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songs about not being interested
what are some songs to tell someone you are not interested?
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Lyrics: "I appreciate that you like me, but I have to be honest and tell you that I don't feel the same way about you."
Artist: You.
Best of luck and hope everything works out for you.
Cheers,
Hitch.
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The problems with hints is that often the other person doesnt get them, especially if it were to be subtle, the way you want to try, playing only songs about break ups and not being interested.
So its best to be direct and get it over with rather than chance dragging this out by not being honest. Her suggestion of what to say is a very good one. It does not say that the other person is lacking in some way or doesnt measure up, just that you don't feel a romantic connection. I would make sure that whatever you say, you use the same techniques as any couple would use for proper problem solving together. You use 'I and Me' statements and avoid saying 'You' statements. The you statements places blame or the lacking or problems with them and is hurtful to the other while using I and me statements places the focus on you and wont be hurtful to another. They may be disappointed but will get over it.
Here's an example of using a you statement.
"You are a smoker Joe and I just can't get into a relationship with a smoker, so I'm not getting together with you." While it may be true, it isn't the main issue of not feeling romantic towards him or any chemistry. The danger with trying to use this 'you statement' is 2 fold.
1. He can get angry that you find him lacking cus he's a smoker and takes it as a personal affront. Some people stew over it a while and get over it while others are immature and get vindictive by slamming you with insults, trying to break up your next relationship, stalking simply to torture out of revenge are a couple of possibilty. I used this example as I had a guy lie and say he wasn't a smoker, that his son was. In the end, he reached for and pulled out a cigarette while with me, catching himself and putting it away but not quick enough for me to see it and when I questioned him about it, he made excuses. When I didn't accept his excuses and told him I dont expect him to quit and I also am allergic to cigarette smoke and that its not him, it's my problem. As nice as you are, I just won't get into a relationship with a smoker. Notice I used I statements. It still didn't work. For a few days, he left a bunch of hateful phone messages for me and then I never heard again. If you do what you are supposed to do and do it right, then at the least, even if the other person reacts, you won't have to live with guilt of knowing you botched it up and did a bad and hurtful way of breaking the news to someone.
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Don't drop hints. That sucks and is kind of mean.
Be honest and kind by using your actual words and not trying to hide behind musical hints.
Say "Hey, I get the impression you are into me. I want you know I'm not feeling a romantic connection here."
It's tough to do, but it's an important skill to learn, and it's the kindest way to do it.
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If your thinking your going to try to tell someone your not interested in them through a song then im afraid thats not going to work. ive tried it before. lol. and al it did was make the person think i listen to shitty "downer" music.....lol just be straight up with them and tell them. dont beat around the bush.
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