then u know that u truely love the person cuz u shouldn't b doing anything that u might regret.
Ok... I think that about does it w/ my tyraid... (link)
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I agree...I'm 14, and I was going to have sex, but I kept having doubts and then I realized "wtf? If I'm having doubts I'm obviously not ready"
Personally I don't think anyone that young, anyone in their early teens with raging hormones, no matter how mature can be mature enough to make a decision like that, I mean REALLY, what if the condom breaks, your 14, and your stuck with a baby? Even if you get an abortion, at such a young age they can be REALLY dangerous.
I'm sick of all these teens where their only concern is sex, is that all that matters in this country anymore?
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Well you see me and my boyfriend have been going out for a little over a month now and we weren't aloud to kiss. I finally found out I was aloud to kiss and I told him. He keeps talking about making-out next time I see him but I don't want to rush into things. I have a feeling its because his brother keeps telling him to kiss me and things like that and he wants to be like his brother and make-out with his girlfriend all the time. I don't know what to do, please write, I'll rate!
-Nerveous (link)
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Try talking with him (hard I know) and telling him that you want to take things slow. If he really loves you for who you are, he'll agree, of course...he's a guy and we won't wait forever (rolls eyes) But I see no reason why he shouldn't wait, me and my boyfriend didn't make out for 4 months after going out.
If he's still persistent, and you don't feel comfortable, than he's not worth it, find a guy who'll wait and is worth your time.
But remember, making out doesn't nessisarily lead to bad things like sex and stuff, as long as it's just kissing, it can be alright, but if you don't feel comfortable thats perfectly ok =)
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i'm 14 right now...but my dad keeps bringing up college. i don't think i want to go...i want to be in a band. My dad's gonna make me, i think. i know i've got about 4 years...but what do i do?
i thought about running away with my friends after graduation...is that wrong? (link)
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Yeah, that IS wrong. Can you blame your dad? He just wants you to have a secure future, going into music is a risky business. Theres no promise. You could easily go nowhere in a band and then you're stuck without money, a house, or an education.
After high school you could take a year off and try the music business, and if after a year its working, stay with it, if it's not...go to college.
College isn't all studying and no fun you know, there's a lot of freedom and there are SO many music based careers you could go into, you could also start a band in college, college isn't all work. There's a lot of fun and partying too, I know plenty of people who have started bands in college.
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I have been going to the same Christian school all my life. Now Im entering high school and I have the choice to go to the public highschool near my house. Im worried about not making friends or getting into trouble in the public school. Its my choice but I cant decide. Which on should I go to and why? Please help! I know its a stupid question but please .. Thanks!
xO mE (link)
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I would say, go to the public school, it's a new adventure, and you WILL make friends, everyone in high school has AT LEAST one friend, and as long as your a good kid you won't get in trouble
I also think you should go to a public high school because when college rolls around, then its going to be a REALLY big shock going from a small christian school to a large college.
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hey..
What kinds of clothes and accessories do you suggest getting for back to school things? I am entering high school this year and I want to know what you all think! Also..it would be nice if you had any tips for fashion in high school or any tips on high school in general!? Thanks so much! (link)
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I'm also going into high school this year, and (check the dress code first) showing a little stomach is ok, but not a lot, I saw one girl say "the more he sees the better" That is NOT a good attitude, if you start dressing like that you'll get a bunch of new names for yourself, none of which you want.
I have some tips...don't try too hard to be "cool" and don't go into school on the first day looking/being overconfident. Stick by a group of people you know so you're not the target for "freshmeat" jokes.
For clothes...if you can afford it, don't shop at Wal-Mart, because I think they have bad quality, Old Navy is a cheap store with cute stuff, and Forever 21 and Rue 21 are GREAT stores, they're pretty inexpensive with nice stuff. If you like ordering off the internet alloy.com has a lot of cute things.
For accesories, I always go to Claires, Claires has really cute things and so does another store they own, Icing, but try and find some jewelry NOT from there because then everyone won't have it, because, at least around here, everyone goes to Claires. For shoes, have at least one pair of sneakers and one pair of heels/boots because wearing the same shoes all year will KILL your feet.
If you have any more questions or just want to talk, email me or IM me on aim =) mizzbr0wneyez17
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hey..im 13..5'4..and wiegh 140..is that fat? is that y guys dont like me?
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No, that's not fat, its about right, but if you THINK you're fat, talk to your doctor or your parents.
