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Q: this guy i met a while ago who lives like 30mins away from me really liked me. like alot. he told me he loved me and stuff. we were always texting, IMing, talking on the phone 24/7. we live 30mins away and cant drive yet. but we happen to be going camping with are families the same exact days. last time we went we hooked up. and weve been so excited to see eachother again. last nite he tells me he likes someone from his area. and that he didnt wanna hook up with me at camping. and on his myspace he took pix of us down. and changed his blog that used to say he loves me to he loves nichole now. i havent talked to him since =[. im really upset cause he totally lead me on. and now i have to see him monday for a week..help?

just ignore him and if he talks to you just act like nothings wrong. If he brings it up just dont talk about it..walk away and he'll know that your feeling bad about it.hope i helped :)

Q: my friedns boyfriedn is mean to me but i dont know what to do. HELP ME!!!!!!! :-(

thanks alyssa,
love mary

lol mary...tell ur friend to tell him to be nice to you and you gotta stop MAKING him be scared of you...lol..hope i helped !! luv ya tons mary! :)

Q: I know there have been alot of kissing questions from other people so I'm sorry if this has been asked multiple times. How do I know when I'm ready to french kiss? Me & my boyfriend haven't been dating long but we've known eachother a while & we makeout alot, just without the tongue. Will it just happen? Will we talk about it?

theres no such thing as making out with no toungue...when you both are ready then it'll just happen.you can talk about it if you want to but yea..it just happens

Q: School is coming up quickly and i need help with some clothes to wear and makeup. i need to get some hot clothes but not to exspensive. Also, what about make-up. i need something that will bounce make people look at me u know. Also for hair my hair what do u suggest. pleassse repile.
Thanz

Tamia

ok i think that you should go to a really nice store like RAVE or something and get a nice mini skirt and a cute tank top or short sleeve shirt. For make-up i think that you should wear eyeliner and a light eye shadow and mascara. you should prolly leave your hair down and wear it in a headband or something. you'll look hott ;) hope i helped :)

Q: Ok..My friend Max brought this friend with him to my house and like to where we work and everything and like my and his friend, MarC, had a connection you know like I'd known him my WHOLE life and like we were best friends or something and like at the end of the summer he has to go back home to GA and i live in NC and im worried that ill never see him again or talk to him or nething is there anything i can do to like keep in touch since it would be too far to call all the time and im not sure if he has a computer?!?

I rate HIGH!

send letters and go and visit him with your other friend sometime...

Q: I'm 15/f. Last year I really liked this guy, but we rarely talked and stuff. In like April I stopped liking him. Well, now I think like him again. It's summer now and I haven't seen him since the end of May. I'm going to see him again in a few weeks. I want to be able to talk with him, but I don't want to freak him out or anything. What should I do?

just go up to him and introduce yourself..be friends and then eventually he might start likeing u too.

Q: I get really nervous around my new boyfriend. I know this may sound crazy but he's my first & I get kind of shakey around him, mostly when he's got his arm around me. I'm worried that when we kiss, I'll be super shakey & it will be really noticeable. How can I talk myself out of this?

x's & o's,
lor

i can relate to this because thats how i felt with my first boyfriend. he may not be the one for you. try to calm down and go places with him to make you more comfortable around him.

Q: ok here is the thing.
my sis is lke in love with this guy and he says he likes her too but he is bein a total jerk about the hole thing....
she is gettin torn up by the situation...
what can we do
*KASHIA MARIA*

then hes not good enough for herr

Q: I told my best friend something that i didnt want anyone to find out, and she tells someone i dont think i can trust her ever again should i?

rate high

just dont tell any1 ur secrets. keep them to urself. i wouldnt trust her but thats my opinion

Q: ok well im 14 and ive been going out with my b/f 9 months today. during the school year id see him every day and we would allways talk alot so we rarely talked on the phone and when we did we talked form like 8 till 2 in the morning...he liked me for allmost a year before me and him started going out and everyone says how cute we are and everything, my birthday was recently and he gave this bear that when u scweze it it says i love you and we went out to dinner, i ran out of room in my year book this year so me and him decided we would write each other letters insted and the one he wrote me was soo cute i wanted to cry i could tell that it came from his heart after i read it i thought that this summer would be amazing but now that its summer it makes me soo sad b/c i never see him as much as im use to and im the one who useally calls him and i dont useally do it alot b/c i dont want to be the girl who allways calls boys or anyoingg idk what to do like when ever i talk to him and im with him he acts like he loves me but i dont know what to do it makes me soo sad
helppp i ratee!!

call him and say that you wanna see him. make up a day to hang out and stuff or watch a movie or whatever. if u dont like calling then talk to him online or sumthing. call like 1 time a week to see wats going on and stuff. tell me how it works out. :)

Q: My husband has smoked for years...35 to be exact. We have been married for 30 years. He is slim, but not very healthy, I think. He almost quit just recently and I was so proud of him and told everyone that I was. He was down to about one cigarette a day. I feel like garbage when he smokes because he does it in the house, car, whatever. It makes me feel like a smoker myself. I feel that if I wanted to smoke, I would have kept it up in college, so you see, I know what it is like to be a smoker, but not what it's like to be a non-smoker, even though I don't smoke. I am sorry this sounds bitter. I am mad. Tell me what to do. I am ready to move out. We have a great marriage, but I don't want to feel crappy anymore because of someone else's vice. He refuses to go outside to smoke.

