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I'm wondering on how to progress with life.
I'm currently having a mental and emotional battle with myself because i'm having a hard time in figuring out what I want out of life and i'm too scared to go out and find the answer myself.
I keep living my life in fear and doubt that i'll never get anywhere and achieve my goals but I just don't have the confidence in myself to actually go out and look for what I need and it just gets on my nerves.
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Volunteer Service. Even if you have low-self esteem, organizations don't really care so long as you get the job done. It will help you loosen up and who knows, maybe you'll meet people.
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Isn't this one of the most (the most?) fundamental questions of human existence? How am I to best use the time and the life I have? And it's easy to look at our fellow humans and believe that you are the only one feeling like this. They have all cracked the secret code to self-worth, satisfaction and achievement. Apart from the ones who don't seem to care and happy to settle for any old crap! Each one of them is probably looking at you and thinking YOU are one of the fortunate masses! It's a totally personal and entirley subjective battle you are fighting. It's also much too big an issue to have a quick and easy answer. There's no one-stop fix. We find the confidence to move forward from the results of positive choices we make. The self-confidence builds on itself. Decisions which have less positive results knock that confidence back a little, naturally. We seek to overcome the setbacks, and think about what positives we can take from a basically negative experience. And move on. It's a step-by-step process. Gathering intelligence and information, evaluating this information and thus making evaluative decisions. Will you make mistakes? Will you sometimes invest time and effort on projects and objectives which prove unproductive and disappointing? Damn right you will, we all do! Will there be times when you seem to have the midas touch, and things just come off exactly as you planned? Yeah, you'll have those too. Set those goals. Put those aims and objectives in a line. Get a plan. Not a wish-list, a mission statement. Once you've got a plan you're a force to be reckonned with. Without one you'll drift like a boat with no rudder to steer it. Can't recall the actual wording right now but TS Elliot summed it up nicely. In effect he said that anyone who ever tries anything will fail sometimes, but that does not matter. Try again, maybe fail again, but each time fail a little bit better! I mean, anyone who has no doubts and insecurites and isn't making some mistakes isn't making ANYTHING. Courage my friend, and start now!
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I've been listening to Jordan Peterson, he's a clinical psychologist and has a lot of videos on youtube. He helped me out of my slump and gave me direction. He could do the same for you. He also has a website and a series of exercises and questions to help you determine what path you want to take. I think its called "the self authoring program". If you are lost, I think it'd really help. He has a video talking about it on youtube as well. Another think you'd want to look at is "ikigai" Its like a little chart to help you determine what path combines your likes, strengths and other factors to help you find direction (google it). Hope this helps. Jordan Peterson is blowing up and there's a good reason, I highly highly recommend listening to him.
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If this is about what to take in college, what degrees and profession to go after, there are plenty of people who really don't know when they are 18 or a bit older. If you are an older person who had been living their life and you feel you are going no where and want a change but have no idea where to start, that is also normal but giving you a direction to go here on line is like me telling a boat caption who is asking for direction, which way to steer his boat without knowing details like where he is, the type of boat, if there are places ahead where he could run aground, etc.
What you need to find is a life coach who can help you with this. They do this for pay, not free but they will have the knowledge of what information to get from you and details about you to give you the best suggestions. I am not talking about a licensed counselor unless you feel you have a really strong problem with anxiety or depression. A lack of self confidence can easily be overcome. I did the same myself but it takes time and a lot more knowledge about you than can easily be swapped here on line. If you are in school, go speak to a college counselor. If not currently in school, pick your closest community college and go talk to a counselor about taking a test to discover where your interests lie. I did one of those back when I was 21 but decided not to go to college after all. I don't know if the colleges still offer such tests as that was close to 40 yrs ago, but a college counselor can steer you in the direction of where to get the advice you need if in regards to being sure what vocation to go after.
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Without knowing your age it is impossible to give you an answer. If your a teenager the advice I can offer is much different then if you are adult.
Resubmit your question including your age or write me a private message with your question and age.
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