Do all guys not like you? Guys are just stupid...Sometimes they don't like smart girls because they're afraid of a girl being smarter than them. Guys don't ALWAYS just go for the skinny girls, I know plenty of overweight girls who have easily gotten boyfriends, and plenty of thin girls who haven't. Just try to have the best personality that you can, because in the end, that's what matters. Looks and beauty on the outside don't last forever! =)
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My mom is an alchoholic(or however you spell it) and she left my father a few years ago. She has been an alchoholic for as long as I cant remember and she has wrecked about 5 of our cars. She used to make me lie for her so my father wouldnt find out she had been drinking. I never told on my mother, because she convinced me that it was my father who was the problem. Whenever he found out about my mothers drinking, she would blame it on me and call me a bitch. I never blamed her, saying that it was the alchohol, and not her talking. She has been to jail twice, and also AA, which did nothing. After she left my father she took half of the money with her and ruined my chances for a good college.She still blamed my father. After that she got both a dog and a cat for me but was "keeping them for me" at her apartment. She lost both of them. She dated about 100 guys who she scraped up from the under belly of satan. (They were all the "one")she finally married one of the grungiest, who smelled of pot( she did drugs to.)then she skipped town after not showing up to court after a drug bust.We havent heard from her or her husband since. All of this almost killed me. She went from loving mother to a pot addict between jobs and under house arrest in a hotel. Its hard going day after day not knowing if your mother ids still alive, so please if anyone out there knows or knew a woman named Judy M. Flint ( maiden name Judith M. Daniel) please let me know? And if anyone has gone through something similar it would be great to talk to you. Thanks (link)
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I haven't heard about your mom =(, but, I can relate to you A LOT, when I first started reading this the first thing that popped into my head was my dad. My dad went to AA meetings for a LONG time, it did nothing, (he's also an alcoholic) he's been in rehab 11 times, and in jail 6 times...That I know of. My mom used to be an alcoholic, and finally quit for good right before I was born, my dad tried to stop for me, he could go years without drinking and would start again. My family hated him, my cousins,aunts, uncles, everyone practically except for me. When he wasn't drinking he was the most loving, hardworking person in the world. Sometimes I still feel like Im the only person who understood him. The saddest part is, I blame myself because of something I said to him when I was 8ish. and even when he was drunk, even when he would threaten my mom, he was NEVER mean to me, not once. It was like a part of his brain where I was wasn't messed up even when he was drunk. Eventually when he was drinking again, he was in jail for stealing and threatning my mom big time and then when he got out, (we didn't know about it) he tried to break into our house (and to this day I still get scared when anyone rings the doorbell) and was in jail AGAIN, then he had a hearing and we didn't know if he'd be let off or not, so we were practically "hiding" from him at my mom's friends house for awhile, and eventually the alcohol got to his brain, and they sent him to a mental institution, and I have no idea if he's alive or dead because if he did die, I doubt my mom would tell me, i have no idea how he's doing or anything. =( I know how you feel...If you ever want to talk you can email me, or my aol s/n is Mizzbr0wneyez17
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everytime i go to go and sleep.. i always have a hard time getting to bed because my mind wrestles all lifes stupid problems.. and its so bad.. b/c ill be up 1-2 hours just battling with my mind when i just want to be at peace and get some rest... ne tips on how to fall STRAIGHT to sleep? thx much appreciated (link)
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I have the same problems...Here are some things that could help.
1. Try to do some sort of activity that'll make you so tired (running or something...whatever you like) that you don't have time to think before falling asleep
2. Think about lifes stupid problems BEFORE bed, think as long as you can, so long, that you can't think anymore
3. This is a good one that works for me, keep a stereo/radio on and fall asleep (keep the volume low of course) to a favorite radio station or CD. Think about the song, and just the song, ignore lifes problems...dreaming is our only escape from reality, so just listen to the song
4. Before you go to bed, write down everything thats bothering you, it sometimes helps me because by having it down on paper, it's out of my head.
Hope those helped =) (rate me if you get the chance...)
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alriitee..i`m c0nfused ab0ut my boyfriend..he says he l0ves me, but i haven`t talked to him in a while...we`ve been q0inq 0ut f0r ab0ut a year n0w and he d0esn`t call me..hardly ever unless i tell him t0. we talk 0nline and stuFf and we`ve d0ne s0me stuff 2qether and its qreat..but i d0n`t kn0 if he`s shy 0r what. but whenever i d0 talk t0 him he`s always happy t0 talk t0 me and stuff, and i`m always happy t0 talk t0 him and he say`s he l0ves me and all, but wh0 knows-- s0meone help. thankS in advance* (link)
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First of all, talk to him, talking can do wonders. Tell him that sometimes it seems as if he doesn't love you as much as he claims, hopefully if all goes well and he really DOES love you he'll call you more and you guys can hang out more.
