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A friend has called me 'my love' recently over the holiday conversation. Is it OK for him to call me that? He's mate though. An honest thoughts please
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If saying "my love" is all he has done then it probably does not mean anything.
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Sure. If he doesn't have feelings for you it can just be as friends. Don't over think things. If it bothers you, just go talk to him about it.
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Does he use that term often with females in general cus if so, its part of his personality and doesn't mean anything personally towards you such as having feelings for you. I know both men and women who use endearing terms with lots of people as I sometimes do in writing where I say, "I hope this helps you hon."
Now if this was out of the blue and he has never used the term before, it could still go both ways, meaning he has some kind of interest in you or that he was in a good mood due to the Holiday, feeling flirty and just saying so on the spur of the moment, not planning it ahead with any attached romantic feelings. Since he is a friend, its up to you wether you are Okay with him saying that or not. At this point, after the fact, if you want to tell him not to do so in the future, simply tell him you were thinking about the time he called you 'my love' during the Holiday. Then you tell him you are still thinking about when he addressed you as 'my love'. Ask if he was even aware he used those words. If he says no...he didn't mean anything then. If he says he does remember saying it, then you could ask him why, or just go straight to telling him it made you feel confused and uncomfortable as the two of you are merely friends, not a dating couple.
If it doesn't bother you, then you need not bring it up because if he really had designs on you, he would not do just one thing to let you know but there would be many different ways he says or does things to flirt and get across the message that he is interested. He may be waiting for some kind of response to have a clue if you feel the same if he is interested in case he was flirting. So if you want to be more than friends, respond favorably like flirting back and taking the reins in your hands and asking if he is wondering if the two of you could possibly be more than friends and let him know you are willing to try. Lots of men do not make the first move but they try to drop hints in very confusing, obscure methods that don't get the message across. So dear, its up to you to decide how to go from here.
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