Chanon

tell him to stop or your gonna move out. if he loves you he'll try to quit

Q: I was dating this guy for a couple of months, and everything was perfect. He was the first guy I could actually say I loved and cared about, and he loved me too. I was a freshman and he was a senior when we started dating. What's the problem you're wondering ... well he turned 18 and graduated at the end of May. His father is the real problem though. His father got a new job in another state, and moved a couple days after his 18th birthday and graduation.[he got to stay in his father's old house] This guy I was dating also stopped calling me [we talked every night!] the day his dad moved. His dad told him several times when we dating that he should be careful and it eventually got to where he told him to stop dating me because he thought we were having sex and doing things. We were never even close to having sex! Well its been almost a 1 1/2 months since we've talked. He never called to tell me he was breaking up with me, but I did find out that he told someone that his dad made him break up with me. I tryed contacting him several times for several weeks, but he never answered his phone or called me back. I need advice on what to do. Should I try to forget him and move on or what? It's driving me crazy not knowing anything. What do I do?

Thanks 15-Female

try calling again and if he doesnt pick up then...ya id say he dumped u so forget about him and move on.

Q: So theres this guy... he lives down the street from me. We're basically good for each other, I hear that a lot. He's a football player, I'm on the dance team, we always do the same things accidently, he's cute, I'm cute lol jk. Anyways he's come over a few nights, snuck out on a couple of them and we've kissed and cuddled and I loved it. We've never gone farther than that because I'm scared of getting attatched and hurt. He knows I like him, but I'm not sure he's feels the same. I don't want to be used.. It has happened too much to me (my boobs are big... naturally! and guys like them.. but i hate em). Once I start trusting him, it seems like he kind of pulls away. Ive talked to him about it but he never really says exactly he likes me or he doesnt. I think which him being popular he doesnt want to be a really sweet guy or anything around his friends.. I understand that though. It's fine. But it seems like he's only "with me" when it's good for him. When he's at a party with me or when he's at his house and calls me. But if I want to hang out.. its a bit different. He's not as into me as I'm into him. But I dont want to be into him. I dont want to get hurt :( I'm a hopeless romantic tho. If he did something sweet to show that he really liked me, i'd be his, no questions asked. I'm confused! please help

try talking to him again and if he doesnt understand then hes not good enough for u.

Q: hey guys...im really scared!! ok...i used to be really good friends with this guy and then we didnt really talk for a while, and in the past few months we have been talking alot and become really close again, well about 45 minutes ago i found out that his dad killed himself...what do i say to him? i mean HE doesnt even know yet...his mom called me before she told him...i used to be pretty close to his dad too...he didnt seem the type to do something like that...i have been crying my eyes out since i found out and when this guy does find out, what do i say to him? please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

wen he finds out try to help him feel better. calm him down and tell him nice things. he will eventually get over it but until he does..help him thru it. it'll be the best for him if a real good friend helps him feel better..like u

Q: er... well. here goes.

theres a guy I like. He goes to my school. Is in my grade, two of my classes, ect. ect.

I talk to him on AIM, we kinda talk at school, and best of all, he doesn't think I'm fat. (long story. Let's just say I wasn't eating anything and my friends are odd)

But, he knows I like him, and doesn't like me back. He's told me multiple times. (again, my friends are odd) But lately, he's been acting like I'm okay. Usually he acts like he hates me. He even IMed me first on AIM (I know its odd, but hey, I guess I blend in with my friends) which is like, a first. Ever. We've been able to talk more, and we're getting along pretty well.

The bad side is, well, I've liked him for so long, now that he's finally maybe liking me, I don't feel exactly the same. I'm in this odd stage where, I do and don't like him. I mean, he's hurt me so much, but I feel like I love him. I can't control my feelings.

So what I want to know is:
Do you think he likes me?
What should I do if he asks me out?
and
Should I take action?(ME asking him out)

I have NO idea what to do.
(13/f)

go for it. if you like him soo much then ask him!! he definetly is starting to like you..he'll give you more signs and when he does...then go for it!! ask him out!! if he asks u and u like him then say yes!!

Q: Does anyone know any good websites with heartbreak or love quotes?? Beside firehoquotes.com....

www.lovequotes.com

Q: i no this is an innocent question but, wat is materbation?

wen u "do it"

Q: My cousin julie is coming over in a few weeks and we are planing on having, well lets say fun. I have allready had fun, but i want my friends to do it. Alex is def. coming to try it, and i really want krissy to come, but i also want ina to come try it. Ina usually tells her cousin everything, and krissy dosnt want he cousin knowing about this. so krissy said if ina gos, she wont. SO i dont know if i should let just krissy go, or just ina go...Krissy said its fine if i let ina go and not her, but im going to feel bad... please help me choose which one i should choose. XOXO thanks!
-Rachel

i think you should invite whoever you like better.

Q: I am good friends with this girl ( I'll call her Hariet) and she's like my best friends. but i have a huge delema with her. she keeps asking me if i like anybody, or if i used to, and i DID used to, but if i tell her, im afraid she'll make fun of me. Should i tell her, tell her i didnt used to like anybody, or, well.... I DONT KNOW! PLEASE HELP ME!

Sincerely,
Ponelope Talk-a-lot

just tell you u dont like anybody then she'll stop bugging the crap outta u

Q: Hey,
I have a hot boyfriend and i like him a lot! but i just got back from Bermuda and i met a boy there and i kissed him! i liked the kid from bermuda while i was there but now i have no feelings for him and i like my boyfriend but i feel so bad! should i tell him i kissed another boy even though i dont like that kid anymore and really like my boyfriend?

from, worried and confused