If he doesn't, if it doesn't work. Don't stay in the relationship, this is coming from experience, I'm in almost exactly the same dilemma, and I've fallen so deep that I can't get out...There are guys out there that you'll date who you won't have to question their love for you and who will give you the attention you need...You're worth more than a guy that won't call you =)
But talk with him first, don't give up yet
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Ok, I'm wondering if ladies find me or people like me sexy! A little about me, I'm 5'10" 160 pounds, I'm a punk/sk8r, I'm a very random funny person(as known from other question), and I have been told that I am very sweet. I'm also starting a christian rock band, in which I will bethe singer. I've been told that I have a beautiful voice. so how many ladies would find me sexy? (link)
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From your description you might be =) You're starting a Christian rock band which I think is totally awesome
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okay here's the situation. my parents are going through a divorce. my dad has a good job, but my mom is only part time. to spite everyone, my dad refuses to buy groceries for the house and my mom cant really afford to either. so i have just been accustomed to rarely eating ( i usually only eat at work). now whenever i get hungry, i eat only a little of something and i feel really full.. like sick full. whats wrong with me? am i anorexic? im not skin and bones or anything, but i think im underweight ( im 5'2'' and 110 lbs.) ugh i think im broken :( help fix little old me (link)
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You're not broken =) Have you always been this way? Because it could just be your metabolism and the way you are, all my friends think I have a weight problem cause I can barely eat one piece of pizza while they eat 10 pieces.
You're not anorexic, at least it doesn't sound like it. From not eating a lot your body isn't used to it, so it can only take in so much, and the less you eat, the smaller portions your body can take in at a time, I'd say, try eating more, whenever you get the chance, but don't make yourself sick over it.
I don't think your underweight =) Maybe a little if at all, but otherwise I think you're a pretty good weight
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Hey everyone. I'm a 16 yr old female and I've been living with a weight issue all of my life. Both of my parents were big people and of course I ended up the same as them. I've been teased a lot my whole life because of it, people do it without realizing how much it hurts. Right now I'm about 5'7-5'8 and weigh about 190lbs. I really want to lose weight but every time I try, I can't keep up the motivation. I try not eating junk food, I don't drink soda, but I still cant manage to lose the weight. I walk a lot, but the problem is I guess that I don't have people that are behind me in this. My mom keeps buying junk food, and if it's here I'll end up eating it and feel bad for it afterwards. I really need help in doing this alone but I don't know how. I'm hoping someone can help me before it gets worse. I'm hoping to lose a significant amount of weight maybe before next summer. I rate also, thank you so much. (link)
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First off, try talking to your mom about it. Tell her you love her, and you love her buying you food that's sweet, but that you'd really like to lose some weight. If she starts saying stuff like "You're the perfect weight" Make her see that it's unhealthy being overweight, or if you have to, go to a doctor who can talk to your mom and put you on a healthy diet.
If you can't talk to your mom about it, then whenever she buys junk food, train your mind to eat something else, it's REALLY hard (I've tried it) But you have to train your mind. Instead of reaching for an Oreo, eat an orange, oranges have natural sugar but aren't fattening. Try running, sounds ridiculus, but try it, if it doesn't work for you then stop.
To keep up the motivation, everytime you're about to eat junk food, imagine yourself thinner, and getting on the scale and being proud of your weight, imagine yourself looking into the mirror and seeing an image you like. Start out with small goals for yourself, like losing 1-2 lbs a week. Eventually the motivation should become second nature. Hope I helped =)
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i've never had a boyfriend, but everytime someone likes me and i feel like they are leading towards asking me out or anything i get really nervous and uncomfortable and i just wish i was out of the situation...i'm hoping it's just because i haven't really liked any of them, but is this normal?? (link)
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It's perfectly normal =) It could be for several reasons, you could be afraid of getting hurt, and not want to get involved in the first place to avoid getting your heart broken, but you should take chances. Everyone needs to take chances in life.
Or simply the right guy hasn't come along, you just might be picky, and there's nothing wrong with that. Whatever the reason is, it's perfectly normal.
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is 2.2 miles in 20 minutes good? im really curious. i ran that the other day and i wasnt sure if it was good or not. im 13/f. and i usually never run. (link)
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If you usually never run, then yeah it's pretty good. For cross country standards though it would be just so-so/okish, but if you hardly ever run then it's pretty good =)
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ok...i admit it,i kinda have a reputation fer being kinda slutty...but i dont do stuff...
even tho i'm kinda slutty...all these guyz expect stuff frum me n they obsess ovr me n it bugs me whenevr they do that(some try to touch me)...how do i get them 2 stop being perves and get them to lyk me for who i am??? (link)
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Well...you brought this on yourself. You say you have a rep for being slutty, and you don't do stuff, even though you're kind of slutty. Face it. If you're wearing slutty clothes and acting slutty guys aren't going to like you for who you are, becaus the way you present yourself says a lot about you. If you're wearing slutty clothes, a guy is going to think your slutty, so you brought this on yourself...figure it out
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